Hi Seddit, I might need some advice on settling down. Backstory, I'm a 21yo guy, and have never been in a relationship with anyone before. My life has basically always been about one night stands and crazy evenings. Going out, every weekend, and flirting with absolutely every woman I meet. I absolutely love being single, and it's kinda become a part of my identity. I'm that forever single guy, who my friends call up if they feel like going out and do stupid single guy stuff. I love to answer to no one, and do exactly what pleases me.

But a couple weeks ago, I met someone different. Someone worth keeping around. But I feel like I can't. Saturday night when we were at the bar, all I wanted to do was leave her behind and go flirt with the girls at the next table. Friday night I had to call her up because things had gotten so much out of control I was about to cheat on her. I really really like her, but my lifestyle doesn't seem to adapt to being committed to one person. How do I give up, or adapt, my entire identity and lifestyle so that I can be with her ? or should I even ? I don't want to be in a relationship, but I sure would like to be with her... so call me every name in the book if you want to, but I hope to get a little advice from anyone willing to offer it. Thank you.