Advice for social anxiety

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-05T17:01:28+00:00

Talk to more people in general, not just women. It doesn't matter if it's a senior male. Regularly talk to a wide group of people and get the flow of natural conversation. Have small talk with all of your cashiers when you check out and there's not a long line. Talk to people in your vicinity while out. Just because it's a woman you find attractive should be irrelevant. Talk to everyone.

Most-Famous-Wasabi · 2025-10-09T09:24:32+00:00

>> I’ve tried the 3-second rule, but it hasn’t really worked for me

What happens when you follow it?

Does the woman dissapear in a puff of smoke or something?

Dandys3107 · 2025-10-09T14:53:38+00:00

In my opinion, 3-second rule is for people that already obtained some decent skills in communication and socialization. In your case, your should rather start from the very beginning, stay closer to people, get eye contact, smiles, ask for time/directions, give pretty girl a unique compliment. Take it step by step. If you can get good at that, it will be so much easier to get into more comprehensive social interactions.

jonnnnathhhaann · 2025-10-14T22:33:07+00:00

Mediation. Realize your not your thoughts. Thoughts = trigger an emotion that lead to anxiety

d0x360 · 2025-10-20T12:24:33+00:00

nope there's no such thing as out of anybody's League. there are no tips really that work for everything everybody's different. be yourself don't be afraid to be yourself ever. trying to talk to them as if they're already your friend. . you could very well find what ends up being your lifetime partner tomorrow randomly so don't worry about the potential challenge ahead.. the only challenge is realizing there is no challenge.

Kierenbrowncoach · 2025-10-06T04:12:42+00:00

Brother, social anxiety isn’t a death sentence, it’s just misplaced focus. You’re too tuned into yourself instead of the moment. You’re worrying about how you look, sound, or come across when you should be locked in on the woman in front of you. Confidence doesn’t come from pretending not to care, it comes from taking action while you care and realizing the world doesn’t collapse.

Forget the 3-second rule for now. It’s a great tool, but it doesn’t fix your internal wiring. Start by building micro-social momentum everywhere. Talk to cashiers, baristas, random people in line, not to flirt, just to flex your social muscle. Small reps build big confidence. The more you speak, the less your brain overreacts to social pressure.

Next, get physical. Anxiety lives in your body, not your logic. Before you approach, roll your shoulders back, take a deep breath, and ground your stance. Movement kills paralysis. You can’t be frozen if your body’s already in motion. Walk up, smile, say something stupid but real, works better than a perfect line because it feels alive.

Finally, reframe rejection. You’re collecting desensitization, not failures. Every time you talk to someone and survive, your nervous system learns that social danger is a lie. Confidence is built through exposure, not imagination. You don’t overcome anxiety by waiting for courage, you act, then courage shows up after.

Title	Advice for social anxiety
Author	Any_Freedom_7540
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	October 5, 2025 2:03 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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