Thanks to learning seduction, I'm more confident than ever. Before, I was getting laid once a year. Now, I get laid three times a year.

There are two sides to this coin, however. Whenever I feel confident, sexual, like an animal on the prowl, I turn into fucking Quagmire from Family Guy. I say dumb creepy shit and I am, as they say, "tryhard." Being aware of it is the first step, so at least I've got that going for me. I'm constantly watching for this, which sometimes drains that confidence.

What's strange is, the only reason I'm aware of it is because I'm told by friends and women, "You come off as creepy and desperate." I keep looking for it, yet I never catch myself. I'm blind even in my own self-awareness. I want to use confidence to stop caring, but that seems to make it worse (see above). So I'm sorry; I really wish I had examples. Perhaps I'll try drinking less at the bars, so I can remember all of this alleged creepiness. Thing is, I'm a pretty tame drunk.

Seduction techniques teach us to escalate, use kino, make them chase, and keep a high energy level. This might be where I have trouble. My energy is pretty high, which may come off as desperate or just creepy/weird. Whatever, I think I'm hilarious.

So far I've limited myself to corny punchlines like "maybe later" and "wouldn't you like to know?" Those seem to have a non-creepy innocence about them. Or some basic side-hug "I'm kidding" shit after a joke.

But after watching Tyler and RSD, I'm wondering how the fuck the people in my life define "creepy" if these guys are getting away with borderline rape. Maybe I say dumb shit and I don't catch myself because I think I'm smart, but I have never treated women like ragdolls.......before the bedroom I mean (should I though?). Granted, most of the women they grab are drugged-out floozies so it can't be too hard.

TLDR I'd like to find a grey area between the extremes of "confident and creepy" and "timid and cute" (Yes I'm cute GOD DAMN IT). I want to be flirty, without coming off as rapey or tryhard. Maybe this is all about inner game, maybe it's only partly that. I don't know. I'd like to get your advice on the matter.

Thanks fellas/ladies.