The issue I find for men when it comes to dating is a good fold

  1. If you try to cold approach women , you will most often labelled as a creep and get rejected rightly so because women don't like to be cold approach especially in public when her literal safety is an issue. This gives men 2 choices , either continue being labelled and called names and judged or not bother with it.
  2. People who don't bother now have to go to online dating , in which the market is already saturated with people for good looks, if you are not a good looking guy , online dating isn't for you, it is not even debatable.
  3. This leaves them to either give up chasing women and go for an arranged marriage (I guess , this is what happens in my country at least) when men aren't even prepared to handle women in there life because they aren't experienced with women before there marriage which goes on a slippery slope.
  4. Women say be nice to us, I agree there are some truth to it , but my issue is if all men are just nice to you , how would you choose which men to date and which men to friend zone ? there must be some criteria for you , just being nice isn't enough for a woman to date and make a potential partner in my opinion.

The conclusion I am trying to make is , for men , dating and finding love is hard and considering how much seduction and PUA gets a bad name in online communities , it gives so little control in dating , literally it is the women who control majority of stuff in dating.

All this effort of learning seduction , dressing well and everything , learning to take rejections and even dealing with embarrassment, all this just so that they can have a women in there lives.

The dating game is rigged for men imo, and we are chained to not move in this current world because if you do , you have to be ready for the consequences.