Advice !!

DaygameCode · 2024-09-19T18:19:52+00:00

If you can’t hold a conversation, or you are boring, then you need to learn. Fortunately, you have resources, books, youtube videos, and a search bar in a reddit sub to learn all the theory and techniques you need. All it takes is for you to look them up by typing it on the search bar of the sub, study it all, make notes and put it into practice.

HomelessMilkman · 2024-09-20T08:26:57+00:00

I lack the personality required

At best, she's going to match your energy; put forth the energy you'd like to receive yourself. You need to believe in yourself, what you're saying, to put it forward in an engaging way.

If you can be engaging, that gives you the freedom to express your personality and 'be yourself'. Without the 'essence' she might as well be reading a form with your data printed on it. It's not a business meeting; the fun, the energy, the soul behind your delivery is the 'gold'.

To cultivate that, you need to build self-esteem. Or, by 'build', I mean a letting go of all of the filters, barriers, self-judgment, etc. all of the things sapping your energy away from being expressive and engaging in the interaction.

epimpstyle · 2024-09-19T21:50:53+00:00

Can't hold conversation, it becomes either boring or serious. What should I do ?

If the way you do it is boring and serious, do the opposite (be witty, use jokes, don't be monotonous) + include routines/scripts/gambits - these are things that nobody pays attention to until they are face to face with a girl and there is an awkward moment of silence, then everyone will realize why they should learn routines/gambits. When you gain experience you don't need those canned materials but in the beginning, they are gold.

Eddamoun93 · 2024-09-19T18:09:26+00:00

Please don't chase women! work on yourself and get your life organized. Don't complicate things. Take a pen and paper and write down your pain points. You think this is stupid advice? I swear, it's very effective to define your problems and solve them logically. Take care of yourself, be kind to your parents and always keep your head up. Again, Improve and respect yourself, then women will follow :)

Apprehensive_Alps157 · 2024-09-19T18:05:54+00:00

The world is quickly moving away from relationships as women realize they can use their looks to leverage attention and resources from simps all online with little effort (what they previously needed relationships for) and men are realizing the risk pursuing and being with a modern woman and the typical returns on that risk are low and that it’s easier more convenient ways to get sex or the simulation of sex (what men previously needed relationships for). So although it’s not impossible, take it from me 25(m) a hopeless Romantic type, you’re only breaking your own heart craving what most do not want and won’t value fr even if they say they want it. Improve yourself in the areas you mentioned, but don’t do it expecting it will result in a fulfilling relationship with a woman bc you may end up years down the line with the same emptiness and disappointment in your lap. Also think of how many people in your life that you know personally that are in relationships where both parties are actually happy…I used to feel a lil weird all my friends being in relationships at the times when I was single, until I really started acting attention to their interactions and stories they’d tell me, a lot of people are in relationships only bc of what they get out of it & they don’t see an easier alternative to get it.

Title	Advice !!
Author	Small_Pool_6604
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	September 19, 2024 5:46 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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