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Part 3

Howdy everyone, welcome back to my guide on talking to women, befriending them, and dating.

I've been SUPER busy with real life shit, so I am sorry for those of you that were looking for my fourth installment, but wait no longer, here it is.

I had to look back at my last guide to see where I left off, and it seems that I had finished talking about getting gradually closer to a special girl you've taken an interest in, and now it's time to get EVEN closer.

I'll also be talking about the friend zone, but before I talk about ANY of that, here is a little thing I started doing:

I keep a journal, not sure if that tickles any of your fancies, but I mainly keep it to reflect on my thoughts of the day. One of the things I reflect on is my interactions with other people and how I handled certain situations. For example, how did I do things wrong? How did I do things right? What kinds of responses did I get out of people? What good things happened when talking to so-and-so?

This may sound a little weird/crazy/over the top, but it is something that helps me look back on the way I did things that day and it allows me to improve on things or focus on other things I may have ignored.

Everyone is different, but for those of you out there that are trying to improve your social ladder, maybe it could help you out on how you approach certain situations, give it a shot.

Okay, so now to the nitty-gritty. Hold on let me go to the bathroom quick...

Okay I'm back, alright, so you've been talking to this girl for a little bit. Hopefully you have gone out on a date with her already, or at the very least, spent time with her outside of your job environment or daily routine environment or wherever it is that you met this chick. If you haven't yet, then please refer to Part 3 of my guide, which the link for can be found above.

If you have hung out with this girl with a group of friends, but not 1-on-1, then ask her if she would like to hang out just the two of you, no one else.

If she declines, or gives you a long-winded excuse, then she probably isn't interested in seeing you alone and would much rather just stay friends.

Now, lets say you have seen her on one or two dates one-on-one. If she has gotten to the third date, then I would say she is fairly interested in seeing you. I make it a rule that by the third date you should probably ask her what she see's you two as, and if she'd want to make it a "thing."

But you want to ask the question in the least weird and creepy way possible. AND DON'T DO IT OVER THE PHONE OR TEXT PLEASE GOD. The best way to go about it, or at least the way that has always worked for me, is to ask at the end of the third date, maybe as you are parting or dropping her off.

The best way I can advise you to ask the question is to word it in a polite and civil manner. Don't say something like, "What are we?" or, "So are we boyfriend and girlfriend now, orrr....?" Those are both really bad examples lol but if anyone actually DID say that then holy christ man. No, here are some examples of how I might ask a girl if she'd be interested in dating:

"So we've been seeing each other and talking for a little while, and I was wondering if you want to make this a relationship"

or

"I really like spending time with you, and I was wondering if you would want to start seeing each other exclusively?"

"I really like talking to you and spending time with you, and I was thinking we could start dating? What do you think?"

Those are all pretty basic examples lol, you are going to have to feel out how you want to approach the girl and what way you want to ask her for a relationship. Some guys ask in a more direct manner, some guys ask a bit more leniently and put the ball in the girl's court.

If anything, DO NOT beat around the bush. Ask the girl specifically that you want something on a bigger level and state CLEARLY what it is you're looking for. If you do not, then you risk messing yourself up and putting yourself into..... THE FRIENDZONE.

Oh boy, okay let me clarify this here. The Friendzone, while it does fucking suck, is NOT 100% negative. Yes, I know you're all getting ready to bombard me with downvotes and rants, but hear me out here.

If a girl tells you she would rather just be friends, DO NOT GET ANGRY OR EMOTIONAL. This shows that you are immature and cannot handle rejection. This will only make you appear less attractive to the girl and will only ruin further encounters with her.

The best way that I have found to handle a Friendzone, is to tell her that you understand, and to GIVE HER SPACE. Don't automatically become buddy-buddy with her and think you two are best friends now.

The most basic explanation I can give for the logic behind the friendzone is that girls honestly just aren't into you as a romantic partner. Some girls use it as a nice way of saying they're not interested, and some girls honestly would rather keep you as a friend.

Don't be that jackass that says, "Oh what a bitch she led me on blah blah blah", NO. Stop being such a selfish prick and move on with your life. I hear guys say how big of a bitch girls are for putting them in the friendzone and how they were, "used." Okay, newsflash, you're not fucking God's gift to the world. Your seed is not going to spawn the perfect child. Grow a pair of balls and go out and start over with a new girl. Christ there's like a million other chicks out there waiting to meet you, go out and get them.

Don't get hung up over one girl. If ANYTHING, I HAVE SEEN GIRLS COME BACK TO GUYS THAT HAVE MOVED ON. BELIEVE ME, IT FUCKING HAPPENS. There was this one girl I used to talk to and after 4 months of us not talking after she wanted to be just friends, she spontaneously texted me saying how she changed her mind and wanted to see me again, after I had found a new girl to talk to.

I DO NOT recommend putting all your time and energy into getting out of the friendzone with a girl. THE BEST WAY TO GET OUT OF THE FRIENDZONE IS TO MOVE ON WITH ANOTHER CHICK. Don't try and "talk" your way out of it, or make drastic life changes to try and impress this girl. If anything, she will only see that she has a handle on you and she can do or say whatever she wants to bend you to her whim. It's a BAD situation gone worse and I can honestly say it does not work.

Please listen to my words, don't try and play the hero. You are only going to end up in heartbreak, and if she DOES revert her choice due to you working out more, or buying her expensive things, or anything else to that effect, she'll only like you for the wrong reasons and it probably won't last/be a fulfilling relationship.

Like I said, move on and find a new girl to talk to. But if you really want to MAXIMIZE your image, don't completely erase this other girl from your life. Check in with her now and again. Maybe you'll see her with a mutual group of friends. Still try and chat with her like normal at your everyday environment.

If she acts distant towards you or avoids you, then she is being the immature one. DON'T ANSWER TO THAT SHIT. Keep a calm head and kill her with kindness. Don't lower yourself to her level, show that you are the mature one by continuing to be nice and keeping confident.

I remember one time a friend of mine worked with this one girl at a restaurant. He went on a few dates with her only to have her pullback and say she wanted to just stay friends. My friend was completely fine with that and stayed friendly with her, but he wasn't going to wait around for her, of course. He did the sensible thing and moved on to another girl that worked at their job.

The girl he originally talked to HATED this, she got extremely jealous of my friend and this new girl and gave my friend such a hard time, making things difficult at their job. Finally, after putting up with so much shit, my friend took this girl aside and asked her what was wrong with her, to which she replied she was sick of him trying to make her jealous and that he was, "acting like an asshole." My friend couldn't help but laugh at the way she thought the situation was going, and he had to talk to her a long time how he wasn't trying to make her jealous, how she was the one that turned him down, and how he was only moving on from her.

People are squirrely. Some people just never know what they want in their life. If you are met with a girl that gives you a lot of wishy washy answers, then I advise you stay away from her and move on. She will only waste your time and you deserve better than that. If a girl can't tell you what she wants, then she isn't worth your time.

With that being said, don't make it hard for her to make a decision either. State your case clearly, make it very clear what it is you want from her relationship-wise, and if she declines, then she ain't interested. If she accepts, then congratulations my friend, you've got yourself a companion.

Unfortunately, this is where my section on getting a girlfriend ends. I cannot give any advice on holding a girlfriend, because in my experience I have not had a long enough relationship to give any information on the topic beyond reasonable doubt that it is stable advice. The longest relationship I've ever had was in highschool for 3 months, and that was pretty much just puppy love at the time.

However, the guide does not stop here. Tune in next time where I will be talking about meeting girls at parties and where the adventure goes from there, which is a whole different ballgame. Thank you all for reading, and have a Happy Fucking 4th of July.