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| 1 | I feel regret because I imagined a girl was into me, and I didn’t act on it. Not sure what signals to look for.That’s because you imagine rejection to be some kind of huge dramatic moment. Rejection is always something like “sorry i have a boyfriend” to which you can just say: “oh no worries, i’m happy for you” or “no worries, i was just intrigued, but i’ll take it”. And then if you see each other again you simply greet her in a courteous polite manner without any resentment like you would do with any other people. Things don’t have to be awkward unless you internally decide that the thing has to be awkw… | /r/seduction | 23/03/25 01:24 AM |
| 1 | I feel regret because I imagined a girl was into me, and I didn’t act on it. Not sure what signals to look for.You don’t need signals. What you need is balls to become a real man that approaches without the need of signals. | /r/seduction | 23/03/25 01:07 AM |
| 12 | Is seduction without "manipulation" even possible?There have been many postings of how to trigger a woman emotionally recently and I wonder if that is necessary to be seductive. Women need to feel something for you to feel like dating you or wanting to sleep with you, whether those feelings are generated by accident or deliberate knowledge, they still are created by the things you do and say. Your guilt arises because you think being fully aware of how your words and actions might influence women somehow makes you an immoral person. However tha… | /r/seduction | 22/03/25 01:14 PM |
| 11 | let them chase you..Here is the thing no one should chase. The point of chasing is that the other person runs away from the person that chases. The key is about mutual and reciprocal engagement. You still have to take the initiative and talk to them, because it’s simply the masculine thing to do. This doesn’t mean over texting or seeking excessive attention from her or being overly available, but it also doesn’t complete unavailability, or not giving her any attention at all. It’s about balance. If you don’t know h… | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | How do I approach her?“I believe she the perfect girl for me and can have a long term relationship with her”. You are already fumbling here. Because you are already pedestalizing her and also becoming outcome dependent. Like she is simply showering with validation and that’s enough for you to consider her wife material? Come on man. You haven’t even had sex with her or kiss her, and you are already fantasising about committing exclusively with her for ever… This just shows that you are not used to having girls, or th… | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Is it fine if I always swiftly develop feelings for a new girl after a rejection?Hormones and infatuation cause you to pedestalize a woman that you don’t even know. It makes her seem perfect and 100% flawless and “the one” without truly exploring if you actually appreciate her despite her quirks or flaws. So you don’t fall in love with her, but for the idea that you have created about her which is not real and even if she tried she can’t match it because that’s not her. It’s not based on a true authentic connection, but on admiration that causes an intense emotional rush. Tr… | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 02:36 PM |
| 16 | Is it fine if I always swiftly develop feelings for a new girl after a rejection?You need to learn one thing “your feelings” is just an infatuation, your hormones. It’s not real love. Your feelings is just superficial attraction. You just call it love or something romantic because you are young and inexperienced. | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 01:43 PM |
| 9 | Is There Anyway Back From This or Am I Cooked?The text “_I genuinely didn’t take you for the flakey type_…” was a bad move because it’s passive-aggressive. Instead of creating curiosity or rekindling attraction, it sounds like a guilt trip. If she was on the fence about responding, this can easily push her further away. It’s also bad because it assumes she owes you a response. Just because you had a fun night doesn’t mean she’s obligated to keep engaging. And lastly, it makes you sound reactive. Instead of leading with confidence, it shows … | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Why do women look at me like I'm creepy when I'm just buying food? How should I handle this?Just because it happens in that place doesn’t mean it’s happening everywhere else. Could be that your time remind the woman of another person or that she finds your tone of voice or dressing style uncomfortable for her, or maybe she is racist, which is all an individual thing. Accept that not everyone has to be comfortable around you or like you. | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 10:03 PM |
| 0 | What is the difference between talking and flirting really?But push and pull like i described means you have to say those things | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 08:46 PM |
| 3 | What is the difference between talking and flirting really?Depends do you tell them that they are stealing your heart when they look at you like that? Or that you find them sexy? | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 08:43 PM |
| 3 | What is the difference between talking and flirting really?👍 | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 08:42 PM |
| 3 | How can i "dgaf" about aproachesYou need to read these reddit posts that will help you to stop giving a fuck. How to join a group of girls conversation without making it awkward or annoying How to start a conversion when you she didn’t give you any signal that she wants you to approach her How to deal with rejections and fear of cold approaching Why you feel creepy and intrusive when cold approaching women and how to avoid being creepy to have a successful start in the interaction How to deal with rejection from a woman in 3 s… | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 08:31 PM |
| 22 | What is the difference between talking and flirting really?This is how you can use the push and pull technique to flirt with women effortlessly. Push and pull a flirting technique designed to create tension and intrigue in a flirty conversation, which involves alternating between showing interest (PULL) and playfully withdrawing interest or teasing the girl (PUSH) without insulting or making the woman have a lower self-esteem (That is another thing called negging which is outdated and counterproductive) Push and pull example: Her: “I am from Mali in Afr… | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Why do women look at me like I'm creepy when I'm just buying food? How should I handle this?How do you know they are looking at you like a creepy guy. That’s just an interpretation but you don’t really know if that’s what they are thinking. Seems more like you feel there is something to be creeped out about you and you are projecting your insecurities onto them. They might just be looking at you sí tu iit even realising or without thinking anything in particular about you. It’s not fair that you assume other people’s thoughts as if they are evil and malicious when you have no proof of … | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Do you think your confidence improves as you age because you are in fewer high-pressure social settings where you are surrounded by judgmental peers?You become confident when you mature and realize that it’s better to prioritize authentic connections over superficial ones. You become confident when you stop giving a shit what other people think, when you stop trying to fit in everywhere, and thus you stop trying to get the approval of everyone and stop trying to filter yourself. | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 03:43 PM |
| 4 | How to make yourself confident in front of her?You speak about how she feels about things, share anecdotes, relate to her experiences making her feel like you understand where she is coming from because you once also had an experience where you felt the same way, describing what happened and how that made you feel. You connect with women by expressing how you feel about things why you like or do the things you do or like… It’s about describing with detail the feelings not just briefly saying i felt good or bad, but explaining why, and maybe … | /r/seduction | 20/03/25 02:24 PM |
| 4 | Why women reject even the most attractive men and how romance fixes itGiving genuine compliments is part of the “affection” element described above. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 10:08 PM |
| 8 | Why women reject even the most attractive men and how romance fixes itThat’s due to lack of romance, like i already explained. When a woman feels you are too good looking for her and self-rejects herself, it means that she doesn’t trust that you are genuinely interested in her, because why would she be that lucky to truly earn a guy as good looking as you (a high value man)? Hence it’s a lack of trust and affection, and both are elements of romance which were missing with her. Hope that clarifies things a bit for you. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Overcome fear of rejectionAs a dating coach I detect that your issue seems to be that you treat hotter women as measures of your worth. When you are a hot one you become nervous because deep down you don’t feel you are good enough to deserve a woman like her. It’s like you have decided that you only deserve woman up to a certain threshold of attractiveness and once that threshold is reached, you tell yourself you aren’t worthy of them. So you either don’t even try because you self-reject yourself before she has the chanc… | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 01:15 PM |
| 1 | i need your helpI’m a seduction coach, so if you want to cold approach during the day to meet women here is a step by step list you could use to have solid interactions: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person… | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 12:12 PM |
| 5 | How to recover from a side hug?Problem here is you say you don’t wanna act beta yet your posts shows you are a beta with a beta mindset trying to fake being alpha, and that lack of authenticity is something women feel easily. • You freeze up when she expects more = Demonstration of low value = Beta. Trying to recover a girl that you fucked up with = Needy behavior = Beta. Wondering if you should ask her to forgive your fuck up = approval seeking behaviour = Beta. Thinking a woman is out of your league = Putting her on a pedes… | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 01:14 AM |
| 7 | How do you guys deal with the mental side of things when pulling girls in the club?Be fulfilled without girls and stop comparing yourself to others. It’s ok to want girls to share your part of your happiness with them. It’s not ok to need girls to be happy and content with yourself. Instead of seeing it as a rejection of you, or as a measure of your worth, see it as lack of connection. Seems like you are trying to get any girl for the sake of it, treating them all as disposable and replaceable, because ultimately your goal is just to prove to yourself that you also can get a w… | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Girl was showing me signs she was interested but I think I didn’t reciprocate enough. Help!You confuse not being needy, with not making moves at all and inaction. If you don’t show interest in a woman, nothing ever happens leading to the woman to lose interest because a woman isn’t gonna be the one taking the initiative for you. Not being needy means expressing interest in the woman but without seeking validation or reassurance from her. In other words, it’s about not needing her to reassure you that she likes you, not overthinking if you said or did something wrong, not over analyzin… | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 07:03 PM |
| 17 | Keep getting ghosted after messaging girls I met at a club/barThat’s because in the vast majority of cases, women at night don’t really wanna see a guy they met there again. The mindset is what happens in the night satay in the night. They go out to have casual fun in that moment, not to look for a boyfriend or a future hookup buddy. Sure there are sometimes exceptions, but I am speaking about the general norm that applies more often than not. What you should do is to escalate as far as possible at night that means if you can go for a kiss go for a kiss, i… | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 04:23 PM |
| 39 | How to ask her about intentions and FWB?Women don’t have intentions set in stone. They go with the flow. They prefer to see what they feel like, and surprising themselves with what they end up doing. While they might be open to casual sex it doesn’t mean that they will tell you sex is guaranteed if you meet up. In other words, women don’t like to feel obligated into meeting a pre-established expectation. As for being a creep, that has to do with you not reading the vibe during the date. Regardless of what intentions she tells you she … | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 02:14 PM |
| 2 | How would you seduce a woman that's anti casual sex?Why not just get yourself a woman that is compatible with you instead of trying to force a woman to be something she is not? The only frame is, would this woman be worth my time? The answer in this case is no because we want different things. So move on to other women | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Tried a few cold approaches at a beach but no successWhen you approach a woman, the goal is to shift the conversation from impersonal topics to personal ones. Impersonal topics are surface-level things that don’t require her to open up about her private life or emotions, like TV shows, movies, or fashion. For example, have you ever made small talk with a stranger in an elevator? It probably went something like this: You: Nice weather today, huh?” Her: Oh yeah, it’s great! I wish it was like this every day.” You: Totally. Especially now that the CO… | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Dating- people in our everyday lifeThe point I am making is that if you would never actually tell a woman the following: “_Hey listen, I wanna be frank. I don’t know you much but i think you are hot, and I just want to use you as a sex doll cuz my goal is to thrust my dick inside you and then never speak to you ever again cuz i’m not into relationships. So I don’t care if i don’t connect with you or appreciate you for who you are, cuz i just want your body and insert my dick in one of your holes_” If you wouldn’t say this directl… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Dating- people in our everyday lifeIf a woman feels that the only reason you go out with her is because she is hot and not because you appreciate her for who she is and feel an actual connection, then the woman is more likely to turn you down. They don’t wanna risk wasting their time on a pointless date, getting ready, and all, just to be with a guy who deep down doesn’t care about them as people. A guy they have nothing in common with. A guy they don’t really know if they will enjoy spending time with. So simply saying “_I just … | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Dating- people in our everyday lifeYou are going about this wrong if you haven’t even talked with her first and you already want a date just because she flirts and is pretty. The actual mindset you should have is: “I am gonna get to know her for 10 mins to evaluate if I have fun, if we click, and see she is worth my time and money to go on a date with her” You cannot just be sold on a date before the conversation even begins. This is how you lose frame, and this is how guys get turned down constantly. Because they make a rushed d… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 02:37 PM |
| 5 | Am I missing something here?Getting numbers in the night is mostly pointless because women don’t really feel excited about seeing a guy they met at a bar or nightclub. Their mindset is more like what happens in the night stays in the night. Everything that needs to happen has to happen that same night, not some other day. If you didn’t make out with them and take them to your house to have sex that same night you met them, then the number is pointless. They most likely gave the number to 10 other guys before you even saw h… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Meeting people while going outIt was easy back then because alcohol made your brain ignore your anxieties, ego, and your unresolved emotional traumas. Now that you are sober, you are more self-conscious and worried about keeping a respectable image in front of others, more doubtful of yourself, second guessing yourself more, being more worried about what others think of you, more scared and aware of negative consequences if you do things wrong, and so on. This is why people drunk because it’s easier to drink than having to w… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 12:26 AM |
| 7 | How often shall I text with my girlfriend in a day? If I don’t hear from her a couple of times- I feel like I miss her .You are needy when you expect your partner to soothe insecurities and anxieties. When you feel like you fucked up or did something wrong and are afraid she will leave you, just because you didn’t get validation or attention like a text message. That’s neediness and it isn’t good. It’s ok to be open with your partner about how you feel about things, as long as it comes from a place of security, rather than lack. While you want a supportive partner, you don’t depend on her constant reassurance to … | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Chickened out. Any chance ?If you work on the same department you could lose your job. Some people get in relationships with people from work, but some of those people also end up having consequences when they have an argument or a break up that causes problems in the workplace. Many guys also try to pursue girls at the workplace but they end up harassing a woman who doesn’t know how to say no to the guy in a way that doesn’t cause too much tension and this it all leads to getting fired from your job. So it’s about how mu… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 12:11 AM |
| 50 | How often shall I text with my girlfriend in a day? If I don’t hear from her a couple of times- I feel like I miss her .The problem is you don’t want to appear needy, even though you are indeed needy. So why are you needy? Why do you need to hear from her more than she does? Because deep down you have probably fear of abandonment, fear that she might leave you, fear that you are not being good enough to keep her interest. Her texting you is basically reassurance that you are doing fine so far, and when you don’t hear from her, all the self-doubt creeps in, all the internal dialogues that you maybe you don’t deser… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Will she lose attraction if I confess my feelings?Confessing feelings is something 14-18 year olds do because they seen it in movies. The usual movie where a guy hides he has a crush with his close female friend, and then he works up the courage to pour his heart out hoping she will say impressed and moved by this huge revelation of authentic feelings he has for her, how much he cares for her, how serious she is about being a good boyfriend to make her happy… The guy tells himself: “if she can actually see how intense my feelings for her are, h… | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 02:42 PM |
| 4 | Tried a few cold approaches at a beach but no successThink of cold approach like playing a game such as chess, you are not gonna win immediately. You will probably get beaten over and over by more experienced players because you simply don’t have the right skills or strategies. In this context the experienced players are the girls you approach. Your mistake here is treating cold approach with the goal of getting something from them, (a date, a contact detail… etc) This basically means that you have decided the woman is hot enough for you to want t… | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 02:17 PM |
| 2 | I feel like I’m losing girls because it always comes in waves for some reason.Why would you want to be with every girl? Just do quality over quantity. | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 04:04 AM |
| 6 | How To Deal With Women That Make No Conversation Effort?Tell the woman that you find her answers boring and that if this is how she communicates you are happy to let her go. | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 04:01 AM |
| 2 | Met a girl I really clicked with on a cruise. Long distance seduction help neededSeduction happens in person. Escalations happen in person. Going from text to phone calls is not an escalation, it’s stagnation. The relationship doesn’t really progress into anything because you can’t meet and actually sleep with her and date her. All you can do through the phone is become her text buddy/penpal. That’s not seducing her, that’s literally putting yourself in the friendzone from which there is no escape. She is just a girl you met who laughed at your jokes, you didn’t even kiss he… | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 03:57 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys game shy Asian girls ?Learn to speak their language (chinese, japanese…). They’ll be amazed and will open up. | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 01:12 AM |
| 1 | So if you want to get dates then you have to not be interested or looking for dates/ already satisfied with/focused purely on living your own life, but if you aren't interested or looking for dates/ are already satisfied with/focused purely on living your own life, then how would you get dates?if you want to get dates then you have to not be interested or looking for dates/ already satisfied with/focused purely on living your own life Not necessarily. This is true holds a bit of truth in the sense that you should have a life, but you still have to be willing to take the initiative to meet new people. No random girl is going to knock at your door telling you to date her. On every Subreddit all men get the same dating advice (go to the gym, eat healthy, look max, don’t be desperate, etc… | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Be yourself..Being yourself is about being authentic, about being true to yourself. You haven’t actually been yourself even if you think you have, and that’s the problem. Being yourself doesn’t mean you have to be kind or respectful or be a toxic or an asshole. If you are an asshole then being yourself means that you stay an asshole regardless of whether she likes it or not, if you are kind naturally that means you stay kind whether she likes it or not. If you are not defined by either of those tags (kind or… | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Hinge helpYou need to start showing some personality. Your conversation right now is no different than the conversation ahe can have with multiple guys who will say the exact same things. If you want to stand out, you better start showing your sense of humor, your anecdotes, your subjective opinions, your feelings, etc. Not just exchange facts about yourself, like it’s some type of job interview test. | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 02:42 PM |
| 1 | What do nowYou lost the moment you said “This lady is out of my league”. As long as that’s your mindset you will never get a girl like her. You will only get a girl like her until you begin to see and treat her like a human being. When you stop putting her in a pedestal. And when you stop thinking you are inferior to others. If you don’t value yourself, then women won’t value you. You cannot expect others to like you when you don’t even like yourself. You cannot expect others to appreciate you, when you do… | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 02:14 PM |
| 5 | How should I kiss a guy who is shorter than me without making him uncomfortable?It’s not your job to make him comfortable. He should be comfortable in his own skin all on his own and if he isn’t comfortable then he needs to get his suit together already. If he can’t own his height, then he is not ready to date women like you. | /r/seduction | 12/03/25 11:41 PM |
| 3 | Is she testing me? How should I respond to this?Her: “The right answer would have been: “No way, you’re great at socializing“ but I’ll accept your response anyway haha” You: “No no, don’t backtrack now! I was just starting to appreciate your honesty and self-awareness. Rare qualities these days” | /r/seduction | 12/03/25 10:09 PM |
| 6 | Do some girls like to fight once in a while to maintain a level of excitement in the relationship?If you don’t provide any other emotional stimuli to your girlfriend then yes it’s likely that she will go the easy way “fighting” to keep some emotional excitement. Which should tell you that you probably should give her other forms of emotional excitement that doesn’t involve fighting to keep things fun. If your relationship becomes dull, stale and without any emotional up or downs then she simply will lose interest. Women need to feel intense emotions during a relationship all the time. They d… | /r/seduction | 12/03/25 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Help - Text GameI simply know when a girl is truly interested and when she is not. I refuse to make effort to convince a girl who i know is not that excited, because i have seen first hand what happens when a girl is genuinely excited about me and I know a girl who is genuinely excited about me doesn’t say shit like “sorry i’m super busy for a while, but i’ll let you know”. I’m not saying that you could not text your way to change her mind if you spend the next 4 weeks texting and texting, but i refuse. I simpl… | /r/seduction | 12/03/25 02:39 PM |
| 20 | How can I break this pattern??Anxiety cannot be fixed easily just by getting used to say hi to strangers because anxiety is rooted in fears and traumas you have.m and lack of experience dealing with uncomfortable situations as well as ignorance about how best to handle those social situations. Your mind is probably saying something like this to you: Dude she probably doesn’t wanna be bothered” dude you are not good enough for her she seems to be on a rush, she got no time for me” she didn’t ask me to approach her or gave any… | /r/seduction | 11/03/25 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Help - Text GameI know from experience that this girl is not interested. And reopening in this situations is just what guys who don’t think they deserve better do, because they usually lack options so they tell themselves they got nothing to lose by insisting. But insisting only reinforces the dynamic that you are chasing and trying to convince her, while she continues to hint indirectly that she is not interested by always being busy. You therefore lose your dignity, your energy and your self-respect because d… | /r/seduction | 11/03/25 11:23 PM |
| 5 | Help - Text GameThis means she is not interested, mate. This isn’t something that requires more texting. Just because she gave you a number doesn’t mean she wants to see you again. I know it’s hard to understand, but giving the number is just an easy way for them to end the conversation you started. It is by no means a commitment or a sign of interest to see you again. When a woman says stuff like “I’ll let you know when i’m free” or “I’ll get back to you later” the reality is she won’t. | /r/seduction | 11/03/25 11:09 PM |
| 2 | How often do you think 6 and above women get approached?What you consider a 6 could be a 10 for me. So really, the real question is how often do you think women get approached in general. And if you are talking about cold approach during the day in a random public space to get to know them. The answer is not very often regardless of how they look because the vast majority of guys don’t have the balls to do it. | /r/seduction | 11/03/25 09:50 PM |
| 8 | Just got a rude wake up call today, and not sure what to do.Approach anxiety is “overcome” by doing the actual mindset work. Sure, you can force yourself to approach with anxiety but it’s not a long-term solution. Anxiety is just an emotion that predicts bad future outcomes in an attempt to get you ready for them, so you can avoid them or handle them with grace. You can’t ignore it because even if the approaches you forced yourself to do didn’t end up in disaster, anxiety still will think there are things that could go wrong in the future approaches. Hen… | /r/seduction | 11/03/25 12:35 AM |
| 3 | Approach anxiety challengesApproach anxiety is “overcome” by doing the actual mindset work. Sure, you can force yourself to approach with anxiety but it’s not a long-term solution. Anxiety is just an emotion that predicts bad future outcomes in an attempt to get you ready for them, so you can avoid them or handle them with grace. You can’t ignore it because even if the approaches you forced yourself to do didn’t end up in disaster, anxiety still will think there are things that could go wrong in the future approaches. Hen… | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 11:47 PM |
| 2 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”Can you prove it? Or is she supposed to believe you? Be careful with bragging about traits that she later might not be that impressed with. There is a saying “Tell me what you brag about, and I’ll tell you what you lack”. Confident men don’t go around telling people they are confident, it’s just obvious based on his actions. Pretty women don’t go around telling people they are pretty, it’s just obvious to everyone that looks at her. Funny people don’t go around telling people they are funny, it’… | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 08:43 PM |
| 1 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”Using cringe by itself to describe something just comes off as lazy or unoriginal because it’s an overused internet buzzword. It lacks depth, you’re just labeling something without explaining why it’s bad or awkward. Ironically, calling something cringe in a generic way by itself feels cringe because it follows the same herd mentality that people use the word to criticize. If you want to express that something is awkward, forced, or embarrassing, it’s usually more effective (and less cringe) to … | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 03:43 PM |
| 0 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”Using the word cringe by itself is cringe. | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Got approached by a girlyou fucked up, she probably isn’t interested anymore. | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 02:55 PM |
| 8 | Does playing “hard to get” even exist?Then he would say no, because self-respect is more important than getting women. | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 12:43 PM |
| 3 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”She won’t come back at you. When you establish the frame that you are not gonna prove your worth and that you always ridicule her attempts at creating an unequal dynamic, she’s more likely to drop the act and start to behave authentically, like an actual human that seeks connection, instead of control, and that’s when the power struggle ends. | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 12:40 PM |
| 3 | eye contactYou don’t need eye contact to get conversations started. You start conversation because you give yourself permission to do it, because you simply feel like it… not because she is giving you signals. You are not getting this right if you think women will look at you expecting a conversation. Most eye contact is accidental and not deliberate with some hidden intent, that’s why this happens to you. So don’t wait for signals and just approach her and tell her what you want. | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 01:00 AM |
| 48 | Does playing “hard to get” even exist?Many men tell themselves a woman is playing hard to get as a way to avoid reality that she simply is not interested. Many men also tell themselves a woman is playing hard to get because they are desperate and don’t think they deserve better because in their experience women don’t come easy. So they put extra effort on a girl because the think they must in order to “earn” a woman. So the question is not really “does it exist” the real question is “should you as a man settle for that and play game… | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 10:25 PM |
| 12 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”If you have a solid frame, you can pass any test with relative ease. A good frame of mindset to have is: “_I’m not here to prove my worth or to impress women who challenge me to do it, but to connect with someone for who I am. I’m not gonna take seriously any women’s demands, expectations or tests, and i’m just gonna treat it all as a joke, or treat women like bratty girls that I just mess with and have fun with_”. Once you fully own this mindset, you can use some social skills that convey this … | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 09:57 PM |
| 2 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”I’m not a big fan of using DHVs stories… Value has to be shown indirectly, not told directly. But if you mean that it’s supposed to be an exaggeration then it could work as long as you exaggerate it way more than that. Saying something ridiculous, and which she instantly will get that you are not being serious. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 09:16 PM |
| 8 | This is how to respond to the classic shit-test: What makes you special and why should someone date you”I giggled with this one! Good one! | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 08:41 PM |
| 3 | I matched with a girl on Bumble, and her opening question is: ”What makes you special and why should someone date you? :)“No reason at all to give her a list of good qualities directly. Better to show, instead of tell. The good thing about these responses is that they already show her why you are special and why someone should date you… How? Because they show you are a funny guy with a sense of humor without having to directly say “I am funny” instead she just naturally reaches the conclusion on her own: “This guy is funny” If you say, “I’m funny and have a great sense of humor,” she has no reason to believe you cu… | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 07:25 PM |
| 2 | How does the approach work with different musical styles playing?Just act like you are in a playground teasing her, messing with her, poking fun at her lightheartedly… Stick out your tongue, give her the middle finger, wink at them,… etc and then pretend like you did nothing, so they’ll get a little bit triggered and take the bait. Many will usually demand explanations from you, and then you can either gaslight them acting like you have no idea what they are talking about, that they must have been hallucinating, or that maybe it was them who did it, or that t… | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 07:13 PM |
| 24 | I matched with a girl on Bumble, and her opening question is: ”What makes you special and why should someone date you? :)“This is a classic shit-test. You don’t actually answer this seriously because that frames the conversation in such a way that you are not equals anymore. As if you had to convince her by proving your worth, and she had to judge whether you are worthy. Instead you should show personality and treat it with humor, for example: Her: “What makes you special and why should someone date you?” You: “Well, my dog thinks I’m amazing, and I trust his judgment.” Or You: “I once parallel-parked perfectly on … | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next?I wonder what happens to the revenge if people simply are indifferent, cuz not everyone cares about what you do or end up accomplishing. They feel nothing, no jealousy, no envy, no admiration, no disdain, nothing… They simply have more important things to attend do than to pay attention to you, (if they even remember you) while you are still stuck thinking the goal of life is about proving wrong or owning those who didn’t like you when you were underage or a young adult. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Trying to talk to someone in a different department,can't think of a good excuseYou don’t need any excuse that’s the secret. You: “Hey, i noticed you gave me some secret stares and it got me intrigued, so i wanted to come over and get to know you” If she says: “i didn’t give you any stares” then you say: “well i must have misread it but in arill curious about you, whats your name?” And that’s how you start the conversation. | /r/seduction | 08/03/25 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Feels like I’m missing somethingYou need to connect with women authentically, to get them to relate to you, seeing you as a real human being and trust you. This means you need to open up personally, and express your anecdotes and feelings, but from a position of strength rather than from weakness. Women right now see you as a fun toy, in a superficial way but don’t really connect on a deep level with you. They are simply not invested emotionally in you even if you are fun to talk to momentarily because everything about engagin… | /r/seduction | 08/03/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next?It’s not about being a zen master… It’s simply that many men just take dating women for granted. It’s like if a blind person couldn’t comprehend how someone who isn’t blind and can see, doesn’t take pride in his ability to see…. Well because there is nothing to take pride about being able to see, it’s something that’s always being there. Maybe if I stopped seeing all of the sudden we would then recognize how good we had it when we could see, but if we can keep seeing then we don’t think about it… | /r/seduction | 07/03/25 01:55 PM |
| 1 | What went wrong?So you have a good date and you never loses any girl on a date so why would you say it’s good if the bare minimum to consider it a good date did not happen? Or maybe you just have a different standard of what a good date is, a standard where kissing is not part of it to consider it a good date. But if that’s the case, how is that working out for you? Maybe you need to raise the standard and begin to use kissing as a benchmark of what good date is. Ultimately, it seems like you expect to not do a… | /r/seduction | 07/03/25 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Help with text gameMate, texting a girl requires you to be fun, and you begin to be fun when you start teasing her, messing with her, throwing jabs at her, making fun of her playfully, using double meaning, doing impressions on her, mimicking her behavior, role playing, pretending to be serious or dramatic over ridiculous shit, narrating what’s happening from the point of view of a third person narrator in an exaggerated humorous way… So it’s basically about turning every interaction into a playful little game whe… | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 11:57 PM |
| 1 | I never know how or when to escalateIt’s the same concept for that too. | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 01:10 AM |
| 3 | I never know how or when to escalateYou escalate by giving her a good reason to do so. Escalations are rewards and rewards need to be justified. Give her a reason why you are escalating with her. If the escalation you want to reward her with is the phone number after you cold approached her and talked for a while, then you don’t just say “_hey i gotta go, but you should give me your number_” Instead you justify why you want to take her number. “I don’t usually ask women i just met for their number because i feel it’s empty and sup… | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 01:05 AM |
| 1 | How to conquer my approach anxiety once and for all?Anxiety won’t go away until you don’t listen to it. Anxiety is trying to communicate with you trying to protect you, trying to get you to listen to it. But you keep ignoring anxiety. What anxiety is saying is: “Hey dude, you seriously gonna approach that girl? What if she isn’t interested in you? Besides she seems to be busy, what if you just annoy her and she ends up scolding you? Everyone knows approaching in a gym is what creeps do, remember the viral tiktok videos from women complaining, you… | /r/seduction | 04/03/25 11:02 PM |
| 99 | Girls Getting Attached After Several DatesLook mate, the thing is even if you are 100% clear that you don’t want a monogamous committed romantic relationship, you still have no control over their feelings and they have no control over how their feelings grow. What you are asking is “how can I make women stop being human” and that’s simply not happening. Part of becoming good at the game is knowing you will have to deal with hurt feelings whether you like it or not. | /r/seduction | 04/03/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How to fake Confidence?Confidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you say to yourself in your head will make your less confident in a steady manner. Because you are basically being a bad friend to yourself. If you… | /r/seduction | 04/03/25 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Should I mention interest with other girls as a tactic of seduction?That only works when the woman herself sees other women all over you, and those women happen to be really hot. If you are the one brining it up, or showing off that you have women, then it doesn’t work. It’s women who have to show you off, not you showing off your women. | /r/seduction | 04/03/25 12:01 AM |
| 1 | So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next?Well what you are saying here is that you don’t actually like women, that you don’t actually appreciate them as people to spend time with, me that’s not a problem that’s just a preference. The reason people date is because they actually like women, they actually like when they connect with a girl, they even like having female friends the same way they like having male friends. They like the energy of women, their company, their femininity, sharing experiences with them, having deep conversations… | /r/seduction | 01/03/25 10:04 AM |
| 5 | First date today, fucked up at the endFirst of all, never tell a woman that you should have done something you didn’t end up doing but which you wanted to do. It just makes you sound hesitant, insecure and like you are seeking her approval now which turns women off. It only reinforces the mistake, rather than fixing it. Secondly, what you need to do is to ignore that, act like nothing unusual about it or worth mentioning happened, and just kiss her next time you see her if the vive is right. If you bring up your regrets, she is not … | /r/seduction | 28/02/25 10:16 PM |
| 4 | So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next?Changing my mindset on this feels impossible though. I really respect myself for the ability I developed to feel fear but act regardless, but it still seems like somehow I have to get to a point where I have no fear. I don’t know how I would ever do that. Because you still have to listen to what anxiety and ego is trying to tell you and come up with contingency plans. Anxiety is afraid of certain catastrophic outcomes happening and it wants you to come up with plans to either make sure they don’… | /r/seduction | 28/02/25 02:06 PM |
| 16 | So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next?Most times I felt like an abosolute weirdo walking up to girl in the mall or at a park. If you feel weird, you will ironically begin to act in ways that show you are uncomfortable and strange which is a vibe women will easily pick up and when they pick it up you will make them feel that you are indeed weird. If you say or do something you must own it and act like it’s the most normal, the most legitimate most real and valid thing to do or say. You must have the absolute conviction that it’s fine… | /r/seduction | 27/02/25 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’m dating wants a relationship - me too but I also want to continue cold approachingYou find yourself a girl that accepts that side of you. If you can’t find that type of girl who will accept you cold approaching other women then don’t get into a relationship. Just common sense to be honest. | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 03:41 PM |
| 28 | Women who flirt Non verbally but refuses to meet one on one, and neither want anything from you.The amount of times i heard guys say “she doesn’t do this with other guys, only with me” and yet when they tried to escalate further the girl constantly refused until the guy gave up… Guys try to make too much sense of women’s actions, as if women have some secret intention for them, but the reality is women just go with the flow. They are not doing anything in particular to achieve a specific outcome. That’s what you don’t seem to understand. Men do things because they want to achieve a dating … | /r/seduction | 26/02/25 01:44 AM |
| 2 | What’s considered good dick?Trying to make sure that a woman will stay with you no matter what, already means the woman will leave you even if you have a good dick. Because rather than enjoying the moment and the connection you share, you’re obsessing over control and trying to script the future and therefore adding pressure on the relationship so that things go your way which is a turn off. If you’re constantly thinking, How do I make sure she stays? How do I keep her interested? You will begin to suppress your true self … | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 11:55 PM |
| 70 | Do women actually liked to be approached?Yes, but only provided that you do it with respect, are socially aware, look confident doing it, don’t doubt yourself when challenged by her, are clear from the get go about why you approached them, and seek their permission to engage in a conversation. If you sound apologetic and approval-seeking, if you don’t look confident doing the approach or you show to her one way or the other that deep down you don’t fully believe approaching women like this is fine, women will sense that and will react … | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 06:45 PM |
| 1 | How to Talk to Girls: Make Music, Not NoiseHow about you grow up, dude. You sound like a child. | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 06:19 PM |
| 3 | How to Talk to Girls: Make Music, Not NoiseIf you think so poorly of the people in this sub, then just get out of here. Your first post in this new account of yours was in this sub. You are using a throwaway account to engage with a community of people you supposedly dislike or see as inferior to you. If you think this place is so bad, why waste your time here? Don’t pretend you are here to help people you just called “losers”. | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Can someone who lives in Spain answer this question for me? about post-party sex in SpainNo, spanish women are not as likely to go topless at a nightclub. Many spanish women make out with guys in nightclubs and then they may go home with those guys to have sex in an actual bed. Some few women might have sex at a bathroom in the nightclub or even in your car at a parking lot, but it’s not the norm and she would need to be on her own alone in the club, to do that, so that her friends dont see her and judge her. She would also need to be quite turned on excited about doing something na… | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 01:54 PM |
| 1 | I’m in highschool and I’ve never been in a relationshipSorry but the reasons you gave for your desire to have a girlfriend are not legitimate and that’s exactly why you can’t get a girlfriend. The more you want a girlfriend, the less likely you are to get one. Girls can easily sense when a guy is seeking a relationship out of neediness, rather than natural connection. When a guy pursues a relationship for the sake of having one or for the sake of not being lesser than others, you are essentially hoping to use the relationship as a benchmark for your… | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 11:51 AM |
| 14 | Not replying after giving you her numberEven if she is the one who took the initiative she can still change her mind later. Giving a number doesn’t mean she is committing to you even if it was her idea. | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 11:53 PM |
| 60 | Not replying after giving you her numberGirls will give the number without thinking about it because their main priority is avoiding tensión of rejection. They hate having to reject guys because they don’t know how the guy might take it, some guys accept the rejection gracefully, but other guys will call her names for rejecting them. So, the best thing they found is to just give the number brcause that way get know the guy will be happy that he god what he wanted, and thus makes women avoid the tense situation. And then they can just … | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Can someone who lives in Spain answer this question for me? about post-party sex in SpainIf you are asking do many spanish women have sex after meeting a particular guy in a nightclub, the answer is yes. | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 04:59 PM |
| 5 | Can someone who lives in Spain answer this question for me? about post-party sex in SpainIf you turn her on she will have sex with you, if you don’t she won’t. It doesn’t matter if it’s normal or not. Rules are meant to be broken for the right type of guy. | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 04:36 PM |
| 3 | No playYou are being too available, too eager, too friendly, too needy, and relying too much on texts instead of real life face to face conversations. You can’t get women to like you by texting it has to be done face to face. That means you should approach women in person instead of trying to talk to them on instagram, or texts. Attraction happens when she is in front of you and you create tension, not by giving her constant attention behind the screen. All you end up becoming by being on the phone tex… | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Why do I feel like I need to be an A**hole to get girls?Because attraction is sparked when there is tension. Zoco of tension makes things dull and platonic. It’s only when things are tense that women get turned on. Playing mister nice guy means there is no tension at all, everything is comfortable, everything is dull. No ups and downs. No unpredictability, no mystery. Just a constant state of continuous predictability. And predictability is the enemy of excitement. Women don’t fantasize about the guy who always agrees, who never challenges them, who … | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Give me some advice. Second time this happened.The kiss isn’t gonna happen until you simply make the move. The girl is not gonna tell you please kiss me nowX or give you any big indicator that she is ready for a kiss. That’s just something you have to have the balls to do without any signals at all. | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 04:04 PM |
| 1 | How do I cold approach?Let’s say you see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, you approach them sit down and say “_hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?_” and their reaction is bad telling you: “_None of your business, get lost_” Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumpt… | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Able to get girls alone and talking with me at the bar consistently, struggle to reconnect over text the following daysThe point of night game isn’t to get numbers. It’s to escalate as much as possible physically (kissing or sex) that same night. If you settle for a number, most women won’t really follow up with you. They simply aren’t there for that. They are in the bar or nightclub to have fun only during the night, not to seek a long term partner there or go on dates with random guys they met while drunk. So, the problem is you going for numbers instead of kissing them and taking them home. If you don’t do th… | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 01:39 AM |
| 4 | How to understand women's attraction?You can respond in a self assured manner by doubling down on your personality, or using playful examples like the ones i showed you in the text before, and more often than not women will continue talking with you no problem because they will respect that you are not trying to impress them and would rather be yourself. And, in the rare circumstance that a woman gets annoyed by your willingness to stay true to yourself, then you let her go leaving the door open. You say: “I won’t change who i am b… | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 01:35 AM |
| 14 | How to understand women's attraction?She’s pulling you into a logical mode, and you’re letting yourself be dragged there, justifying yourself and losing your frame. She is basically saying: Her: “Hey, I don’t like the way you are, why don’t you act the way I want?” And you would basically be saying. You: “Oh, sorry for being myself, I’ll just change into whatever you want me to be so I can maybe get a chance to sleep with you. Because, you know, clearly, my whole existence is just about fitting into whatever mold you’re making up t… | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Help with a close girl friendShe sees you as a friend. 99% sure. | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 10:09 PM |
| 9 | How to understand women's attraction?That’s the thing. You could try the entire rest of your life and it won’t work because that’s not how attraction is created Approval ≠ Attraction Being true to yourself even when she challenges who you are makes it far more likely that you will attract someone because women feel attracted to guys who don’t give a shit what they think of them and won’t stop being themselves no matter what she says. | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 07:57 PM |
| 6 | How to understand women's attraction?Except that won’t work, because women can see through your fake facade. It’s pretty obvious to a woman when a guy is trying to be whatever she told him that he needs to be to get laid with her, so you will never be able to trick her. Your solution therefore is a waste of time, as it will never work. | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 07:52 PM |
| 1 | women keeps taking advantage of meThey take advantage of you because you keep seeking approval from them, instead of putting your foot down and deciding that you’d rather be alone than people that are only with you because you keep saying no to avoid conflict. | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 07:50 PM |
| 16 | How to understand women's attraction?Ah, you see but your fake self also didn’t get any women into bed. Every time you adapted to be whatever a woman said she wanted you to be, you got friendzoned or rejected too. And that’s because approval seeking behavior is a turn off, as it makes you untrustworthy. | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 07:46 PM |
| 17 | How to understand women's attraction?If you do what women say they want forcing you to betray who you are in the process amd trying to be someone different that you think she will approve, then you also won’t get what you want because women will disqualify you as they will easily sense that you are trying to accommodate to her, instead of being true to yourself, and that makes you untrustworthy which is a bigger turn off for them than whatever they complained about in the first place. | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 07:32 PM |
| 42 | How to understand women's attraction?Ok to help you understand where your problem lies, Let’s say that you are talking to a woman and you start making assumptions about her to keep the conversation going such us: “_You look like you like to draw on your spare time_” and the woman says “i don’t like it when guys make assumptions about me, so stop assuming things about me and ask me normal questions instead”. What do you do? You stop assuming things about her and start asking her normal questions right? Well that’s the problem that k… | /r/seduction | 23/02/25 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Pulling girls as a dangerous looking sensitive guySeduction here is aimed mostly at daygame, the art of approaching women in broad daylight in any casual situation to connect with them and seduce them. It’s not necessary aimed at nightclubs. What you need to learn is how to approach women wherever you are comfortable being at, beaches, large parks, large malls, public squares, large tran stations, markets,… etc When you cold approach women you might feel like they are scared, but in reality it’s most likely that they are just confused about wha… | /r/seduction | 22/02/25 12:40 PM |
| 7 | How to get a girl's attention over text?How to text in a way that’s fun? You need to spark emotions to grab their attention Saying something humorous, comedic, funny will grab her attention as it will make her giggle laugh. • Teasing her can also grab her attention is it provokes her by messing with stuff she does or says in playful ways. You look like you sing out loud like a crazy lady in the shower” • Role playing can also create a fun moment as you begin to act like you are an old married couple, or partners in crime plotting for … | /r/seduction | 21/02/25 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Need serious help with dates• Hugs are for friends, either kiss on the cheek or hold her hand and kiss it in a romantic way. You need to make interactions with women man to woman, instead of platonic. The hug sets the tone that you are just gonna treat her as a buddy, instead of as a woman you desire. • The “thank you for today, i had a great time” sounds too formal. It’s better to be playful, or bring an inside joke about what happened, or maybe a teasing remark like: “Wow, you were actually fun to spend time with, I’m im… | /r/seduction | 21/02/25 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How to get Laid or find a FWB in a Rural Area?There is a reason the area is rural. Living there means you have to sacrifice certain lifestyles. The hookup culture and the FWV is for cities not for rural areas. | /r/seduction | 21/02/25 12:07 AM |
| 2 | How to get a girl's attention over text?How to text in a way that’s fun? You need to spark emotions to grab their attention Saying something humorous, comedic, funny will grab her attention as it will make her giggle laugh. • Teasing her can also grab her attention is it provokes her by messing with stuff she does or says in playful ways. You look like you sing out loud like a crazy lady in the shower” • Role playing can also create a fun moment as you begin to act like you are an old married couple, or partners in crime plotting for … | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Texting between setting up the date and the dateIsn’t it funny how the time between setting up a date and actually meeting is this weird zone where you don’t know if you should be texting more or just waiting it out? Do you like chatting a bit beforehand, or do you prefer to just meet and see how it goes? No, dude… This text just shows her that you are insecure, it is approval-seeking as it shows you are more concerned with meeting up her expectations than doing what feels right to you. It shows you have no backbone because instead of being t… | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 01:04 PM |
| 6 | Trying to get back into dating, is cold approaching still relevant or is their a better way?Cold approach is always a thing brcause it’s not a trend, it’s just a timeless way of meeting someone. It’s irrelevant if more or less people do it, because it’s not about what’s in or out. It’s about connecting with people in the way that works for you. For some it’s cold approach, for others it’s dating apps, for others it’s social circle, for others it’s nightclubs, etc… So whether it’s a good idea or not, it depends on each individual and their capacity to connect with someone doing that. Fo… | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 02:26 AM |
| 4 | What does it mean "I like you a lot but I can't sleep with you"It means she is either not turned on, or the most probable option which is that she doesn’t trust your intentions. She might think you will use her for sex and then dump her, leaving her heartbroken. | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 12:32 AM |
| 1 | How to react when married women stares at you gives you signalsHow do i tell you guys that married women are easier to get than single girls? You think they are playing and sure they are. But it’s up to you how much the game they play escalates which more often than not they will allow if you play it well. Wives tend to have unfulfilling sexual and romantic lives more often than not. I’m not saying this is morally correct, but just know that being married is not exactly an impenetrable obstacle even if you think it should be. Wives hide a lot of things from… | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 08:14 PM |
| 20 | Back into Seduction Game, but Married“Lands me at what i see as the bottom of the seduction market” Not necessarily if you are attractive, then you are a challenge for girls. Don’t underestimate how many women love the thrill of conquering the forbidden fruit, and stealing someone else’s man to reaffirm their own sense of desirability. The idea that a woman is so irresistible that she can steal a guy who is totally in love with his wife can make her orgasm harder than any touch ever could, because nothing turns her on more than the… | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Simple but Weird Technique to Stop Putting Girls On a PedestalThat’s why books help to figure out patterns. You don’t have to guess, because books about pick up and texting can show you mistakes and better ways to talk to women. Many men are unaware and lack self reflection skills which is why those books exist to open their eyes to all the mistakes they are making. | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 03:49 PM |
| 23 | How do you have a fun conversation with a girl who doesn’t ask questions about you?Women connect by sharing with descriptive language how you feel about things. If a woman isn’t asking questions is because the conversation you are having with her is superficial and impersonal instead of deep and personal about how you feel, that or you are asking close-ended questions instead of open-ended questions. An open ended question starts with “Why do you (verb)…” or “how do you feel about…” This encourages the other person to say more than one brief word, and gives you more to worth w… | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 02:23 AM |
| 6 | Where to day game in the winter when it’s cold outside?Large malls, best place | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 02:17 AM |
| 4 | Which girl to choose in class?This is also wrong mindset because you need to understand that a woman’s level of interest isn’t set in stone. A woman can initially like you and then lose interest quickly the more you talk. And another woman might not be that interested and then grow to like you the more you talk. So this is not really about choosing the one that’s sold because none of them are. It’s about talking rk both and seeing which one you click with best. So who is initially more interested is irrelevant, it’s who ends… | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 10:15 PM |
| 9 | Which girl to choose in class?You can’t expect to be successful at seduction/dating if you need to be sure that a woman is interested before you make any move. Those who try to read minds to avoid rejection never get anywhere with women . | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 10:05 PM |
| 1 | What do you derive confidence around women from?Women won’t fix it neither, because women don’t really want to validate you even if you choose to interpret their attention as validation. Because women are not judges of a supreme court of a man’s value. Women rejecting you doesn’t mean they are telling you that you are unworthy, you are the one interpreting it like that. And women liking you doesn’t mean they are telling you that you are worthy, you are the one interpreting it like that. When you need permission from to feel good about yoursel… | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 04:55 PM |
| 1 | What do you derive confidence around women from?That’s why you need therapy, cuz the biggest problem here is not what you lack to get affection. It’s your mind and your emotional baggage that sabotages any attempt to connect with women. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 04:30 PM |
| 3 | What do you derive confidence around women from?If you use women as tools of self affirmation where you interpret that a woman liking you means you are worth something, and a woman not liking you as proof that you are worth nothing, then you’ll always be at the mercy of their opinions, constantly chasing validation instead of living from a place of self-assurance. Your confidence will be fragile, easily shattered by rejection, and your sense of worth will never be truly yours, it will belong to whoever you’re trying to impress. Instead of see… | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 04:19 PM |
| 5 | What do you derive confidence around women from?Because I don’t treat women like trophies or objects to obtain, or tools of self-affirmation to find out how much i am worth. I treat them like people that I may or may not connect with sexually and emotionally, and i’m fine with either of those outcomes, because I accept that not every person I meet is someone I have to connect with and that not every person i’m interested in is a person that’s good for me anyway. So if a connection doesn’t happen, I simply know that it’s for the best and i mov… | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Got laid on 1st date and then she got into relationship with another guyYou lost frame when you started insisting on meeting to have a talk after she told you she is seeing someone else. You should have just not give a fuck instead. There is no talk required. What would even be the point of talking after she tells you that? To convince her to choose you over the other guy? Doesn’t work that way. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 11:42 AM |
| 7 | Mixed SignalsI would tell her “sorry can’t talk to you, i am seeing someone”. that would frame thins in a very different way, where she now either looks silly or sees you as a challenge. Trying to push her away can get her to be more into you or at least get her to stop wasting your time | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 01:47 AM |
| 1 | I know this has been asked countless times but I still haven’t got a good answerI just say crazy things to see if they take the bait: “I wanna marry you and divorce you all within one day” “Hey, let’s rob a bank, you look like you’d make a good partner in crime” “Hey, i’m running for president, what lies do I need to tell you to vote for me” “I’m writing a movie script, and you are thr villain. What’s the most evil thing you’ve done” “I can’t believe you cheated on me, I trusted you!” “Let’s have a fake break up, just to see how dramatic we can make it” These are role plays… | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 12:29 AM |
| 1 | FriendsOnly if you are capable of getting other women without difficulty. If you can’t usually get girls, then you can’t go from friends to lovers deliberately because you simply are not the type of guy who gets it. Only if you were lucky, but that’s the thing “luck” which isn’t a reliable way to make it happen and it’s like saying you want to be rich by winning the lottery. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Going about textingThere are is no such thing as mind games there are only needy guys who think they don’t deserve better and that’s why they entertain low interest girls. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 12:14 AM |
| 3 | How do I turn this around?When a woman tells you no, just move on. Not sure why you think a girl telling you no is something to ignore. You don’t try again when she tells you no. You walk away with dignity unless you want her to be more harsh next time. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Dates with a very shy and insecure girlDo you even like when a girl is shy and insecure? And i don’t mean if you like this girl i mean if you like shy and insecure girls in general if it all came down to that. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 12:10 AM |
| 1 | How to react when another guy is stealing your girlThe term kino comes from the word kinesthetic which comes from the Greek word kinesis (movement) and refers to the sense of touch, body awareness, and physical interaction. In dating and seduction contexts, kino (short for kinesthetic) was used to emphasize the role of touch in building connection and attraction. Touch is one of the strongest nonverbal ways to create intimacy and escalate an interaction. Since kinesthetic relates to movement and physical sensation, it made sense for the seductio… | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 08:55 PM |
| 3 | How to react when another guy is stealing your girlThis is a seduction sub, a sub dedicated towards the study of the art of seducing women. Kino is one of the technical terms in this subject, and it means physical touch. People do kino in smooth ways to create an environment of romance that makes it easy to escalate things to a kiss or to the bed. Hope it helps. | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 08:47 PM |
| 2 | The Real Reason You Keep Putting Women on a Pedestal—And How to Stop So Attraction Happens NaturallyAnd that’s true. No one is entitled to anyone. | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Simple but Weird Technique to Stop Putting Girls On a PedestalSocial skills help you to connect with people. Rejection is just lack of connection, not a measure of your worth as a person. You are still valuable as a person even if your social skills are poor. If you don’t know what to say to women, if you don’t know how to communicate who you are effectively, then it’s gonna be hard for people to connect with you, not because you are unworthy, but simply because they will have trouble resonating with who you are as you are not communicating that properly a… | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 11:07 AM |
| 17 | Simple but Weird Technique to Stop Putting Girls On a PedestalYou need to do your research about concepts such us: Self-compassion, self-forgiveness, self-acceptance, abundance mentality, outcome independence, empathy, emotional connection, dealing with ego and anxiety, not comparing yourself to others, internal dialogue, resilience, and internal locus of control. All of these things can be learned by studying about them. Some people don’t have to study because they had parents who raised them very well or had an environment where these are lessons they le… | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 01:52 AM |
| 12 | The Real Reason You Keep Putting Women on a Pedestal—And How to Stop So Attraction Happens NaturallyYes, people have a lot of emotional baggage due to bad experiences in their childhood that cause them to lose confidence in who they are. Fixing that isn’t easy. | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 01:30 AM |
| 1 | How Do I Start Relating To Women?Using a thing called empathy, also known as taking the time to put yourself in her shoes, by reflecting on how you would behave and think if you were them when experiencing something. If you can’t think of how they would think, then get female friends, and ask questions like: “why do you feel that way, i’m trying to understand where you are coming from”. | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 12:50 AM |
| 15 | Simple but Weird Technique to Stop Putting Girls On a PedestalYou need to learn social skills, thr problem is not getting rejected 400 times, the problem is not learning anything from any of those rejections. What books have you read on seduction? | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 12:41 AM |
| 6 | The Real Reason You Keep Putting Women on a Pedestal—And How to Stop So Attraction Happens NaturallyBecause internalizing this area requires lots of studying on emotional intelligence to truly accept that dating is about connection, not about being good enough. You keep taking it badly because you haven’t internalized this simple reality. And the only way to internalize it is constant studying on emotional intelligence, and practicing. The mind is only frustrated because it doesn’t know why you are doing wrong to not connect with women, but that’s something that can be studied and improved on.… | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 12:09 AM |
| 14 | The Real Reason You Keep Putting Women on a Pedestal—And How to Stop So Attraction Happens NaturallyCheating reflects on what’s going on in the other person’s mind not on you, people cheat for many reasons, thr main one because it can be fun and exciting for many women to do the forbidden. Sometimes it’s done for the thrill of getting caught, being naughty and a bad girl which turns her on, sometimes it might be done for self-esteem issues seeking validation from multiple men to feel good about herself, sometimes it might be done as a revenge, sometimes it might be done as a mistake in a momen… | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 11:55 PM |
| 22 | Simple but Weird Technique to Stop Putting Girls On a PedestalThis is not about your lifestyle, this is about self-growth and developing emotional intelligence so that your mind doesn’t sabotage you. It’s about becoming the man that takes chances with women, not because he thinks success is guaranteed, but because he doesn’t give a fuck if he fails and he would rather take action and fail than regret missing opportunities. The type of guy who values experience over hesitation, curiosity over fear, and growth over comfort. | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Girl taking 1-2 hours for reply on Snapchat but her snap score isn’t going up at allWhen a woman says shit like “when the exams are over, i’ll go out with you”. That’s a big sign she is not really interested. Women who like a guy have a little bit of urgency around that guy. They don’t make him wait a whole month as if the guy didn’t have more options and couldn’t lose interest in her. I have never seen a guy say to a woman they like, “oh i’ll see you when my exams are over next month”. I have seen that excuse from women multiple times, but never from guys. If she seriously thi… | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 11:00 PM |
| 395 | Simple but Weird Technique to Stop Putting Girls On a PedestalIn order to stop putting girls on a pedestal, you first need to stop acting like you are beneath her, and stop treating her like she is there to judge you. It requires you to value yourself first and to acknowledge that you deserve connections with any human being regardless of how hot they are. If you don’t value yourself you won’t really think you deserve a girl like her, even if you try to imagine her doing embarrassing stuff. Because as soon as she tests you, shows a hint of disapproval and … | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible to pull a Model Tier Girl as an Average Man?Yes, the moment you choose to stop referring to her as “model-tier girl” and begin to treat her as a regular human being who also shits, also has flaws, also has insecurities. Acknowledging the fact that she is not your superior or a judge, she is just another person who is your equal. Only when you stop treating them like they are a celebrity for being pretty, they will stop treating you as a fan, and that’s when an actual connection can blossom. You won’t connect with them until you don’t star… | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 06:27 PM |
| 4 | My ex came back, we had sex, but she says she’ll never want moreWhy do you want to be with someone who is telling you you are not what he wants. Trying to force that just makes you desperate which only reinforces her point because desperation makes you less attractive. She is pushing you away and you are trying to turn that around, which only pushes her even more. You need to understand that trying to force things is counterproductive, and it’s just lame that you want someone who has to be persuaded into changing her mind, you should be with someone who woul… | /r/seduction | 15/02/25 11:28 PM |
| 5 | How to answer girl who just like your respone on hinge?You don’t need to answer to something which doesn’t require an answer. A like is just a like it doesn’t mean you have to acknowledge the fact that she gave you a like. You should just change topics. | /r/seduction | 15/02/25 10:33 PM |
| 2 | This happenedDo you get laid in your country of origin? Do you get laid in countries with people that have the same skin color? That’s how you know if it’s a racial issue or not. Because if you still have no success woth people from your ethnicity then there is something else. | /r/seduction | 15/02/25 08:01 PM |
| 11 | 4 simple flirty games thay create a flirty vibe with your girlThese ones in particular are meant to be used in person, through texts, only the 2nd and 3rd one might fit, but it still wouldn’t have the same effect. Seduction is a game meant to be played in person face to face. | /r/seduction | 15/02/25 06:35 PM |
| 5 | Can somebody explain this?What happens in the night stays in the night. Most women don’t seek to see guys they meet in a nightclub or a bar again. The point of night game isn’t to get numbers or instagrams or any contact details. It’s about escalating as far as possible, the ultimate goal being hooking up with her. Don’t expect women at night to want to see you again no matter what happens or how into you they might seem to be in the nightclub. They don’t take guys they meet there seriously, it’s all a one time thing. | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Advice on current situationIf you haven’t made it 100% clear to her that you are into her and are taking her out on a date, not just hanging out, then you are gonna be friendzoned. You can’t just go out to eat with women without telling her what your intentions are. You need to be clear so that the both of you are in the same page. You can’t tell me that you both go out to eat and apparently you are clueless about what this is. If you don’t know what she thinks then the answer is clear the girl is gonna treat you as a fri… | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 11:45 AM |
| 10 | Advice for a 25 M going to a bar at night for the first time?Women on bars are looking for fun on the night, and at most kiss or get laid, they are not to looking for dates or to see guys they met at night again the following days. Honestly, the bar is a terrible place for you to go alone if you have never had any success with women and don’t even know how to start a conversation with them. Most women will be with someone else and a lot of them will probably be bitchy and have a dismissive arrogant attitude. You don’t really know how to handle that tough … | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Seeing many stories where a girl cheats on her boyfriend with her EX, what qualities/traits could the EX have? What kind of emotion does he invoke in the girl?Yes, there are multiple reasons, because humans are complex and different and not everyone cheats for the same reasons. | /r/seduction | 13/02/25 10:48 PM |
| 28 | Seeing many stories where a girl cheats on her boyfriend with her EX, what qualities/traits could the EX have? What kind of emotion does he invoke in the girl?Cheating isn’t necessarily done because the ex has particular traits, it’s because it’s fun and exciting for many women to do the forbidden. Sometimes it’s done for the thrill of getting caught, being naughty and a bad girl which turns her on, sometimes it might be done for self-esteem issues seeking validation from multiple men to feel good about herself, sometimes it might be done as a revenge, sometimes it might be done as a mistake in a moment of vulnerability that she won’t repeat again eve… | /r/seduction | 13/02/25 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Should I wait or ask now if she wants something serious?Why do you want to lock her down into a commitment. Let her bring it up and just play it cool. It’s not your job to make it official, it’s hers. | /r/seduction | 13/02/25 09:42 PM |
| 21 | Shit-test She gets madAgree and amplify and exxagerate, if you want examples you have to specify what you said that got her mad | /r/seduction | 13/02/25 05:18 PM |
| 11 | Best answer to "I would date someone like you"?No, i’m just explaining how it works by breaking down what most people know by pure instinct, but don’t know how to word it. | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 09:19 PM |
| 17 | I wish I could date a guy like you, but not you | Reality checkYou can be compassionate, caring empathetic, but that should not be an excuse to be boring or use that as a self-imposed limit to be fun and emotionally engaging for her. You can do certain games that create playful emotional tensión, and release such us: 1 - The almost kiss game: Imagine there is a moment where you are going for a kiss, there is close proximity between you and her, eye contact,she is eagerly waiting for the kiss to happen, you begin to lean in slowly as if you are about to kiss… | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 08:52 PM |
| 12 | I wish I could date a guy like you, but not you | Reality checkWomen and men are different. They don’t respond to the same type of things when it comes to attraction. That is why when a girl does that to you, it doesn’t work as effectively. Men are not driven so much by the emotional rollercoaster, they would rather have other type of stimulus like the visual stuff and the physical touch. But also because those guys manage to just make it way more rewarding than a woman. When they show interest, it’s all a dream come true for the woman. So they just want mo… | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 08:11 PM |
| 25 | I wish I could date a guy like you, but not you | Reality checkI’m not gonna say it’s impossible, but it would require first of a period between 6 months to 1 year apart without contact first so that the platonic connection fades and can start from a more neutral place where your platonic vibe doesn’t cause resistance to the change in the established dynamics. Then you would need to use that time period without contact to improve your flirting skills, and learn to create tension with other girls, because it’s not a skill that can be developed on your first … | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 02:56 PM |
| 5 | I need helpNot with that mentality. But yes, there are short men that have managed to get laid, and get married and have kids. If your mentality is “please let me prove my worth to you”, or “let me compensate so that you give me a chance”, then no, you won’t have success with women. And no, women aren’t thinking you must have a small penis because you are short. Women just prefer tall men for reasons of safety, and contrast between masculinity and femininity. Women feel more “girly” or feminine” if the guy… | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 01:40 PM |
| 8 | Quick and direct vs friend gameA lot of guys will take this slow, build a connection, and hope she will fall for him or things will fall into place for them to ask her out. They’ll do this cause they really like the girl and don’t want to make things weird or ruin whatever relationship theyve been investing into. As a deliberate strategy to get a particular girl it’s awful and very inefficient. Highly unlikely to work, because the lack of clarity about intentions means the woman will consider you as just a friend while she is… | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 01:10 PM |
| 79 | Best answer to "I would date someone like you"?Sorry to tell you but this isn’t how seduction works and you are in the friendzone. If you said “I am someone like me” you would be basically being needy and losing your frame, not that you had a good one anyway, but it just reinforces the frame that you are hoping for a chance to be picked by the girl, rather than being in a position of power where you are the one picking girls because they earned someone like you. When a woman tells you that “she would date someone like you”, that usually comm… | /r/seduction | 12/02/25 12:56 PM |
| 3 | Was she into me? (Girl on train storytime)No, you did not miss the chance of your life. It’s more like you missed a chance to evaluate whether there is a connection with that girl. Just because she is interested superficially and you are interested superficially doesn’t mean a connection or a spark would have happened. Even if you talked, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you would have clicked with each other. | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 08:33 PM |
| 1 | What are good responses to girls saying "I have bf" or "I'm seeing someone rn" ?Her: I have a boyfriend You: Good that way i don’t have to worry about you hitting on me You: Great, now I don’t have to keep my guard up around you. You: Imagine his shock when he realizes I just stole his girlfriend—who knows, maybe he’d be into it. You: Well, when he finds out I just stole his girl, i’ll bet he’ll either be mad… or oddly into it. You: And yet, here we are still talking and having fun, so exciting. | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 08:28 PM |
| 6 | How is Game different in Europe and USA?I’m a writer, and “ChatGPT” wouldn’t be able to give you this advice because it’s not politically correct to say these things. | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 07:30 PM |
| 8 | How is Game different in Europe and USA?From a biological level every woman is the same and responds to intense emotional stimuli regardless of where they are from, the only diferentes are shaped by cultural norms, many of which can actually be overcome if you solve their internal dissonances (aka conflicts between their primitive and emotional desires, and the social norms that restrict or restraint her behavior). For example, a woman from a conservative background might feel strong attraction toward a confident, dominant man but hes… | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Approaching ladies as a brown manRace does not make someone a creep, it’s their disrespect of boundaries and social ineptitude that makes them a creep. And dating women has to do with emotional and sexual connection, if one of the two is missing, that is not because of race, but because you simply do not understand each other and don’t click. You only see a couple of mix races partners because the majority of people from one country tend to date people that live in the same environment as them woth the same culture as them. It’… | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 07:18 PM |
| 4 | How to ask for a number in the busYou don’t. Instead, you start a 5 min conversation with her first while you wait for the bus to see if there is chemistry and whether the both of you actually enjoy talking with each other. Hearing from a stranger thay she pretty is not enough reason to make her invested enough in you to want to see you again or entertain your attention for long. Even if you said you want to be friends, she stop has no reason or want to be friends with you because she doesn’t know anything about you to decide if… | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Not approaching, now what?Anxiety just wants you to be ready for catastrophic outcomes that may or may not happen. Anxiety will only relax if she feels that you have under control those negative outcomes. So what you do is just that, get ready. Potential bad outcomes anxiety predicts: The woman may say it’s weird to cold approach strangers in the street. If you do something you need to own it, and if she questions what you do, you need to show absolute confidence that you are sure of what you are doing and never being ap… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Texting terrorWhat if she ignores you or rejects you? Then you move on, and be thankful that she did not waste more of your time. You need to accept woth humility thay not everyone you are interested in has to be interested in you, and that not everyone you are interested in is someone that’s good for you. If your text is boring. Then you learn from it. You ask advice in reddit and get answers thay will give you tips to improve your texts or to correct mistakes. That’s how you learn, first you practice, then … | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How to be more sexual/bold in conversation/over text (26M)You have to bait her with insinuations, and subtle questions that organically lead into more risky insinuations than the previous ones. You start with subtle things like: “Bet you’ve had some fun nights out. What’s the craziest thing you’ve done for a laugh?” This question sets the stage for sharing light-hearted, mildly mischievous moments, making her feel comfortable while hinting at a playful side. From there, you transition with a flirtatious tease, “You seem like you’d be fun to get into so… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Started college, don't want to waste these years, how can I deal with fear of cold approaching?You need to stop using the word abnormal like it’s a bad thing. What you call abnormal i call it standing out. What you call abnormal, i call it being different. Abnormal doesnt automatically makr something undesirable. It just makes you different from the crowd and being different is not automatically a negative thing. Some women might be into it some might not. Just like with everything else because not everyone has the exact same preferences. Following the social norms does not mean you will … | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Just need encouragementIf you want to get women that are hot and younger, you need to actually walk up to them and talk to them. You can’t just sit at home swiping on shitty dating apps, you need to go out in the street, go to large malls, go to public events, go to train stations or public squares, go to parks, go to beaches, go to gyms, in essence go to places where women are likely to be at and approach them face to face. You have to cold approach them not wait for them to come to you. Yes, excuses will pop in your… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 01:09 PM |
| 8 | How to be more sexual/bold in conversation/over text (26M)Well, she showed you. You have to describe with great detail the erotic things you will do with her. You don’t understand it because you still haven’t discovered a great secret from women. They don’t watch porn like guys do, they read porn. Yes, that’s right. I know you are thinking,: “_What? How the fuck do you read porn. Porn is a visual thing_”. And that would be wrong because for women, desire starts in the mind before it reaches the body. Men are wired for visual stimulation—seeing an attra… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Started college, don't want to waste these years, how can I deal with fear of cold approaching?This means that you are projecting your own insecurities and experiences onto the action. Since you probably feel awkward or socially uncomfortable cold approaching, this in turn colors your perception of the action of cold approaching as being “creepy”. As a result of that belief, if you were to cold-approach you would probably act nervous, avoid eye contact, or be overly hesitant, and those behaviours, that stem from your insecurity, could easily come off as strange and unsettling for others, … | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 11:53 PM |
| 0 | Tips to ask out randos on Instagram?Learn social skills, study seduction. It’s like you are asking how to drive a car for the first time and expecting quick tips. Like get the driving license first, get someone to train you, study the driving rules, etc | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Went out with a coworkerIf after doing that she still gives you excuses, or looks distant and evasive, it’s better to let go. Specially when it’s someone from work. | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Falling in love, but should I wait or just confess what I feel?She already told you that she sees this as a casual thing, so there is no need to ask what are we. You are casual buddies and she doesn’t really expect commitment from you. She is exploring her options, meaning she isn’t sold on you. You are an option to her. Just because she tells you she is not seeing anyone else, doesn’t mean she isn’t open to it or even that she is telling the truth. Women rarely say the truth about that stuff. | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 02:43 PM |
| 23 | I need help complimenting 10/10 girls.Compliment aspects of her personality. Her intelligence, her sense of humor, her compassion, her determination, her confidence, her idealism, her pragmatism, her common sense, her hopefulness, her sensuality, her charisma, her resilience, her empathy, her adventurous spirit, her spontaneous nature, her nurturing skills, her creative side,… etc | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 02:33 PM |
| 9 | Is she actually interested in me or just stringing me along?You are being needy, which of course means that she is not gonna be interested in you. Whenever you are in a position like this it means you are not behaving like a high value man, but like a beta male and the outcome is always the same the girl giving you excuses, and making things difficult for you and basically leading you on constantly. So the problem here is your scarcity mindset, this happens to you because deep down you believe that’s the best you deserve from a woman. You don’t really be… | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Went out with a coworkerBe careful though, seduction attempts have to be consensual and reciprocal, otherwise you can easily risk crossing the line to sexual harassment | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 01:52 PM |
| 9 | How to connect and have more intimate conversations with women?Connection is about understanding the other person’s vision of life. How they feel about things, how their experiences have shaped them, how they respond or interpret circumstances and experiences that they live. How do they feel and how you would or did feel on similar experiences is the first thing you need to do to connect. To build that, you focus on feelings over facts. Instead of just asking about what she does or where she’s from, you dig into how those things make her feel and what they … | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 01:14 AM |
| 11 | Getting laidOk, here is a checklist of things to do while you have an interaction with a woman in order to get dates and get laid. 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a sol… | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 10:31 PM |
| 9 | girl playing defenseIt’s not an about pressuring her… If she says that like being a whore is a bad thing, just project your frame that you don’t see whore as a bad thing. You do that by redefining the meaning of that word with euphemisms that solve her internal conflict between desire and judgment, making it sound like being a whore simply means being a confident woman who embraces her desires unapologetically, enjoys her experiences without shame, and isn’t restricted by outdated labels or judgments. • For example… | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Getting laidOk, here is a checklist of things to do while you have an interaction with a woman in order to get dates and get laid. 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a sol… | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 10:04 PM |
| 17 | Drop the ‘Does she like me’ mindset and focus on the connection instead.If i approach women who i think look good, doesn’t that automatically put her in position of power? Not when you start the conversation the right way, which could be: “_Hi, I don’t usually approach people like this, but i made an exception with you because I saw you from over there and I loved your style cuz it’s interesting, so I got curious to see if your personality matches your looks_” or “_…want to see if you are as interesting as you look_• A conversation started similar to this, projects … | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Did I overreact?Look, i’m gonna say that there is different problem than you imagine, which is the way you suggest the date, which you have tried to do by negotiating what she may or may not prefer. Instead, you should have said: “I’m taking you to a really cool place in the city center, you are gonna love it when you see it. Should i pick you up (with your car) at 19:00?” You shouldn’t tell her before hand what the exact venue is, you can give say some vague location like the city center or the neighborhood’s … | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 03:34 PM |
| 24 | Went out with a coworkerJust because you had sex with a girl once doesn’t mean she wants to have sex again. Not because you lack the sex skills or because she regrets it. But simply because sometimes people just want to have a fun one time experience and they are gonna make sure they don’t lead you on by acting distant so that you get the hint. | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 12:13 PM |
| 1 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?But if the distance was the reason wouldn’t she have asked me to fix it as an ultimatum to save it? Not really because when someone ends a relationship due to distance, it’s usually not just about logistics—it’s about their emotional capacity, priorities, and long-term vision that have changed slowly but progressively during the distance. By the time she made the decision to leave, she had likely already processed her doubts and emotions, meaning she didn’t see fixing the distance as a viable or… | /r/seduction | 07/02/25 02:35 PM |
| 1 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?Depends, sometimes it can be external circumstances, and sometimes it’s inherent insecurities that lead to toxic behaviors. For example if you are on a long distance relationship where the interest fades. That usually is an external circumstance because attraction as an emotional state that isn’t permanent and requires meeting up, creating new exciting emotional experiences and novelty to be sustained, otherwise it evaporates naturally because without excitement attraction can’t thrive. The real… | /r/seduction | 07/02/25 02:28 AM |
| 1 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?Remember to focus on what you can control, and let go of what you can’t control. Our actions influence how a woman feels about you. The wrong set of actions lead to repulsive behavior that pulls women away. Sometimes it’s women, but in this sub, the vast majority of guys clearly have behaviors that come from the ego or insecurities which have negative consequences to how women feel about them and which need fixing. | /r/seduction | 07/02/25 02:02 AM |
| 1 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?The issue is that this attitude leads to obsession and obsessions freak the hell out of women. Nothing worst for women than a guy who can’t take the hint or a no for an answer. It scares them and for good reason. When i say most girls get repulsed by neediness it’s because almost every woman i or my clients lost was because of neediness. Attraction thrives when you are outcome detached, and carefree, not obsessed trying to force an outcome. The impossibility comes from the fact that your mindset… | /r/seduction | 07/02/25 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Where to start?All right; but it doesn’t work with women you are attracted to because doing a job as a server is not the same as putting your ego on the line in front of a woman as it feels more personal. As a server you know that it’s about your job and service, not you as a person. And your friends aren’t gonna evaluate you like a woman will. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Where to start?That’s because you are battling their own mind. Your own mind is sabotaging you all the time, because the mind comes up with reasons not to approach all the time. Thoughts such us: • “That one is with a guy, it’s probably the boyfriend and he would get mad if I hit on his girl” • “That girl is too hot, she probably is not gonna like me” • “She came with her friend together to have a conversation among them, not to talk to me, so they are not gonna welcome my approach, look for someone who is alo… | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Where to start?Why did you get scared ? | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 09:34 PM |
| 8 | Girl is neutral towards me– How do I make her want me/escalate with her without trying too hard?I have to be real with you, but you are not really gonna get her. Your whole mindset is so off, that even if you read a whole pick up book in record time, you wouldn’t be able to apply the theory successfully for this specific girl since you wouldn’t really have any practice and would make crucial mistakes that turn her off permanently. To seduce a specific girl , you need to be good at seducing girls in general. You cannot go as a movie for one particular and expect success in your first try ap… | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 09:30 PM |
| 8 | Is this a good idea for how to respond to rejection?No. This just makes you look weird, and women won’t respond well to it. They are very likely to tell you to leave women alone, not because they are jealous, but because they see you as a threat. Proudly announcing that you are playing a numbers game isn’t gonna be received well, and if anything the woman who turned you down will likely warn the other woman that you hit on her first because yes women also have their own “bro code” among them. You are not familiar with women you cold approach, and… | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Bad news: Wanting her back is the ultimate turn off | She would only want you if you truly moved on.No idea who that is, but the principles are based on general truths that apply the vast majority of time, not on exceptions. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Bad news: Wanting her back is the ultimate turn off | She would only want you if you truly moved on.I would insult you back, but then someone would have to explain you the insult. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Bad news: Wanting her back is the ultimate turn off | She would only want you if you truly moved on.I didn’t know you could read. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 08:50 PM |
| 5 | Girl I am talking to has been with a friend of mineThis was a concern i had when i was 14, back when i was immature. Yes, other people will have dated girls that you like, including friends from your past. It bothers people who are not mature enough to date. The idea that you can’t have a happy relationship if a girl has dated previously a friend of yours, is baseless. This is the type of situation where advice from most guys under the age of 27 or even 30, should not be considered as valid because they are immature and draw conclusions primaril… | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Girl I am talking to has been with a friend of mineIf a group of friends makes fun of you, why would you wanna be friends with them? They are showing you they don’t respect you, that they’d rather shame you than being supportive. They they would rather make you feel bad. Wow, such great friendships, said no one ever. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 08:12 PM |
| 0 | Girl I am talking to has been with a friend of mineThe reality is that she is single, the friend is single, and therefore he has no claim over her. She is free to date whoever she wants. I am free to date whoever i want. And if someone has a problem with that, they are showing they are not a real friend because they are interfering over the decisions that two consenting adults are allow to make. If you have a problem with that, then we better not stay as friends. If that is what breaks the friendships then it wasnt strong enough anyways. I’d rat… | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Girl I am talking to has been with a friend of mineThen, you need mature friends. A mature person isn’t friends with immature people. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 07:31 PM |
| 1 | How to Join a Group of Girls’ Conversation Without Making It Awkward or AnnoyingThat’s a fallacious argument. It’s the equivalent of saying “Reading is for losers, real men don’t read” Just some fake alpha wanna be bullshit | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 07:28 PM |
| -1 | Girl I am talking to has been with a friend of mineThis was a concern i had when i was 14, back when i was immature. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 06:53 PM |
| 11 | Bad news: Wanting her back is the ultimate turn off | She would only want you if you truly moved on.Yes, when it’s over it’s over. There is no real solution because sometimes you simply can’t win. That’s the point of the post. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 06:52 PM |
| 30 | How do I ask a girl if she's down to hook up?The vast majority of women don’t want to commit to a hookup until they had a chance to see you in person, talk with you, and see if you vibe and connect. That is why most girls avoid the question or un match with you. They don’t want the guy to think that her being on the fence or saying yes, is somehow some type of social-contract that they must abide with once they meet with the guy. Because many guys get mad when they meet up with her thinking they had an agreement to get laid only for her to… | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 12:45 PM |
| 5 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?I’m a seduction coach with a lot of experience on this, and i have to be real with you. You can’t for one very simple reason. Wanting her back shows you are still needy. You cannot unfix your previous neediness that screwed things up by wanting her back because focusing on one particular woman who is already walking away from you, means you are now chasing. And chasing is needy. You can tell yourself that you are just picky and are only fighting for what you want, that you don’t really need her,… | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 12:31 PM |
| 4 | Why just why are we so scared?Because your ego is at stake, which can easily affect your self-esteem if a girl decides she isn’t into you, making you question your worth as a man, and because you are afraid of bad outcomes leading to disastrous situations which you might not feel comfortable at all dealing with. The idea of someone turning you down might not seem like a big deal until you basically use women as tools of self-affirmation where a woman liking you is something you interpret as proof that you are worth something… | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | How to make her first time feel special?Please, let’s not treat a woman like she is a child. If she wants it rough who are you to say what she likes or doesn’t like? That’s a very specific request wanting it rough to not know what she wants. I bet she just told him she is a virgin, but deep down is very experienced. Don’t project what you would have or wouldn’t have wanted onto another human being who is different person than you, with different preferences, kinks, likes, and tolerance levels than you. You don’t speak for all women, y… | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 07:36 PM |
| 1 | First MessageThe longer you take to message a girl you met at night the more likely she is to forget you or lose interest. You could have said call back humor, some inside joke about something memorable that happen that night, such us: “They should have given us an award for best dancers last night”. either way, you probably took too long and she is unlikely to want to see you again anyway and unlikely to entertain the conversation much. Even if you cannot come up with anything tus better to say “hi just wan… | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 05:10 PM |
| 6 | CunnilingusYes it’s perfectly fine, some guys are so insecure they overthink and second-guess themselves just to appear alpha which ironically shows they are not alpha at all. You can think of cunnilingus as the act of marking her with your scent and power, a claim of ownership and conquest, where you’re the relentless predator, eager to catch and savor her in the thrill of the hunt and where the thrill lies in her submission to your primal, unyielding desire. | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 11:21 AM |
| 3 | Question about dealing with distance in a relationshipHigh-value men don’t entertain long distance relationships. That’s why on a subconscious level women tend to lose interest in the man. It’s needy to be attached to someone you can’t see. A high value man should have better options in his life, women he can meet, have sex with and spend time with face to face. Women may initially agree to an LDR, but over time, their subconscious will register that something is off—why isn’t he dating locally if he’s truly desirable? Attraction requires meeting u… | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 10:48 AM |
| 1 | How to make her first time feel special?Being rough means she doesn’t want vanilla sex, or missionary crap. She wants slutty sex. She wants to be primitive. You are focused on the wrong thing if you think she wants some safe, comfortable, boring romantic sex. She doesn’t want a good boy in bed. She wants an animal. So if you are scared of hurting her, then that’s a problem for her, because “hurting her in the bed a little bit” might be precisely what gets her aroused and turned on. She wants you to pull her her, slap her ass, talk dir… | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Should you call a woman you met at the bar a few days later?it wouldn’t make you stand o it because that’s the bare minimum. Having said that if you met her at a bar she probably forgot you already. | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 11:19 PM |
| 7 | How does a relationship form?Start by meeting up with her, kiss on those meet ups, have sex in those meet ups, keep meeting up with her, keep kissing and having sex with her in future meet ups, until she asks you, what are we? That’s usually a sign she wants to reach some type of exclusivity and the terms. It’s basically “the talk”. So “the talk” comes after sex has been happening for a while. Never have the talk before sex has happened. Meeting up without kissing and having sex means you are becoming her platonic buddy, an… | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 07:11 PM |
| 4 | Are guys that work in porn good at pick up/game?No. They are not good at pick up and game generally speaking. There could be exceptions of course, but most would rely on their physique or even fame to get laid, not on their actual game. Without the physique or fame, it would be obvious they don’t have any rizz at all. | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 06:52 PM |
| 19 | I don't know what a shit test isExamples of shit tests: Do you say that to every girl? Aren’t you a bit too old to be hitting on girls? Every guy is the same Do you talk to a lot of women Does this usually work for you? How many girls have you slept with? Do you think she is pretty? You are a bit young for me” You are kinda fat. Do we look like we date guys like you? Why should i go out with you? You are kinda gay, aren’t you? What’s your zodiac sign? Are you hitting on me? I don’t go out with guys like you What makes you diff… | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 01:54 PM |
| 2 | do you think the weather affects the quality of day game in big cities?Yes. Good weather lifts people’s mood, makes them relax more, and makes them more likely to be outside chilling. Bad weather however ruins that, people are in a rush, they are less likely to go outside, their mood is worst and usually it would be better to approach them in indoors places, like large malls. | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 01:41 PM |
| 1 | I have some questions about this community, because hearing about it explains so much, and also freaks me out.There is the cynical view that seduction is about tricking women, playing a numbers game, lying to them, and hiding your insecurities, anxieties and resentment towards women until you get laid. And then there is the positive view which is that seduction is about learning to own who you actually are to overcome your insecurities and anxieties in order to be comfortable in your own skin, using effective social skills to communicate your desires better and navigate social challenges effectively. An… | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Where do you guys get the endurance?You can get rejected when you go for a kiss for example, or when you got a number, or when you ask on a date. Because those things are a yes or no, there is no in between. If you attempt to go for the kiss, the kiss either happens or it doesn’t. If it doesn’t it’s a rejection. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 09:51 PM |
| 9 | Whats the proper way to cold approach?You can approach any girl, by simply saying something like: You: “Hey, i wanna ask you something real quick” Her: Sure You: The thing js I feel like most people at these social gatherings usually try too hard or don’t try at all, but you seem like you’re actually enjoying yourself and i was curious. What’s your secret?” or You: Hey, mind if i ask you something real quick? Her: what is it? You: “It’s just that I briefly noticed you from across the room, and you have this really relaxed but magnet… | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 09:25 PM |
| 13 | Is my opinion about dating the reason I'm having trouble getting laid?No, that’s not the reason you are having trouble getting laid. You don’t actually need to label dates as dates to get laid, hanging out and flirting with them sexually and escalating things can be done without establishing that it’s a date. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 08:38 PM |
| 12 | Women genuinely keep wanting to be just friends with me.My hot take is that most guys, specially those under 35 shouldn’t be in a relationship. They should just have short term hookups. They would also realize after the hookup that they don’t care much about the girl that they thought they wanted to make their girlfriend. An effect known as post-nut clarity. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:40 PM |
| 17 | Where do you guys get the endurance?The problem is not that you get rejected, the real problem you have is you don’t get rejected enough. You only learn by approaching and getting rejected. You actually don’t learn much from approaching and being successful because success makes you believe that your successful approach is universally effective, which leads to complacency and a lack of growth. Rejections, on the other hand, force you to adapt, refine your methods, and develop resilience, ultimately making you more adept in the lon… | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:27 PM |
| 28 | Women genuinely keep wanting to be just friends with me.I see a clear problem here which is that you don’t build enough sexual tension, and are ready to settle and make things serious way too soon when the bare minimum to get to that point which is sex hasn’t even happened first. Attraction is generated when you create tension in person, and attraction evaporates when there is no tension in person In romantic contexts, tension plays a key role in attraction. Flirtation involves a dance of showing interest while maintaining some distance, pushback, or… | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:14 PM |
| 6 | If a woman seems really interested in and is asking about your past dating experiences does that mean she's interested?It mean she is interested, but it doesn’t mean she is sold on you. She still can lose interest. In other words, she is evaluating you. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:01 PM |
| 1 | AdviceYou need to make peace with the fact that you will lose many girls throughout your life and that’s normal and ok. It means they are not the right person for you. Choose to let go of those who are willing to walk away from you. Have a take it or leave it type of attitude and opt to behave from an abundance mindset rather than scarcity mindset. Recognize that losing someone’s interest isn’t something to avoid, but something to look forward to in order to avoid wasting time on those who are not as … | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 04:46 PM |
| 6 | What am I doing wrong?Seems like they get bored with you. Your conversation might not feel too stimulating for them, they might feel like they have to do most of the talking themselves, and they don’t feel any excitement, challenge or tension beyond the first dates. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 01:15 PM |
| 3 | How to keep yourself mysterious when your info is publicUse an artistic name/pseudonym | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 12:06 AM |
| 24 | How are yall seeing iois and interest from girls you don’t know?I don’t. I just approach without caring about IOIs. I don’t need a woman to give me signs that she wants me to approach her i just approach her respectfully and start being charming. | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 09:19 PM |
| 2 | She didn’t turned you down, she turned your offer down.🫢 | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 08:27 PM |
| 6 | She didn’t turned you down, she turned your offer down.Rather than saying “they don’t like us”, it’s better to say they didn’t connect with us. If someone doesn’t connect with us, they are not going to entertain our offers. The reason saying “she doesn’t like me” is more problematic is because it can easily convinces your mind that you are not worthy as a person, that you are inherently undesirable. Hence the words you choose matter. The way we interpret what happens does affect directly our self-esteem. And while it may not affect you specifically,… | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 03:23 PM |
| 1 | She didn’t turned you down, she turned your offer down.Yeah, when i say “your offer” i don’t mean to take that as an excuse to keep throwing different offers to the same woman. I mean to rationalize in your head that you simply didn’t find the right “client” for your offer and need to look for more suitable clients that actually like your offer or present your same offer, in a more marketable way to new clients without changing the offer, just the way it is presented. | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 01:35 PM |
| 10 | She didn’t turned you down, she turned your offer down.Obviously. Don’t chase. | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with fluidity in seductionNo, it’s not about forcing yourself to ignore those thoughts. It’s about developing your emotional Intelligence which is the ability to recognize, understand, manage, and effectively use your own emotions as well as understand and manage emotions of others. Meaning that when those thoughts happen they are legitimate concerns that require acknowledgment and contingency plans. | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Handling rejection!I’m not sure I understand what you are asking. | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Pursue without “chasing”?Pursuing means showing interest; taking initiative and making moves with self-respect and confidence. You are moving things forward but also evaluating whether she is worth the investment always willing to walk away and mean it if she isn’t receptive. Never clinging to her for some mild hope just because she is the only one who gave you some attention. Chasing means over investing without reciprocation, double texting her when she is leaving you on read or ignoring your texts, trying to prove yo… | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with fluidity in seductionFor most guys the biggest challenge to doing it solo is consistency, You can sometimes get the temporary confidence to do an approach here and there, but approaching regularly every day or every week various women is usually the hardest part. That’s because most guys are battling their own mind. Their own mind is almost sabotaging them all the time, the mind comes up with reasons not to approach all the time, and when you do an approach the mind then comes up with reasons for you to conform with… | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Handling rejection!The cure to ego is accepting rejection with humility. 1 - You need first to be humble enough to accept that not every girl you are into is meant for you, or also be wise enough to recognize that not every girl you are into is a girl that’s good for you. You feel bad about rejection because you allow ego to trick you into thinking that every girl you desire should desire you and if she doesn’t, it feels personal, like she has the audacity to say to your face that you aren’t worthy of a girl like … | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Struggling with fluidity in seductionYou over analyze because you let both anxiety and ego dominate your mind. It’s a prison of your own making influenced by the need to fit in and be respected or approved by others, as well as the need to avoid negative outcomes that anxiety predicts will happen if you approach in x or y situation. You can overcome it with a wing or a coach like me or anyone who lives in your country that pressures you to approach in any situation, until you don’t need him anymore because it finally comes natural … | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 09:48 PM |
| 5 | This is what happens when you speak from a privileged positionI didn’t ask you for advice though. My comment is simply a critic to those who pat themselves in the back because they shared generic vague useless cliche advice. Because like you said “life doesn’t work that way” | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 07:58 PM |
| 6 | This is what happens when you speak from a privileged positionYes he did, and everything you wrote including what you left out, inner game and overcoming your own mind limitations, does require tremendous work. “Just get a lifestyle of your dreams” “Just don’t be afraid to approach women and build sexual tension” “Just flirt and tease, and tell an interesting story” “Just don’t be needy and don’t over share” Basically proving the original point. Can’t assume that people know how to do those things, or that they even understand what they are, or how to exec… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 07:44 PM |
| 2 | This is what happens when you speak from a privileged positionYou could write a whole book just to cover each of the things you said there mate.No need for lies, it’s simply recognizing that it ain’t simple. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 07:39 PM |
| 3 | This is what happens when you speak from a privileged positionIn other words, it’s not simple. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 07:23 PM |
| 78 | Do you have experiences seducing "good girls"?The myth of the “good girl”. The idea that a pure girl will require you to follow the “good boy” manual. Attraction is triggered by contrasts. A “bad boy” is gonna be far more exciting to a “good girl” than being overly careful guy, who doesn’t wanna get her out of her comfort zone, or who wants to treat her like she is a nun. When it comes to seducing women you need to focus on stirring her emotions, getting her to fantasize about the unusual, about the taboo, the forbidden, the things that are… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 01:48 PM |
| 1 | "Pick-up artists"This is what happens when you speak from privilege. “Just be yourself bro. I am myself and women love me” - Henry Cavill “Don’t approach women, just let women come to you” - Brad Pitt “Justa don’t be weird!” - Mister socially adept guy “Bro just get a small loan of a million dollars, and build your own successful business” - Trump “Just be confident, don’t be insecure mate” - Mister confident man. “I’ve never had issues with getting woman, so i can’t understand how someone else can’t” “You must … | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Is there a political/social pattern?No, there is no such pattern. I have seen men from complete opposite ideologies kill it with the ladies, much like i have seen men with different ideologies suck completely at it. Being good at seducing women has to do with being in touch with your primal emotional instincts, being socially adept, and having high-value as a man, not with politics. I have seen communists, socialists, social democrats, republicans, democratic socialists, liberals, hippies, who are great at seducing women. And I ha… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 11:30 AM |
| 9 | How can I stop feeling jealous of dudes that don’t have to put in any effort?Jealousy is a useless emotion. There will always be people who make more money than me, people who are smarter than me, taller than me, more handsome than me, funnier than me, more accomplished than me, more successful than me, etc… Do I need to beat them? Not really, i’m not in a competition with them. I don’t aspire to beat them, and i probably couldn’t anyway. But the good news is i don’t need to. I also remind myself that there are people that there are people who makes less money than me, w… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Looking for an advice with a situationThat’s not a rest. That’s not being interested. A rest is soemthing that tests whether you really are a high value man, or whether your romantic interest is truly legit if you really are a high value man. Her coming up with excuses to not go put is not s rest if your value or your romantic interest. You might erroneously think she is trying to rest whether you really are interested by making you insist before she says yes once she has confirmed that you really are serious, but that’s not how tes… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 09:41 PM |
| 3 | I keep failing at night gameLow energy guys have status or looks in their favor. High energy guys have extroversion and fun in their favor. Up to you to choose. | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Bad gym approachYou are making a noob mistake. Starting the conversation by asking her questions, without revealing what you want, and without seeming her permission. Notice how you ask her about her shoes and yet she doesn’t know why you care about her shoes? She is wondering what does this guy want? Is he gonna leave me alone soon? Does he realize i don’t want to engage? A better approach would have been to say: “Hey listen, you got a brief minute?” (ask for consent) Her: “Yeah sure?” You: “Cool, listen I don… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 04:29 PM |
| 7 | I keep failing at night gameYou need to be the life of the party or someone with high status inside the club for women to want to engage with you. If you go out with your friends, you need to all act like you are all having the best night it of your life among yourself without talking to any women, drawing attention to yourselves from everyone else. When you do that women begin to notice because the energy within your group is super high, whereas the rest of the club’s energy is super dull and stale and women are always dr… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Constantly fail with women what am I doing wrong?You don’t build sexual tension, you are making it a big habit to avoid tension at all costs, and instead validating them constantly which releases all tension if there was any to begin with. You also don’t make them feel any emotions in your conversations, like intrigue, mystery, anticipation, shock, surprise, nostalgia, joy, pride, envy, lust, arousal, desire, temptation, allure, yearning, admiration. And you also don’t build an emotional connection with them, since like you say you barely talk… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 04:04 PM |
| 23 | I can get the dates but I am not creating the spark on the date, looking for adviceYou are not flirting properly. Flirting and attraction is all about tension, and attraction evaporates when there is no tension created. In romantic contexts, tension plays a key role in attraction. Flirtation involves a dance of showing interest while maintaining some distance, pushback, or challenge. Think of storytelling where conflict drives the narrative—well, in seduction, conversational tension is what causes attraction to thrive. Tension in conversation doesn’t necessarily mean conflict … | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Seriously…🤦🏽♂️Don’t lose your frame just because you want to get a dateYou clearly still don’t get it. This is not about what “works”, this is about your standards and self-respect. The “gift” is the fact that you are taking her to dinner (or whatever activity you do for a date) for free, and your presence. There is no need for even more stuff specially for a freaking first date where you might not even know if you will like her after the date. If you want to give her flowers it shouldn’t be because she put it as a condition to go out on a date with you. A gift sho… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Seriously…🤦🏽♂️Don’t lose your frame just because you want to get a dateI don’t think you got the point | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 11:48 PM |
| 6 | Seriously…🤦🏽♂️Don’t lose your frame just because you want to get a dateBut if you’re with a Slavic girl making like $400 a month, I’m not sure that’s the best move. You’re assuming most girls act like Western ones. You are missing the point and losing sight of what matters here mate. You said: “that might not be not the best move” and that’s because you assume that i’m talking about “making sure the date happens” and as such being willing to adapt to her cultural expectations. But my point is that you need to be willing to let women like this go. In other words, do… | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 07:03 PM |
| 13 | Seriously…🤦🏽♂️Don’t lose your frame just because you want to get a dateEven if you are willing to sacrifice your standards, when you fail tests like this, ironically the girl will end up cancelling last second anyway because she was never that interested, let alone if you comply with her absurd demand. So you lose your self-respect, she ruins your day that you were looking forward to, you lose money on a gift, you resent women, and she secretly laughs at you. | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 04:34 PM |
| 17 | Seriously…🤦🏽♂️Don’t lose your frame just because you want to get a dateQuality over quantity. Less money and time to waste. | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Girl says I HAVE TO bring her a gift on our first dateYou can give her the gift of your presence. It’s always funny how guys immediately lose frame woth a girl. Always going back to their needy desperate selfs where they are so grateful that an attractive woman is finally wanting to go on a date with them that they are willing to bend their boundaries and lose self-respect just to make sure they don’t lose the chance to spend a little bit of time with her. A man with self-worth, would have taken her expectation as a bad joke. “Oh no, you are cute, … | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 03:36 PM |
| 19 | How to flirt?Flirting is all about tension, and attraction evaporates when there is no tension. In romantic contexts, tension plays a key role in attraction. Flirtation involves a dance of showing interest while maintaining some distance, pushback, or challenge. Think of storytelling where conflict drives the narrative—well, in seduction, conversational tension is what causes attraction to thrive. Tension in conversation doesn’t necessarily mean conflict but rather an engaging dynamic where there’s an elemen… | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 03:31 PM |
| 5 | Mentally scarred from going out aloneYou are missing the point of the metaphor. Also if you tell an autistic guy to act like a lion with girls, and all he will do is end up in jail. When you give advice to people on how to act, you first need to be aware that some guys are completely inept at socializing with people. You cannot assume that just because you know exactly how to speak and behave, they will get it and act in the way you imagine. Staring at a girls intensely with oh approaching her at all like a loser all night long, mi… | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 10:19 AM |
| 2 | Como le hacen los de 40 para salir con las de 20...Si hay muchos formas de conocer mujeres y no hay ninguna que funcione a todo el mundo universalmente, lo que hay que hacer es abordar mujeres, si tienes un hobby donde puedes abordar de forma natural, genial, si no lo tienes tienes que abordar en frío. Asi lo que buscas es un lugar mágico donde están todas esperando tipos de 40 o de la edad que sea no existe. | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Como le hacen los de 40 para salir con las de 20...Lo qué hagan los demás da igual. | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Como le hacen los de 40 para salir con las de 20...Creepy es la persona, no la acción de acercarse a conocer a una mujer. Si lo haces con respeto y consentimiento no hay nada “creepy”,. Y que se presten i no, pues unas si y otras no, como en cualquier otro sitio pues es normal y no pasa nada por ello. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Mentally scarred from going out aloneI’m a dating coach, but i’m in spain, so you will have to find a coach in whatever country you live in. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:19 PM |
| 24 | Mentally scarred from going out aloneYes, it’s just learning social skills and social intelligence. This whole sub is dedicated towards improving these things. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Como le hacen los de 40 para salir con las de 20...Hay de todo en esos sitios, muy guapas, feas, tipas qué van solas, tipas qué van en grupos, etc. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:14 PM |
| 42 | Mentally scarred from going out aloneShe probably told you that you were creepy because standing on your own in a club doing nothing but looking at the girls from a distance is the equivalent of a lion hidden in the bushes stalking his prey from a distance evaluating who to hunt. You were creepy because you did not have enough self-awareness to realize how your presence was coming across. It’s not the fact that you were alone but what you were doing while you were alone, or how it looked like to others what you were doing. Overthin… | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Como le hacen los de 40 para salir con las de 20...Te acercas a hablarles en la calle, en parques, en centros comerciales grandes, en olayas, en estaciones de tren, etc. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Confused by a Girl's Hot and Cold Behavior: Need Advice on How to Approach Her and Keep Her EngagedNot necessarily depends on each person | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Confused by a Girl's Hot and Cold Behavior: Need Advice on How to Approach Her and Keep Her EngagedUse texting for setting up dates, and don’t use texting for connecting. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Confused by a Girl's Hot and Cold Behavior: Need Advice on How to Approach Her and Keep Her EngagedYou said that whenever you hangout you kiss on the mouth? Then that’s when what matters, not her texting. Stop trying to use texting to measure how interested someone is. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Is this waitress into meDo you know how many men have asked if a waitress is into them all throughout history? Millions probably. You know why? Because waitress make a living from tips, and you know what’s the easiest way to get higher tips? Flirting and being overly friendly with guys. I bet you are now thinking “But she doesn’t go this far with other guys, I’m special for her”. You know how many men have thought the exact same thing? Millions too. Part of the trick is to make each customer feel seen, and unique, and … | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 03:34 PM |
| 7 | To get an specific woman to date you, you need to have experience seducing womenNo, I meant that hitting on women, and trying to seduce women frequently, makes it more likely that you will have more success when approaching specific women that you like. Whereas not being used to talking to women, makes it more likely that a specific woman won’t like you, because you will be more likely to overthink, be awkward, and make mistakes that you wouldn’t have done if you practiced more regularly. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 03:53 AM |
| 4 | Catching feelings for a girl who cheated on her boyfriend for me but wont break up with himIf she cheats on her boyfriend, and leaves him for you, then she will do the same thing to you. Don’t believe for one second that you are special and that she won’t do that to you. Those girls always repeat the same patterns over and over. I have seen that happening over and over again. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 02:49 AM |
| 4 | Tell someone beforehand my height?You should not assume that something about yourself is an issue to someone, if that person didn’t bring it up. It’s not your job to give her reasons to turn you down. You wouldn’t go to a job interview warning the employer: “hey before we start this job interview, i wanna be upfront and warn you that I might not be the type of person good for the job, because i lack this stuff you may or may not need”. I don’t know any single person who would be so dumb to say this. If she did not bring it up, d… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 11:47 PM |
| 7 | How can I make a move at her place while cooking for her?Push and pull example: Her: “I am from Mali in Africa” You: “Oh you should NOT have said that” (PUSH) Her: Why? You: “Because i always wanted to meet someone from Mali” (PULL) Her: “Haha really?” You: “Oh yeah, but I heard things about women from Mali that have me concerned about you” (PUSH) Her: “What things?” You: That you guys are heartbreakers, charming, and impossible to forget” (PULL) Her: “Haha, the legends are true, so you better watch out” You: “Yeah, I should probably get away from you… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 11:00 PM |
| 2 | How do you men feel about compliments from women?Some would feel good about themselves and then they would probably brag to their friends and yes take you for granted, expecting to get laid just because you show interest first. Others might act more humble but still expect you to make all the moves from that point forward because you basically made it easy for him to not do anything and just sit back while you do all the work. Others, might treat you like a human being, and take the lead from that point forward or equally investing in you. Oth… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 10:22 PM |
| 5 | How can I make a move at her place while cooking for her?I don’t want to make it awkward or ruin the vibe by coming on too strong, but I do want to let her know I’m interested in her. This is problematic because attraction thrives in tension, not on comfort. Coming on too strong basically means creating too much tension without release. Attraction is generated when you create tension, and attraction evaporates when there is no tension. In romantic contexts, tension plays a key role in attraction. Flirtation involves a dance of showing interest while m… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 10:17 PM |
| 2 | will baldness make me unattractive to women?It will be a disadvantage if a woman calls out your baldness and you feel bad about it in front of her. As soon as a woman senses that you are not comfortable in your own skin, that’s when it’s truly over. Because while having a flaw is not ideal, there is something that turns off women even more than the flaw itself, which is disliking yourself for having that flaw. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Advice for meeting a girl in my neighborhood.Let me ask you something: If you never play football, or train football, you have basically no experience with the sport and suddenly you have to play in the final of the football world cup? Do you think you are likely to win it if the victory depended on you? Probably not a very high chance right? So if you never flirt with women, you never train your seduction skills, you have little to no experience with women. Do you think you are likely to win a specific woman over? Probably not, right? Why… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with a conflict between dating two women.Then you answer: “Because you want to try something different today”. Simple as that | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 05:54 PM |
| 2 | I’m Lost and Don’t Know What to Do After This Messy SituationShe is not interested, and she made that quiet clear when you weren’t getting the message. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 05:52 PM |
| 2 | I’m Lost and Don’t Know What to Do After This Messy SituationYou should assume its over and not acknowledge her unless it’s absolutely necessary. Act like strangers and move on. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 05:21 PM |
| 2 | I’m Lost and Don’t Know What to Do After This Messy SituationI texted her a couple of times, tried to plan a second date, but she started acting distant—short replies, saying she’s not in town, or answering hours later. Just because a woman makes out with you doesn’t mean she wants to date you or anyone. You need to understand that some things are meant to be a one time thing. You got mistaken if you thought that a woman kissing you automatically means she wants to have a boyfriend to something serious, or something more than that one time experience. The… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Help building conversation gameThe worst way to have conversation is asking after question after question after question… Like an interrogation. No woman i met enjoys this and they excuse themselves after a while because they are bored to death with so many questions. Women connect by sharing with others how they feel about things, they want to know the reason you do or like things and the feelings you have when you experience those things that you do or like. They wanna relate to you and you should relate to them by sharing … | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Guys help me hereI’ve been talking to this girl for a while now, and our bond is special. We’re very close—she shares everything with me, from her life’s ups and downs to random little things. This already tells me you are acting like a friend if this is indeed what’s happening with a girl. Attraction doesn’t come from safety or comforts or being close, it happens from generating tension and releasing it. And there is none of that here. She says she wants me to focus on my career and get stable, but it feels lik… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 03:51 PM |
| 1 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?Yes, plenty of people manage to make out in nightclubs with random women if they know what they are doing. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 07:45 PM |
| 1 | First date with a French girl—need adviceShe is not interested in you when she acts like that. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Weird Texting ScenarioIs not your job to reject yourself. That’s the woman’s job. Your job as a man is to be willing to get rejected, like everyone of us do. Those who avoid risks, never get anywhere. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 06:48 PM |
| 5 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?In Spain, in metropolitan cities like Madrid there are spanish women, exchange female students from all over europe, united states, and women from south American countries and asian girls. Women from spain today have a lot of sexual partners, they are not hard to get, if you understand how to seduce women. It’s only hard for those who have no clue how to talk to women and think it all comes down to being their physical type, or luck. You don’t need to go in groups at all to get laid woth one, an… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 05:36 PM |
| 5 | I'm thinking about traveling, where do you think it's easier to get a laid? The United States (if you can tell me the best city you know with the best clubs, I was thinking about Miami) or Spain, Madrid?I’m a seduction coach in madrid, i travelled a lot, and spain is better than the united states for cold approaching women you don’t know. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 03:08 PM |
| 22 | Is it better to leave women on read or un unopened?No matter what you end up doing the results will probably continue to be the same. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 04:44 AM |
| 8 | Struggling even with women under my "league".. How to find out what women expect you to be?To flirt you need to learn that the difference between friend behavior and lover behavior lies in the sexual tension you create, and how you navigate it. Friend behavior is comfortable, predictable, and often lacks the spark of flirtation or sensuality. It’s focused on support, shared interests, and a sense of security. In contrast, lover behavior thrives on excitement, creating sexual tension, and romantic emotional depth. It involves: Flirting and teasing: Lovers introduce playful tension thro… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 03:06 AM |
| 9 | Struggling even with women under my "league".. How to find out what women expect you to be?I find my issue is probably because they expect me to be/act a certain way but I guess I’m not hitting those notes. I feel like I can’t figure out how they expect me to be, That’s the thing you don’t need to be like they expect you to be, you need to be your own person, have your own identity, and not try to bend it just to be with someone. If they align with what you are great, if not then they are not right for you and should seek someone who aligns with who you are. It’s one of 2 things, whic… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 01:50 AM |
| 1 | She is very talkative and social, you are the quiet guyBoringness happens when you don’t create tension in your conversations with women. Tension in conversation doesn’t necessarily mean conflict but rather an engaging dynamic where there’s an element of unpredictability, playfulness, or challenge. This tension keeps the conversation from becoming too predictable or routine, which can lead to disinterest. Conversations without tension tend to be flat, lacking emotional highs and lows. Tension introduces these peaks and valleys, keeping the other per… | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Explaining to a woman that I was "off my game" after a date?This is like saying: Please, don’t look down on me, please give me another chance i beg you, validate me please i swear i can be good enough for you. What you saw yesterday was not my real self😭” This is not good of at all. If you fucked up, you should instead act like it was on purpose to test her or better yet not even acknowledge your fuck up. It’s not your job to justify yourself, or seek validation from women. You are not there to be approved by her, you are not there to prove your worth. W… | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Does ethnicity and race matter?It matters, but if you don’t like yourself for being Indian, that matters even more as women will pick up on that. The worst thing a man can do when trying to seduce women is to show that he is not comfortable in his own skin, that he is ashamed of who he is, that he wishes he was different. It’s not game over just because you are Indian, but if they sense that being Indian is something you don’t feel comfortable with, that is indeed game over. Women don’t exist to make you feel comfortable abou… | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Do you look for eye contact first?No. There is no need to seek eye contact to approach a girl and be successful. The majority of women aren’t walking around looking to be approached or expecting to be approached. They don’t go around giving random men telepathic signals like “please approach me, I am interested in you, and i want you to hit on me”. That’s because they are not even ready, they find it random, unusual, unexpected to be approached in places where most people don’t usually approach because it’s not a social event or… | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 12:22 AM |
| 1 | I had George Constanza momentYou need to make peace with the reality that rejection is natural, frequent, that it will happen, and that you should not feel lesser as a man because of it. A woman rejecting you doesn’t mean she is saying you are unworthy or repulsive, it just means she doesn’t connect with you, which is normal. You also don’t connect with everyone, including other men for friendships, and yet you don’t take that badly. You only take it badly when the connection doesn’t happen with a woman, interpreting the la… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 08:50 PM |
| 1 | I had George Constanza momentBecause you using women as tools of self-affirmation, where if a woman likes you you chose to interpret that as proof that you are worth something, and if she rejects you choose to interpret that as proof that you are worth nothing, which is something that dehumanizes women as it reduces them to mere validators of your self-esteem. In other words, for you the point is not even about connecting with a specific woman, that’s secondary for you because your priority is confirming whether you are wor… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 08:16 PM |
| 2 | I had George Constanza momentYou need to treat rejections as soemthing casual rather than some high stakes tense dramatic scenario. The vast majority of women you try to ask out will say no. But rather than treating this like it’s something shameful, you need to accept it with humility. Not ebery girl you like will like you, and not every girl you like is a good girl that’s good for you. A rejection only hurts because you put you take it as an attack on your pride, when you should just take it with more humility, knowing th… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 08:02 PM |
| 24 | Very basic question: How you flirt?To flirt you need to learn that the difference between friend behavior and lover behavior lies in the sexual tension you create, and how you navigate it. Friend behavior is comfortable, predictable, and often lacks the spark of flirtation or sensuality. It’s focused on support, shared interests, and a sense of security. In contrast, lover behavior thrives on excitement, creating sexual tension, and romantic emotional depth. It involves: Flirting and teasing: Lovers introduce playful tension thro… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Emotional SupportShe doesn’t take you seriously because you probably aren’t fully committed to making it intentional or explicit enough. For instance, “expressing your sexual desires” is not the same as “expressing sexual desire for her”, and physical contact needs to be intimate and not a casual thing that feels more like you are tiptoeing than a deliberate attempt to make her feel sexual tension. You have to be willing to risk making her feel kinda uncomfortable when you do that. If she never feels any tensión… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 06:44 PM |
| 0 | Girls saying “why” when you ask for their number.That happens either when you start talking to a woman in person and rather than telling them your intentions, you assume that they should know or, when it doesn’t make sense to give you their number because you already are talking through messages. It also can happen when she doesn’t feel like you have a good reason to ask for her number even if she knows your intentions. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 06:20 PM |
| 0 | It’s not you, it’s Tinder | How dating apps trap lonely menJust get a good profile mate” Just be yourself mate” “Just be attractive bro” Same shitty advice from people who don’t really wanna help | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 10:17 AM |
| 0 | It’s not you, it’s Tinder | How dating apps trap lonely menNah useless advice | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 10:11 AM |
| 1 | How to stop talking so much about myself and get others/women to talk about themselves?Ask them how it feels or how it felt the things they did or like. Instead of saying what so you study say, how do you feel about what you study, how do you feel about your job? I wonder how you must have felt when your friend/ex/boss did… I don’t know how (thing she talked about) must have made you feel… And also ask why (the reason) why she likes or does certain things. Why did you decide to study that? I wonder what reason you just have had to… etc Why didn’t you do x… Those are open ended que… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 12:03 AM |
| 4 | how to set her in the moodso basically i’ve got a coffee date with a girl i’ve ”been hooking up” for months now but i still haven’t initiated because i was curious if she was just giving mixed signals… If you are a virgin then you haven’t been hooking up. Unless we have different definitions of what “hooking up” means. the problem is that i’m still a virgin and she’s 10/10, a few years older and very experienced. when we talked about sex i told her i’ve done it 2 times but i think she’ll find out i lied… Not really. Even… | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Emotional SupportYou still need to learn that the difference between friend behavior and lover behavior lies in the sexual tension you create, and how you navigate it. Friend behavior is comfortable, predictable, and often lacks the spark of flirtation or sensuality. It’s focused on support, shared interests, and a sense of security. In contrast, lover behavior thrives on excitement, creating sexual tension, and romantic emotional depth. It involves: Flirting and teasing: Lovers introduce playful tension through… | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:54 PM |
| 14 | Does going to the gym make a big difference?It can help you get better initial reactions, giving you more opportunities, and maybe more random easy low quality girls, but that’s it. You still need to be fun, you still need to learn how to create tensión and turn them on, you still need to learn to connect with them, you still need to learn how to carry conversation, read the mood, learn when to kiss them, and basically learn to seduce them. So while it helps to some extent for example to carry yourself with more confidence and to get bett… | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Anyone here live in Philadelphia? is Philadelphia good for day game?Worst take. Here you can watch a very famous documentary on why Tinder is designed to screw the vast majority of men for profit. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:17 PM |
| 7 | rank the best cities for daygame 1-10.worst take lol | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:12 PM |
| 14 | How to tell a girl she’s pretty?Don’t know how to tell you this, but if you’ve been talking for 2 weeks and you are still thinking of saying something so basic, you probably are already in the friendzone. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Looking to add to some easy to remember mantras to help confidence and mindsetThose are mantras but what would you say to those girls to each comment? | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Looking to add to some easy to remember mantras to help confidence and mindsetAll right, lets see if you actually understand each: View yourself as the prize. She says: “I don’t go out with guys like you” She says: “I would never date a guy who is not blond and 6 feet tall at least” She says: “Every guy is the same” She says: Are you hitting on me? She says: “Why should i go out with you?” Don’t be attached to the outcome She says: “You are not my type” She says: “Let’s just be friends” She: (she ignores your texts for days even though the date was amazing and you even ki… | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 01:00 PM |
| 13 | Paying for datesIf you go on too many dates, that’s a sign you are not being selective enough. Going on a date with you should be an honor that only very few women would qualify for. Most women do not pay for dates, and it’s a cultural norm in most societies that the man pays first unless the woman offers to pay. So either be picky or don’t go on expensive dates with women. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 11:57 PM |
| 26 | Lots of IOIs but no actual interestSeems like your conversation are forgettable. and impersonal so they have no reason to treat it as more than a fleeting event, than an actual memorable experience. As for the second girl, simply saying hi and asking a question to a stranger is not usually gonna get them to invested , either you get to the point telling them why you are talking to them and your intentions or they simply could ignore you or respond briefly and move on. Talking with a stranger requires you to tell her the reason wh… | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 10:20 AM |
| 1 | How to build the mindset/confidence that you’re good enough?I’m afraid that I can’t help demisexual people at all. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 12:53 AM |
| 3 | What’s the protocol when she want to “get to know you better” before a first date?Would you really wait if you had other attractive women that prefer getting to know each other in person over texting? The answer is no. Don’t accommodate for women that don’t match your standards of what you are looking for. Much like many men prefer meeting in person there are women who also prefer that. So it’s not your job to adapt or accommodate for those who don’t see things the way you do, it’s about being willing to walk away from those who don’t. So i would just say: I’m not really into… | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 12:35 AM |
| 2 | How to build the mindset/confidence that you’re good enough?You only become a friend when you don’t make her feel sexual tension, when you focus exclusively on safe stuff, avoid showing any sign of sexual interest in her, and avoid creating any tensión at all with her, becoming agreeable and making sure she approves of your behavior and that you never do or say anything that could break that comfort you have. So to avoid the friendzone you have to be willing to tease her, and show sexual desire, and make her fantasize and have her anticipating being sexu… | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 11:06 PM |
| 22 | Better to upset women, than to be forgettable.Some people downvote based on the title alone without actually reading the whole post. They jump to conclusions very quickly thinking i literally meant that the goal was to upset them on purpose. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 11:03 PM |
| 17 | How to build the mindset/confidence that you’re good enough?For women to consider dating with you, they need to feel a connection, not validation. If women don’t connect with you, you will be single forever. If you are not your own being and fully love yourself, you will not connect with them. The problem is approaching dating from a place of: “I want to see how much I am worth as a man” by using women as tools of self-affirmation where a girl being into you is interpreted as proof that you are worth something and being disliked is interpreted as proof t… | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 10:44 PM |
| 1 | I just can't do anything rightMate you need to learn how to pick up girls. The problem is you simply don’t know how. You are in a seduction sub but it seems like you are not even aware that seduction can be studied. There are books and everything in how to talk to girls, so it’s not like you have to really go blind trying to discover what to say to get women to date you. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 07:30 PM |
| 9 | What’s your “script” when trying to charm a woman?Here is my step by step processed broken down: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection 4 - Make sure that we are isolated to set the stage for fl… | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Asked a girl out, this is her replyShe is saying no, but blaming it on her parents, so that you don’t feel her rejection is something personal. This is usually known as the “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse. Which is the most frequent way to turn down someone politely. In other words she is not interested in you. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 07:20 PM |
| 0 | When you think “I don’t want to fuck this up with a girl”, that’s the fastest way to fail with her.Yeah because most men don’t see women as people, with feelings, emotions needs, but as objects of desire that exist only to satisfy your primal urges. Hence the men that stand out are those that actually those who treat her as an individual who even if she wants just to hookup, she still needs to be fulfilled emotionally, feel valued for who she is, not just for how she looks, and who needs to feel safe, turned on, respected, and cherished before she wants to engage in a sexual activity. For wom… | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Did i miss the train?Lol. You are 17 years old, and you think you missed the train? 😂 The vast majority of people live their sexual lives to the fullest between 18 to 30s. And yes a lot of people go to university as virgins, but those who are virgins aren’t usually gonna say it out loud or admit it. Because they are embarrassed and think they will be shamed. You are also in high school and you need to be aware that in high school a lot of kids brag about shit they don’t actually have just to look cool and get the (f… | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 02:35 PM |
| 3 | When you think “I don’t want to fuck this up with a girl”, that’s the fastest way to fail with her.If I go on a date with a woman, it means I am willing to have sex with her. If a woman goes on a date with a man, it means she is open to the idea but isn’t sold or committed to it yet, it will depend on how the guy makes her feel. And that should be your mindset too, being open to the idea but not fully committed until she proves worthy of it, to avoid acting like you are chasing and instead frame the situation in a more powerful and equal position to her. My rationale has been, “I’m a guy who … | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 02:23 PM |
| 8 | Dating apps, what's the point?If he said my business is falling and my self esteem is hurting i would also say he needs to stop using success in business to feel good about himself. Because his self-esteem should not rely on outcomes, but on his resilience, ability to grow, and unique qualities as a human being. So when he says that not getting matches is hurting his self-esteem, then my comment is very relevant. Algorithms from an app that is rigged by design to exploit superficiality and insecurities for profit, doesn’t me… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 11:35 PM |
| 2 | CompetitionMaybe you need to approach in places where women aren’t being targeted by so many men. Approach during the day. You don’t wanna approach where the number of men outnumber the number of women. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 10:23 PM |
| 4 | You guys helped me get laidIt means she has to show you traits and virtues that proof she is worthy of your time. She has to show that she is different than other girls, or to prove or show you that she is a better match for you than other girls you may also be interested in. In other words, it’s establishing the frame that you are there to evaluate her, to act like you are the buyer, instead of the seller and drag her to the role of being the pursuit or the seller where she has to convince you that there is kore to her t… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:49 PM |
| 6 | I’m tired of taking LsI suggest you read one more book, mystery method, perfect for people on the spectrum and more straightforward with what to do step by step. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:18 PM |
| 3 | I’m tired of taking LsSo what books did you get the fundamentals from? Just to check if the fundamentals you study are actually correct. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.You can see how to be like that, by reading my posts on my reddit profile. Wrote so much it could filled an entire book. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:01 PM |
| 5 | I’m tired of taking LsMateD, seduction requires you to at least study the fundamentals … Which books have you read about seduction and picking up girls? If the answer is none, that’s where you need to begin. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Should I take more risks when flirting with a girl?The priority is to connect with girls that are right for you, not to get other people to think that you are a ladies man even if none of those girls are right for you. We don’t date women to get the approval of people who don’t even care about us. We don’t date to have lots of girls in the smartphone so that others can tell us, how much of a chad we are for it. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:43 PM |
| 54 | Dating apps, what's the point?You need to stop relying on women validating you to feel good about yourself | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Sorry the post is meant for people who understand the english language. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:11 PM |
| 17 | Should I take more risks when flirting with a girl?For them to consider dating with you, they need to feel a connection, not validation. If women don’t connect with you, you will be single forever. If you are not your own being and fully love yourself, you will not connect with them. The problem is approaching dating from a place of: “I want to see how much I am worth as a man” by using women as tools of self-affirmation where a girl being into you is interpreted as proof that you are worth something and being disliked is interpreted as proof th… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:09 PM |
| 3 | How to take the next step?If you put the filter on, you end up being forgettable. It’s better to offend them and be remembered than to play it safe and be forgotten. Playing it too nice or filtering yourself to avoid any risk of offending someone dilutes your personality and makes you blend in with the countless others who are too afraid to stand out, making you forgettable. You simply can’t attract girls this way even if you say nothing that could upset them. You know what the worst type of conversation is when talking … | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 02:44 PM |
| 15 | I lack courage.You have both ego and anxiety influencing you. Girls who i don’t like hit on me and want to sleep with me, so why would i destroy this image and try with a girl i actually like but who could reject me? Yes, that is ego indeed. The ego comes up with that thought because it relies on other peoples approval for you to feel good about yourself or to feel like others respect you. Girls giving you attention gives you validation, even if you are not into them. It’s creates the belief that “girls never … | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 02:13 PM |
| 1 | I want to change, I need helpOk, since you asked for many things that take a lot of writing i will focus on the confidence question since it’s the most important aspect: Confidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you sa… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | How do you approach a woman if you don't know if you can perform sexually?Sorry to burst your bubble mate, but reality is subjective as it is shaped by experiences, beliefs, and subjective perceptions that aren’t universal. Those who are too worried about performing well often neglect how she is feeling, because their need for validation overshadows actual connections amd this leads to him being mechanical in the sexual act, and not present with the girl. And if there is one thing my woman sense immediately is a guy who is unsure of himself, trying to prove his worth.… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Is there something better then the M3 model?The mystery method is about 3 phases: Attraction, Comfort and Seduction. Mine is about 3 phases too: Attraction, Qualification and Romance. In this method, heavily inspired by Mystery, you wanna establish yourself as a confident self-assured guy who doesn’t need to put her down, to lift himself up, who is 100% comfortable in his own skin, fun to talk with, can quickly connect with her, and whose main focus is to assess whether she is more interesting than her looks or not to determine if she’s w… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Approached a girl, what next?“I don’t want to fuck this up” Mate, if that’s your mindset you are already fucking up. The easiest and fastest way to fuck up with a woman is by being outcome dependent and needy. That phrase shows you are both of those things. It also subtly frames you as a guy who there to seek validation and trying to be liked by her, which is a bad and counterproductive frame to be in, instead of being a guy who is there to see if she is worth your time and good enough for you to keep giving her attention, … | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 12:21 PM |
| 72 | Should I take more risks when flirting with a girl?It’s not your job to avoid rejection, it’s your job to be willing to get rejected. Those who want to avoid rejection never get laid. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.You need to create a solid emotional connection which involves understanding her, learning to know where she is coming from, how she feels about things, share how you feel in a way that she can relate keeping every feeling positive, getting her to put herself in your shoes. This doesn’t mean talking about negative stuff, sharing positive feelings only but relatable, intriguing, exciting, captivating, compelling. Start talking from a place of how you feel about things, how would you describe thos… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 11:16 PM |
| 6 | How do you approach a woman if you don't know if you can perform sexually?You need to stop using women as tools to confirm whether you are good enough as a man. Women seek connection on equal terms. They wanna be treated as people, not as mechanisms for you to feel secure about yourself. Sex is not about performing, sex is about creating a mutual emotional and physical connection where both partners feel desired, respected, and understood. It’s not about proving your worth or seeking validation but about sharing an intimate moment built on trust, comfort, and genuine … | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 08:16 PM |
| 14 | 15 phrases that reveal your insecurity and turn women offIf you feel the need to seek clarity, you should just move on instead. A man who knows his worth, a man who is secure in his own value doesn’t put his life on hold until a woman makes a decision and isn’t fully into the same energy as the guy. Confident men lead, they don’t wait. Confident men know the right person will match his energy and enthusiasm without hesitation. If she is hesitant and you still want her it shows her hesitation doesn’t deter you, which means that you are more focused on … | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 07:52 PM |
| 141 | 15 phrases that reveal your insecurity and turn women offHere is some alternatives phrases, i will write next examples later cuz now i’m busy: 1 - Phrases that frame her as the chaser. The more i talk with u, the more it feels like ur trying to get me to like you Shit u making me like u more, should i be worried about your intentions? You’ve got this energy that pulls people in. What’s ur secret? I wonder if your personality matches your looks. 2 - Phrases that equalizes puts both of you on the same level. We so good looking that if we had kids, they … | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 05:58 PM |
| 46 | 15 phrases that reveal your insecurity and turn women offThere are many guys with very low self-esteem in this world yes. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 04:45 PM |
| 1 | What does she really want ?Ok, so talk about her fantasies of big dick without judgment, let her imagine scenarios that turn her on, and don’t judge her and negotiate how you can take enjoyment from it. Maybe you’ll enjoy being her cuck who knows. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 12:37 PM |
| 1 | What does she really want ?? | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 12:35 PM |
| 1 | What does she really want ?Maybe she wants an open relationship, or being a hotwife. Or maybe she doesn’t need another partner for sex, maybe it’s that the sex you have with her became repetitive, and dull and she is too scared to tell you, because she might feel like you would get upset and humiliated hearing her complain about that. Maybe she has certain fantasies that don’t involve other people, but which she might feel might be too wild for you to process it. Many wives i slept with have very dark and degrading kinks … | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 12:32 PM |
| 16 | The father of my Cold Approach followed meNo, never involve other people she knows into your “pursuit of a girl”. Everything you say to them will be shared with her but not in the tone, interpretation or contexts you hope for. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 01:19 AM |
| 3 | How Beginners Can Use Push and Pull To Flirt With Women EffortlesslyThen it’s perfect for you mate. Peace✌️ | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 10:37 PM |
| 20 | How to neg, push pull without hurting her feelings or making her mad?“_If you looked a bit more european i would totally like you_” Translation: “You aren’t white, and i wish you were, cuz i would not date a person who isn’t white” Not sure why you don’t see how being racist is unlikely to get a good reception. Don’t neg people. It’s outdated. Push and pull is also not the same thing as negging. Push and pull is about creating tension and intrigue in a flirty conversation, which involves alternating between showing interest (PULL) and playfully withdrawing the in… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 03:27 PM |
| 2 | What to do after getting their attention?Ok, here is my personal “manual” step by step: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. (You seem tok do this well enough) 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. (optional) 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection This step is… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 02:55 PM |
| 5 | Getting a new GF as a 21 year oldThere is some naivety here, you say that when you get a girlfriend you stop. The question is what happens after you break up with your girlfriend in a couple of months due to your inexperience? See if you are a virgin, and you want to change that, attracting women is a skill that takes a lot of training, probably significantly more than 100 cold-approaches. Going on dates is a whole other skill by itself that takes more dates than you are probably thinking. Having good sex is also another skill … | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 01:13 PM |
| 138 | Seeing unattractive guys with beautiful girls.Women smell desperation and are repelled by it, and when you repel them that causes you to be even more desperate which in turn creates more repulsion, which in turns makes you more desperate… It’s a vicious cycle. To escape that cycle it takes work because you need to work on your sense of self-worth, your social skills, and understand female psychology as well as developing social and emotional intelligence. Some guys don’t have to do that because they were lucky to be raised in a way that the… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Is this normal/common/acceptable?It’s not normal, but you could make an exception if you trust her. But no, it’s not normal. | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 05:28 PM |
| 7 | What is seeking validation from women and why it kills attractionSome women like vegetarian 🥗food, others like steak🥩, others like pasta 🍝. Just because the vegetarian girl or the pasta girl don’t like steak, doesn’t mean the steak 🥩wasn’t good enough. It just means they have other preferences. If the steaks could talk like in a pixar movie, it would be ridiculous if the ateaks interpreted that because the vegetarian or pasta girls don’t like the steak, the steak feels like he isn’t good enough. Not every girl we like js a girl who will like us back, and not … | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 02:56 AM |
| 1 | 3 Reasons Why Some Men Are Scared Of RejectionsAlso it’s hilarious that when I would complain about not getting the time of day from women when I was fat people would tell me to lose weight. Now I lost all that weight and now you’re telling me I shouldn’t have done so in order to get the time of day from women lol. Not exactly. Losing weight is a good tip to increase the number of initial good reactions, and i said “initial reactions” because it isn’t everything. You still have to make the woman feel a connection and make them feel sexual te… | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 02:25 AM |
| 16 | What is seeking validation from women and why it kills attractionFor them to consider dating with you, they need to feel a connection, not validation. If women don’t connect with you, you will be single forever. If you are not your own being and fully love yourself, you will not connect with them. The problem is approaching dating from a place of: “I want to see how much I am worth as a man” by using women as tools of self-affirmation where a girl being into you is interpreted as proof that you are worth something and being disliked is interpreted as proof th… | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 09:14 PM |
| 1 | 3 Reasons Why Some Men Are Scared Of RejectionsYou don’t lose pounds for women to say: “Wow amazing here is your reward for losing weight: Me dating you”. Women don’t reward you or punish you for having more or less weight. Women date people they connect both sexually and emotionally with. If you always get rejected, you need to adjust the way you are approaching and talking with these women, because clearly something is being overlooked. Maybe you ask them out too soon without properly getting to know them first, maybe you take too long to … | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Great first dates…not leading to secondsI never consider a date without a kiss attempt a great date. And i mean kiss attempt it doesnt even have go be successful but she has to see that you make the move. Men also overestimate how great the date was. If a man says it was great, for the woman is was decent at best. | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 06:04 PM |
| 10 | Approaching Women —Why are men hesitant and why are women weary?How do I fight the self doubt in my mind sabotaging me? Like there is one girl customer I regularly flirt with and i pussy out to ask her out on a date every damn time even when shes finding every excuse to stay in the store. like I know the vibes are right but I dont want to ruin them. Look mate, the reason you feel that hesitation, that pullback, is because your ego is in conflict with your deeper desire for genuine connection. It’s not that you’re afraid of her rejecting you; it’s that you’re… | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 01:54 AM |
| 11 | Approaching Women —Why are men hesitant and why are women weary?And the thing is you can actually learn from that experience to adjust your future interactions. The reason they reacted badly was because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous. Immediately asking for their names without first gauging their interest in a conversation is presumptuous because it assumes they wanted to engage with an stranger, even though they had not indicated or given you permission to do it first. Instead you should have seek permission to engage with them… | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 01:09 AM |
| 202 | Can women really sense thirstyness/desperation?Yes, they do and it’s not because they read your mind, it’s because your approach subtly shifts into a mindset of seeking approval and outcome dependence. The more you seek a specific outcome, the more your approach changes into forcing things to get the result you want which leads to more rejection, fueling again your desperation to get the specific outcome. You are stressed and seeking escapism, but that stress makes it hard for you to relax and be in a playful mood which leads to bad outcomes… | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 11:44 PM |
| 35 | Approaching Women —Why are men hesitant and why are women weary?As a coach, i can tell you that what stops many men from approaching women is a combination of things that apply to many of them in various degrees. Fear of a bad reaction: It is often said by some that the worst that a woman can say is no, but that’s not true at all. There are worst things like her screaming at you, people intervening and scolding you, the woman laughing at you or shaming you, the woman giving you a weird look of disgust and contempt. These are all driven by anxiety which predi… | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 11:18 PM |
| 14 | What is your step by step make out strategy to turn on your date on when kissing?I do dirty talk by narrating the erotic scenarios and the emotions she would feel. Once she has a vivid picture of what i’m describing she gets horny as fuck. | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 03:02 PM |
| 6 | DHV storiesYou don’t need DHV stories for seducing women, specially in daygame. That’s just some old fashion take by Mystery from the 90s. Seduction has evolved. Seducing women is simpler than that, it’s all about making her feel emotions. The reason you don’t need DHV stories in daygame is because the act of cold approaching with confidence by itself already shows high value. Most women can admire the confidence it takes to be vulnerable like that because they wouldn’t have the guts to do it themselves. W… | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 12:24 PM |
| 4 | Struggling to keep a conversation going in barsWhen people say “just find a girl who is into you bro that way your lame social skills will not matter” they seem to ignore the fact that whole point of a seduction sub is to find ways to improve your social skills, your sense of humor, your banter, your witty responses, your jokes, your playfulness, your vibe… etc. Playful banter doesn’t just happen by playing a numbers game until one clicks, it happens by learning how to communicate in a way that makes it easy for others to engage, laugh and f… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Girl isn’t interested after showing me IOIIf you meet women in the club you should always go for sex the same night. A club is not a place to play the long game. Most women you meet there are not really thinking of long term things. What happens in the club stays in the club. They just go there to have fun and potentially hook up, that’s it. They are not there to find a boyfriend or to go on dates with guys they meet in the club. | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 07:07 PM |
| 5 | Experiences with very attractive women. Is it even worth approaching them?Sigh… Another post of guys thinking attractive women are not human beings. | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 01:00 PM |
| 92 | I finally got over my cold-approach fear at bars but I realize I just have no rizzListen mate, conversations that rely on generic small talk, like discussing the weather, often fail to create meaningful connections because they lack emotional depth or a sense of uniqueness. Topics like the weather are neutral, predictable and don’t reveal anything personal or engaging about the people involved. They’re safe and because they’re so safe, they rarely spark genuine interest or curiosity. When u start a conversation with something generic, it can feel mechanical or transactional, … | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 07:19 PM |
| 1 | I need advice what to doConfidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you say to yourself in your head will make your less confident in a steady manner. Because you are basically being a bad friend to yourself. If you… | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Approach FailureYou are in denial when you say “i wasn’t feeling anxious” because you actually were. Avoiding behaviours is a clear symptom of anxiety and telling yourself you didn’t have anxiety is a way to avoid confronting emotions that are overwhelming. You need to listen to what anxiety is trying to tell you. Anxiety knows approaching women can lead to uncertain outcomes some of which anxiety believes can be catastrophic. And if the girls are not by themselves, but with a friend, anxiety sees this as an ev… | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 04:29 PM |
| 5 | High rejection ratio on daygameThe problem is you count these outcomes as rejections, rather than seeing it for what it is; an indication that the timing, context, or approach wasn’t right for her in that specific moment. Because guess what? Not everyone has the time or mental space to engage in a conversation with a stranger, especially when they’ve got their own things to do or are focused on other more important priorities than some random guy. A non-response isn’t really a rejection. If someone is not in the mood to engag… | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Is there any proof that vibe is more important than what you say?Both things matter. The issue is trying to go about dating dynamics in a black and white way. It’s about balance. What you say matters, how you say it also matters. Both are important. You can say things in ways that can be awkward, creepy or smooth and charming depending on the tone, delivery, wording and timing. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 02:26 AM |
| 73 | M 30. When you dance with your ass on a guy at the club, what should he do?In my country’s culture, you are supposed to make her feel your hard-on by pressing your erection firmly against her through your clothes, and sometimes whisper some naughty things on her earlobe, you also can control her movements to show dominance of her body playing with dominant submissive roles to create sexual polarity. However all of these requires reading the cues, non-verbal consent, testing the waters sometimes to see if she allows certain touches,… etc. It doesn’t mean you go for a ki… | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | IDKThat’s because you don’t understand women, because no matter how hard you try to impress them, that’s not what attracts them, in fact trying hard to impress them only repels them, and also like you said because you don’t value yourself | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Seduction in europeYou are not making a solid enough impression in person. You go for instagram and asking for dates too soon as you barely talked in real life. You need to understand that you need to get to know her for like 10 mins or more in person first, and only after that you may suggest meeting up again or even going for instant dates. You can’t play this game by texting, it has to be done face to face and you shouldn’t ask women on dates or for their number, if you haven’t talked for 10-15 mins at least fi… | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | IDKThe first mistake is thinking you have to impress. You get women by connecting with them sexually and emotionally, not by proving you are good enough or someone admirable. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 07:55 PM |
| 602 | Getting hot girls seems so difficult.Seems difficult because you put them on a pedestal, you don’t treat them as people but as objects of desire. You overvalue them while undervaluing yourself, and you reject yourself before they even have a chance to reject you because you also see them as tools of self-affirmation to measure your own worth based on their acceptance or rejection of you. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Where do most of you find girls to meet or cold approach?Yes a lot of people do. We also still breathe air. Shocking stuff. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 11:46 PM |
| 1 | sex for first time with more experienced girlIf you make something that’s a turn off for herX you take theL and learn for next girl. Don’t assume that just because someone has had sex before they know much more than you or that they are good in bed. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 08:46 PM |
| 4 | Where do most of you find girls to meet or cold approach?For cold approaches: Large malls, big train stations, beaches, and large public parks | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Getting over the fact that she found someone better than you. Advice?Not every girl you like has to like you back, and not every girl you like is a girl that’s good for you even if she likes you back. Not every guy she ends up choosing is gonna be better than you, and in fact, just because you are better doesn’t mean she is gonna be attracted to you because attraction is about the emotions and compatibility, she feels not the superior traits you may have when she doesn’t connect with you or find you compatible at all with the way she sees things and her values. D… | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Am i too much ?You are too needy, and that’s repulsive to the vast majority of women. You barely know this girl and already expect her to treat you like her boyfriend and make you her priority. That’s just not happening. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Mexico city — approaching a girl who is on date and noticed me five timesYou could do that but you shouldn’t be surprised if the guy gets into a fight with you. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Not near my goals for development currently, keep working on myself or improve my game?Social skills, self-esteem, and knowing how to seduce women are far more important than working out to improve your physique. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Asked to sit down with them, but they got up and walked awayMate the problem here is that you intruded their private conversation without making it clear why you were doing so in a way that felt beneficial or fun for them, they didn’t come there to talk to you or any stranger, they you kept doing an interrogation asking questions after question after question, forcing a conversation to happen, and you also made them feel like you were gonna stay there for the rest of the evening, whether they enjoyed it or not. You need to put yourself in their shoes and… | /r/seduction | 08/01/25 04:31 PM |
| 3 | "So why are you texting me?"“Because, you look cute and i want to see if your personality is just as cute too” | /r/seduction | 08/01/25 02:43 PM |
| 11 | “Calm down!! The mistake most men make when their girlfriend is insecure and argues with them.Yes, obviously you also can tell her how her behaviour is making you feel without being accusatory, always coming from a place of understanding and constructive dialogue and if you can’t handle her fights anymore, then your job is not to fight useless battles that you won’t win. You should just end things in a respectful graceful way. | /r/seduction | 07/01/25 06:55 PM |
| 3 | Should I give it a shot?There are two main objections here. 1 - She doesn’t remember you because it was too long ago at a bar. She probably met so many people since then considering she must have gone out for christmas new year etc. 2 - She doesn’t feel that you are genuinely interested in her because if yo were you pues have reached out sooner. Now she is convinced your other girls didn’t go anywhere and you are reaching out to her like a second option after your main ones failed. This objections make it very unlikely… | /r/seduction | 07/01/25 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Show interest or notsometimes you have to show interest when she earned it and sometimes you don’t when she hasn’t earned it | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 07:02 PM |
| 0 | Went on two dates but got hit with the "Didn't feel the connection i was hoping for." afterwards.What went wrong is that she doesn’t feel like you and her connect as people beyond some superficial attraction. She probably feels like her values, her stage in life, her experiences, her feelings, don’t really align with yours for the most part. The kiss might have had some influence too, in the sense that maybe it just felt too soulless for her, and by that i mean a kiss which doesn’t really make her feel any sparks or any emotion at all, like when you kiss your own hand for example. | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Starting from less than zeroThat’s why coaches, like me, exist. Because we have done the work for years to understand how to improve and get results with women. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Starting from less than zeroBy studying psychology | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 05:52 PM |
| 18 | Starting from less than zeroAs a coach i would recommend you start with building your confidence. Confidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you say to yourself in your head will make your less confident in a steady ma… | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 04:46 PM |
| 7 | How to open groupsSome thoughts on approaching groups of women at a bar during the day and how to handle potential objections effectively. Here’s a structured approach: Anticipated Objections: The group may feel tense because they came out for a “girls-only” outing and are not expecting to interact with men. They might also wish the guy would wrap up his conversation quickly, so they can continue theirs before you interrupted them. They may not want to feel obliged to give you their attention simply because you i… | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 01:30 PM |
| 4 | Why Women Call You ‘Weird’ and How to Own It Like a BossTrue | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 05:29 PM |
| 17 | Why Women Call You ‘Weird’ and How to Own It Like a BossAs a man you have to approach women. And if she says “ew, no”, you say “your loss” and move on. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Looking for dating adviceWomen test men to see if they are actually confident in who they are, confident in what they do and say, the situation they are in, and whether they are comfortable in their own skin or not. You only fail the test when you show you are not comfortable in your own skin and doubt yourself. Let’s say you go to a bar by yourself, the first thing a woman will test you on is precisely what she feels would be your most obvious flaw or insecurity. If you feel it’s weird, then that’s exactly what she wil… | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Can anyone help me?Everything works provided you have the skills to connect with a girl. It’s irrelevant if it’s person approach, online dating, clubs, parties, hobbies, etc. people who have the skills can meet anyone in any format or scenario, but for people who don’t have the skills nothing works because they simply don’t have the skills to make it work. Writing a book on how to seduce women, but for now yere is a simple step by step guide on how to approach and connect with women. 1 - Opener and setting the pla… | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Total conviction that you are attractiveIf she says “you are too (insert flaw)”, She is saying it like it’s a negative thing to see whether you feel ashamed of who you are, or are comfortable in your own skin. Her: “You are too short” “I know right!!! I fucking love it!” “Come all the way down here and say that to my face!” “Bigger towers than you have fallen” When it comes to her establishing her ideal preferences, never try to convince her to overlook height, and instead treat it as a joke. Her: “I prefer a 6 foot man” “For a threes… | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Asking ‘Is Daygame Dead?’ simply misses the point of what this skill is aboutWhat did you do to improve your technique | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 07:21 PM |
| 4 | Tomorrow I'm gonna open for the girl at the Benin station. Here my opening sentencesI’d like to get to know you better, but we both don’t have much time right now. Maybe we can have a salep/coffee one day? If you want to get to know her better you need to do it at that moment, in the initial approach, not some other day. Because women who don’t know you at all, are unlikely to want to go in a date with you because they know nothing about you and don’t know if you can even be trusted. It’s also not clear to the woman why you want to get to know her exactly, she didn’t earn it an… | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 07:13 PM |
| 4 | how is cold approaching not showing lower valueNot when you realize that having the balls to approach someone takes confidence and guts due to the way you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position where success or a good reaction isn’t always guaranteed. Taking the initiative is a sign of high value, going for what you want despite the difficulty is a sign of high value, speaking with confidence to women is a sign of high value. Taking the initiative is not a sign of desperation—it’s a sign of leadership and boldness. Approaching someone… | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Total conviction that you are attractive“This girls won’t find me attractive because i’m not her type, so I should not approach her” That’s because you haven’t made peace with the idea of rejection. What you really are saying is: “I don’t wanna take on a challenge unless I’m guaranteed success” Can you imagine if you apply this to other challenges you have to take on your life? “I’m probably gonna fail the driving exam so I shouldn’t take driving lessons, no point in trying cause I’m just gonna lose money” I probably will not get a jo… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Struggling to understand framesIf you get into a debate about exercise being good or bad, the frame you are establishing is a logical frame. In other words, you are making the interaction platonic,’instead of seductive and man to woman. You are basically forgetting to seduce the woman which is the whole point of talking to the girl, and instead getting into a lecturer/teacher mindset, where you are trying to be the teacher and get her to accept being the student. So the frame is not the debate itself, the frame is the roles y… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Gently pushing back against her beliefsGetting into logical topics of conversations, rationality, is not a seductive path. It’s irrelevant if you challenge her position or agree with it. Seduction has nothing to do with getting into debates. Seduction has to do with creating sexual tension, anticipation, connection, making her laugh, making her feel emotionally understood, teasing her, playing like kids, getting her to fantasize, and getting her to imagine. Challenging has nothing to do with disagreeing on a debate and giving your lo… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 06:06 PM |
| 4 | How do I get over the social conditioning of cokd approach? Not afraid of rejection but worried what onlookers may think?You have anxiety because your brain is trying to tell you that the usual approach you would use to talk to a woman would probably not be the most appropriate for a gym, and as such your brain is trying to protect you. Trying to be direct on a gym is not recommended because it could go wrong and you might get a bad reputation or even get banned from the gym, it’s more appropriate to start indirect. You said it yourself you don’t know how to be indirect, so you have to learn. This is called adapta… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Feedback on night game — approached a woman who said she is gayAsking her straight away for a number shows you don’t have game. You need to have decent fun conversations that are at least 10 mins long with girls before asking for numbers. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 03:38 PM |
| 3 | How to turn her On ?If she reads erotic literature, you need to find out what is it that she reads because that’s what turns her on. You may however not be ready to know the type of kinky, taboo, and depraved stuff she might be into though. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 03:31 PM |
| 6 | Assuming attraction sounds crazy to meArrogance is the belief that you are superior to everyone else, that your traits make you desirable by everyone, that you can do no wrong, that you never make mistakes, that no one can teach you anything because you already know everything there is to know, that you are flawless, and that you are basically God and as such you almost feel entitled to people worshipping you, taking it badly when they don’t. The flawed belief that you don’t need to earn respect or put effort because you assume ever… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Guys How can i make people talk about themselves?Open ended questions about how they feel on a personal level about things they said they do or things they say they like. Women specially connect by talking about feelings regarding different stuff. So it’s not about seeking facts it’s about asking her to open up about her emotional experiences. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 01:54 AM |
| 81 | Assuming attraction sounds crazy to meIf you genuinely believed you were the most attractive person on the planet, you might feel invincible, sure—but there’s a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. Confidence means you know your value, but you also understand how to communicate that value in a way that respects and excites the other person. Arrogance, on the other hand, assumes your value is so obvious that you don’t need to care about how the other person feels. Here’s the thing: attraction isn’t just about looks. Yes,… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 12:12 AM |
| 1 | How to turn my girl on?Talk about your sexual fantasies without judging. Do you have specific kinks, depraved, erotic fantasies you wanna do? Maybe she has certain fantasies she would like to do. Describe them, get her to imagine the fantasies with absolute detail. Spark her imagination by telling her the forbidden things you would wanna do with her in forbidden places for example, get her to imagine the adrenaline, the thrill of getting caught, the naughtiness… Women get turned on by what they imagine but you have to… | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 11:31 PM |
| 8 | Total conviction that you are attractiveConfidence isn’t about being reckless or thinking you can do anything just because you’re attractive. True confidence comes with emotional intelligence, understanding how your actions affect others and creating a connection instead of just assuming your looks will do all the work. Even if you were the most attractive person on the planet, walking up and bluntly asking to hook up would likely turn most women off because it disregards emotional connection, respect, and social dynamics. Confidence … | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 09:02 PM |
| 1 | What did I screw up?Telling her things like: “_I’m glad that whatever I did during the date didn’t turn you off_” by itself turns her off if she wasn’t already, even if you try to say it as a joke. Because it shows your insecurity and neediness. Don’t joke about that stuff, because women automatically read through the lines and still see your insecurity through the humour attempt. Never talk or act like you are secretly hoping she would give you approval because you lose frame. You don’t need to be glad that x thin… | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Have You Had a Great Coach or Bootcamp Experience?I am a Daygame (daytime cold approach) coach, and i thought I’ll give you a reasonable analysis on whether you should or shouldn’t hire a coach: Don’t hire a coach if: You are a disciplined person who can keep himself accountable on a very consistent basis. You approach women alone on a consistent basis every week to flirt with them. You have the right online resources to learn how to actually pick up girls, get them excited about you, and emotionally invested in you and can actually be self-cri… | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 05:10 PM |
| 3 | I don't fear rejection at all, I fear scaring womenHere are the basics of an opener to start the conversation: Show empathy + false time constraint + say what do you want to do + why with her + ask for consent Opener: “I don’t usually approach people because I know it is random, but I saw you and I thought wow, I love her style, and I thought I want to make an exception and try to meet this girl or else I would regret it, you feel me?” Empathy: Hey, I don’t usually do this because I know you guys came here to talk with friends, not with guys. Wh… | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 05:04 PM |
| 11 | How to deal with demands and them being annoyed?This is probably a hot take, but as a coach i can tell you that contrary to popular belief, women are not bitchy, cruel, malicious or crazy. You just need to practice something very important to the point of it being crucial, and which is often ignored entirely in the seduction community, and that is called empathy. It’s one of the key ingredients of romance, and yet most experts forget it or even ignored how relevant it is, specially for long term relationships. When someone gets upset, you fee… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 10:51 PM |
| 9 | My Text GameI’m a coach, I can tell you that you are forgetting the part where you need to build some type of connection. Because here it’s like you are in a movie, and are trying to skip forward to reach the climax as soon as possible. You are stranger, why would a girl want to go out with a guy she doesn’t know at all just because she match with him? She matches with more guys, so it’s obvious she is filtering guys out. Those who rush things before they are properly cooked, don’t pass the filter. And thos… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 07:49 PM |
| 3 | What is Warm approach and how can i do it well?İs cold approaching worth it? Like i hear lot of people say it does not worth it, girls will probably creep etc. I’m a cold approach seduction coach, so i can tell you that cold approach is neutral, meaning it’s neither good nor bad. Creepy has nothing to do with the action itself it has to do with the person doing the action. So it’s not cold approach that is creepy by itself, it’s the person doing the approaching that may or may not be creepy. And that usually has with the guy being socially i… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 04:23 PM |
| 13 | Should I approach girls in public if they keep eye contact/check me out from top to bottomI’m a coach and you can approach anyone you want in pubic provided that you do it with empathy, respect, express to the girls hat you are mindful of how unusual and random approaching them like that is, and that you express clearly from the start that you want to get to know them because you would regret it if you didn’t t meet a girl like her who had x or x qualities that you like. creepiness has more to do with you acting nervous and the girl feeling that you are nervous but doesn’t know why. … | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Hinge date says she wants to start as friends as she doesn't want to jump into romance.Because girls communicate indirectly. Sometimes it’s taboo for a woman to say that like that because many people will judge her for it or thinks she is a slut for wanting to date multiple people. So they try to communicate indirectly as best as they can hoping the guy is understanding, doesn’t judge her and has enough experience to just get it. Her mean attitude has more to do with her frustration that you don’t seem to understand her or where she is coming from. So using empathy can make each o… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Hinge date says she wants to start as friends as she doesn't want to jump into romance.What she is saying is: “Look, i’m open to dating you, but i’m also seeing other guys, and you should probably do the same continue dating other women,and not just me.” In other words, there is no exclusivity agreement, and both of you can keep their options open, dating multiple people at the same time, where you can go on a date with this girl on particular day, and go on a date with another girl on a different day for example and she can do the same with other guy, until you and her make a cho… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 04:01 PM |
| 2 | What’s your biggest “I screwed up”?Hanging out for 6 or 7 hours without a kiss happening in any of those hours isn’t good news to be honest. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Am I too old to seduce?First, be humble to understand that others might know things that you don’t which is ok and opens the door for growth. Quit the victim mentality and the skepticism and then we can have a a reasonable conversation if you really seek help cuz you have nothing to lose as it’s free…. otherwise all i’ll see is that you just want to argue. And i am not here to argue, i am here to teach. But i can’t help those who do not wish to learn because they think they already know everything there is to know. | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Am I too old to seduce?Jesus i just saw your profile… You have problems to fix mate. Not just in terms of maturity, but also your self-esteem, your victim mentality, your self-hatred, your arrogance, and your ego. The idea that women find 20 year old immature kids attractive more than guys at late 30s is simply false. No women wants to date a grown up kid or a man child. | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Am I too old to seduce?I answer the question actually, you just didn’t let me finish my comment that i was still writing | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 10:08 PM |
| 5 | Am I too old to seduce?What is the point of being alive if you have given up on getting women because of your age? Doesn’t seem worth it to keep living 40/50 years more of solitude until you die of old age. Prime decade should be between 38 and 48 provided you took care of your heath, since your finances at this age should finally be in order and your maturity level finally turned you into a man. | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Where to find wingmanLearn to approach without a wingman. That should be your priority number 1. The more you approach alone, the easier it becomes to keep doing it on your own leading to more opportunities, freedom, empowerment and increased self-growth. The more you rely on wings, friends, etc the more you become dependent of it, leading to tons of opportunities lost, regret, helplessness and lack of self-growth. Your anxiety can be overcome by simply using more empathy for girls in your approaches, verbalising th… | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 09:11 PM |
| 25 | Am I too old to seduce?As a coach, i can tell you that you are not even old. You haven’t reached half of your lifetime. You have not even reached your prime age. The only thing that can sabotage your learning and results is your refusal to learn, or acting like you know everything or acting like you are too old to keep learning. And the good news is that you don’t even need to get a coach, you have a lot of information for free on reddit, youtube, etc so you can always learn by yourself with the only downside being th… | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 09:05 PM |
| 31 | What’s your biggest “I screwed up”?I’m a coach and the answer is you simply failed to be smooth when going for the kiss. Her: I am so good at everything. (Qualifies herself) You: Prove it kiss me (High pressure statement) Her: No (Anti-slut defences triggered) Her defences were triggered due to the cognitive dissonances. Core belief: Girls who seek sex or take the initiative in sexual activity are sluts and that’s bad Ego. I said I was good at everything, so if i back down then I will be perceived as charlatan or a poser Conflict… | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 06:33 PM |
| 4 | What’s your biggest “I screwed up”?The mistake probably wasn’t the compliment. The mistake probably happened during the hang out. So you need to actually understand what the actual objection is, it’s highly unlikely that a compliment will make her go from interested to non interested because there simply is nothing wrong with saying compliments. Her rejection either had more to do with lack of genuine sexual, romantic and emotional connection during the hangout and to a much lesser extent the excuses she gave about religion and m… | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 05:38 PM |
| 1 | What's the beat piece of advice you've ever gotten on this sub/ elsewhere?When I try to make plans or show much interest before getting solid indicators from the girl. Too often girls will end up surprised (negatively) if I’m trying to hang out or give them any attention soon after initial interactions. Ok, but that’s not what i said in my comment. None of the points i wrote said anything about showing too much interest before getting solid indicators from the girl. My point in my first comment was don’t wait for signs to approach women. Simple as that. Never said tha… | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Best way to approach in a social coed games settingJust tease her. Pick on her basically. Throw her a ball deliberately to hit her with it like another user here commented (not too strong though or you’ll hurt her). Stick out your tongue 😛 to her after you hit her with the ball whilst you also show her a middle finger briefly while you smile with a smirk. (needs to be done in a playful non-serious teasing way) Challenge her specifically as if you have something personal against her (as a joke). Imitate her mannerisms and gestures, repeat her wor… | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 11:23 AM |
| 2 | Approaching multiple women?No, you do not ask for all their numbers. You need to choose one and stick with one even if she is not interested. Otherwise they will feel like you are playing a numbers game to see who is the lowest hanging fruit and will not appreciate that. | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 02:42 AM |
| 122 | What's the beat piece of advice you've ever gotten on this sub/ elsewhere?Don’t wait for women to give you signs cuz then you will never meet any of them. Be humble to recognise that you don’t do everything right with women, and be willing to learn from those who know more than you and be willing to be proven wrong gracefully. Stop blaming your failures on external things, and be humble to seek help to know what you are doing wrong. Stop treating women as if they are malicious or evil beings who enjoy humiliating men or have unreasonable reactions, and seek to underst… | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Does Therapy help with the game?As a coach, i can tell you that the therapist can help your inner game. Inner game is not the same as outer game. Inner game has to do with your self-esteem, your anxiety, your self-worth, self-doubt, self-assurance, your confidence, sense of adequacy, and your ego. All of those things can make or break your relationships with women. Then again, while therapist can help you with that he likely won’t know how to put that into practice in an interaction with women in a way that sounds charming and… | /r/seduction | 28/09/24 11:36 PM |
| 2 | How the hell am I supposed to succeed being neurodivergent?Hey, i have to go now, but let me know when you book the call and we can go through all the roadblocks one by one with careful detail so you see how you can overcome them. You don’t need alcohol or anything. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 07:22 PM |
| 1 | How the hell am I supposed to succeed being neurodivergent?Yeah so book the call, we can go through it to see how not to die. The call could be the best use of your time you may have had in a long time. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 07:19 PM |
| 3 | How the hell am I supposed to succeed being neurodivergent?Yeah, i don’t drink and i encourage people approach women without drinking. They just need to learn how to put their head and mindset in positive order. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How the hell am I supposed to succeed being neurodivergent?If you genuinely want help, I’m gonna offer you a free coaching session just so you can see results and see that it’s not hopeless. You can book it here. The good news is that if you can pull girls when drunk that’s already more than some people i have worked with. So you are not hopeless. You will feel much better after the session and much more empowered, to the point you won’t even believe how i can give it for free. Promise. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 07:14 PM |
| 0 | 23M I never dated anyone currently in my 4th year of universityHey you can book a free call and we can go through it | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 07:02 PM |
| 1 | 23M I never dated anyone currently in my 4th year of universityI’m a coach, the reason you get you get rejected by girls who you have known for a while is because you don’t create sexual tension with them due to the possibility that you don’t actually show sexual desire for them and just treat them as friends, so you have connection but no sexual tension which leads to girls just telling you they see you as a friend. So while you might be fun attractive and financially stable, the reason nothing happens is because you don’t make the feel the sexual tension … | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 06:17 PM |
| 8 | 23M I never dated anyone currently in my 4th year of universityYou created your account today just to type this nonsense because your previous account got banned. The nickname you chose for your account speaks for itself. Reported and blocked. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 04:20 PM |
| 1 | M20, Need advice about a date.You are gonna find throughout your life that women always seek to find excuses to not go on a date they seemingly agreed to. You will never (or very rarely) hear from them “_listen I changed my mind and i don’t wanna go out with you anymore_”… 99% of the time it’s always gonna be a “_sorry i can’t make it for an external circumstance or reason that has nothing to do with my will_”. And many women will work elaborate lies to make them sound legitimate. You can do whatever you want, but the way I … | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 04:16 PM |
| 5 | I think I'll give up on this girlThey are excuses. The problem is not being weird, the problem is acting like being weird is a bad thing. You are in school so i understand that you think “being normal” is a must to fit in with people, despite the fact that those people you try to fit in don’t actually give a fuck about you even if you fit in. Not only that but most people aren’t really concern about what you do as they are also only thinking about themselves and worried about their reputations and problems too. You had the chan… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 03:01 PM |
| 2 | 23M I never dated anyone currently in my 4th year of universityIronically the campus is probably the easiest i found. Girls always assume i am a student, that i need help and are very receptive. I approach in calm places usually so i don’t go to meet up events. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 02:27 PM |
| 6 | 23M I never dated anyone currently in my 4th year of universityI approach women anywhere I see them. But the ideal places would be places where they are not likely to be on a rush to go anywhere, such as beaches, parks, campuses during lunch breaks, long train trips (more than half an hour train trips), airports, etc. At least, that’s where i thrive most. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 02:19 PM |
| 9 | How to go out with a wingmanThe person who approaches first is the one that gets to choose which girl is his, the wingman has to respect his choice and distract the others. A wingman who tries to go for the girl you want is a bad wingman. The wingman must not eclipse you, and must keep a low profile, so he must not try to outwit you, or to amog you. Same thing applies if you are the wingman and he is the one initiating the approach.. You have to respect that since he started the conversation he is the one that gets to choo… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 01:21 PM |
| 23 | 23M I never dated anyone currently in my 4th year of universityOk so as a seduction cold approach coach, this is i can advice: 1 - Start approaching women in campus. The likelihood of dating women increases the more women you talk to. You also need to approach to start getting experience interacting with women and to start learning social skills. Now you might be thinking excuses not to approach such us: “_Oh but girls are busy, they don’t wanna be interrupted, that one looks like she might not like me, they are gonna be upset cuz i’m an intruder, they didn… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 01:16 PM |
| 1 | M20, Need advice about a date.When a woman gives excuses, they tend to always be a way to politely turn you down. How often do you get sick right before a date with a girl? Never. How often do girls seemingly get sick right before the date? Too often. I have heard those type of excuses way too often for women, and the first times you believe it, but after you have seen that somehow there is always something last minute happening to women that forced them to cancel, then you finally realise that it is just an “it’s not you, i… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 10:27 AM |
| 2 | Just started college. Need advice on starting interactions with women.no | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 09:11 AM |
| 2 | Just started college. Need advice on starting interactions with women.You need to make the interaction man to woman, which is why it’s important to establish the man to woman frame vibe early on from the first interactions cuz the longer you take to do it the harder it becomes late, because it just feels weird and unnatural to start behaving in a man to woman way with a girl you have always been acting in a buddy-buddy way. This requires you to flirt romantically during the first conversation you have with a woman you just met to create sexual tension, there can b… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 01:02 AM |
| 20 | Ladies fashion terms that have helped you as a man?If you are worried about being perceived as homosexual by women just because you know about fashion, you have insecurity issues to deal with that are far more detrimental to your success with women than the girl thinking you may be homosexual. PS: The point is that it’s a bigger problem for you to care about what she thinks, when you should just be owning who you are no matter what. In other words, the problem is not being weird or effeminate, the real problem is not being comfortable in your ow… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 12:03 AM |
| 3 | Just started college. Need advice on starting interactions with women.It’s wise in the sense that first impressions dictate the tone of most of your future interactions with that person. If they get used to the friendship, then it’s gonna be very unlikely to get them to see you in a romantic way because the sexual tension just won’t be there. It also puts you in control, rather than waiting for the stars to align, or for destiny to happen at you. Seducers don’t settle for who shows interest, they go for who they want, regardless of what the outcome ends up being. … | /r/seduction | 26/09/24 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Just started college. Need advice on starting interactions with women.It’s the same if you just want a girl to be your friend. And by that i mean that you don’t want to layer transition from friends into something romantic. If you are hoping to lead things romantic then you need to be more direct and show intent. Don’t make the mistake of trying to act like a friend first hoping it will lead into something romantic or sexual later because you will just be putting yourself in the friendzone and women will date or sleep with other guys who are more clear about what … | /r/seduction | 26/09/24 05:21 PM |
| 1 | How do I avoid looking like a stalker?I already gave an example of how you can approach women with company above, step by step. Just read the comment. That example shows how you can avoid making them feel unsafe and how to make sure they are not bothered. and the good thing about is that you don’t need any indication or signal from her to approach with that type of example. So just read my comment above your reply. Here is also a brief analysis of that opener: Empathy serves to demonstrate social intelligence and build trust by show… | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 11:56 PM |
| 3 | How do I avoid looking like a stalker?Number 2 was “lingering to watching from a distance”. Kinda like when a lion is hiding because it sees a gazelle from a far distance for a while, watching every of its moves, before the lion finally goes after the gazelle to eat it” If you want to get to know someone you just have to walk up to them, show empathy by expressing that you understand that they didn’t come here to talk to you or that you are aware they are skin something else, and asking for consent to meet them. Let’s say that you a… | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:29 PM |
| 2 | How to proceed further ?Did you build a connection in person before you got her number? Did you talk with her for like 0 mins to know something about her and see if you feel connected? Because simply getting her number isn’t enough to get a date. You need a preliminary connection before the date happens. If she feels like she can’t relate to you or that you don’t have anything in common or that you are a complete stranger and knows nothing about you other than you usually take coffee then it’s unlikely girls will want … | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:15 PM |
| 4 | How do I avoid looking like a stalker?You can ask one but if they refuse to share or they are vague and you keep inquiring for specifics it can feel stalkerish, because it feels like you are asking for something too personal which isn’t justified. But asking once for an instant date is fine. | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Any former fat guys that have gotten through it?You need to work not just on your body but also your confidence and self esteem. I’m a coach so let me give you some tips. Confidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you say to yourself in y… | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:09 PM |
| 13 | How do I avoid looking like a stalker?Showing up at places they frequent without a clear reason Lingering or watching from a distance Frequent unreciprocated contact Inquiring about their schedule or plans too much Over-analyzing their social media Sudden or intense declarations of feelings Trying to follow them to a second location Standing too close or being too physically present in their personal space Repeatedly bringing up coincidences Continuing interactions after someone has shown disinterest Expressing how many days, weeks … | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:04 PM |
| 2 | “There’s a lot of girls in ur area, why don’t u have a gf?”You literally created your account today just to type this nonsense as your first comment. Jeez | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:35 AM |
| 7 | “There’s a lot of girls in ur area, why don’t u have a gf?”You: “I’m picky” Simple as that | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:34 AM |
| 1 | After 300+ Cold Approach Rejections. I think my Self-Confidence has gotten even WORSE (Self-Reflection and mini Vent)“_I have done this for 16 years and therefore I have nothing new to learn. Everything there is to know i already know, and i will not tolerate somebody implying that i don’t already know”. “If you get girls it can’t be because you know more than me or that someone might know something i don’t already know, it must be because you go for ugly ones or uglier ones than you_” Your argument is filled with arrogance, limiting beliefs, false dichotomies, cynicism, bias, defensiveness, elistism, and infl… | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Fake number continues to flirteh ok 👍 | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Humility lesson for those who tell themselves: “Everything is about looks, without looks you will always be a virgin cuz no women will like you no matter what you say”.Seems like you don’t know how to read if you think it’s a rant. Maybe you need to go back to elementary school. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 07:12 PM |
| 8 | How to seduce in my 40sAt the core of it no. It’s all about empathy, understanding and being fun, sexual, humble, and mature. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 07:06 PM |
| 0 | Humility lesson for those who tell themselves: “Everything is about looks, without looks you will always be a virgin cuz no women will like you no matter what you say”.Ok, bub, you’re patronizing and judgemental as hell. Thank you. You could’ve said 90 percent of this shit without being so damn abrasive and condescending. I know i could, but then it would have been a waste of time. Perhaps the admission is merely “ I’m UGLY, so no one likes me.” And not “I know all there is to know about women.” It’s an implicit admission. They never question their skills, which matters significantly more. If he’s extremely good looking and not incredibly hateful, and likely e… | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 06:55 PM |
| 3 | Fake number continues to flirtAnd then she gives you a fake number, it’s almost like the denial and the bias blind you. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 06:33 PM |
| 0 | Humility lesson for those who tell themselves: “Everything is about looks, without looks you will always be a virgin cuz no women will like you no matter what you say”.No need to feel pity for me, I don’t play the victim card and i’m responsible for myself. So no need to project your insecurity as concern, there are better ways you can use to feel big | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 06:25 PM |
| 5 | Fake number continues to flirtShe is a bartender she is paid to flirt and the reason you feel like she flirts more with you than with others is exactly the same reason why others feel like she flirts more with them than with others. You interpret her behavior with bias. Your bias makes you feel that you are more special to her than others. That just shows she is doing a good job. If you didn’t feel as special it would mean she sucks at it. I can assure you that other guys adage flirts with also feel that more special and tha… | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Is picking up girls at the beach possible?You are a person who is basically telling others: “_you have no hope with women, cuz you are ugly and the best thing you can do with your life is to end it now since you will be forever alone and be miserable and depressed_”. I’m the one who gives them genuine hope and advice that works (even for free) so they don’t have to end their life. I know which guy i’d rather be. Peace. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Is picking up girls at the beach possible?You have to play with the cards that you are dealt with, instead of playing the victim card, yes i agree. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 12:18 PM |
| 0 | Humility lesson for those who tell themselves: “Everything is about looks, without looks you will always be a virgin cuz no women will like you no matter what you say”.I definitely have been told i am ugly a lot of times specially in school since kids are more cruel, and most importantly i have never been hit on by women. I always have to do it myself and take the initiative myself, because otherwise women would never approach me. Of course you need proof of results, but these people refuse to accept the proof even when it’s in front of their own freaking eyes face to face, and always come up with excuses. People who are bullied need help and stop hiding in th… | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Humility lesson for those who tell themselves: “Everything is about looks, without looks you will always be a virgin cuz no women will like you no matter what you say”.Because i used to be like them, so i know everything that goes through their heads. If i did it so do others, as long as they are willing to get out of their comfort zone which of course it’s easier said than done. Because getting out of the comfort zone that their ego builds is painful, uncomfortable, requires a lot of inner work, on your self esteem internal dialogue, healthy coping mechanisms, humility, and a lot o learning. That’s why it’s so easy for these people to give up and come up with… | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 10:15 AM |
| 3 | Why can’t I get laid just need some adviceWeil you asked “why can’t i get laid?” The answer to that is 1• you are not good at conversation, 2• you don’t have game, 3• you haven’t learn effective social skills to deal with women, 4• you have insecurity issues, 5• you don’t understand how attraction works or how women psychology works, 6• you play things safe, 7• your sexual behavior is restrained, 8• you are focused more on creating on comfort with women than on building sexual tension, 9•you currently choose to take on the role of frien… | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 10:07 AM |
| 1 | After 300+ Cold Approach Rejections. I think my Self-Confidence has gotten even WORSE (Self-Reflection and mini Vent)Sorry, but that’s just an arrogant belief that pretty much sub-communicates the following: “i know everything there is to know about women and how to treat and speak with them. As such, i have nothing else to learn because I am a know-it-all when it comes to women, and so, if I don’t get women despite knowing everything, then that means someone or some thing is sabotaging my results because i’m not gonna stop believing i already know everything because that would mess wort my ego.” When you are … | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 09:30 AM |
| 1 | How to 'court' cute/shy type of girls?That statement shows you overthink things and that’s not attractive behaviour, never let women know that you overthink things. If you couldn’t ask anything in person you shouldn’t tell her that you wanted to do it in person because it’s not smooth, and draws attention to something that shouldn’t be a big deal. Now she knows you could not stop thinking about it, giving way too much importance no matter how much you pretend that it’s no big deal with your jokes. You should act like it just came to… | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 09:23 AM |
| 3 | Possible to recover after a mean text?Nah, just accept the fuck up. Every time a guy asks “is this salvageable” the answer is no. Women don’t give second chances once they noticed the red flags 🚩. They don’t take risks, their main priority is to avoid risks at all cost and any mistake, no matter how tiny or how unusual, is game over. Very rare that a woman will give second chances and when she does, it’s because there is serious history like sex and kissing at the very least must have happened for her to consider giving second chanc… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 10:22 PM |
| 1 | How to 'court' cute/shy type of girls?Ahh, you should not have asked if she likes another guy. That’s not seductive behavior and it only makes you look insecure at best, and controlling at worst. But that was not a problem of being blunt, this was a problem of asking her about stuff that is none of your business, no matter if she is shy/cute or confident/extroverted. The rest of the conversation is just awkward as fuck, a bit cringy, sorry. You are seeking validation and you are forced when you say stuff like “i should have asked th… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 09:30 PM |
| 2 | How to 'court' cute/shy type of girls?I mean, you are not gonna get much help being vague but if writing words is too much then you probably don’t want help bad enough. Me, personally i doubt a lot that this is a problem of being blunt. This is a different problem, but i can’t say exactly due to the lack of context. Being insecure or jealous can be a problem, but that’s a different one to being blunt. If i knew the specific context instead of the vague one, I could tell you exactly where the problem is, but since you decided that ad… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | How to 'court' cute/shy type of girls?I read your message but i still don’t know what is it that you said that was blunt. All you said is that you had pleasant discussions, and some light touching. But you are vague, you don’t specify what exactly is light touching to you, touching her tits lightly? If you touch “her tits lightly” then yes that’s too much, even if it’s lightly touching. If you mean something else then you need to specify more. You also said you joke and flirting to lighten the mood but you don’t specify what exactly… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 09:02 PM |
| 1 | How to 'court' cute/shy type of girls?What makes you think being blunt is the problem? What do you mean exactly by being blunt? Any examples of phrases or dialogues that you say that you think gets them turned off or scared? | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 08:54 PM |
| 1 | September is the month of flaking“_It’s not that she doesn’t like me, it’s just September_” -He told himself in denial to maintain the illusion that she would eventually see him differently, once the season changed and life slowed down, instead of recognising that some women just don’t like him . | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 08:26 PM |
| 12 | I always end up receiving the “Sorry, but I’m not looking for anything at the moment”Attraction requires emotional tension, not comfort. Once you understand this you will stop trying so hard to to make her feel too comfortable, and will break rapport more often. For example: Let’s say that a girl says: Girl: “You never thought about moving down here?” Bad responses: “I can’t for a while” “_Yeah, i’m actually moving here soon_” Better to say: “_Well, if you keep looking at me like that, I might be tempted😏_” • If every girl there is as cute as you, I might consider it 🫦”. ———————… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 08:16 PM |
| 13 | Why are the prettier girls more receptive than the less attractive ones?Because insecurity creates self-sabotage. If women don’t feel like they deserve to be hit on or to receive validation, they are more likely to try to sabotage the whole thing to tell themselves that they choose not to have success. If you tell them you find the pretty and they don’t feel pretty, the fact that you say that makes them feel like you are being insincere or trying to make fun of them, to see if she gets her hopes up only for you to reveal that it must have been a prank or something. … | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Did you guys ever experience this on your first date/time? If so what did you do to combat it?Well I’m a seduction coach and I’m gonna be a bit harsh with you but it will help you. The problem you have is that you are focused on doing a performance and proving your worth. This is insulting to women, because they just want to connect with you, and all you care about is them giving you validation and approval. You are focused on using them as objects of validation to feel good about yourself and when you feel like the “objects” won’t give you the validation you seek, then you throw them aw… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Need tips on getting girls as an introvertYou can cold-approach women and start 10 min conversations to build a connection with women on college campuses, parks, beaches, etc because those are places where women may not necessarily be on a rush as they could be just chilling or on a lunch break or simply doing some exercise, etc. Cold-approach is not about asking girls for numbers, it’s about is about walking up to random women telling them that “_you want to get to know them because you like her style, her outfit, her vibe, or whatever… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 10:04 AM |
| 3 | How to make my GF more Horny?Figure out what her fantasies are, or tell her with detail fantasies you want to fulfill. Describe them with detail. Get her imagination thinking with absolute detail about everything you want to do with her and how she would feel and how you would feel in the fantasy you describe. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 09:51 AM |
| 2 | How do I attract my female friend?She is your friend that she runs to after the guys she is attracted dump her or things end baldy with them. You are the shoulder to cry on about her issues with other guys. You know what you are missing? The toxic element that the ex had. Women who date toxic guys aren’t making mistakes they are actually attracted to the toxicity itself, the problem is toxicity is not sustainable over long periods of time. But that’s what attracts them, so rather than trying to be different, which does not attra… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 09:46 AM |
| 8 | Maximum age gap? Your own thoughts and moral standings.The only reason you care about age gaps is because of what other people may think. If you don’t give a fuck about other people, then you date whoever you want. You need to get rid of this absurd need of trying to fit in with people who don’t give a fuck about you. In elementary school and high school, it is normal to try to fit in by being someone you are not because you are forced to live with the same people for years. You don’t want to be alone, even if that means having fake friendships. But… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Majority of numbers I get end up with no reply, is this normal?Everything seems unreal when you have never done it or seen anybody do it, which is why you should probably try to meet people where you live who are into daygame to start realising that the world offers more opportunities than you thought | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Majority of numbers I get end up with no reply, is this normal?You are right which is why it’s important to learn social skills. Once you manage to learn proper social skills you will realise how many women are actually happy to talk to you not just for 10 minutes but even go on instant dates with you for hours that happen spontaneously. And it starts by being humble enough to accept that there are things you need to learn that you don’t know right now about how to interact with women, rather than assuming by default that you already know everything there i… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 11:19 PM |
| 2 | I've been upfront about not wanting a serious relationship, but it never seems to work. What should I do differently?“It never seems to work” Have you considered that the reason it doesn’t work is maybe because some women just don’t want what you seek? You seem to struggle to accept that not every girl wants to have meaningless sex, and that you must click some special button or something to make them change their priorities. Why do you think women always complain that guys lie? Because guys are selfish and just want to get laid without commitment and the only way they know that works is by lying to them. The … | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Keeping her engagedIf she doesn’t feel you like her then the approach wasn’t good. Stop blaming texts for mistakes that are happening in person. | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Majority of numbers I get end up with no reply, is this normal?Ok, in the single events you didn’t build any connection, that’s what happened | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:41 PM |
| 2 | 24M Seeking Advice on Rekindling a Complicated Relationship (Long read)Meet new girls. Your whole mindset reeks desperation and neediness which is why it’s impossible to reignite the spark. Because you simply don’t have a charismatic smooth cool vibe and behavior right now which is what would attract her. You have a weak vulnerable needy, outcome dependent behavior which is what kills attraction. You cannot win if you are outcome dependent. You can only have a chance at winning by not giving a fuck if you lose girls, which is not something that you have right now e… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Keeping her engagedNotice how she isn’t worried about you losing interest if she doesn’t initiate texts? Why do you assume she will lose it? You don’t need to do anything to keep her interested if your conversations prior to the date if your real life approach was solid | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:28 PM |
| 2 | Majority of numbers I get end up with no reply, is this normal?I’m a daygame cold approaches coach, and i can tell you that the reason that happens because rather than building connection with the girl you are exclusively focused on getting numbers as soon as possible. It’s like you forget that you are stranger and that women don’t have any good reason to meet a stranger they don’t connect with. They give you the number because they’d rather avoid confrontation and know you will go away without insisting if they just give it to you. Then all they have to do… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Is picking up girls at the beach possible?As a coach, i can confirm that yes, it’s a very good place to meet women provided that you do it right. You just need to be mindful of boundaries, like not invading her personal space, and telling her that you want to get to know her before you go because you like something about her and would regret it if you didn’t try. A lot of my clients approach women in beaches no problem. | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:18 PM |
| 16 | Tired of being walked over. I wanna attract as many high value women as possible.This is how you can do cold approaches and seduce women step by step: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection 4 - Make sure that we are isolated … | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 08:13 PM |
| 2 | I meet a girl on a bus stop, first date happens, and then ...You didn’t make things man to woman, you did not attempt to kiss her, so nothing of relevance happened on the first date. There also seems to be lack the connection isn’t solid enough. asked too many questions, focusing on exchanging factual information about each other, instead of actually talking about how you feel about things being talked and making the conversation more emotionally driven. When she said that thing at the end that she will check her schedule she was already setting the stage… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 07:13 PM |
| 6 | So I just messaged the girl on Tinder and she said ...Me: tell me why would i date you over other beauties? what special about u? You are trying to play the game in a very “on-the-nose” way, when game requires you to be more subtle. Directly asking her “why should I date you over other girls” fails to comprehend that this is so “on-the-nose” that it makes it likely that you will enter an ego battle. Women always tend to adopt the role or frame of being the prize, so if you are so overt about the fact that you are trying to steal that frame, they wi… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Hey, how do you stop being boring?Now you are overthinking for too long, if you still have not replied to her, that’s a bigger issue that saying the wrong thing. | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 12:26 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys approach when walking about?You are overthinking this too much. The compliment is just an excuse to talk. She is not reading through it that much. You like her style period. Doesn’t matter if you know that she didn’t put any effort because you are not there to act like you admire her so much or that your mind is blown away by her. You just want to get to know her, that’s it. You can say also that you simply like her graceful demeanour or her thoughtful calm demeanour, her smile, her presence, her happy energy, or her vibe.… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 10:08 AM |
| 39 | Did fixing your posture improve your dating live?If you hope that fixing your posture will make you go from getting no sex at all to getting sex every month, the answer is no. Those are minor details that can help a little bit, but ultimately it’s the sum of many variables that makes the difference and not just cherry picking one particular thing. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 09:59 PM |
| 1 | how do u do dance floor approachAs someone who has sisters the idea of fun for women when they are going to party is: “Getting cute outfits, getting the make up looks that they wanted, looking cute and pretty, comparing outfits with other women, asking for advice on how her female friends managed to get that hair, or those nails, or whatever they admire from other girls, taking photos of herself and with her friends and posting them online to build their aesthetic instagram and memories, playing drinking games, dancing to thei… | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you have any recommends for a beginner in daygame ?Focus on having 10 minute conversations to build connections with women and for now forget about getting numbers or contact info. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Ways to open a set w/women at the beach without something obvious to bring up ?The cuter blonde was like you never thought about moving down here?” and i said i couldn’t for a while Better to say: “_Well, if you keep looking at me like that, I might be tempted_” or “_If every girl there is like you, i might consider it 🫦_”. Need to be more daring and flirty instead of answering with logic or facts. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 07:59 PM |
| 2 | how do u do dance floor approachWomen go to have fun, and then if something happens it happens spontaneously because the specific guy had game or was attractive, not because the girls had planned carefully to make sure they get laid that night. Girls don’t have intentions, they just go with the flow and see what happens. Ready to be surprised. Being open to meeting guys as a secondary unplanned thing isn’t the same as going out for the primary and exclusive purpose of meeting guys. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 07:47 PM |
| 3 | I like the bartender at my #1 pickup spotRather than simply saying i really like you, you should specify to her why you like her. Really liking you sounds generic and girls don’t respond well to generic stuff. The more specific you are about the reasons why you like her, the better it will be taken. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Multiple Numbers or Focus on One?She is questioning your interest. She feels like if you do this with every girl then you must not be genuinely interested in her for something long term. In other words, she assumes you just want to have sex once at most and that’s it. If you want to solve the objection then you need to answer her that while you dance with others, you don’t feel the same way with the others as you do with her. She may ask why, and you need to give her a valid reason or express how she is making you feel in that … | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Hey, how do you stop being boring?You should choose the one that fits your personality best because if you start talking in playful ways it must be the one that sound more natural to the way you currently speak. I don’t recommend bringing up sex or lingerie or underwear or nakedness or anything remotely that sounds like you expect sex no matter how subtle you try to make it sound. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 12:01 PM |
| 1 | how do u do dance floor approachmost girls tend to be defensive at the dance floor because they didn’t come to flirt with guys but to have a good time release stress etc. Most guys in the club are guys they don’t find that attractive. when you understand this then you realise that you shouldn’t be on hunting mode in the club, and instead you should work on being the life of the party. Be the guy that draws attention to himself, a guy that other people want to be around, either because you dance by yourself all chill, or becaus… | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 11:59 AM |
| 3 | how do u do dance floor approach“So what small interaction do we need to have for me to take you home tonight.” Definitely don’t say that. You’ll only trigger her anti-slut defences. That phrase sounds spectacular only in his head. The most likely response to that is “eww, leave me alone” because it’s completely uncalibrated. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Hey, how do you stop being boring?Seal the deal in person, not over texts. Trying to seal the deal directly or indirectly over texts, only makes her feel pressured. Girls will only have sex with you if they feel like it at the present moment when they are in the date. They don’t want to feel like sex was planned ahead. So that’s why you shouldn’t sexualize over texts. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 11:41 AM |
| 2 | What did I do wrong here?Sometimes you need to stop rationalising things when women talk to you and instead behave more daring and shameless right away. Her: “_It’s rare to see straight guys at this venue_”. You: “_And as soon as you noticed, you thought—fuck it, i’m gonna seduce him. Very bold, I like it_”. This is a more playful daring assumption that keeps a fun vibe. It’s better than trying to find logic or reason or trying to get her to explain to you what’s happening. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 11:39 AM |
| 5 | Hey, how do you stop being boring?Don’t sexualise over texts. You can say any of these text examples instead: Oh, so i see you’ve already made plans for me to invite you next week. Interesting tactic” Look at you, already lining up my schedule. I’ll ask my secretary if i can fit you in. Ahh, I see what you’re doing—you’re trying to lock me in before someone else does. Smart move And in this moment, the hero was faced with a daunting task: plan the ultimate date that would forever change their destiny… Is that how it works now hu… | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 11:07 AM |
| 3 | Why do women think I want to hang out as friends?That’s what most men do when they don’t know what they want. And at the very least they get laid here and there. They sleep with girls they are not even attracted to and sometimes they start to like her despite not being attracted to her initially as they get to know her more and begin to develop feelings after sex has happened first. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Why do women think I want to hang out as friends?Listen, if you don’t know your intentions, you are not gonna have any control at all with the results you have with women and it will all come down to “luck”. If you want to live like that, that’s your choice, if you want control the you are gonna have to do like other men do which is, “fuck it i’m gonna get laid with her” and then see what happens after i get laid with her. In other words; getting laid must be your default intention and then after you have had sex with her, you may transition i… | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 12:21 AM |
| 1 | silence during meetingI think you need to be humble and start to learn the things that you still don’t know about women. It will be more beneficial than whining about what you “lack”. | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 09:01 PM |
| 5 | silence during meeting30 minutes is enough to get laid by the way, having said that it’s false that it just has to be 30 mins if you connect with someone you can talk for hours and hours non stop because there is that much to share and talk about and relate to. If you run out of things to say it suggest that you are not really focused on connecting with her but rather than you see this step as an obstacle that you would rather avoid because you are more focused in getting as fast as possible to the sex, and that’s so… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 08:41 PM |
| 7 | silence during meetingWomen connect by sharing how you feel about things, express how you feel about chilling in the night, express how you feel about anything that you do or like. It’s about opening up about personal stuff that you don’t usually share with anyone, which is talking about your emotions. That’s how you connect with girls and that’s what they are interested in. They don’t care if you went to the gym, what they want to know is how you felt about it, and the answer cannot just be “i felt good” or somethin… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 08:25 PM |
| 6 | After 300+ Cold Approach Rejections. I think my Self-Confidence has gotten even WORSE (Self-Reflection and mini Vent)You need to show and express empathy for the context in which you approach them, you need to give them the reason why you are approaching them which must be legitimate and not superficial, and expressing mention it will be brief if that’s cool with them. You also need to take in mind body language, making sure that you don’t have hands in pockets, that you are not wearing sun-glasses, that you don’t follow them around, that you don’t look nervous before the approach and in the case where your ne… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 08:18 PM |
| 103 | Hey, how do you stop being boring?I’m a seduction cold approach coach and my advice is: Don’t try to play the game via texts for starters. Talk to women in real life by approaching them. The texts are not substitute for real life interactions. Then here is a full list of techniques that can make your conversation suddenly fun, but they are all for real life approaches exclusively, not for guys who want to sit at home writing words in a screen: Double Meaning Push and Pull Misinterpretation Teasing Flirting with Playful Accusatio… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 08:03 PM |
| 29 | After 300+ Cold Approach Rejections. I think my Self-Confidence has gotten even WORSE (Self-Reflection and mini Vent)The reason you get rejected is because you have done 300 approaches in a similar way and expecting different results. You are going straight away for a number and women only want to date you and see you again, if they connect with you first. That requires having 10-15 minute long conversations at least and also speak to them in a way that creates connection which is something you haven’t tried to do after 300 approaches. Unfortunately, your focus is not on connecting with them but in getting num… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 07:57 PM |
| 7 | Wearing sunglasses at a club. Weird?As a coach i can tell you that wearing sun-glasses creates a bigger problem than just being weird… It makes women, and people in general, less likely to trust you and feel comfortable because they can’t see you properly. People generally get information about yourself through body language and your eyes also reveal a lot of information since it’s a big component of body language. The sun glasses basically act a shield or barrier that makes it really hard, for women specially, to connect with you… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Beginner needs some tipsAnother question. If I see a girl I like walking in headphones or in a company of other girls, how do I approach her? As a cold approach coach I recommend to say: “_I don’t usually interrupt people that have headphones because I know that you are listening to music, but i just wanted to make an exception with you because i loved your style and i thought man if i don’t try to get to know her real quick, I’m gonna regret it later, you feel me?_” This opener works because it shows empathy for the w… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 05:48 PM |
| 11 | Why do women think I want to hang out as friends?That happens when you assume that they know rather than making it clear from the beginning. The default assumption all women will make is that you are being just friendly, so if you think “oh well, it’s obvious that i am a guy, and that i gave her a compliment, so she clearly must know” well don’t. Make it clear that you are hitting on her and if every girl is assuming this is as friends then you need to make it far more clear. Make things more sexually tense, tell them that you find her smile s… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 05:34 PM |
| 4 | How to talk endlesslyJust use the “What, Why and How it feels” frame. Her: “What do you do for a living?” You: (What?) “I work as a journalist” (Why?) “Because I always knew that I wanted to make the world more fair and fight corruption from those in power” (How it feels?) And I felt so satisfied when i once managed to make the corrupt chancellor resign due to my investigation, i felt so powerful in that moment, it felt glorious” Use this formula over and over with everything she asks, the whole point is to get her … | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 12:33 PM |
| 10 | Is it better to play the long game or be honest with a girl when it comes to looking for something casualYou don’t need to wait a couple of month to sleep with any woman, no matter if you are looking for a one time hookup or a committed relationship. In fact, waiting months without having sex with her makes it less likely that you will actually end up sleeping with her. Sex should happen within 2 weeks max after talking to her for the first time, anything more than that, you are making it significantly less and less likely that you will sleep with her. | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 11:46 PM |
| 4 | How to be a wingman?I’m cold-approach coach, so let’s see the problem with wingmans. Wingmans don’t generally have a clue how to deal with a shy and anxious person. For starters, asking him to approach the one girl he likes when he doesn’t have a clue how to talk to women is not a good idea, let alone if it’s in a workplace where his job could potentially be at stake. Not only is he unlikely to seduce her even if he approached her, but the pressure will also be immense. Talking to other women he doesn’t care about … | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 11:01 PM |
| 51 | Is it weird that Im 18, don't text women at all, never had a first kiss or anything?I think the real question is are you okay with being weird or are you not okay with it? Because the character of a real man isn’t measured by his willingness to conform to social norms, but by his courage to stand apart from them and embrace his own unique essence without apology. It’s in the moments when he dares to be different, when he’s not afraid to be called weird, that his true strength is revealed. Real greatness is found in authenticity—in the willingness to be misunderstood, criticized… | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Advice !!Sure you only need this one “seduction” and u/daygamecode | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Advice !!If you can’t hold a conversation, or you are boring, then you need to learn. Fortunately, you have resources, books, youtube videos, and a search bar in a reddit sub to learn all the theory and techniques you need. All it takes is for you to look them up by typing it on the search bar of the sub, study it all, make notes and put it into practice. | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 06:19 PM |
| 3 | If you go to bars solo, should you lie about why you're there alone?You are getting increasingly upset and argumentative because i simply said that you don’t need to lie to get laid. You even took my words personally, and are now trying to make this personal, with all those snarky comments like “i guess it was a lot on you”, “the only insecure one here is you”,… Illustrating points with made up numbers is meaningless, pointless and insignificant, it’s no different than me saying “10 out of 10 women love it”. It’s not a good argument. It’s like saying “this is tr… | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 02:13 AM |
| 1 | If you go to bars solo, should you lie about why you're there alone?The point is that there is nothing wrong with it unless you doubt yourself. Then the problem becomes the fact that you are not comfortable in your own skin. Being alone in a bar is not illegal or a bad thing, but because you believe it must be then the girls feel that vibe from you. The vibe that you are not convinced it’s good and that’s what turns them off, the vibe. So there is no such ratio as 1 in 10, that’s made up. There is no risk because it’s not actually a risk. That’s just your own in… | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Classmate suddenly uninterested“i didn’t know but can i join you” Don’t behave like a puppy dog who follows her master with women you want to date or have something with. Your job is not supposed to get close and spend time platonically, your goal is to ask her out on dates, not just hang out as friends which is what you are trying to do now. Having out as friends doesn’t make the girl like you, it just puts you in the friendzone. A hang out and a date are not the same thing, so don’t confuse spending time with her for having… | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 12:24 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys approach when walking about?You simply walk up to her and say that “you don’t mean to interrupt what they were doing but that you want to get to know her because you like her style, and want to see if you also enjoy talking with her or else you would have regretted it”. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 11:48 PM |
| 4 | If you go to bars solo, should you lie about why you're there alone?You don’t need to lie about anything if you just own who you are and show absolute comfort in your own skin. Her: Why are you alone? You: Because I love it, you should try it. Her: “It’s weird to go alone to a bar” You: “Thank you :) You are not so bad yourself neither” See? When you don’t give a fuck about being weird, then being weird is actually a compliment and something to be proud of. Weird = different. Normal = NPC. The problem is not doing something abnormal the problem is showing you ar… | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 09:23 PM |
| 9 | Definitive list of IOI's (indicators of interest)Even if you wanted quantity you can still approach all of them indirectly, you just need to use social intelligence empathy, focus on connection and not treat women like objects. The idea that a girl rejecting you means everyone in the party has to know is absurd and would only happen if you are doing something really stupid or uncalibrated. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 08:35 PM |
| 2 | How do I get rid of this habit (waiting on IOIs to approach)if I want to talk to a cute girl I don’t know, I should make sure she’s interested first. They say that because they are scared of rejection and want to avoid it at all costs. They presume that if she isn’t giving signals she will reject you for sure. And that is simply false. I have approached plenty of girls who never saw me coming and some liked me some turn me down. Lack of signals is therefore only a excuse to avoid rejection at all costs. If you make peace with rejection, then you don’t ne… | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 07:58 PM |
| 16 | Definitive list of IOI's (indicators of interest)Yes picky and proud | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 05:19 PM |
| 19 | Definitive list of IOI's (indicators of interest)Yeah, sometimes 3 in rare cases, I’m picky. Quality over quantity. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 04:58 PM |
| 30 | Definitive list of IOI's (indicators of interest)I don’t approach all of them because i don’t like all of them and i don’t play number games. I only approach the 1 or 2 that I like. And if they reject me, so be it. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 02:48 PM |
| 159 | Definitive list of IOI's (indicators of interest)All this overthinking, when you can just make peace with rejection and make your moves with or without signals, and without having to overanalyse everything. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 02:13 PM |
| 2 | i’m tiredYou need to start analysing what you are doing wrong. It’s not helpful to just say “_No one likes me, everyone ghosts me_”. What you need to asks yourself is: 1 - Did I build an actual solid enough emotional connection? Did she relate to me in anyway on a personal level? Did I relate to her and make her feel understood? Probably not, specially if you just went tans talked for like less than 3 mins. 2 - Did I qualify her and does she feel like i have actually seen traits in her that go beyond her… | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 09:59 AM |
| 4 | What advices given to you in this subreddit, would you say have worked for you?One example is the whole “direct” vs “indirect” game debate. Some guys say direct game is the way, others say indirect game is the way. Social dynamics are complex and one size doesn’t fit all. There are contexts in which it may be more appropriate and smart to be indirect like gyms for example, and there might be other contexts where it’s smarter to be direct, like if you are approaching a stranger on an actual street. That’s where social intelligence comes into play, in order to adapt to each … | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 08:17 PM |
| 2 | When is too soon?The move is made by expressing desire. You have to actually tell her that you find her attractive, that she makes your heart rate increase when she smiles at you,… (Please note that this is not about just saying that she looks nice, or that she is cute, it’s about expressing how she is making you feel romantically as you speak to her) Flirting is not compliments, flirting is expressing desire for her. This is something that you should do ideally after you first have told her specifically what tr… | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Need some advice, from both M, FYou are 26, the problem is not that you don’t have a relationship, the problem is the reason not being legitimate. If she feels like you can’t get girls despite trying or wanting one, that’s a problem. Even if you chose not to have a relationship until now, it still can be a problem because women value experienced men for a very good reason which is that experienced guys end to make generally speaking better and more matured partners than inexperienced. Again, if you don’t have experience the. y… | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 11:54 PM |
| 10 | Went silent... then liked my storyDon’t do that thing of “just checking in on you, you ok”… You are not at a level where you can show legitimate genuine concern for her without coming across as a needy attempt at getting her attention back. It’s not a good idea to escalate things sexually over texts. It’s better to save that for in person conversations because doing that is likely to make women rationalise things later even if at first she received it well, and create dissonances which can cause tension and pressure they’d rathe… | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Mouth PieceYou can only improve by actually studying pick up techniques. There is a whole set of seduction techniques, social skills you can use to get better at talking to girls and seducing them. Double Meaning Push and Pull Misinterpretation Teasing Flirting with Playful Accusations Narrator/Storytelling Imitating Her/Role-Playing Making Her Fantasize Exaggeration Agree and Amplify Reduce to Absurdity Sarcasm Mimicking/Mocking/Impressions Story-Telling Humor False Disqualification False Bragging Cold Re… | /r/seduction | 15/09/24 10:37 AM |
| 1 | realistic expectationsYou can book a free coaching session call here and we can go through in depth about openers during the free call. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 10:12 AM |
| 3 | realistic expectationsEmotional connection is about sharing how you feel about things so that she can relate to you and start sharing how she feels about things too, so you can relate to her. The goal of it is for her to say or think: “Yeah i totally see where you are coming from” or “omg, it’s like you are reading my mind right now”, or “yeah, omg finally someone that gets me” or “yeah, that’s totally me”. Like you guys are in sync with each other, and share similar feelings about things. Once she feels like she rel… | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 03:53 AM |
| 3 | realistic expectationsAll right, so as a coach i can see some things you could improve. 1 - You are not building any emotional connection at all, and that is problematic because even if it’s a cold approach, and not a date, women still feel like they need to have some sort of connection to truly feel like they want to see you again, instead of treating the cold approach like an unusual but fleeting event. Talking for 1-2 minutes is usually not enough to create any emotional connection, and you should instead aim for … | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 03:18 AM |
| 6 | This sub is awesome…thank you guysI’m a seduction/cold approach coach, and i can tell you that fear of rejection usually comes from: Fear of ridicule and social judgment. Fear of making women uncomfortable. Fear of confirming your own inadequacies. Fear of the unknown or unforeseen consequences. 1- You might be scared of people laughing at you, talking shit about you, thinking you are a loser, treating you as inferior,… etc 2 - You might be scared of creeping out women, of making them feel wary and uneasy about you, making them … | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 03:06 AM |
| 2 | realistic expectationsWhen you don’t get the results you want, the first thing you need to ask yourself is, what is it that i don’t know yet, what is that i have to learn, what is it that i can improve, and what is it that I could do differently than how i usually do it. This is how you start the self-reflection process which requires being self-critical in a constructive way by analysing as much detail as possible from your interactions with women. Because men tend to overlook very often how bad their approach with … | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 02:41 AM |
| 7 | I entered my 30s and had one gf only and just got rejected againFriendly reminder that you haven’t tried everything, because the options are almost infinite. You couldn’t possibly try everything even if you tried or even if you knew what even is there to try. Because the problem is not just about the fact that you only tried what you know, in the limited ways that you know, but actually the fact that you aren’t even aware of the existence of many things you can try to do. So rather than saying “i tried online dating, social circle, cold approach and none of … | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 01:52 AM |
| 2 | How to move things forward from the flirty playful teasing stage?Well, what would happen if you simply told her: “_Hey, you know i enjoy my time with you, and want to get to know you better because you make me feel like i can be the best version of myself with you. So I’d love to take you out to dinner just you and me, this saturday evening. You feel me?_” | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 01:46 AM |
| 47 | I entered my 30s and had one gf only and just got rejected againDude, how do I explain to you that in order to become good at talking to girls and seduce them you must be willing to face rejection many many times, as well as practicing the fundamentals of seduction to do better next time? The problem is that you take rejection personally, and you do it because it makes you feel inadequate, when the real problem is that you simply are ignorant about what women want, and that you lack game. You don’t know how to speak to women, you don’t understand them, you d… | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 01:38 AM |
| 4 | How much does occupation matter in regards to game?Pretty much nothing, unless you plan on marrying any time soon, which would be dumb since you are only 19 years old. Job matters more when you are planning on building a future together and honestly, you shouldn’t really be looking for that until you are in your 30s at the very least, and even then that might be too soon cuz a man’s peak of attractiveness is around 35-38 approx. To get hookups, friends with benefits and short term girlfriends, you don’t need to worry about jobs. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 11:18 PM |
| 0 | LuckWise enough to know when someone is going for my ego, wise enough to let you win. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 11:08 PM |
| 0 | LuckI ain’t reading that. Keep spending the next 12 years approaching another extra 144.000 women while telling yourself “it’s damn near impossible”. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | The opener that works everytime (even on a funeral)It won’t work in every single scenario for various reasons, people don’t always have time to speak to you, and even if they do have time, they may not necessarily be interested in speaking with you, and even if they are interested in you, there may be other things that prevent it like her friends being there who might feel tense that you just interrupted. There are more things that need to be taken into account, and you also need to be aware that nothing is 100% infalible. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 10:53 PM |
| 1 | LuckWell. Clearly, you’ve cracked the code of life and human interaction. I bow before the sheer volume of your… effort. But, here’s the thing—throwing out numbers like that doesn’t make you sound impressive, it makes you sound desperate. If your success is solely dependent on your fitness, wealth, and status, congratulations, you’ve figured out that some people are shallow. Gold star. But for someone so “experienced,” it’s baffling how you’ve managed to miss the entire point of human connection. Wo… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 10:34 PM |
| 1 | LuckIf you are the original poster of this thread, why do you use a different account to respond? And if you are not the original poster, then why do you feel like this is meant for you, kid? | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 10:27 PM |
| 1 | LuckYou could just learn to talk to women and actually learn to understand them, but it’s much easier to be lazy, play the victim and blame your failures on everone but yourself. Saying that it’s just luck is just copium. Because when you say it’s luck, what you are saying is I do everythign right and I know everything there is to know, so if I don’t get the results that I want despite knowing everything, then the fault must be something external, like “luck” or “looks”... or any other reason that s… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 09:37 PM |
| 2 | The importance of warming up. Newbie story- "No, she's wearing headphones, I'll distract her from listening to music" Even if she is wearing headphones, you can still aproach her as long as you do it with respect. "Hey, excuse me (she takes off one headphone to hear you) just one thing real quick, i don't usually interrupt people who wear headphones, but the reason i did is that you caught my attention, cuz you're glowing and i thought i would regret it if i did not try to get to know her real quick so that she can continue listening he… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 09:33 PM |
| 3 | How do I make a move on my girlfriendJust because you guys refer ti each other as boyfriend and girlfriend doesn’t mean you, you have a romantic relationship. If anything it just shows you are misnaming your actual relationship which is a close friendship. You are not kissing, you are not hugging or having sex or anything of the actual things real romantic couples do. The line that separates platonic friendships with romantic relationships is precisely that. No man who has self-respect would want this thing, instead of just meeting… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Is there a nice guy game?Being nice isn’t a personality. Being nice is subjective because the vast majority of people would think of themselves as nice people even if they have completely different values. It’s simplistic to define someone’s entire personality as “nice”. Then again, if you mean those who self-identify as nice guys whining that they treat the girl “super well” and resent the fact that they don’t get rewarded with sex or romance for it, well i have bad news for them. Even if they treated the girl badly an… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Talking to girls on vacation vs talking to girls in my own cityEverything can be ok as long as you use the correct social skills. You just need to solve the dissonances women tend to have when a man approaches them. You said it yourself you want to avoid making them feel “unsafe” and avoid coming across as a “predator”. But what is it that makes an approach feel unsafe for them? And what is it that makes you come across as a predator? These are the objections women have in their head when a man approached them: 1 - This guy is approaching, but i don’t know … | /r/seduction | 12/09/24 06:45 PM |
| 16 | What are the usual signs that you see when a woman wants you to talk with them?What are the usual signs that you see when a woman wants you to talk with them? As a coach, i can tell you that when you are doing daygame (cold approaching strangers during the day) it’s extremely unlikely that they will give signals because no one seriously expects an stranger is gonna approach them to get to know them and start something romantic. So you cannot really be doing daygame expecting signals because there won’t be any. I have been told at times I might come across as intimidating t… | /r/seduction | 12/09/24 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Is she into me?Looking for signs is typical from guys who don’t understand women at all and who don’t have the balls to take risks. This is a highly unattractive behavior that repels women and makes sure they friendzone the guy. The fact that a woman has to stand up for him, rather than him standing up for himself, says a lot about his character too. It’s not attractive for women that men can’t stand up for themselves effectively to the point the woman feels bad for him and feels like she has to intervene. It’… | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 08:23 PM |
| 6 | Is she into me?She probably doesn’t like you, based on how you act around her. It’s rare for women to be attracted to men with the mindset that you have, and the actions that you make. Would not be surprised if you had never had a girlfriend or never had sex with more than one girl or even less. No offence. | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 07:58 PM |
| 5 | Banned from dating apps forced to approach IRLCold approach requires to know what you are doing and in my experience, 90% or more of all the people that try cold approahcing do't have any actual skills to do the cold approach well so all the numbers they get lead nowhere as a result. And the ironic thign is they think that they are doing everything right on the approach, even though they are clearly not doing everythign right, not even close. Most guys think cold approaching is a bout quickly having a 1 minute conversation and then asking f… | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 07:11 PM |
| 8 | How would a guy know if he’s good looking or if girls are just being nice?You cannot get certainty that they like you, the only way is to take the "risk" to just tlak to them and ask them out. You cannot avoid rejection by trying to read her mind. There is no such thing as making things happening with a girl without taking risks. So if you are hoping for the miracle sign that gurantees you know what she wants before you make a move, forget it. | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 06:57 PM |
| 6 | Display Interest or Not I’m So ConfusedYou are not escalating to a kiss, and instead you keep trying to read her to be sure that you are not making the worng move and that's precisely the problem. In pickup/dating contexts, you cannot play it safe, you cannot walk on egg shells, you cannot try to do things only when you have absolute certainty that she won't reject it. Your mistake is that you don't know how to make things feel romantic, intimate and creating the moment for a kiss in an orgnaic way and instead you keep stagnated for … | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 06:53 PM |
| 1 | text gameIt’s not about text game, it’s about the quality of the approach. A good solid approach that makes her genuinely excited to see you again needs the following: Brief emotional connection. Doesn’t need to be too deep, but also not too light that she almost doesn’t feel like she can’t relate to a stranger in any way. If the conversation feels friendly but impersonal, she won’t want to see you again Impersonal means small talk topics like “the weather, current affairs, pop culture, hobbies, movies,…… | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 11:56 AM |
| 5 | Talking to girls on vacation vs talking to girls in my own cityI’m a seduction/cold approach coach, so let’s take a look at your situation: I see them smile at me and sometimes I can find some excuse to talk to them, though I feel too self-conscious to ask them out. The reason this happens is because the excuse may temporarily ease the concern about rejection since your anxiety and ego know that as long as you stick to talking about the “excuse” topic, there is nothing to reject. But if you were to suddenly show interest in romance, your anxiety and ego kic… | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 11:36 AM |
| 8 | Cold approaching after long term relationshipIf you are in the gym, it might be better to start indirectly. Rather than hitting on someone you wanna be casual and start being social with people not just girls. In other words, don’t go for a number or for personal conversations instead take the long game and just one day ask if they can help you with something real quick then thank them and leave, then another day you say hello thanks for the tip yesterday/the other day. I felt so and so after doing it. See you around. And you keep doing th… | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Suggestions for direct approach?The problem for you then is that cold-approach is for “talker types” because women don’t go out on dates with strangers. So if they don’t know anything about you they simply won’t be excited at all or invested to see you again. Cold approach just to get a number immediately without connecting first for 5-10 mins leads to tons of empty leads that go nowhere. The connection and excitement needs to be built in person during the approach, or else even if you get a number it will never lead to a date… | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 08:08 AM |
| 1 | College campusYour advice only guarantees that people never end up approaching at all, just the fact that someone approaches without overthinking already makes it far more likely than spending years trying to look for signals that will never come. | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 06:42 AM |
| 4 | How do you guys handle nonverbal signals that say don’t approach?A lot of times when I look at women in my field of view or when I walk by I either get them avoiding looking at me. Or a slight change in their facial expression that seems negative. Your anxiety reacts to that stimuli by stopping you as it immediately predicts a bad reaction from the woman if you tried to approach, in this case rejection. Why would a girl react badly? 1 - She is on a rush to get somewhere and/or she is stressed and thus her behavior will be evasive because she’s anxious about a… | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 10:41 PM |
| 2 | How likely are girls to cheat?Women have many times cheated with guys who were neither more attractive nor higher status than their boyfriend was. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Girl walking past workWhy do some dudes always wait for a girl to give them attention to start learning how to talk to girls. Should you not have thought about how to have instagram game long before you met this girl? It’s like saying “_oh i want to win the basketball world cup final tomorrow morning, so i have 12 hours to learn how to play basketball cuz i don’t even know the rules of the game_”. You are aware that even i people give you advice you are still gonna fuck up and lose her, right? Which don’t get me wron… | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Suggestions for direct approach?I go to her and greet by saying hi and how’s it going. It’s better to avoid asking that, and instead just say that you want to get to know them because you liked something specific about her. Then I say “Can I ask you a question?” You already have before, and now you are asking a second one, then a third one. It begins to feel like an unwanted interrogation. Stop asking so many questions, and just say affirmative statements. If she says yes, I ask “Are you single?” If she says yes, I say “I noti… | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 07:00 PM |
| 6 | How to make intentions clear for hostel game?Flirt with her | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 01:48 AM |
| 2 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?I just read OP’s profile, and damn, I couldn’t have summed him up better. If self-victimization and lack of accountability were a person, OP would be the perfect embodiment. All that emotional baggage is way more significant than the country he is in. This ain’t solely about practice, this case requires therapy. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 01:16 AM |
| 11 | How to make intentions clear for hostel game?You mean how to make it clear to women that they have to agree to having sex when they meet you without first getting them in the mood for it because you don’t want to waste your time if they haven’t made up their mind about exchanging fluids before meeting you? That’s not how women work. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?You see he also doesn’t get success in clubbing even though you are saying he is gonna get more luck in clubs because it’s sweden culture. He also doesn’t get success by DMing on IG or tinder. And he also did not get success by social circle when he had the chance back in high school or college or work. And he won’t get cold approach success in spain or any country. The common denominator is his actions because he doesn’t know what he is doing and also thinks he is doing everything right, but th… | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?In my experience, guys who suck with women suck with women everywhere they are, no matter the culture. The idea that spain or france is heaven for cold-approach and sex will magically happen is nothing more than a made up fantasy. But hey! he is free to book his next holidays to spain and get the reality check in person. Then he will blame something else, also external to him because that’s how people are; Blaming their failures on everyone or anything but their own choices and actions. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?No he is not right. Simply false, and he will find soon enough when he goes to other countries and same thing will happen. Then when he is forced to accept that the country is not the actual reason, he will find another excuse to not take responsibility. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 12:32 AM |
| 6 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?You simply cannot win when you need women to feel good about yourself. That mindset itself leads to rejection and the rejection leads to more needy behavior that causes more rejection which in turn causes more neediness and so on in a perpetual circle. You need to study pick-up books and inner game, since that may be the only path to escape from that circle. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 12:29 AM |
| 4 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?Sorry but that’s a really wrong mindset which ironically makes it highly unlikely that you will accomplish that goal. | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 11:50 PM |
| 9 | Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around?Reality check: I was in Malmö last summer, and i had a summer fling for 3 months with a Swedish girl i met by cold-approaching her in a train trip to Halmstad. She did not really give me any signals because she wasn’t even noticing me as she couldn’t see me, until i approach her. The relationship ended because i had to go back to my country, and i don’t want long-distance relationships. So the idea that you cannot meet women is just something you tell yourself to avoid doing the uncomfortable wh… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 11:35 PM |
| 1 | What should we do to not get in friendzone and understand if the girl is good or bad?If you are worried about a girl cheating on you, she doesn’t necessarily have to be an attention seeker, or have daddy issues or any traumas. Sometimes that can happen for many other reasons including dissatisfaction with you, with the relationship, fear of missing out, or another guy seducing her… If you expect a long-term fulfilling relationship with a young girl, you can forget it. You are not prepared and she is not prepared, and most young women and young men shouldn’t really behind thinkin… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 12:29 PM |
| 1 | What should we do to not get in friendzone and understand if the girl is good or bad?There is no such thing as a girl being good or bad, because that’s subjective and judging that, says more about you than the other person. Someone’s sexual priorities don’t define if someone’s good or bad. If you are implying that someone exploring their sexuality at a young age makes them a bad person, then you sound very judgmental and that’s not gonna go down well with women you try to meet. If you are looking for “pure” girls, you should look in a church or a better yet a mosque. There is al… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 12:14 PM |
| 39 | Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street?-Is it normal/weird? In the sense of conforming to common behaviors, traits, or circumstances shared by the majority? The answer is no. Just as being gay or trans isn’t the most typical experience, since only a minority of people identify as such. Should you be doing things that are normal? Whether or not you should be doing things that are considered “normal” depends on your personal values and goals. Following norms can provide a sense of belonging and stability, but it doesn’t necessarily lea… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 11:00 AM |
| 3 | College campusOf course it’s good and essential to approach no matter what she does. If i had to wait for a woman to give me signals for me to approach, nothing positive with women would ever happen. | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Need Some HelpI can tell that she doesn’t not based on what she does but based on what you do which is far more relevant. You are showing insecurity, you are showing indecisiveness, you doubt yourself, you are showing neediness, you are acting like a friend and trying to be penpals , you are being passive and reactive following her lead, you are allowing her to vent in front of you, and you are trying to read her mind before you do something. All of these actions tend to lead to rejection more often than not.… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 03:11 AM |
| 12 | College campusYou spend too much time worrying about getting glances when you should just be approaching instead even if they don’t give glances. | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Need guidanceIf this is your first date and you don’t know the answer to any of those questions, you have to understand that it will not work. Waiting to get a girl interested to start learning is not good move. You should have been interested in learning before a girl showed some interest. You cannot learn to pull a girl without any prior training, experience or knowledge, against the clock. I really don’t know what to do. How do I proceed. You go on the date, and talk with her and get to know her. What are… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Lack of interest in the game and process, help!i’m a seduction/cold-approach coach so let’s analyse: You went on dates and you didn’t get a kiss or sex. And rather than keep trying you have made “peace” with the idea of “ok, i guess i don’t really need a girl if i’m not super super interested in her. If i see one then I will approach her until then, i’m not gonna waste time in girls i don’t fully like”. This could be a sophisticated and subtle defence mechanism from your ego. When you don’t achieve the outcome you hoped for, the mind or ego … | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 10:27 PM |
| 7 | Attraction KillersBy subtly establishing the frame that your level of interest is currently at 50%, and that for it to reach 100%, certain conditions must be met. For example: “I feel like there is more to you, than meets the eye, so i thought _let’s find out_” or “you seem cool, but i wanna see if your personality matches your looks”, “I was curious to see if you are as interesting as you look, so I said “_screw it, i’m gonna get to know her_”. So it’s all about conditional interest. You show a bit of curiosity,… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 09:44 PM |
| 6 | Heartbreak does “a load” of damge!Same thing applies | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 06:43 PM |
| 6 | Heartbreak does “a load” of damge!Heartbreak hurts when you fail to understand dating dynamics and male/female psychology. Dating is not about being good enough, it is about the emotions that you or other men can get them to feel. Sometimes you make them feel emotions the work in your favour, and sometimes your behavior causes them to feel emotion that work against you. If she cheats on you, it’s because the other person was capable of turning her on and creating that excitement. This doesn’t mean that the other guy was better i… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Attraction KillersAmbiguity leads to getting friendzone. If your interest isn’t justified then she will have objections, either you are not a high value man and that’s why you are so interested in her for no good reason at all.. Or you are indeed a high-value man, but your interest is superficial so you just want sex, with no hope for her to ever get what she truly wants. So your interest needs to be justified by telling her good reasons as to why, a supposedly high-value man, would be interested in someone like … | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Attraction KillersEven if you have genuine interest in a girl you must explain to her why and give good reasons. You can’t just say “i am really genuinely interested in a girl only because she is so hot and that’s it”. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Can someone help me read the situation? How do I get to the next step?Your main obstacle is yourself. You are acting sexually restrained, and inhibited. Acting too shy, playing it too safe, more focused on avoiding discomfort than on taking the risk to make things sexually tense which is what leads to reward and that inevitably leads to the friendzone when you keep acting like this. Men who play it safe and are focused on avoiding making things with girls uncomfortable get friendzoned/turned down. No risk, no reward. Women favour daring/shameless guys who just do … | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 06:13 PM |
| 38 | Attraction KillersBeing needy, that means acting as if you constantly need her attention, complaining that she doesn’t reply your texts as fast as you want to, double or triple texting her when she is not responding to your previous texts.. Being insecure, that means seeking reassurance that she still likes you, acting ashamed of who you are or your flaws, acting apologetic, clearly pretending to be something you are not just to get her approval or the respect of others, second guessing yourself before trying to … | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 06:07 PM |
| 19 | Attraction KillersNo, acting as if your interest is conditional and needs to be earned by her trying to impress you. In other words, you are only interested a little bit, but not fully sold until she proves to be the type of girl you are interested in. If you are sold on her just because she is your physical type, no matter what she does, no matter if she is dumb or boring, then that’s a problem. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Understanding Christian girls?So “if she believes christian’s girls don’t do x, and she does it she is betraying her christian faith. So there is likely to appear a dissonance or internal conflict there if she has sex with you that she needs to solve at all costs. How to solve it? By shifting the responsibility away from her and reinterpreting christian faith, for example: “_God is all forgiving, therefore he is likely to forgive_”. “He knows your heart, and if you repent sincerely, he will forgive”. “If sex happens, it’s be… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 01:32 AM |
| 3 | How to stop getting hung up on openersIf you are planning to approach women you need to walk up to them having the absolute conviction that you are gonna make their day or that at the very least you are gonna make your own day by daring to approach them. If you don’t have that conviction then you will be looking for signals from them that what you are doing is ok, and at the minimum signal that seems like they are not ok with it even before you try to speak then you will stop yourself. So you need to brainwash yourself into thinking… | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:46 PM |
| 1 | I need advice about approachingAs a cold approach/seduction coach i can tell you that cold approaching requires technique, it isn’t something a noob does and gets sex immediately without knowing what he is doing. For instance most noobs at cold approaching just have 1-2 minute interrogations and then ask for the number once they run out of questions. That’s not how cold approach is supposed to be done, and it leads to 99/100% failure rate. (By failure I mean failure to have sex. As you only get numbers that lead nowhere) My c… | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:41 PM |
| 11 | Went to vegas andThe point of a cold approach is not really to get a number when she has done nothing to earn it. Doing so makes them think that you either just want sex, leading to lots of rejections or flakes, or that you are not high value. So number closing would not really have lead anywhere in this case even if you went for it, because the interactions weren’t solid. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Getting a fwb through cold approach?I can’t help guys who always blame their results with women on external factors, because in my experience those guys don’t genuinely want help, they just want to argue and prove themselves right so they don’t have to face the uncomfortable reality that the way they do things is flawed. As a result, those guys always get upset when someone challenges the excuses they’ve made for their failures, instead of being humble, open to feedback, and working to improve their situation. Because when you bel… | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 03:10 PM |
| 4 | Approaching when no signals are given?That’s because you also need to get them to laugh or feel intrigue to get them to put their guard down. You cannot cherry pick one technique, while forgetting other important parts of the seduction process too. If a woman sees herself as above you, you are likely in an environment where supply and demand is in her favour, such as night club. This can get them to have their guards up about guys hitting on them, specially those who don’t look presentable. When a woman there sees a guy approach in … | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 02:16 PM |
| 5 | Approaching when no signals are given?By subtly establishing the frame that your level of interest is currently at 50%, and that for it to reach 100%, certain conditions must be met. For example: “I feel like there is more to you, than meets the eye, so i thought _let’s find out_” or “you seem cool, but i wanna see if your personality matches your looks”, “I was curious to see if you are as interesting as you look, so I said “_screw it, i’m gonna get to know her_”. So it’s all about conditional interest. You show a bit of curiosity,… | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 01:54 PM |
| 9 | Approaching when no signals are given?Yes, i never get signals from women so i just approach them anyways respectfully. You can do anything without signals as long as you are respectful and don’t make them confused about why you are talking to them. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 03:23 AM |
| 4 | Handling The Psychology of RejectionAs a seduction/cold approach coach i can explain why this happened: You probably couldn’t do it because since you were in a library your anxiety kicked in telling you: “_If she rejects you in such a quiet environment, there is a high chance everyone here will take notice, and you will either be embarrassed, as everybody looks down on you, or reprimanded if she complains_”. Your anxiety knew this negative outcome was likely to happen and, as such, protected you from those negative social outcomes… | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 01:09 AM |
| 17 | Getting rejected by 200+ women in a row... now what?You got into game but have you actually learned any actual game techniques? Any actual procedure in your interactions? Any sexualisation techniques? Have you learned how to qualify? I don’t think you do, but if you have feel free to explain how you do exactly with examples each of the things i mention. If you can’t be specific i’ll just assume you haven’t learned. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 11:02 PM |
| 18 | Are Flirty Baristas Always Just Trying To Get Tips?Look at it this way, if the only women that flirt with you are baristas or if from all the women that you meet baristas flirt significantly way more with you on average than women doing any other type of profession that has nothing to do with customer service, then they are most likely just trying to get nice tips. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 10:54 PM |
| 25 | Getting a fwb through cold approach?Cold approach requires technique, it isn’t something a noob does and gets sex immediately without knowing what he is doing. For instance most noobs at cold approaching just have 1-2 minute interrogations and then ask for the number once they run out of questions. That’s not how cold approach is supposed to be done, and it leads to 99/100% failure rate. (By failure I mean failure to have sex. As you only get numbers that lead nowhere) My checklists to get kiss closes and same day lays in cold app… | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 03:35 AM |
| 1 | who do you think is better at seduction? a salesperson or a lawyer?An investor is better at seduction because he holds the right frame as he is deciding who is good enough for him to invest. He is genuinely the catch, every one is trying to persuade him to invest in them. He has the resources, the money, the value and as such he won’t give it away to any random girl who doesn’t prove her worth to him. Only those who truly deserve his investment will be picked by him and the girls will abide by his terms because he holds the value. The sales person holds the wro… | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?The connection for women has to do with how they feel around you. Attraction for women is also an emotional experience, more than a physical one. The so-called threshold of looks is extreme low, because the vast majority of men are not even close to looking like Henry Cavill. They are all quite average and don’t stand out in any way from the crowd. And even when you pass the super low threshold that the vast majority can pass with most women they will ever speak to that still doesn’t mean she is… | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?Women’s behavior is driven by how you make them feel. Looks is just the cherry on top. If you don’t care about connection, there won’t be sex on the first date and there won’t be a second date. | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?As long as I find them physically attractive and get on with them, then I don’t really care about the rest. Unfortunately, that mindset is what causes poor results with women. Why? Because women are people, not objects. And sex for women is more of an emotional act than a physical one. | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 08:30 PM |
| 2 | InsecureI'm a daygame/seduction coach, let's analyse your situation here: - I would not live up to the expectations they created in their head. The good news is that you don't need to live up at all to their expectations to get girls to like you. In fact, attempting to live up to their expectations lowers their perception of your value because you lose your frame. A high value man does not need to try to live up to the expectations of any girl. Only low value guys try to do that, which is why they fail … | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 07:14 PM |
| 14 | How do I stop being a pu**y?I’m a pickup/seduction coach let me help you here: Someone said women are human beings, but that’s not really the point. The issue you have is that rejection hurts, to some more than others. If a person has traumas or deep insecurities or feels inadequate, the rejection hurts even more. And it’s not as simple as saying “_the worst she can say it’s no_”, because for one that is not true as there are indeed worst things a woman can do or say, than getting told no. Those who have gotten rejected ma… | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 05:46 PM |
| 39 | 30 year old virgin that struggles with women, advice?You are like this because you have learned to follow social norms at an almost instinct level, you are too respectful, too deliberate, too restraint, sexually repressed, too cautious, too polite, too timid, too afraid and anxious of things going wrong if you make a daring move, too much of a risk avoider, too neutral, too diplomatic, too much in your comfort zone, too generic, too emotionally repressed, too asexual,… The amount of work you need to do to fix your inner game is gonna take hard wor… | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 04:55 AM |
| 2 | I'd love some adviceDo you honestly expect women to say “hey handsome” as a response to “hey cutie”? Imagine thinking “hey cutie” is somehow not as boring as “hey how are you doing”. The reason you won’t get results is because you really don’t know why you are even talking to them and all you are thinking is “what magical phrase can i say that will convince her to meet me and have sex with me as soon as possible”, and that mindset already means you will never succeed before the conversation even begins. It’s so obv… | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 04:45 AM |
| 32 | How long should the conversation be before asking for the number?The problem is that when you go immediately for the number you did not actually seduced her or connect with her in person, so as a result she is not really interested in you. Talking to women for the sole purpose of getting her number as soon as possible leads to really poor success rate. If you want dates and sex from cold approach, you need to focus on creating a solid connection in person before you get her number. Contrary to what some clueless guys think, talking for longer time in the appr… | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?Emotional connection is about having a certain complicity or rapport between you and her, that you empathize with her, make her feel identified with you, have parallel feelings, being in sync with her, anticipating what she is about to say because you just understand each other so well, finishing each others sentences, show her that you understand how she feels in a given situation, that there is mutual understanding and that as such you two are in the same wavelength. They are not interested in… | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 09:13 PM |
| 4 | cold approach vs friendshipHow do women generally perceive cold approaches? Depends on how the individual performs the cold approach. Do they appreciate the confidence, or do they feel objectified? They appreaciate the confidence if you actually have it, and whether they are objectified or not depends on whether you focus solely on her physical attributes (more likely to feel objectified) or you actually care to get to know her as a person in the approach before getting her number. And do they consider the possibility tha… | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?Oh, it’s very unlikely that she will take the call but you can try. The connection should be built in person. The phone is not really the right medium to create a connection no matter if you text or call her. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?You need to build connection in person in the first approach before you get her number if you want her to go on a date with you. Otherwise you are wasting your time. Texting is not the place to build a connection. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 04:14 PM |
| 9 | Should i always drop straight away low effort conversations?The problem is that while you got her number you did not actually seduced her or connect with her in person, so as a result she is not really interested in you. Talking to women for the sole purpose of getting her number asap leads to really poor success rate. If you want dates and sex from cold approach, you need to focus on creating a solid connection in person before you get her number. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 03:44 PM |
| 17 | I approach 10 people. Now what?“_Hope you can give me the honour…_” Please don’t talk to any woman like she is your highness. You will only make them cringe. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 01:01 AM |
| 5 | If it even comes, at what point can I just say that I really like her?The problem with saying “i don’t want to waste my time, i just want to be real quick and say right away if possible, i want to have sex with her”, is that you fail to understand that for women sex is always an emotional experience, and not just a physical act. If you are on a rush to have sex as nothing more than a physical act you should consider escorts instead since they won’t treat sex as an emotional thing, but rather as a transactional thing. When you recognise that sex is an emotional act… | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 11:19 PM |
| 20 | Feeling kind of depressed after dateOkay, you had a bad date but rather than feeling like you fail, what you should instead tell yourself is that you got experience, because bad experiences also make you more experienced. Now you know what not to do. Rather than thinking i didn’t get what i want, what you should tell yourself is that it simply wasn’t meant to be, because not every girl that we like is a girl that has to like us back, and most importantly, not every girl that we like is actually good for us. As for the “_I think yo… | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 11:01 PM |
| 4 | Student Introduction weekYou can do whatever you want. Opinions of external people are just that opinions. They are subjective, and mostly have to do with their own inadequacies and their own subjective individual sense of morality. The day you start doing not what you want but what other people want you to do, the day you become a slave to social norms and a total NPC. You don’t need to argue with him about this, all you should have said is “did anyone ask?” “Do i look like i care”, and “i don’t care about rules bye” I… | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 06:20 PM |
| 5 | My (22m) girlfriend (23f) girlfriend forgot to text me last night. Advice?What do you hope to happen by telling her “i don’t feel you are as invested as me” even if you make it sound strong? | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Need advice: I'm a great funny intelligent good-looking guy that is actually really great at having fun funny conversations with women - but I rarely think about asking them out and rarely when I do they lose interest.I talk about how i feel personally about the things i do, or how i feel about people i interact with and share personal anecdotes describing how those experiences make me feel and relating it to her, so she feels like she an connect with me. | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 03:17 PM |
| 70 | How Do I Dance With/Potentially Pick Up A Woman At A Concert Without Seeming Creepy?I don’t think hitting on women at concerts or raves is for you because you are too worried about perceptions, consequences,… Men who go to those places, and have success with women there, are not in their head, thinking about what negative consequences could happen if they approach a woman. You are also thinking in ways that adhere too much to social norms, when those environments actually call for the opposite of social norms, which is to adhere to more primal instincts, and make daring, shamel… | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Do you call out your “friend” who hits on a girl you are interested in?If you call him out what do you think happens. He laughs in your face and gaslights you. Sure you can call him out and all but he did what he did because he wanted to and doesn’t give a fuck what you want and even if you call him out doesn’t change the fact that he will always go for what he wants even if you feel that he shouldn’t because you had the goal first. You will eventually recognise that male friends are your main competitors with single women. You will never get them to respect that a… | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 11:04 PM |
| 6 | Do you call out your “friend” who hits on a girl you are interested in?Never tell any guy that you are interested in a girl who isn’t yet your girlfriend or someone you have had sex with. You will always triggering a competitive instinct in some of those guys. A lot of guys enjoy the thrill of chasing the forbidden fruit or stealing someone else’s target girl, cuz it makes them feel like they are the man, it feeds their ego. The good news is that you now know who isn’t actually a real friend, but rather a dude you know that happens to tag along. As for calling him … | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 10:52 PM |
| 12 | Why would she be hot and cold toward me?The problem is not actually what she does, but what you choose to entertain. If you had options, this wouldn’t be an issue but because you are needy then you keep playing into this games. Ironically, when you play into these games you can never win because the woman loses respect for you. And when women don’t respect you, they simply don’t date you or want anything with you. Ironically, you may say so how can I win and that’s the problem, it’s not about winning, it’s about the treatment that you… | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 10:37 PM |
| 7 | Is it a good idea to completely cut off online dating ?The reason why most numbers you collect will fail is because there is no actual connection built during the interaction. It simply is too short and too superficial to make woman feel that is something more than a fleeting event. To truly get the woman to commit to seeing you again you have to make the cold approach interaction more memorable which requires really making her feel laughter, joy and making her feel like you understand her so well despite barely talking to her. Talking about how you… | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 10:08 PM |
| 21 | Is it a good idea to completely cut off online dating ?Whether it’s a good idea or not it’s something that you have to evaluate based on the results that you get. Because the answer is always biased based on how much success each individual has. Someone who gets enough success from dating app will tell you it’s not a good idea, someone who doesn’t get success from it will tell you it’s a waste of time. So that’s something only you can know | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 09:54 PM |
| 19 | Need advice: I'm a great funny intelligent good-looking guy that is actually really great at having fun funny conversations with women - but I rarely think about asking them out and rarely when I do they lose interest.So you talk about the olympics, the food in the grocery shop, the environment, the current weather and then the conversation ends without a number or if you ask for a number they never lead to a date. That’s because the conversation was platonic, impersonal and thus no real connection was build. Women interpret it as a fleeting event rather than a solid foundation towards something romantic or sexual, which is why they let the thing die down. If you want to get women invested the conversation ne… | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 03:38 PM |
| 2 | How do you flirt over text or on social media without coming off as boring or desperate?Tell them how a picture of them makes you feel. That’s what women are interested in. They don’t care that you compliment, instead they care to know what emotional effect they have on you. | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 01:08 PM |
| 40 | Flirty smile when girls walk past youAs a cold approach coach, i can tell you that you have anxiety because you don’t know how to act in a way that will get you a positive response. The opener needs to say what you want and why, for example: “_Hey excuse me, your smile made my day and i thought: “I want to get to know this girl real quick or else i may regret it” Is that cool with you?_” That way, she knows you are interested in getting to know her because you like her, so she can either say sure to allow the conversation to happen… | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Indirect gameIndirect game doesn’t mean you hide your interests, it just means you start with some indirect opener like where is he nearest pharmacy, and then you switch within a minute into revealing your actual intention to get to know her because you liked something about the way she responded. | /r/seduction | 31/08/24 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Bengaluru (bumble date)I don’t think you know how to analyse your interactions or dates with women. First you need to state results without your opinion or judgment or feeling about it. Then once the results are stated with detail, you may give an opinion or judgement. For example:: “conversation was good at restaurant” this is not an objective result, this is a judgment, you are giving the opinion that it went good, when you should instead say what actually happen in the date without syaing if its good or bad. What w… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 11:09 PM |
| 1 | First date helpIt doesn’t matter if you don’t tell them, it’s something they feel. They have a 6th sense for that type of stuff. It’s the social cues you give, the demeanour, the intensity, because when you have a stealthy goal like that believe it or not it shows in the form of rushing and forcing things. Even if you think it’s subtle, it usually is not. Because guys don’t rally are known for being subtle enough and women have way more talent at being subtle than guys, so they easily feel it better when a guy… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 08:25 PM |
| 22 | What questions can I ask girls when approaching?It’s super effective for approaching because the first interaction is the one that matters the most. If you don’t want to approach a 100 girls to get a date. You need to improve the quality of your cold approaches and focus more on building a solid connection, and try to go on instant dates, rather than mass approaching women and asking for numbers right away when you haven’t build any connection at all. And the frame is always the same every time you talk to women. If she doesn’t prove worthy o… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 08:19 PM |
| 85 | What questions can I ask girls when approaching?What is that you need to know form a woman to be interested in her? That’s the mindset you should adopt. What does this woman need to clarify a boy herself for me to be interested in her? That requires you to know what you actually want from a woman beyond her physical appearance. It requires you to have high standards in terms of personality. Is she funny, is she smart, is she engaging, do you share chemistry, does she play along with your games, can she show empathy, is she ambitious, is she a… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 05:51 PM |
| 3 | First date helpAs a coach i can tell you, you are not gonna lock her down mostly because that neediness and outcome dependence leads to self-sabotage, and also because it’s not a legitimate goal even if nobody told you this. The he concept of locking down a girl into a commitment” turns off women and they easily feel it every time a guy does this which isn’t good and is counterproductive. The effect it has on women to hear or feel that a man it’s trying to lock them down, is similar to the feeling guys get whe… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 05:40 PM |
| 1 | How to have same confidence regularly as I do at the bar?When you saw the girl, anxiety kicked in, that’s because your mindset is that’s in a party people are willing to socialise in the elevator she is probably not as willing. This makes you feel like if you did that you would maybe be bothering her or upsetting her, as if she did not asked to be hit on and that she is busy. You feel it’s inappropriate to tell her something or that she will react badly, so you need to think how can I make this more respectful and more welcomed by her? That is by a te… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Any tips on how to Become the Confident, Social Guy Everyone Wants to Be Around at School? This can lead to seductionYou’ll probably need to study pick up books and social skills on how to be smooth, how to practice, how to be funny,… as well as studying your own mind, your mindset, research about self-esteem, self-compassion, self-acceptance, how your ego sabotages you, how anxiety works… It’s not a fast process, will probably take years to do it on your own. | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Any tips on how to Become the Confident, Social Guy Everyone Wants to Be Around at School? This can lead to seductionAs a coach I can tell you that you cannot fake it because you have insecurities that girls and other people will easily test you on, for example what if girls in your school say: Isn’t it weird that you talk to us? Sorry i don’t go out with guys like you. You are not my type. Ew, not interested In your dreams buddy. Have you seen yourself in the mirror? You are such a weirdo These are typical things girls in a a school could say to you, putting social pressure as everyone will evaluate your reac… | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Did I miss the opportunity?Your sister might be misreading the situation. If she is your friend, it's unlikely she wants to kiss you and instead just wants support. Watching a movie for a second time is not really relevant because people sometimes like to watch movies they enjoyed more than once. Also a kiss without the lead up to it such as in this case is highly unlikely to happen. A kiss requires romantic direct sweet talk with her which was missing here. So your sister is interpreting things usign her own imagination … | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Approaching someone who seems interestedI'm a daygame/cold approach coach, so let's see: I don't know how to just go up to women with the intention of getting a date/phone number. Don't go for numbers. That's what every guy does with little to no success because getting a number is overrated and 99% of the time it goes nowhere. You don't wanna approach women to collect numbers, you wanna approach to go on instant dates, escalate physically the same day and even sleep with her on the same day. A lot of women are down for spontaneous ad… | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 09:08 PM |
| 4 | Where should i go practice game that has a steady flow of women my age ?Ok, i think the reason you assume there is gonna be a bad reaction if you go to a campus just to approach women is because if the women know that you are only there to hit on any women as your only and primary purpose, then they are gonna feel unsettled and objectified. And this can potentially offend many of them as it can make them feel that you are looking for a low-hanging fruit or are trying to hunt prey, rather than being genuinely interested in an specific individual. This is something th… | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Where should i go practice game that has a steady flow of women my age ?Sure, but if you have no idea how they would react, then why do you assume that it could maybe be a bad reaction, exactly? | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 01:05 AM |
| 13 | Where should i go practice game that has a steady flow of women my age ?A person is weird when they believe they are gonna be perceived as weird. And that fear to be perceived as weird has to do with your anxiety warning you that “x action” might not be the best idea due to the negative consequences the action could cause. So why do you feel it would be weird exactly if you visited then? | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 12:57 AM |
| 1 | How important openers are?Your openers are needy when you imply that you need to prove your worth or that you hope she gives you. a chance to prove yourself. Needy openers: “I’m not sure if a girl as pretty as you would talk to someone like me, but i had to try” This is needy and shows your insecurity, it puts her on a massive pedestal and puts you as an inferior right away. The reason for that is not because you compliment her but because you doubt she would talk to you because you believe you are not on her equal level… | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Would this have been weird?As a seduction coach, I can tell you that the reason it would be weird is not because of the approach itself but your inner mindset. Because you believe you could be perceived as predatory, your behavior if you would have tried would have been negative, and weird. You would have been nervous, you would have been trying to make it look like you are not nervous without much success, you would feel kinda anxious, and she will see all those symptoms in your approach, which would make her feel unsett… | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 12:23 AM |
| 166 | Tips on getting someone out of your leagueAs a daygame/seduction coach, if you believe in leagues you are not gonna get them. Leagues are imaginary and self-imposed limiting beliefs. The fact that you are worried about “success rate” is also problematic in itself and counterproductive to your goal. Because rather than focusing on forming an authentic connection, which is what makes it possible to get laid with anyone regardless of how physically attractive they are, instead you are reducing women to mere goals or achievements… As if the… | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?I already responded to that. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Like i said if you have game, you don’t have to worry about that because you will be able to get her emotionally invested. If you don’t have game, then it doesn’t matter anything you say because she won’t be interested. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?The opener is kinda mediocre due to how generic it is, but despite that if you had game, you could get her to be emotionally invested in you. Only if you had game though. Because talking for the sake of talking in generic ways is not the same as having game or rizz in your conversation. In other words, it’s not about prolonging the conversation to add generic filler, but instead to make sure that your conversation makes her feel emotionally invested before you ask for her number. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?As a daygame cold approach coach, I can tell you that no. It doesn’t build any instant attraction to give her any compliment, but specially when the compliment is also so generic. Attraction isn’t built by congratulating her for having good looks or in this case noticing that she has good looks, “Hey you are cute” just makes her think “Yes i know”. What your friend is assuming is that you have to be her type right away and that being her type is enough to escalate all the way to sex no matter wh… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 03:58 PM |
| 1 | How to make online chatting more fun and interesting:You should worry more about being fun and interesting in person because if you get her number in person within actually having much of a conversation then texting her will lead nowhere. Before you ask a girl for her number you should spend 10 minutes talking to her and being fun and interesting during those 10 minutes and only then get her number. But instead you made the mistake of going straight to her told her a compliment and got her number immediately all within a minute or so, so now there… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 01:08 PM |
| 1 | VibeYes being absolutely confident in yourself, confident in what you do and say, and comfortable in your own skin, is very important. But it’s easier said than done. What happens if you are cheerful and approach her like “hey girls i think you are really cute what’s your name” and the first thing she responds is one of the following: “Isn’t it weird that you are approaching strangers on the street?” “Do you do this often? I mean it’s kinda weird?” “Are you hitting on me? 😒” “Do you say that to ever… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Blown DateTake the lesson, if you need a girl to validate you (in the form of sleeping with you or any other form of validation) to feel confident about yourself you will lose her. You cannot salvage this because she is experienced enough to know guys like you’d When a woman senses weakness, uncertainty, insecurity, lack of self-esteem, anxiety driven behavior, they can’t help but be turned off. The reality is you are not ready to handle a woman like her, it’s like you are her kid to her, hence why she sa… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Long game at the clubGirls in clubs are not really into the idea of meeting up again a guy they met at a club unless they slept with him that same night and even then they still may not be into seeing him after having sex due to feeling “ashamed” (Recall the walk of shame). The reality is women in clubs just want to have fun and then forget what happened that night. They will give the number to most guys who ask regardless of the interest, because giving a number does not mean they are committing to anything, it’s j… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 12:20 PM |
| 2 | How to overcome approach anxiety?Anxiety just wants you to be ready for catastrophic outcomes that may or may not happen. Anxiety will only relax if she feels that you have under control those negative outcomes. So what you do is just that, get ready. Potential bad outcomes anxiety predicts: The woman may say it’s weird to cold approach strangers in the street. If you do something you need to own it, and if she questions what you do, you need to show absolute confidence that you are sure of what you are doing and never being ap… | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 11:33 PM |
| 12 | How could I get women to send me nudesYou need to stimulate their imagination telling them things that will get them sexually turned on. So get her to imagine sexy/erotic scenarios. For that you need to dominate narrating with descriptive detail the things you imagine doing to her and how she would feel exactly. | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 08:56 PM |
| 2 | "Just be yourself"Plenty of people died without ever overcoming their anxiety. So it’s not incorrect. Just because it work for you does not mean it works for everyone else. | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 06:35 PM |
| 1 | I feel my game has been trash with my GF lately; how do I fix this?“_It’s bullshit, don’t listen to him_” said the random user. Also the user: “_I won’t give good arguments or any argument at all, on why is bullshit. Just ignore the overwhelming majority of guys who agree with him and just listen to me and trust me blindly for no reason, bro_”. | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 06:33 PM |
| 21 | I feel my game has been trash with my GF lately; how do I fix this?I’ve been having pretty bad depression lately and I confided in my girl Big mistake. 90% of men can tell you how showing vulnerability like this is counterproductive. Women can’t handle it, even if they say they want men to be vulnerable. Women don’t tend to respond well to a man showing this type of weakness. and I feel ever since she’s been pulling back and has been acting a lot less interested and affectionate. Well, i’m not surprised for the reasons i already expressed above before i read th… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Shoot my shot on her igHe has the instagram, so there is no need to involve others. I will never recommend people to involve others. I don’t believe other people should speak in someone else’s name. Specially adults. | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Not sure how to start tinder conversationYou don’t wanna say that other guys are your rival because that puts you in a frame where you are trying to prove your worth to her or make sure she likes you more than others l, rather than the correct frame which is to evaluate whether she is good enough for you and to see if you like her enough beyond her looks. Humour is conveyed with absurdity, exaggeration, double meaning, misinterpretation, and playful non serious cockiness. You could tell her: “_You and me look so good, that we would mak… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Shoot my shot on her igPersonally I don’t believe using mediators or intermediaries for establishing a romantic relationships is a good idea. That sounds like something teenagers do when they are in secondary school because they are all shy and scared. If there is one thing women prefer is discretion, and involving friends is a recipe for gossip and misunderstandings, as well as placing a responsibility on someone who has no stake in the relationship. That complicates things because they cannot convey the nuances of e… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 05:04 PM |
| 5 | Advice needed to win a bet 18MSure buddy. If you have then you don’t need any help to do this mature thing of “sleeping with women as a bet” | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 04:39 PM |
| -1 | Advice needed to win a bet 18MYou need to grow up first of all, and then you may be able to sleep with women. No offence. | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 04:31 PM |
| 0 | "Just be yourself"I’m glad you got rid of your anxiety, but unfortunately for many people this is not going to work for them. It may work for some, just some, but for others this only makes them feel helpless and waiting for a miracle like yours to happen to them. A miracle that will likely not happen. | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Shoot my shot on her igI had wanted to ask you before I left but I fumbled tbh lol" That part is not good. It shows you hesitated which is not good for girls to realize. If you wanted to do it and did not do it the girl thinks you are not confident. And that you only try to act confidence behind a screen so that's not gonna work very well for you. but was wondering if you’re single cause I want to get to know you better This also is not good because by saying this you are kinda pressuring to make a real quick decision… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Not sure how to start tinder conversationAsking straight away for a date is unlikely to work for the vast majority of guys, because she does not know you (no trust) and she has more matches also asking her the same thing and thus she has to filter because she can't really go out with everyone. She does not know if it will be worth meeitng up with you specifically, she does not know if you are someone she can feel safe with or feel comfortable with. She also does have more options so she is far more likely to be more picky and evaluate … | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Stood up on a date. Not sure where to go from here.Do you think you deserve this? If not then you know that the next step is to block her and move on to other girls. Now if you are needy low value guy with no self-respect ,you’ll probably only listen to those people who tell you to give her a second chance. If you did this to a high value woman she would never give you a second chance, no matter how sorry you are, no matter how much you promise to make it up to her. That’s because she knows her worth, respects herself and has options. A woman ca… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 12:54 PM |
| 22 | "Just be yourself"Being yourself is difficult because most people have fears, anxieties, flawed beliefs, and social norms which makes it hard to truly being themselves. You cannot be yourself if you have tremendous social anxiety for example because you cannot tell yourself to “stop having” social anxiety just like that. You also cannot be yourself if you have learned social norms that are very limiting, and which cause conflict between the way you want to act, and the way society dictates you should act. You can… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 11:52 AM |
| 5 | Is it more beneficial to be serious?There is no “better” approach. You need to focus on the basics, and then adapt game to your personality. It’s tempting to think that there is an objective best attitude to have when interacting with women, either serious or light hearted. But everyone’s got their style which can work perfectly and at the end of the day it’s the fundamentals of seduction that make your success, not superficial qualities like being serious or lighthearted. It’s all about generating emotions and both ways can be us… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 11:43 AM |
| 3 | How to stop being so fixated on my looks?You have emotional baggage and unfixed traumas that make your coping mechanisms super toxic and unsustainable. I hope I can become attractive to the point where I don't have to approach (approach anxiety). This stuff for example is not actually a legitimate or healthy goal or wish to have. Wanting to be "so attractive" so that you never have to approach because you are scared of rejection and potential bad reactions to your approaches is not legitimate or healthy. It shows that you have self-dev… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 12:21 AM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong?You keep looking for eye contact from women, but if you had confidence you would simply not need any eye contact at all to approach them and talk to them in a fun playful way. You would not need any indicator that the woman wants you to approach, you would simply approach even if there is no signal at all and she never even noticed yoru existence. Because you would simply know that the way to make women notice your existence is by approaching and starting conversations and you would know that wh… | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 12:19 AM |
| 12 | How much of dating is really a choice?Books mention this theme of “choosing” the right partners or relationships, as if that’s a given undeniable truth that we have the power to do so. But is it really? Well, last time i check nobody put a gun in my head to force me to become the partner of someone i did not actually like or who was not right for me, and i don't think anybody put a gun to your head to force you to be in a romantic relationship with someone who was not right for you. It seems like it really isn’t much of a choice to … | /r/seduction | 26/08/24 12:04 AM |
| 53 | Girl flakes but apologised and asked to reschedule. What to do?I don't think you understand my point yet. Are you actually worried that someone who disrespected you thinks her disrespect bothered you and that somehow being bothered by her disrespect makes you a loser? No, what would make you a loser in her eyes is if you actually planned on giving her another chance despite her disrespect. Because itwould teach her that there are no consequences to her bad behaviour, that she can easily get away with it and that she can walk all over you anytime because you… | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 07:13 PM |
| 82 | Girl flakes but apologised and asked to reschedule. What to do?You don’t reschedule. She showed she has no respect for you or your time. If you did that to a high value woman, the woman would not give you another chance. Only a needy low value person who thinks they deserve that type of treatment would still be interested. Leave her on read and Move on. | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 06:37 PM |
| 33 | Why do i sometimes get asked if im gay?Her: Are you gay You: “Was, but after meeting you i think you just cured me” | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 06:33 PM |
| 4 | Still don't know how to start conversations with womenThis is step by step what i do: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. Example: “Hey just one second real quick, the thing is I saw you and i gotta say i love your unique style, and i thought man, i really want to try to get to know her real quick before i go and regret it, if that’s cool with you 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal t… | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Attraction to New Joined Senior but getting friend-zoned;Some of my other friends in office think that there is something between me and her or its becoming obvious to others that I like her, even after denying it to everyone. This attitude right here is the reason why you get friendzoned and will continue to get friendzone by every woman you are interested in, in the future. The idea that you have to deny that you have to hide that you should keep it a secret, shows you are not actually upfront about your intentions and that’s what makes the woman ma… | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls ask for number/Smap and not contact?That’s because you don’t know how to ask for consent in a way that’s attractive for the occasion. I for example tell women things like “I am trying so hard not to kiss you right now”, rather than “can i kiss you right now?” because the first phrase is more like a flirtatious statement and gives her a feeling of control of what happens next in a smooth non direct way, whereas the other seems approval seeking and overly formal and clunky. Asking for consent in a way that’s smooth and romantic is a… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 11:21 PM |
| 2 | On a losing streak. How to keep motivation?Because more often than not, guy’s don’t know how to be smooth, how to escalate, how to make them feel favourable emotions that work in their favour, how to make them feel sexual tension, they don’t know how to go for a kiss in the date, they don’t know how to connect with her on a deep emotional level, they don’t know how to flirt, they don’t know how and when to touch her in a way that gets them turned on during the date, they can’t tell the difference between women giving them attention for v… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls ask for number/Smap and not contact?That’s why you need to get their consent. It’s extremely unlikely that a woman will say you harassed her if you actually got her consent. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Is age a limiting factor as a man?Your “flaws” are only a limiting factor, if you act ashamed/defensive/apologetic about those “flaws”. I put flaws in brackets because acting like your current attributes (age, physique, sex, height… etc), are a flaw, can actually make the woman feel turned off, not because of the atribuye being a flaw but because you feel that it should be a flaw and are acting like it. Women only respect men who own who they are, who accept themselves as they are, who don’t apologise for who they are, and who a… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Are these words good to use during day game when opening with a girl?Tell her what you like about her look specifically, it’s less generic and thus will be received better. And replace “I want to find out more about you” with “and that’s why I want to get to know you”, also add “is that cool with you” before you say what’s your name, because it’s more respectful to women and it works better because by saying that last part you are giving her a sense of control which is important. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Long time friends but want moreYou don’t move beyond the friendzone by giving her a gift no matter how incredible and well thought out the gift is. You cannot bribe women into being interested in romance. Gifts are not relevant at all in the seduction process, and if anything they are usually counterproductive. Your mistake is also thinking you go from friends to romance by asking her or by communicating your interest in transitioning from a platonic dynamic to a romantic dynamic. This is not how these things work, not even c… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 09:10 PM |
| 2 | I Constantly Get Rejected (Cold Approach)Read books on how to pick up girls. There is Models and also Mystery Method for example and they will open your eyes into a whole world of pick up skills, flirting skills, rizz, how to act and everything. Giving you tons of tricks and techniques you can use to attract women. That's how you can learn basics to improve your chances with women. Your problem is assuming that cold approach does not require skills. It does, and you don't have those skills. You are just approaching her without any skil… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Is it only me that it all seems too complicated?You need to study pick up books, because practicing wthout any guidelines, is like trying to lern how to drive in the highways and streets without having any clue on the traffic rules, what the signs mean, etc. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach and bad luckRead books on how to pick up girls. There is Models and also Mystery Method for example and they will open your eyes into a whole world of pick up skills, flirting skills, rizz, how to act and everything. Giving you tons of tricks and techniques you can use to attract women. That's how you can learn basics to improve your chances with women. Your problem is assuming that cold approach does not require skills. It does, and you don't have those skills. You are just approaching her without any skil… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:13 PM |
| 0 | How get a long term gf ?Read books on how to pick up girls. There is Models and also Mystery Method for example and they will open your eyes into a whole world of pick up skills, flirting skills, rizz, how to act and everything. Giving you tons of tricks and techniques you can use to attract women. That's how you can learn basics to improve your chances with women. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:12 PM |
| 1 | I literally cant talk with girls and I need helpRead books on how to pick up girls. There is Models and also Mystery Method for example and they will open your eyes into a whole world of pick up skills, flirting skills, rizz, how to act and everything. Giving you tons of tricks and techniques you can use to attract women. That's how you can learn basics to improve your chances with women. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:10 PM |
| 2 | On a losing streak. How to keep motivation?Women are not busy. Women tell you they are busy. There is a difference. It means that they are busy for you, and that's just a variation of "It's not you, it's me" excuse which is used to turn down guys. Same goes for "I am seeing other guy". It's just another excuse to turn you down without having to say "Dude i don't like you, stop trying." Women are polite like that, that's why you don't understand and why you say "Why string me alone? why do they say they have no time for me when she has ti… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Is it only me that it all seems too complicated?The reason it can seem complicated is because you are not good at it on an instict level. You are trying to replicate the behaviours of people who naturally get it. Human behaviour is complex, and trying to replicate behaviours that you don't naturally have is like learning to be a human all over again as if you were just being borned. Take in mind that the current behaviours that you have are the results of years and years of experiences. If you are 18, it has taken you 18 years to learn all th… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 07:00 PM |
| 4 | Why do girls ask for number/Smap and not contact?Girls in clubs are not really into the idea of meeting up again a guy they met at a club unless they slept with him that same night and even then they still may not be into seeing him after having sex due to feeling "ashamed" (Recall the walk of shame). The reality is women in clubs just want to have fun and then forget what happened that night. They will give the number to most guys who ask regardless of the interest, because giving a number does not mean they are committing to anything, it's j… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 06:43 PM |
| 70 | If most women look away immediately as soon as you lock eyes with them, is this is good indicator that you're ugly? (NO COPE ALLOWED)Most people tend to avoid eye contact with strangers because it’s not socially acceptable to stare at someone and most people tend to be shy and self-conscious when someone looks at their eyes. The reality is that people don’t usually look at someone directly, if they want to look they tend to prefer doing it when the person they look at isn’t noticing, and that is even more true for women who like to be way more subtle than men. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 12:24 AM |
| 1 | How to meet more Women generellyFind a place to live in a city from your country that has way more population than 2000 people. | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 02:30 PM |
| 2 | I make artistic portraits of girls I date and especially like and post on IG. Creepy hobby?Creepiness usually has to do when you do things without the informed consent of the other person. If you post pictures of women without informed permission, it’s creepy. If you have their informed permission, it’s fine. You are hinting that because they are women you dated, that could make it creepy or weird. In that case, what could be perceived as creepy by the women you dated is not disclosing to them, the fact that most of those pictures are from women you dated when you ask them if you can … | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Worst day of my lifeLook at the bright side: It’s only your worst day of your life until now. One day, you’ll have so much worst days that you’ll wish you could back to the time where this was your worst day. Those “future worst days” will be so so shit, that looking back at this thing will make you think you were absolutely overreacting and being dumb over pretty much nothing. Cuz really all you are whining that women don’t approach you to talk to you (which is normal for 99% of guys) and comparing yourself to oth… | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on mode one/direct game?I prefer not getting rejected 100% of the time and instead get laid here and there. But i guess everyone’s got their own priorities. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Date with an amazing girl and need for some advice to not ruin itYeah, expected. Like i said you and her are not in the same wavelength. So now she brings the friendzone speech. There is not much you can do other than to distance yourself and improving and showing off your life on whatsapp stories and meeting new women to practice. Next time don’t be visibly enthusiastic no matter how good the date is. It’s always better to keep her guessing hi you actually feel than giving absolute unquestionable 100% confidence that you are sold on her. If you are tempted t… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 09:50 PM |
| 14 | How to keep conversation goingWomen connect by sharing how you feel about things. So you can talk about anything really as long as you make it about how any thing makes you feel. Raged, triggered, amazed, surprised, joyful, ashamed, resentful, frustrated, excited, hopeful, bored, disgusted, motivated, hyped, nostalgic, sad, euphoric, intrigued,... etc When you focus on expressing how literally any topic in the world makes you feel you can talk about anything for hours. But then again you need to know how to express feelings … | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Am I being too nice?Making things man to woman and not meaking out on the dates at the very least, means you have not made things man to woman. No kiss, no man to woman vibe. If there was man to woman and you don't go for kiss, it means you warmed up the food, but did not eat it, so the food cool down and now novody wants to eat it. Your problem is going on dates and being stagnated in talking and more talking never escalating to kissing and sex. It's almost like you forget that a date should have kisses and sexy t… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Outer Game Not WorkingConfidence doesn’t come from having/owning things, it comes from self-acceptance, self-compassion, positive and constructive internal dialogue, not comparing yourself to others, building resilience, owning who you are… Not basing you worth on what other people think, not basing your worth on someone else’s approval or lack of approval, not letting someone else’s word define your self-perception, not taking yourself or anybody else so seriously, not taking judgments, results or opinions personal,… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 04:24 PM |
| 4 | 31 year old virgin friend strugglingTell your friend to seek help himself in reddit o wherever, because if he can’t bring himself to seek help, then a “friend” who doesn’t even have a clue himself on how to help, to the point he needs others to help him help him, is certainly not gonna do it. That’s just the blind, who has heard some stuff he doesn’t even know if it works, leading the blind. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on mode one/direct game?Why don’t you just try it? I mean you people are always asking if something works to others instead of just seeing for yourself if it works or if it doesn’t. The vast majority of men i have seen using mode 1 just get brutally rejected. But maybe if you are super handsome it can work for you. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Mixed signals?As a coach i can help. The problem here is that you don’t really know how to make things happen smoothly and organically. You are failing also to construct organically a romantic vibe and instead you are trying to force physical escalations randomly without the build up and momentum required, which is why she is closed off. It’s like you are telling her jokes, and then randomly touching her elbow, arm, shoulder or whatever, she doesn’t show reciprocation and then you pull back, continuing to say… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:27 PM |
| 28 | Everyone says to optimize instagram profile but how?You need to have pictures that show a life that women would want to be part of. A life that makes other people jealous, and feeling like they are missing out. A life that makes other people reflect about their own life and think: “why isn’t my life as good as his?” To do that: show your travels (plane pictures, your standing with your luggage with a suit and sunglasses, cool hotels), the cool locations you are in (famous tourists places, cool skyscrapers, cool pubs, cool swimming pools, nice bea… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:08 PM |
| 8 | What percentage of men actually do cold approach?less than 0.01% | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 01:52 AM |
| 3 | People who are good at cold or warm approach, how did you get better?then get ready for potential rude responses. If you learn how to reduce tension when tension arises then your anxiety is reduced and you don't fear it anymore. Losing weight is not necessary if you own your current weight. The girl will test you on percieve flaws just to see if you are comofrtable in your own skin or not. So if you are fat you need to own being fat rather than acting apologetic and ashamed of yourself. So you need to be ready with potential comebacks that don't sound defensive, … | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Mixed signalsThe way to find out if there is chemistry and mutual interest is by approaching her and hitting on her, not by trying to read her mind or trying to interpret actions that can have arbitrary interpretations depending on each person. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Date with an amazing girl and need for some advice to not ruin itThough, the “thank you for making out, and caressing and for your affection” got received kinda positive from her or at least it seems like that since she acted with a heart emoji. You are confusing validation for attraction. What she did was giving validation, which doesn’t translate to attraction. It’s no different than a woman telling you are such a good boy, you treat me so nice, and then when you suggest dating she is like “nah we are just friends/i only see you as friend” So, do you think … | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 10:56 PM |
| 3 | Date with an amazing girl and need for some advice to not ruin itYou fucked up also with that text where you say “thank you for making out, and caressing and for your affection” That’s really bad thing to say, cuz now it feels like she did you a favour. Reflecting her excitement is not avoid idea you should show slightly less enthusiasm than her. That’s what’s playing it cool is. As for salvaging the situation, i even cringe at that concept “salvaging” or “saving” cuz it hints desperation which is not a right place to be at. The message “I hope everything is … | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 09:40 PM |
| 13 | Date with an amazing girl and need for some advice to not ruin itYou acted over enthusiastic, and kinda needy. You talk to her as if you couldn't believe your luck that she gave you a date and even wanted to kiss you. Too excited reassuring her way too much that you want her no matter what. That this was "amazing", that you can't stop thinking about her. You said that you played it cool, but based on what you told her, you did not play it cool. WHich makes me think your excitement was way too huge if you thought those messages meant you were "playing it cool"… | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 07:09 PM |
| 7 | What do you do if a girl doesn't have time for a date right away?Assume they are not interested and move on. Texting more or less is not gonna change the fact that if a woman says she doesn't have time now, 99% of the time it is just an excuse to not go out with you. They are not just gonna say "i don't have time ever", and they don't wanna say "No" clearly because they feel awkard about it, so they just say "im busy for the next few weeks" hoping you get the hint on your own. That is why you feel like no matter what you do it doesn't work, that if you text t… | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 06:38 PM |
| 12 | How so many people here so good on apps yet have 0 success approach irl. 25MAs a coach i can explain why this can happen: I’ve seen people here writing that they have 0 success approaching women irl yet get tons of girls from apps. This phenomenom can happen because women in dating apps have shown interest in dating someone, whereas women on the street might not necessarly be open to dating. But not only that, cold approaching requires serious skills to get a woman who might not have interested in dating to consider dating you even if she was not really looking for that… | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 04:41 PM |
| 27 | How can i keep her interestedYou keep her interested, by meeting up with her, go in on a date and having sex with her. Not by talking forever with nothing ever happening. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 02:54 AM |
| 1 | issuesAlright so down to the the story, I started talking to this girl, the more I got to know her the more she started prying into personal questions that came off as questions a women who might be interested would ask, This is a common misconception. Guy aren’t usually used to engage in personal conversations with other male friends because they usually d activities to connect and to bond so when a woman shows interests in personal stuff they assume they are indicating a romantic interest. What they… | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Me and her are almost never on the same vibe. Is it all about personal power?That’s called incompatibility. When that happens people with standards and healthy mindset tend to shift their attention to someone who is on their same wavelength. | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Would this be weird?You are all adults. Weirdness is just a subjective individual opinion, not a universal truth shared by everyone in the world. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteedThe real question is “how are you supposed to get get any positive results if you don’t adopt this mindset”. Adopting this mindset is the key towards getting results, meaning that the consequence of adopting the mindset leads to getting results, So it’s not that this mindset will be adopted as a consequence of getting result, but the opposite. The results will come after adopting this mindset and interacting with girls from that place. Adopting the right mindset is a prerequisite for achieving p… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 11:47 PM |
| 3 | Why would she want to talk to me?Because romance and dating isn’t about being better than other men, it’s about connection, chemistry, affinity, and mutual relatability, and compatibility. Any woman you approach could also ask you why you would want to talk with her when there are way more pretty and successful women out there than her? And you would say that you don’t necessarily need better ones, you just one someone you like even if there are better ones, and who likes you back, and they are the same. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 03:58 PM |
| 7 | Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteedIt’s easy when you know what you are doing, based on why you wrote you don’t what you are doing. You say: “It seems like i wasn’t funny or entertaining” this mindset shows that you are approaching women with the intention of being good enough for her. This shows that you don’t know what you are doing because you are seeking women’s approval. Being funny isn’t something you do to get her to like you, being funny is something you do to have fun yourself regardless of whether she finds it funny or … | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 03:20 PM |
| 3 | What’s Going Wrong on First Dates?I sit with the girl on a bench in a big beautiful park with her, with some snacks, and only talk personal or deep stuff with her. That’s it. Very simple and cheap, and eventually we make out on the park and then go back home to seal the deal. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubYou have to speak to her in person and first and tease her and treat her like a bratty girl that you mess with and don’t take seriously at all, for that to happen. It’s a dance you play in person, not over texts. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubWell it’s not really a proposal what you do. That sounds like you want to sell something. And it’s not about that at all. Sex happens by engaging in a personal conversation with a girl, flirting, teasing each other, being playful with each other, and sharing anecdotes and positive emotional experiences with one another in a way that it naturally builds an emotionally arousing connection that makes women turns on, and starts engaging in physical touch with you. You reciprocate the physical touch … | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 12:42 AM |
| 3 | Lots of female friends, no play.I already said how to act sexual in my comment before, and i know i want to sleep with a woman because the reason i would be even considering her for potential marriage is because i am attracted to her and if i am attracted to her then i know i also want to sleep with her. You get to the point to touching women by simply practicing and doing it even if it leads to awkward situations or rejections. You can emulate how other people do it by observing, either observ your friends, or hire a coach th… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Lots of female friends, no play.That''s the thing there is a balance you need to strike between coming on too strong and ocming on too weak. If you don't act at all like you actually would like to have sex with her, then you come on too weak, she thinks you don't desire her and she friendzones you. If you act all the time like a sex maniac then you either come across at best as someone who just wants sex or at worst as a creepy pervert. So you are actually creating a problem for yourself when you try to detach sex as an option… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Anxiety approaching girl in real lifeThe reason you feel anxiety is probably because deep down your anxiety believes that approaching strangers (specially women) for no reason or a valid justification is unwelcome, disrespectful, annoying, socially unacceptable, upsetting, and creepy for women. This is why you get nervous despite your success online. You don’t feel this way on dating apps because your anxiety can rationalise that if women are in a dating app and even match with you, they are ok with being talked to. You have a vali… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 08:52 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being too logicalSo you didn’t care being called stupid which gave you rizz and success with women, but now you care, and as a result nobody thinks you are stupid, but now you are boring and have not rizz with women. Did your situation with women improve after that moment when you decided you couldn’t let people think you are stupid? No. And yet, you are still prioritising how others think of you even though it harms your chances with women. Why is it important for you to make sure nobody thinks you ate stupid? … | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 08:40 PM |
| 7 | What’s Going Wrong on First Dates?A kiss did not happen in the first date. She did not even notice any obvious attempt to kiss her. You never made a move and you only gave her a hug or shook her hands and that’s it. You don’t know the difference between complimenting and flirting. Complimenting is congratulating her for having good attributes or qualities. Flirting is about expressing how muh you desire her. If you say to a girl "you smile is pretty" or "i like your eyes" you are congratulating her or showing appreciation. If yo… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 08:34 PM |
| 46 | Lots of female friends, no play.That’s because you behave in a friendly manner rather than behaving as if you want to fuck with them. You usual way of behaving with girls is safe, non threatening, non sexual, not sexual at all. Your vibe is safe from the beggining rather suggestive with sexual undertones. A girl becomes your friend because she feels as safe as talking with her brother. By the time you try to switch into romance they don’t see you like that. Acting and behaving as if you are sexually turned on by them in a mann… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 08:26 PM |
| 3 | Is this Approach Anxiety? Please helpYes, it is anxiety speaking to you in your head, and you need to listen to it or else anxiety won’t let you approach. Anxiety is only trying to help you avoid fucking things up, she is warning you that she thinks you are simply not ready to handle potentially uncomfortable social situations on the street unless you are with a “wing”. Now why does anxiety think this? Anxiety thinks that supermarkets and malls are places where people generally expect social interactions, even brief ones. There’s a… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 03:33 PM |
| 19 | How does one become less needy and narcissistic?Not sure why you think that being less needy and less narcissistic would have a serious risk of leading to belittling women and demeaning them. Like it makes me think that you don’t understand what being needy and narcissistic is. Being needy refers to those behaviours that stem from being insecure, dependence, and an excessive need for attention or reassurance from the woman. Those behaviours can be: Constantly asking the woman to validate you, to reassure you that she still loves you, or that … | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 02:27 PM |
| 1 | No attractionWell now you know | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 01:32 PM |
| 3 | No attractionBeing handsome is a quality a person has. Someone can objectively be handsome, good looking, and you may still not be attracted to that person. Take a look for example at a family member, maybe your sister is objectively good looking, or you brother or cousin, are good looking, or handsome. But you are still not attracted to them because they are family and you don’t feel any attraction towards them. Attraction is an emotional state, not a quality. When someone feels attracted to you, they are e… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 01:24 PM |
| 3 | What is game?The “game” in seduction is all about the mix of behaviors and subtle moves people use to spark attraction and build romantic or sexual tension. It can involve confidence, playful banter, and a bit of back-and-forth to keep things interesting. Sometimes, it’s about creating mystery or stirring up emotions to draw someone in. Whether it’s the techniques you hear about in pick-up culture or just the natural flow of flirtation, the “game” is all about navigating the chemistry between people and buil… | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 06:34 PM |
| 0 | How to constantly flirtTalking everyday doesn’t make her like you. Because it’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. Mundane constant conversation will do the opposite and make her lose interest because of how dull talking with you feels. You are trying to play the game through texts, from the comfort of your home. You want them to have fun texting you, to keep the spark alive or something from a distance. But you realise that you have nothing to say, so guess what happens? Girls feel that and they get bored. So yo… | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 12:10 PM |
| 18 | Dealing with the boom/bust nature of this thing of oursThe more success you have, the more your ego is fed with validation, which can make you more sensitive than usual when a rejection happens. When a woman likes you, you make the mistake of interpreting that as proof that you are worth and desirable. This is problematic because you are objectifying women as objects or tools for your self-esteem rather than as individuals with their own autonomy, feelings, and preferences. This mindset reduces their complex humanity to a simple validation mechanism… | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Men who couldn't get any women to talk to them to getting women to sleep with you, what changed?Exception to the rule | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 09:57 AM |
| 15 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubWhen a fool takes a path, the path ends, but the fool keeps going | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 06:15 PM |
| 11 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubFalse. Peace | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 06:14 PM |
| 16 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubNot necessarily. Because notevery woman is drunk or on drugs, and not every woman needs to be drunk or on drugs to want to have sex. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 06:12 PM |
| 22 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubNo one said you have to have sex with a drunk woman, and no one said every woman in a club or bar is drunk. That’s just something only you are saying. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Outer game vs inner game?Inner game is everything related to confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, anxiety, fear, neediness, insecurity, limiting beliefs, shyness, jealousy, possessiveness, resilience, emotional stability, neediness,… Outer game is everything related to social skills, flirting, creating connection, triggering emotions, comunicaron style, body language, gestures, teasing, escalating, building trust, rapport and comfort, projecting high value, dressing, self-grooming, being funny and humorous, acting domin… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 06:07 PM |
| 2 | At a loss for wordsI haven’t finished the dialogue cuz it was too much, i’ll finish it later with an update. Here is the update: Anxiety: What do you mean by pain being a temporary feeling? Logic: Much like you have experienced pain in the past and right now you are not feeling the intensity of that painful experience with the same intensity as you did back then. Think of it like building muscle at the gym. WHen you first start lifting weights, it's tough and you feel sore afterward. The pain from the workout is r… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 05:53 PM |
| 98 | Why am I getting ghosted after meeting at bar/clubBecause the bar and clubs are not for getting numbers, they are for escalating as far as possible. In other words, taking her to a bedroom and having sex that same night. What happens in the night stays in the night. It’s super rare for a woman you meet in those places to follow up if sex hasn’t happened. And even when sex has happened it is still not guaranteed she will want to continue seeing you, so imagine how less likely if you haven’t even had sex with her. Women go out at night to have a … | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 05:45 PM |
| 7 | At a loss for wordsYou got anxious. Anxiety: What if i make a move if she turns me down. The whole night will be ruined. Logic: “Dude the point of the night being good is to close the deal, otherwise you only keep a somewhat good memory of a positive night but you don’t actually get what you wanted , and will never see her again” Anxiety: Yeah, but if i make a move, and she doesn’t like it, she will not want to see me again” Logic: "Ok so you are saying, that if you make a move and she doesn’t like it, she will lo… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Would a better car helpIf you can pull girls without objects, you don’t need shinier cars. But it will help to get you more opportunities. However getting more opportunities doesn’t mean the girl is sold instantly. You still have to be smooth and know when and how to escalate and make her feel favorable emotions | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Cold Approaching Women, exchanging Instas with then,then they unfollow me the same day. What is going onIf you cold approach a woman, talk for one minute asking some questions, and then you asks for the number or social media account. The result will always be the same you have described way more often than not. Cold approach purpose is not about getting numbers, or instagram or any contact information. As long as you keep going with the mentality of getting something from the woman, you will approach thousands of women and not get a single date. That’s why many people have terrible success ratios… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 02:13 PM |
| 3 | I’ve never done something so embarrassingYou are acting like a teenager who thinks this is way more dramatic than it actually is. Wait till you are 30 or 40 and then you will see how insignificant and laughable this situation will feel in comparison to the real serious problems you will face at those future ages. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 02:03 PM |
| 20 | Men who couldn't get any women to talk to them to getting women to sleep with you, what changed?You start tallin to many of them. That’s how it works. You grow balls and approach them. Women aren’t the ones who do the approach, it’s the guy who has to initiate everything. That is why you don’t wait for women to approach you or signal that they want you to approach. You simply approach because you are a man who goes after what he wants even when there is no signals of interests at all. That’s how all men who have success do it, by not caring if they get rejected or not and just doing it any… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 02:02 PM |
| 1 | was this girl interested in me to begin with?My success changed when i realised that every girl is either interested or potentially interested until you give her reasons to lose that initial interest they had at the beginning. In this case, the trains you gave her to lose that interest were that rather than being direct in the beggining with your intentions. you decided to act friendly and withhold your intentions for weeks. So by the time you tried to make a move it was already too late. It’s a commun mistake many guys make: ❌First they a… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 01:59 PM |
| 3 | 27M, I have girls phobiaLet’s reframe how you look at the issue. You are not shy, you are simply afraid of facing potential challenging social situations with women because you have not learned yet how to manage them with grace and dignity if those potential social situations end up happening. For example, you are afraid of what would happen if a girl rejects you, how would she reject you? would she be cruel or would she be nice? And if she ends up bring one of the cruel ones, how to handle that with grace in a way whi… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 01:43 PM |
| 3 | First thing to say when approaching girls?Whether they want sex or something more has to do with many more factors that happen after the opener, the opener itself doesn’t determine the entire outcome. | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 11:07 PM |
| 3 | First thing to say when approaching girls?A is better, but don't compliment her on her looks. Cute is a generic compliment, say something more specific, more unique and less superficial and it will improve your odds much better as it won't make her feel like you are saying this same thing to so many other women. Being generic with girls lowers your chances. | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 10:52 PM |
| 18 | How do I let go of my incessant need for “closure”?You need to work on your self-esteem and stop the unfair practice of using women as objects to measure your worth. You have to understand that your worth isn’t determined by what other people think or say of you, but by the values you hold, your integrity, your resilience, your self-respect and your personal growth. No one else can define your worth, but you. And until you don’t understand this, you will continue to look needy and insecure in women’s eyes and thus they win be turn off by that. A… | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 10:07 PM |
| 3 | How to correctly escalate on a girl that clearly likes me but is distant?You have to flirt sexually, invade her personal space a bit, dance with her maybe a little bit turn her around or fun, tell her how hard it is for you nto to kiss her right now, that you are trying to resist, but when she looks at you like that it’s almost impossible, and that if she doesn’t move away now you are just going to do it. If she doesn’t move, stands there without saying anything go for it in no more than 3 seconds. The more you hesitate to take the move the more likely she is to kill… | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 09:05 PM |
| 16 | Age Gap during ClubbingYou are fine. It’s an adult girl showing interest in you. It’s completely legal, and no one will say anything to you because nobody in the club cares about you. They are focused on themselves and their own priorities. | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 03:07 PM |
| 6 | Freshmen at college, I am an idiot who needs helpYou can have sex the same day by expressing verbally you sexual desire from day one you talk to a woman without saying any hint of nervousness, shyness or insecurity and without being apologetic at all, not giving a fuck about the outcome or any consequences . Owning it saying “i said what i said”. Basically by acting like a man who doesn’t care what anybody thinks o any negative judgment rather than acting like scared kid afraid of being judged or being reprimanded. Some people have the attitud… | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Not having anything to sayHere is a list of 60 topics to talk about: Dreams Goals Anecdotes Personal Stories Aspirations Feelings Disappointments Surprises Fantasies Achievements Fears Childhood Memories Books, Movies, and Music Hobbies and Interests Travel Experiences Cultural Differences Friendships and Relationships Life Lessons Learned Personal Growth Overcoming Challenges Passions and Talents Embarrassing Moments Advice You’ve Been Given Moral Dilemmas Life-Changing Events Regrets and What-Ifs Social and World Issue… | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 11:29 PM |
| 22 | When asking a girl out and another guy joins too?That’s the point, you need to enforce boundaries. Make it clear that you agree to go take a coffee with her just the two of you. If she says he can come too, then you walk away like i said before. If she wants to have a chance with you, it will have to be on your terms or else you quit the negotiation You don’t stay and force yourself to include someone else. you don’t have to be friends with him, you don’t have to meet someone that you don’t want to meet just because you want to spend time with… | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 09:42 PM |
| 46 | When asking a girl out and another guy joins too?You haven’t even tried it and you are already reaching conclusions. Also it’s not about whether it works. If she wants the guy to join, she will let him join. It’s about you filtering girls who are genuinely interested from those who just want to waste your time. Like i said if you are not willing to walk away, when she doesn’t respect your boundaries, she won’t respect you. So it works | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 09:33 PM |
| 105 | When asking a girl out and another guy joins too?I told her I was ready, we left together but this guy came too. Since he was nice and social she tolerated that he was just invited himself but I wasn’t enjoying it because I knew he wasn’t interested in me, only in the girl I was with. You need to learn to be assertive in a polite manne even if it leads to tension. You should have said: “Hey man, we’d like some privacy. It was nice meeting you, but we’d prefer some time alone now. Thanks for understanding.” If the girl somehow said, it’s ok he … | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 09:21 PM |
| 5 | First “Cold” Approach… What did I do wrong?What you did wrong is that you did not really make clear your actual intentions, to hit on her, and ask her out on a date. You came across as a friendly guy who wants to become friends first by doing friendly things together without indicating your ultimate goal which is to date her. So that’s the main problem, lack of direction which recen if she agreed to see you on the gym would inevitably lead to the friendzone. In order to get girls, you need to stop hiding from girls your desire and the fa… | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Should I approach her again?I mean all you are looking is for someone to tell you yes do it. The point is you can keep trying forever and still get the exact same result. Women don’t give signals to strangers in random places where they don’t seriously expect to be approached because the situation doesn’t invite for it. But men are always ready to interpret anything as a signal even when there is no signal at all. | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 05:03 PM |
| 7 | What could you say to a girl about her ex so she opens up and you get closer?Do you have to ask her questions No, you need to change topics and stop acting like her shoulder to cry on or her therapist. That’s msiter nice guy behavior and leads to the friendzone. Getting closer to a girl = being friendzoned. It doesn’t get you to a romantic relationship. and say stuff like Oh he’s such a jerk No, because when a girl complains about a guy they date, there is a dissonance between what they say and what they respond to. They criticise the things they are attracted to. If any… | /r/seduction | 14/08/24 12:46 AM |
| 7 | How to change the mood? Am I even asking the right question?By flirting sexually, telling that your heart is beating so fast when she looks at you like that, or that you have trouble concentrating because of her smile, or that you find her mannerisms or attitude sexy, or that you are trying so hard not to kiss her right now, or that you are having trouble controlling yourself because of how attractive you are finding her right now. Biting your lips suggestively, acting as if you are turned on any her and desire her. Acting with your body language like yo… | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 09:55 PM |
| 9 | 'Daygame only works in capital tourist places'Again daygame itself is just a name given to someone who socialises with new people in an attempt to see if they connect. It’s not a trick to seduce women, it’s not something that you do because women will see that you have balls to approach and as a result of having balls to approach they will like you. Instead daygame is just a tool to see if you connect with someone. A connection doesn’t depend on the method you use to speak to someone, it depends on whether there is chemistry, similar vibes,… | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 09:48 PM |
| 14 | 'Daygame only works in capital tourist places'The way you do daygame only works in capital tourists places. The way other people do daygame can work fine in smaller college towns. If you are a creep at small towns, you are likely also a creep in larger towns but since people are busy and more stressed in larger towns they don’t have time or energy to reprimand you, and just move on, whereas in the slower town, people may scrutinise you mistakes more. But again it all comes down to the way you are doing daygame rather than the act of daygame… | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How do you make a conversation emotional, instead technical?Take in mind that it’s not about negative topics, or self-pity, or depressive stuff or doing a trauma dump on her like she was your therapist. You need to be positive, and generally uplifting and keep traumas for yourself. | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 08:22 PM |
| 13 | How to change the mood? Am I even asking the right question?Your mistakes are: You don’t build sexual tension, your kino is too friendly, ambiguous and safe, rather than romantic and sexually intimate, and you don’t go for a kiss. | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 07:30 PM |
| 2 | How do you make a conversation emotional, instead technical?Start talking about anecdotes, experiences, and feelings. Women connect with others by sharing how they feel about things, and by relating to other people’s experiences. So focus on that. If you are talking bout science and history you are focusing on impersonal stuff, things that don’t reflect who you are, your experiences, your feelings,.… Things like the weather, general news, sports, facts… which don’t allow for a significant connection. So you need to get personal and focus on what i aid, e… | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Struggling to seduceHow do you know they are you are nervous? Give specific examples of situations with women where you are nervous and how you realised that you were nervous. | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 02:37 PM |
| 0 | Asked out girl at dance studioYeah, but she was touching it in a playful way, not in a romantic way. You should have said “i like it when you touch me like that” to see her reaction. I think she was just being friendly. | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 12:44 AM |
| 4 | Asked out girl at dance studioYou spend weeks getting to know her, but em did you build sexual tension? Was she blushing? Was she rolling her hair with a finger while leaning her head slightly looking at you?Was she acting submissive around you? Touching your chest, and your arms playfully? was she biting her lips suggestively? Lack of these things would indicate that while she was coming to you it was fine for firbedly reasons and not for romantic reasons. If she is acting cold when you text her it means her interest is low… | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 11:22 PM |
| 9 | Not having luck with British girls in Greece, advice?Lol. As a guy who has lived both in england and sweden, i can definitely say it’s not a trend. That has been known for so many decades even before the internet existed everyone outside the uk made jokes about british girls being ugly… The average british girl known for being stuck up, short, and fat, are no match for the average scandinavian girl famous for being blond, tall, slim, with blue eyes. When i point out that the most good looking english girl is average in sweden, is because she will … | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 10:36 PM |
| 7 | What to do if someone is competing with you for a girl?Let’s go back to the basics: Who is the prize? A high value man. What’s happening here is that she has options, whereas you don’t or at least you are not acting like you have options. She has options therefore the frame that is being reinforced is that you two have to prove your worth to her. But that’s when the guy is perceived as low value in the eyes of the girl. When the girl perceives the guy as high value, she ignores all the low value options and only tries to impress the high value man s… | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 09:12 PM |
| 26 | Not having luck with British girls in Greece, advice?British girls are among the ugliest in europe, why are you wasting your time with that? Europe has swedish, germans, ukrainian, polish, serbians, spanish ones, danish, norwegian ones, italian ones… and you go for british who are famously known for being ugly and below average. The most good looking british girl is average in a Scandinavian country | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 09:00 PM |
| 8 | What am I doing wrong?If you looked at my life from another’s perspective, you’d probably assume I have lots of sex and that it comes easily for me however that’s not the case at all. I can imagine, because true attraction isn’t based in what you have, but in how you make the woman feel when you talk with her. I have kind of a dark sense of humor so I tend not to stay pretty reserved to begin with since women around here seem to hate that, That’s because dark humor tends to be insensitive, which means you are making … | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 05:23 PM |
| 4 | When is the right time to ask for a date?Yes it’s too early because it can easily kill the momentum. 3 days before the actual date you plan on seeing her is usually a safer choice. Not too late and not too early. So invite her on wednesday. Take in mind that before you ask her out you need to get her in a high mood when you text her, dj that she is more likely to say yes. | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 04:51 PM |
| 11 | Why do I get attention from gay couples but not from girls?Because guys even homosexuals tend to be the ones who are to take the initiative. Gay people specially tend to be much more direct with men even than heterosexual men are with women. Women always tend to be way too subtle or even pretend they are not interested at all. It’s a common phenomenon that women will always prefer the guy to make the moves rather than being the ones themselves who hit on guys. Your lack of success cannot simply be attributed to how you look, but also to the way you beha… | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 10:06 AM |
| 18 | Got ghosted after getting her phone number and exchanging a few innocent textsMaybe you said something that turned her off or something that bored her with how basic your texts were and killed her interest. | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 04:00 AM |
| 5 | Suggestions here please?Her: “I only sleep with guys I’m in a relationship with” You: “I don’t date women who see intimacy as either something transactional or a reward for good behaviour, peace” And next her. Women like this will always make you miserable because rather than being spontaneous, and real, they are setting terms and conditions like it’s some sort of enterprise that is hiring someone. It isn’t based on true romance the relationship, but rather in what they aspire take from you. Not only that, but they ten… | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 02:01 AM |
| 6 | Having very few matches - and can't "convert" them into dates.Your profile is fine, it’s not spectacular but at least you look like a normal dude who doesn’t give any particular wrong vibes, other than. maybe the immense amount of people you follow and specially all the profiles of girls which could give women a red flag. So that’s the only thing i would suggest changing, to reduce the number of people you follow from 2700 to no more than 200-300 max. And maybe removing most selfies and leaving 1-2 max. Quality over quantity. Selfies don’t say anything sig… | /r/seduction | 12/08/24 12:26 AM |
| 7 | Which sunglasses has gotten you most tail ?Seduction doesn't work like this. You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's stil a pig. | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 05:27 PM |
| 6 | HEELP PLEASE! I am 20, and I might have a chance to have it with MILFYou are 20 years old, but your thought process is the same as a teenage kid. This is why women don't typically date younger guys because the guy's immaturity makes them feel like they are his mommy or babysitter, rather than an equal partner. There is no solution here because you can't suddenly grow up, become experience and man up all in less than a month in time to date this woman. It will requires years of experiences and maturity to be at a somewhat equal level to her in maturity to know how… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Girl called me very sweet the day after smash. Not sure how to take it.If she wasn’t into you, she would not have slept with you. What matters is what she does, not what she says. | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:07 PM |
| 35 | I get looks from girls, don't know how to react S.O.S.If you are cold approaching in the street a complete stranger it’s absolutely normal that the weight of the conversation at the beginning will fall on you. If you just said “hi, you look good” then all you get from her is thanks from her, and then you still have to continue talking saying more things. And if you keep saying short sentences like “so what are you doing?, then the girls is thinking what does this guy want, what does he want from me? Why does he care why i am doing? Is he tying to s… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Girl called me very sweet the day after smash. Not sure how to take it.Ring ring, fragile masculinity, is that you? This is why girl don’t compliment guys, because it either inflates the guy’s ego or destroys it completely due to guy’s inner insecurities, so women can’t win. If you start questioning your own masculinity just because a woman tells you sweet, the your issue isn’t the compliment but your shaky foundation of your self-worth. The irony here is that real confidence isn’t built on avoiding compliments or external validation; it’s about being secure enough… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 01:49 PM |
| 1 | How to break through playing hard to get.Hard to get just means you are trying to escalate and they have objections. So what you need to analyse is what might be missing in your interaction. Maybe they feel you try too hard, maybe you feel your interest is only superficial, maybe they feel you are not high value enough, maybe they feel there is no clear direction in the interaction, maybe they thing you are too friendly and supportive, maybe you make them feel like they are easy with your propositions and that you are making them respo… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 12:47 PM |
| 1 | How can you encourage a girl to end things after hooking up, while making sure she feels like she’s in control?For example, has anyone ever intentionally acted clingy or given off “the ick” on purpose to nudge her towards breaking it off? Premise: You are suggesting that women won’t hookup with a guy unless the guy promises them to have a relationship after sex. In my experience i have never needed to promise any girl that i was looking for a relationship, specially when it was that early on. In fact, after sex the opposite happen if i brought up too soon labels and relationships, because they felt rushe… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 12:40 PM |
| 44 | I get looks from girls, don't know how to react S.O.S.It’s not that complicated. All you have to do is walk up to her, and tell her: “_I know this is random, but I was on my way to the store, but i really love your classy style, and I just thought wow i’d love to meet her before I go, is that cool with you?_” and when she says sure, proceed to say what your name is, and talk about what you two are doing, and so on. Its not about trying to read her mind or body language, it’s simply to approach instantly before you even have time to think and asking… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 12:01 PM |
| 3 | How to push yourself in the moment?I like this woman, but since I don’t know if she likes me I will ignore her and being cold while I evaluate my chances here. That’s a way your ego with the help of anxiety starts to prevent you from acting when it’s scared of rejection or bad outcomes I will analyse her behavior and look for signs of interest, by smiling and looking to hold eye contact while smiling and see if she reciprocates, looks at me and smiles back Your anxiety kicks in and wants to evaluate all potential outcomes, specia… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Getting Her Number is AnticlimaxShould have talked to them for 5 mins at least before asking them for an instant date. Asking straight away if they want to take a coffee will usually be a no because you are a complete stranger who may or may not be dangerous and they can’t risk just going with him without first getting to know him in the spot for 5-10 mins. They need to get somewhat comfortable with you for a 5-10 mins to consider an instant date. | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:10 AM |
| 1 | How to improve rapport/first date feedbackShe gave you a window of opportunity to escalate and you refused, this is confusing to her because she gave you a clear indicator of high interest and yet you still kept trying to portray more value with the pull and push when it wasn’t needed. If there is a window to escalate you usually need to take it, (strike when the iron is hot) or else it will get cold eventually. You should now use the opposite of pull and push, a push and pull. For example you could send her an audio: “I kinda hate you … | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 09:29 PM |
| 2 | How to improve rapport/first date feedbackShe feels you are not interested in her. It’s not about more rapport what you need, it’s flirting which wasn’t done well because she did not feel it, and escalating which apparently you refused to do despite the clear invitation from her. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 09:09 PM |
| 6 | Should i cold approach if i am overweight?Would you be able to handle with a witty comeback if a girl mentioned your weight or would you collapse and start being apologetic about your weight? The problem is not your situation, the problem is the woman testing you about your situation, and you not acting in a way that shows absolute confidence with your situation. If you can show and express in a smooth manner absolute confidence with your weight when she brings it up then you can cold approach any woman just fine. But if you will act as… | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | I don't know about you guys but I am sick of wondering how to open!Maybe not you but for many other people it happens more often than not. You just have to see in reddit | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 06:09 PM |
| 1 | I don't know about you guys but I am sick of wondering how to open!Whatever works for you, as someone who has done this with significant success i recommend an opener that gives her clarification of what you want and why | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 06:02 PM |
| 1 | I don't know about you guys but I am sick of wondering how to open!Yes, i say stuff like that because it works. A girl you cold approach is unlikely to invest too much talking in the first stage of the conversation she is just more likely to evaluate you silently letting you talk. It eliminates the confusion because you are letting her known what this interaction is about and why which is what she is trying to figure out ever since you start the conversation. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 05:58 PM |
| 41 | Getting Her Number is AnticlimaxYes, the goal shouldn’t be to get a phone number or her social media profile. The primary goal of any cold approach should be to go on an instant date and escalate as far as you can the same day to try to sleep with her the same day or at the very least kiss. This type of experience is like a fairy tale to a woman because they’ll never forget it and will brag about it to all her female friends. More often than not a phone number is a voluntary obstacle that you put on yourself that makes it less… | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Help me get this girl!!!The wiki on this sub’s menu, and pick up books. There is also google to find those books by turin pick up books | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Help me get this girl!!!Dude you are asking how to learn to seduce girls from scratch. Read pick up books or read the material in the sub’s wiki. You can’t expect to pick up specific girls if you don’t know how to pick up girls in general. It’s like saying hi to win the gold medal when you’ve never played the sport or may not even know how it’s played. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Help me M16 get out of the friend zone!Just because she breaks up with her current boyfriend doesn’t mean you are next in line or even in the line at all. In fact, more often than not, if you are friends you are never an option for her. Telling her that you have feelings for her is also not how you get a woman to date you. It doesn’t work that way. Also when you are friendzone there is no escape. Women only treat you as a a friend when they are not into you. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Help me get this girl!!!Mate, sorry but you are gonna be friendzoned. You can’t expect to get a girl without any successful experience with girls in general. You are asking people to teach you how to get her and in order to learn first you must practice with more girls before you can successfully and confidently get the one you actually like. The fact that you are already friends means you have already put yourself in the friendzone yourself. That’s what you also seem to fail to understand, that you should not be frien… | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Help me M16 get out of the friend zone!Not gonna work | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 02:25 PM |
| 0 | I don't know about you guys but I am sick of wondering how to open!Simple, just say: Hey one thing real quick, the thing is i was on my way, when i saw you and i thought wow, i love the style of this girl as how good she looks with it, so i thought i would referee it if i didn’t get to know you real quick, if that’s cool with you, I’m james” You don’t need an indirect opener, you just need to be clear that you want to get to know her and give her the reason why (her style in this case). If you start indirectly, then there is gonna be bad tension because the gir… | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Underrated problem for babyfaced guysThat’s why i said “most girls” and “exceptions apart” rather than “all girls” because it is a very observable and analysed phenomenon that most women tend to date guys older than them. Edit: Girls tend to be attracted to older guys than them. That is a fact. I never said that most date people 10 years older, i said that most can easily be attracted to guys 10 years older. The difference is i never claim that because they are attracted they will for sure date them which has to do with more variab… | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 12:22 PM |
| 0 | How can I navigate intimacy with a woman while being transparent about not wanting exclusivity or commitment, without causing her to feel misled or upset?Go for tourists, at least they are more likely to want something short and casual since they are only for a temporary stay. That’s the only way to keep your conscience clean. Anything else is treating women like objects whose needs and emotions don’t matter, as long as your selfish desires are fulfilled. Minimising the fallout implies you know you’ll do some damage to a person but don’t care about that. Would that be ok if it was done to your daughter, your mother or your sister assuming you hav… | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 02:14 AM |
| 21 | Girl takes forever to respondNo one can lead you on when you are not needy and have options. So if you feel led on that’s a sign you are needy, legitimising her behavior because deep down you think that’s all you deserve and that you can’t be treated better by women. Your problem is you clinging to any girl that gives you some attention instead of meeting more girls that actually behave and act more interested. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 02:07 AM |
| 2 | How can I navigate intimacy with a woman while being transparent about not wanting exclusivity or commitment, without causing her to feel misled or upset?The end doesn’t justify the means. That’s the mentality of a villain. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 01:57 AM |
| 3 | How can I navigate intimacy with a woman while being transparent about not wanting exclusivity or commitment, without causing her to feel misled or upset?That’s called manipulation and it’s just a roundabout way to justify your lack of morals and yes women don’t appreciate it because the problem with manipulation is that sooner or later they recognised being manipulated and used. | /r/seduction | 10/08/24 01:52 AM |
| 1 | anyone know any good sites to find women? other than the mainstream appsDating apps should have all users with their IDs verified in order to be able to talk to someone much link airbnb. The conversation going forever could be mitigated by randomly asking both users if they are likely to go on a date this same week. If both don’t agree, punished. The after the week has passed, it would ask did the date end up happening, and again both users have to agree and if they do their conversation closes) and if they don’t agree both get punished. It’s just my idea for some p… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 10:54 PM |
| 6 | anyone know any good sites to find women? other than the mainstream appsIn my opinion dating apps should have a rating profile system. If the conversation had no new messages after 48 hours, it should ask both users whether they had a date and give and up or down review. If both users say yes or no their profiles get boosted and get a higher visible grade the conversation also closes because i will assume you have already met in person and can contact each other without the app. If one of the profiles disagree with the other both lose grades and get less visible. An… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 10:27 PM |
| 0 | reality of approachI would say the majority of girls you approach are gonna be giving you the (why are you approaching me vibe). That’s because more often than not guys who don’t know how to do daygame don’t tell her why they are approaching her. They assume the irl must know what they want instead of telling them directly what the want and why they want that. Or they will blow steam up your butt and compliment you for being brave to approach when they don’t really mean it. And how do you know they don’t mean it? … | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 10:23 PM |
| 1 | How can i move on from this and improve my gameMost of the time they have boyfriend, or we exchange contacts but i get ghosted. This tends to happen when you inevitably try to escalate too fast and in an unjustified manner towards getting their contact details. You start a conversation and within a minute or less after two or 3 questions that don’t show your personality at all, you ask for a number and the result is their either tel you they got a boyfriend or flake. Asking for a number is an escalation that needs to be justified and that ta… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Self EsteemI’m a coach and This is the basic framework that you need to follow to get girls to sleep with you or eventually date you: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 07:30 PM |
| 35 | Underrated problem for babyfaced guysIf you are in your 30s it’s absolutely normal that 23 year old women will dig you. You are at a man’s peak decade. You don’t expect 23 year old women to date 23 year old kids. And yes the wording i choose there is deliberate. A 23 year old male isn’t on the same maturity level as a a 23 year old female. Most girls that age will be turned off at the prospect of dating someone their same age or younger (exceptions apart) The reaction from revealing your actual age has more to do with social condit… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 07:29 PM |
| 3 | How to keep the spark alive for a booty call?It’s not so much about keeping the spark alive. It’s about being able to reignite it again when you need it in order to make your next move. Things with women go through different phases, and there is not always a constant level of passion, excitement and interest. Having said that there is ways to maximise your chances of a future date? Build anticipation You remember how hollywood studios keep people interest for an upcoming movie by releasing 2-3 trailers? They don’t ralease a trailer everyda… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 07:11 PM |
| 0 | What are you daygame statistics? Looking for what to expects in terms of approaches per number/date/layI ain’t here to argue mate. OP asked, OP got answer. It ain’t a competition or anything to brag as i am anonymous. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 06:31 PM |
| -2 | What are you daygame statistics? Looking for what to expects in terms of approaches per number/date/lay👍 | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 06:24 PM |
| -2 | What are you daygame statistics? Looking for what to expects in terms of approaches per number/date/layThe day gamers i know get similar results as me or even better, your worldview therefore is not big enough to make conclusions about the entire world. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 06:20 PM |
| -1 | What are you daygame statistics? Looking for what to expects in terms of approaches per number/date/layk | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 06:07 PM |
| 3 | 18M, burnt out from dating for a long term relationship, need advice on short term causal stuffYou are 18, you shouldn’t even be ready to date until you are at least in your 30s or mid 30s. As a 18 year old guy you are just a kid and you are nowhere near close to be at your prime. Girls your age won’t even seriously consider you as an option for marriage cuz they are looking for actual men, not grownup kids. Your last break up was a mess and it was supposed to be that way because that’s how you mature and learn to actually be ready in the future for a good relationship. All of your next r… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 05:18 PM |
| 0 | Self EsteemI’m a coach and This is the basic framework that you need to follow to get girls to sleep with you or eventually date you: 1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 05:09 PM |
| -1 | What are you daygame statistics? Looking for what to expects in terms of approaches per number/date/layMy success ratio is 40% approx. For every 10 women i cold approach i can have sex with around 4. But I am quite selective of who i approach, i don’t mass approach everyday or anything. If i did mass approached my success rate would be much much lower, very likely to be less than 10% | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Any tips finding baddies on vacation?Go to the beach on the late afternoon/evening, and nightclubs or public swimming pools. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Need some help getting better gameIn order to know what to say to a woman first you actually need to know what is the purpose of talking with a woman, i have a feeling you don’t really know the true reason why you as a man want to talk to a woman that you like. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 02:11 PM |
| 10 | [35M] Struggling with Dating After Separation—How Do I Get My Groove Back?Did you know that 38 is supposed to be a man’s peak of attractiveness as long as he takes care of himself? A woman’s peak is around 23 as long as she takes care of herself then it start to fall down. If you gained 15 pounds, you need to get your ass in the gym and stop eating processed food and switch it all with meats fish water and vegetables. If you take care of your body at your 30s it will look better than ever and women will drool over you cuz you’ll look like a real man. If you are fat, t… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 02:02 PM |
| 1 | There is this girlYou are free to change the wording in a way that fits your own way of speaking because it was just an example, not a script you have to memorise. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 01:45 PM |
| 10 | Why is it that the answer to a man's inceldom is, 99.9999% of the time, to "just work on yourself bro," even if its for the next 50 years, "just work on yourself bro?"You don’t need to work on your qualities, you need to work more on your inner game (confidence, self esteem, ego dilution, humility, self-compassion, self-acceptance) than anything else. Then it’s just a matter of developing social skills adapted for game specifically. There is no need to be tallerX richer, muscular, or anything. Sure it helps initially but you don’t need it if you can make woman laugh and show absolute confidence and being comfortable in your own skin | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 02:02 AM |
| 5 | Need help with: « what do you do for work » questionIf I tell girls the truth I seem I’m unambitious. With women, it is not about proving your worth, or proving you are could be good provider for her or trying to fit in her criteria. It’s not about impressing her, it’s not about getting her validation. It’s not about trying to be chosen by her. This is the part many people here get wrong “oh i have to demonstrate high value so that she likes me” which is the most counterproductive thing or worst “i have to lie so that i don’t lose her approval, s… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 12:49 AM |
| 3 | There is this girlOk then you can say: “_Hi, one thing real quick, I was minding my own business when I saw you and I literally love how great your style makes you look, so I thought wow, I really want to meet this girl, if that’s cool with you, my name is x_” That’s how you can start a conversation politely. Then you can talk about the current thing you both were doing, what you both do for fun, what you study or work and why, your experiences meeting people if this is her first time someone approaches her like … | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 09:22 PM |
| 1 | There is this girlOk. Is she pretty? Does she appear friendly? Is the way she dress elegant or femenino? Does her hair look good? | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 09:08 PM |
| 3 | There is this girlWhat do you like about her? | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 08:54 PM |
| 9 | How to get rid of my fear of initiating conversation with woman?Jut say: “_Hi, one thing real quick, cuz. i just saw you and i literally love how great your style makes you looks and i thought wow, i really want to meet this girl, if that’s cool with you, my name is x_” That’s how you can start a conversation politely. Then you can talk about the current thing you both were doing, what you both do for fun, what you study or work and why, your experiences meeting people if this is her first time someone approaches her like this and how does it feel? etc | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Can you make up for missing out on casual sex in your teens/early 20s?Yes, you are at your 30s almost, so now it’s easier than ever to go for 18-28 year old chicks. Women who are younger always prefer older men in general. And at your 30s you haven’t even reached your prime age of attractiveness which is around 35-38. | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 02:48 PM |
| 12 | Are dating apps getting worse or is it just me ?The were always getting worst, not just now. Ever since 2013, it went all downhill for those apps as the realised it was not in their financial interest that people actually found success with those apps, así fe it was more profitable to profit from desperate guys who lacked options and yet we’re addicted to the promise of temporary dopamine if they just paid. And profitable for women to get insta followers and onlyfans customers | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Seeking advice on how to help a girl feel more relaxedThis is a case of wanting to have your cake and eat it too. You two are not in the same page about what you expect from this thing you two have, and to get what you want involves lying to her. Up to your moral code to decide what you do. You will feel like shit, so will she, and the ego boost you get won’t last long enough to make a significant change in your future encounters with women’s | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Seeking advice on how to help a girl feel more relaxed“I need sex to boost my confidence”. So using women for validation rather than building a genuine connection with her. Yes she definitely feels that and won’t appreciate it if her concerns turn out to be true. I think you then need to go for other girls for sex who you aren’t so invested with to have sex, because what you are saying here is that you want sex with a girl to feel good about yourself, and there is no way to make the woman feel like shit if she heard that. You are thinking of treati… | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Approach Anxiety and how to stop coping with Dating AppsI’m a coach. If you want i can give you a free coaching session online through a call. You’ll only get actionable practical advice to combat approach anxiety and seducing girls. Nothing more than that. Not gonna sell you anything, so it will be useful for you to just take the advice and implementing it on your own to combat your approach anxiety and know how to seduce girls in daygame, without owing me anything. Feel free to book here. It’s free. What’s in it for me? You’ll get to see that my ad… | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Subtle Invite?It doesn’t matter if she is hinting or not. What matters is that you interpret what works in your favour and use that as an opportunity to escalate. So the answer would be: Well, thanks for inviting me. i’ll gladly take you to (x speical) place It doesn’t matter if she didn’t meant you, the point is that you simply go for it confidently. If she has to say no not you, which would take some nerve, you tell her “you broke my heart, no more friends from now on” as a joke. | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 04:44 PM |
| 5 | Seeking advice on how to help a girl feel more relaxedShe hesitated because she sees you hesitating. Like she not only is not a virgin, but she also has had a freaking child and yet you are thinking of treating her like she is a virgin? Dude wake up. She is 27, she is a mum. She isn’t worry about you breaking her hymen, or harming her body making her bleed, or any stuff like that. Her hesitancy has to do with you not being in touch with your masculine energy and not fully knowing how you will act after sex has happened. You are trying to play neutr… | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 04:39 PM |
| 1 | I have lost weight and I look better now as some folks said. But I don't see it myself. Also few girls stare at me. How do I respond?You have 10 mins to talk to her. You can then go for an instant date if you genuinely approve what you heard during those 10 mins. Interview mode is avoided by changing questions into statements, assumptions, guesses accusations and sharing anecdotes. Lastly, the girl will like you if you follow the seduction process correctly, which is about: Showing that you have high standards and are selective before rewarding the girl with an escalation. You make each other laugh genuinely throughout the co… | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Gym approach - need adviceYeah, you need to remember that you are not there to collect numbers. A number feels good because it tricks you into thinking the girl must have like you so much she definitely wants to hear again. It’s fast and easy validation at the moment you get it, but as you soon discover most numbers flake and don’t lead anywhere. Specially, if you were rushing to get that number due to your nerves. Women will give their number without necessarily being into the guy they give the number because for many i… | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 12:43 PM |
| 3 | Gym approach - need adviceYour focus shouldn’t be on pursuing, it should be on evaluating compatibility. Pursuing implies you are sold on her and want to prove your worth, which is a failed frame to have that leads to rejection. Instead, approach interactions with the mindset of discovery. You are there to learn about her, to see if she aligns with your values, interests, and long-term goals. Does she share similar values? Is her sense of humor compatible with yours? Does she show emotional maturity and stability? Is the… | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 12:19 AM |
| 4 | im looking for a datingcoatchI am a Daygame (daytime cold approach) coach, but I’ll give you a reasonable analysis on whether you should or shouldn’t hire a coach because some people don’t need it. Don’t hire a coach if: You are a disciplined person who can keep himself accountable on a very consistent basis. You approach women alone on a consistent basis every week to flirt with them. You have the right online resources to learn how to actually pick up girls, get them excited about you, and emotionally invested in you and … | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 11:59 PM |
| 2 | Gym approach - need adviceThe point of approaching a girl is to spend time with her getting to know her, not collect her number and then try to get to know her behind the screen. You are confused because you convinced yourself that texting is a requirement to set up a date or seduce her when, in fact, it’s a voluntary obstacle you put on yourself that makes it less likely you will make something happen. You should tell her, to grab a drink somewhere specific after the gym, not for next day, not for next week… Just the sa… | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 11:45 PM |
| 14 | We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run?Yes, which is why maybe you shouldn’t wish so much to have a relationship cuz it requires sacrifice and effort. | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 09:13 PM |
| 8 | I have lost weight and I look better now as some folks said. But I don't see it myself. Also few girls stare at me. How do I respond?You are anxious because you are focusing on whether the girl likes you, rather than focusing on whether you will or will not like her girl after you talk to her. Your mentality shouldn’t be in seeking approval or acceptance from a girl who despite being cute and hot, could potentially be a bitch, a psycho, an immature brat, annoying and dumb or a superficial hoe who just wants money. Your mentality when you consider approaching a woman should be on evaluating whether she deserves a guy like you,… | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 06:37 PM |
| 13 | anyone here use fetlife.com? its a trap and its the worst!It’s almost like the promise of easy and quick lays is nothing but an unrealistic male fantasy that companies love to profit from. | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 06:22 PM |
| 1 | What to do next?You act way too passive and letting her take control of everything. You are no leading, you are allowing her to lead. You are not directing you are following. You didn’t try to escalate,when the other workers left for a fun night and you and her were alone, you were waiting for something to happen (expecting her to lead), and obviously nothing happened (because you refused to lead things towards making something happen as you always act like a follower) The next time: You did not say if she want… | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 06:19 PM |
| 53 | We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run?Keeping her interested has to do with continuing to be good at seducing them and continuing to be high value. You ought to seduce them everyday, not just once to get laid. Every day you are with her, you start the seduction process from scratch again. And ever day you are with her you ought to continue to build you value, make more money, work out more, be mentally stable and balanced, and always have options, never needing her, only wanting her. | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 03:30 PM |
| 2 | First ever cold approach, got IG & Follow Back. Now what?First you need to be aware that it will likely go nowhere. Getting a contact info of a girl doesn’t inherently mean she is interested in seeing you again. In texts you never wanna ask questions, instead you should always say statements, guesses, assumptions, teases or playful accusations or jokes. Note that a joke doesn’t mean saying a humourless comment and then adding “hahas” to pretend that the tone is what makes it funny, because tone cannot be interpreted through texts. Unless you make a hu… | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Need Help!Well as a coach i always tell my clients the following: If you want to invite women to your place, you need to give them an excuse to go to your place which doesn't make it sound like it's your plan to get liad with them once they are in your place. In other words, the problem is you are triggering their anti-slut defence when you say "let's go back to my place and chill or drink something". You need some excuse that sounds more inncoent and even add a false time constraint sometimes to relax th… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Are women honest about their ideal body type?Women always try to pretend that guys don't have any effect on him. Hard to get, they don't wanna look easy or at least don't wanna be too obvious. always wanna act like they are the catch and too proud to admit a guy is more desirable than them. What they say often contradicts what they respond to. Asking women what they want and doing what they say they want is a recipe to not get what you want. You simply have to do everything a woman says they want and you will quickly see for yourself how f… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Girl I am talking to is interested in me but her replying habit is weird.You do know that people have more things to do in their lives apart from answering instantly to every message you send, right? Like people have house chores, homework, tasks, other friends, other appointments, and more distractions and you should not expect any girl or any person to drop everything just for you, even when they are interested in you. | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Is there much success for game in Scotland?The common denominator for success or lack of success is always you, not the location. | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 06:47 PM |
| 3 | how to escalate when there's no interest for my conversationYou don’t escalate when there is no interest. Escalation can’t halo when she is with a sign that says “don’t move forward” you need to get her to change that sign first before you can escalate and that requires you to change her mood. If the mood at first is awkward it suggests you said or did something that caused that awakes was so you have to analyse what you are actually saying that might be causing that which requires you to remove your bias and recognise that the things you overlook and th… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Girl asked to stay in contact but never responded to textDude chill down. You are being way too overreactive. It’s almost like this is the first time you ever speak to girls. You may not like it sure, but you don’t win anything by asking her. Just learn to move on and know that this is just girls being girls. They won’t give you a reason that makes sense to you, they won’t clarify anything and you will only grow more resentment. If a girl gives you her number and then doesn’t text you back, it means she changed her mind… It’s as simple as that. If you… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Is making her interested really a thing ?The problem is a girl being interested initially doesn’t mean she is sold on you already to seal the deal with sex or romantic relationship, no matter what you do or say. You still have to make sure to get her in the mood, be fun, get her aroused and connect with her. And making sure you don’t fumble. Without game girls who are interested in you can easily lose interest in you. Girls mechanism of attraction isn’t an on/off switch like guys. It’s more like a wheel of volume. Sometimes they are mo… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 06:07 PM |
| 3 | How do you respond when you get hit with the I have a boyfriend line“_Oh you want two boyfriends_” or “you could use two” This doesn’t show distinct enough personality because I heard so many guys say this exact same line so many times, it’s too much of a low hanging fruit type of humor to truly impact her in a significant way. It also takes you out of your frame because if she takes it just a tiny bit seriously, it implies she is the one who is the gatekeeper of relationships, and that you are there to convince her to give you a chance, which is the opposite of… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Had a date M22 with F19 and she said something that is giving me a hard timeYou do you, but to me this seems like you want sex for the ego boot and validation it may give you, (“I manage to fuck her, so i’m such a boss” mentality) more than the physical pleasure you or her could get. Wanting sex only because she has a vagina and gave you some attention. | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Had a date M22 with F19 and she said something that is giving me a hard timeMy point is that you are trying to force an outcome and everything you wrote just makes me think that you are treating her as an object or computer program where you have to push the right buttons to get certain output, rather than treating her as a person. There is no sexual chemistry, there is no flirty play, there is no complicity in the first date, she seems too neutral… The feeling i get by reading all of this, is the feeling i would get of a nephew planning to somehow kiss theirs own aunt … | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Had a date M22 with F19 and she said something that is giving me a hard timeI don’t think you are gonna be able to kiss this girl let alone sleep with her. Not only doesn’t feel like you two are on the same wavelength, but your plan to escalate to a kiss on the second date also seems kinda anti smooth, too platonic and kinda forced as if you have decided every move you will make like she is an object that has no say or agency in it… Like rather than going with the flow, and being spontaneous, you are planning all those moves that you will do provided that she plays alon… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 12:22 PM |
| 2 | How to get over fear of creep shaming?By asking the girl you want to meet for her consent to meet her (Do it in a jovial cheerful friendly high energy way). example: Hey, i don’t wanna disrupt what you were doing, but i saw you from over there and i thought “wow, I’d love to meet this girl cuz i love the vibe she projects” it won’t be long cuz i have to go, is that cool with you? This is the safest way to cold approach a woman when you are a beginner. Once you are more pro you don’t need to do it like this, but if your main concern … | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 11:45 AM |
| 2 | What do you think is the reason woman reject youMen who have a small and thin dick can survive by going for a woman who doesn’t mind about that. The list doesn’t say all women will definitely reject you for any of those reasons. The list just gives reasons why women could potentially reject you for some or all of those reasons. | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 10:46 AM |
| 3 | What do you think is the reason woman reject youNobody is saying that you can control your height, the list just gives reasons why some woman could reject you. And height or dick size can easily be one of the reasons even if you can’t control it. Because very often you simply can’t control why someone likes you or dislikes you. It’s not about reward it’s about individual preference. Some men are not attracted to black women for example and black women can’t also control their skin color. It’s not really about fairness because no one is entitl… | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 10:40 AM |
| 5 | My meet-up experience and advice neededYou should have gone for a kiss simply because that's what you wanted and as man you need to go for what you want. A hug was not a good move. It's irrelevant the signals, what matters is that you are masculine and act like you are into her and make your move because you are into her. Your job is to make a move no matter what, her job is to either let it happen or turn it down. Your job is not to decipher or read her mind or figure out whether she wants you to make a move or not. | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Ghosted after a 3 hour enjoyable conversationWomen's interest isn't permanent it depends on how they feel at each moment. A woman could even say she loves you or likes you one day and two days later be completely distant and turn off by you. This is a huge contrast with men who easily have permanent interest speically when they don't usaully have many options. If a man has scarcity of women in his life and one woman finally shows interest in him, he will stay intereted for a long time because he has no other choice. Women however have abun… | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 10:55 PM |
| 4 | Is this a matter of confidenceLet’s start by acknowledging that being social with strangers, both males and females, isn’t something evil or criminal, because many guys seem to think just the act of talking to someone they don’t know, is almost equivalent to cat calling them or sexually harassing them or disrespecting them in some way. Talking to people by itself is not bad, it’s what you actually say or the way you say things what could be perceived as bad. My mindset is that I think i’m making their day, I’m making them fe… | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 10:15 PM |
| 10 | What do you think is the reason woman reject youIt can be all of these simultaneously: Your lack of money Your insecurity Your looks Your height Your neediness You are boring Lack of compatibility Lack of connection Lack of game You suck at sex You have a small and thin dick You act like a doormat You act like a mister nice guy You suck up to women with excessive flattery You put them on a pedestal You don’t strike when the iron is hot missing opportunities You smell bad You look dirty You are too arrogant You are weird. She catches you on yo… | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 07:51 PM |
| 45 | Successful solo night. Ended in 4 digits.Most numbers you get in the night will lead nowhere. Instead of going for numbers, you have to make out and get laid the same night you meet those girls taking them home that same night. If you however don’t make out or get laid and instead go for numbers, the next day they probably won’t remember or they’ll act cold because whatever mood they were during the night, is already gone. It’s highly unlikely they will want to go on a date with a guy they met on a bar if they haven’t made out or sleep… | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 01:07 PM |
| 3 | I need an easy guide for learning cold approach step by step1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. 2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. 3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection 4 - Make sure that we are isolated to set the stage for flirting without “activating” her defences (slut … | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Where did i fumble?You are kissing her ass too much, it’s like one of those people that suck up to the boss to get a raise or a promotion. The girl feels you want something and thus your compliments do nothing other than to feed her ego, and she starts to see through your flattery. She feels like you are being insincere and manipulative to get something from her, (sex). So she becomes wary of your intentions because she feels you just want to use her; to fuck and forget her… And that you are doing this thing with … | /r/seduction | 04/08/24 11:57 AM |
| 3 | Known meanings behind common rejection lines?You fails to seduce her and escalate things in person so by the time you got separated whatever the mood was during your face to face encounter cool off, because you didn’t strike while the iron was hot. Next time escalate things in person physically and don’t leave it getting her phone number or whatever. Clubs and bars are a place to make out and take them home not to collect numbers | /r/seduction | 03/08/24 11:26 PM |
| 6 | I realized I’m not afraid of approaching girls, the fear is something differentThe key to get over your fear is to actually learn how to handle and manage those potential negative outcomes that your anxiety projects with the most graceful and dignified attitude posible. You scared of people thinking you are weird, creepy, etc. Why? Because dee down anxiety thinks you are. Anxiety knows you very well, and knows how you would act. Uncomfortable, scared, nervous,… Anxiety knows what your believes about yourself and social norms are and so on an attempt to protect you, it does… | /r/seduction | 03/08/24 11:10 PM |
| 4 | My first timeI see two girls coming out of the eating area, i thought they would pass through a corridor so i position myself in the corridor to at least greet them and talk about anything Kinda creepy. Don’t position yourself in their way, if you want to talk to them approach them in a cheerful and friendly manner. There is an average mature lady looking at me , i move closer but look at the activities. I thought she would talk to me and i looked at her and back several times Don’t do that dude. It’s extrem… | /r/seduction | 03/08/24 10:50 PM |
| 3 | Got Rejected , Thoughts? BeginnerA barista is there to work and get tips. Her behavior therefore is not natural. Your mind also tends to be biased when it looks for signs. You say she only looks at you and not t your friends, but at the end of the day that’s just your perception and even if she looks at you it doesn’t necessarily mean that she is romantically interested because looking at you doesn’t have to mean they like you. The idea that you only interpret someone looking at you as “they have to be attracted to me or else t… | /r/seduction | 03/08/24 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Have a date but feel doubtBad outcome is up to you to decide. You probably have expectations of what you wish could happen in a date. If you dont make it happen that’s a bad outcome. But instead of feeling bad for it, you just focus on learning from it. | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 11:32 PM |
| 11 | Have a date but feel doubtDon’t focus on the outcome, focus on learning. If the outcome is bad then you analyse what happened, what you did and learn from it. | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 09:27 PM |
| 1 | How to answer - my girlfriend's buddy gave me NEG“Nice t shirt my 7 year old cousin had one at aunts birthday”. Now. That’s a kid with a hell of a good taste. (Shows you are confident about what you are wearing by owning it, instead of being ashamed, so you pass the test in front of the girl) nice t-shirt but tonight you are already the third person wearing it. was there a sale in the chain store? "chain stores? Dude i’m not the rich. Who do you think i am bill gates?" (Agree and amplify with humor to show you are unaffected and that you don’t… | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 07:19 PM |
| 1 | No response after first dateYou acted too platonic and formal with the girl. you even ended the ate in a hug which is bad sign in terms of building something romantic. Never go for hugs, hugs are for friends. When she said she was tired and didn’t wanna go on a walk that’s a big sign she wasn’t really into you. Because if she was into you she would have done it expecting a move from your part to kiss her. Then your text show how overeager you are. It’s never a good idea t text a girl “I had an amazing/great time, i can’t w… | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | 20M How to develop more optionsTalk to more girls, and learn the actual seduction fundamentals to avoid going blindly. | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 06:50 PM |
| 1 | When a girl accepts your disqualifier?“My mama warn me about girls like you… and I always hoped she was right 😏“ “My mama warn me about girls tempting me to go down the path of insanity” | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 06:49 PM |
| 2 | I've taken a two week break but can't tell if I made the right choiceWhen you start a conversation you need to understand that’s a critical escalation and in order to increase you chances l success. You need to give a good reason that justifies your interests in getting to know her or saying hi, so that you don’t come across as a player who is just out to hunt girls that day. “Hey, i know this is random but i saw you from over there and i wanted to say hi” Ok, but why? The girl needs to feel that there is a good reason for you to want to meet her. Simply noticing… | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 11:51 PM |
| 1 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...Your goal when talking to women isn’t to give her reasons why you are a good candidate to date her or have sex with her. It’s to make her feel sexual tension, joy, laughter, and make her feel understood, valued, and touched. Once she is feeling any of those intense positive emotions , you can escalate things to touching, kissing, sex, etc… So your conversation should change her emotional mood get her to feel and use those moments where her emotions are big and positive to make sexual and romanti… | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 10:34 PM |
| 3 | How to become irreplaceable In dating and other aspect of life.You have an unrealistic goal. There is no such thing as being irreplaceable in any aspect of life. The sooner you accept the reality, the less frustrations you will face. If relationships ended it’s because they had to end, why? Probably because it was either not meant to be, or you had to learn something which you still haven’t learned. Trying to make a relationship last forever for the sake of it lasting is neither a legitimate goal nor a realistic one because how long it lasts doesn’t ultimat… | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Texting fiasco with this new girlThe point of texting is to get her in the mood to go on a date. She offered to meet and you said no and kept texting instead with no goal in particular. So they will naturally lead to less and less interest. Because rather than using the phone for it’s true purpose, getting her in the mood to hang out and have fun, you misuse it and instead try to develop something through texts which is a path to the friendzone at most. Getting a girlfriend or getting a sexual partner needs to be done in person… | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 03:08 PM |
| 2 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...In persuasion, and seduction; targeting the feelings will always work better than targeting her rational mind. People are more likely to be persuaded by how something/someone makes them feel, rather than by pure logic alone. So if you can’t get her to overlook her objections despite changing her mood, you are far less likely to do it with logical arguments. Changing her mood is about showing you are unaffected, that you accept yourself completely (take it or leave it) and don’t take yourself ser… | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 11:49 AM |
| 1 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...The problem with a statement like that is that it is highly unlikely to change her mood, because rather than being humorous, it sounds like you are trying to convince her that age doesn’t matter. And it’s not about changing her mind, it’s about changing her mood. | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 11:28 AM |
| 1 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.If this is why you are on Reddit, you need to get a life. The guy who goes around insulting others and being toxic on reddit, is telling others that that they should get a life. Oh god, thank you. Thank you for opening your mouth. Thank you!! 🙏 | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 12:39 AM |
| 1 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.You say I’m pathetic because I dedicate my life to helping people? I guess i should take lessons on an admirable and inspiring person such as yourself, who goes around insulting people, making people feel hopeless and waste time being toxic despite the immense opportunities for self-improvements that exist. And all because i said “that not everyone you like can like you back” which is true and that “sometimes you lose women who were interested in you due to mistakes that can be corrected like be… | /r/seduction | 01/08/24 12:31 AM |
| 0 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.I’m proud to have helped men both with my free practical straight forward advice that can be seen in my profile and the (optional) paid practical coaching. So your words don’t define me, as much as you wish they did to feel better about your own life. I would insult you back too, but then someone would need to explain you the insult. Peace. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 11:48 PM |
| 0 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.Yes, stupidity triggers me and it will continue to be that way. I guess it’s my fault for expecting too much from you. You don’t even know what ad-hominem means. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 11:16 PM |
| 9 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.None of what you say is applicable if the guy is a sub-5 or below. 1 - Being sub-5 or below only makes me think the guy is lazy and doesn’t even try to look good at all. Just by putting on a good suit his size, a good haircut and dieting to be slim would make anyone be a 5 or above. 2 - The vast majority of people here don’t look as bad as they think they do. No one here is a frankenstein to go around claiming that no woman can like them. 3 - Even guys who are “sub-5” can get successes with girl… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 11:06 PM |
| 1 | I have absolutely nothing to get choosing signals from women. What must I do to get women?I don’t go for phone numbers by default, I go there to evaluate whether i like her as a person and would like to continue seeing her again. If I like her personality and the vibe we have then i suggest an instant date, meaning i offer to take a drink somewhere nearby, instead of going for a number. If she doesn’t want to or doesn’t have time, i usually don’t bother because i don’t want to collect numbers. I want spontaneous girls willing to live random adventures specially now on summer. If i ma… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 10:58 PM |
| 1 | I've taken a two week break but can't tell if I made the right choiceSo which techniques or phrases did you use to create sexual tension during an interaction If you ask for her number what reason do you give her as to why you want her number? What do you tell her to indicate that you want her, not just as a friend but that you desire her? | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 07:06 PM |
| 3 | I've taken a two week break but can't tell if I made the right choiceSo you did cold approach, did you use mystery method techniques? the london daygame model, the daygame blueprint, Models method? or which seduction techniques have you followed exactly? Or are you one of those people hay just randomly approaches women without any method or clue on pick up, just playing a numbers game asking generic questions and going for the number right away? | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 06:55 PM |
| 6 | I have absolutely nothing to get choosing signals from women. What must I do to get women?I don’t get signals, and that hasn’t stop me from getting laid. The key thing was however go learn how to talk to women and you said that you don’t know how. Well, there is pick up books that teach you how to speak with women. Models, mystery method, for example. You can start there. Cold approach is only frown upon when the guy who tries to do col approach doesn’t know how to do it in a respectful honest way and tries to force a conversation agaisnt her wishes by directly both hiding his intent… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 06:51 PM |
| 3 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...You have internalized a social norm or belief: "Men going for younger women is inmoral and disgusting". This belief causes you anxiety telling you "If you approach her, the 25 year old woman herself will tell you how innaporpiate and creepy it is for a man like you who is almost twice her age to speak with her" or worst "other people will condmen you for approaching the woman or being attacted to her in the first place" like it's forbidden or something. Because anxiety has these thoughts, you ma… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 06:05 PM |
| 1 | This girl is constantly complaining about her bf, how can i tell if she likes me or im just her vent channelIf she is too far for any date, then you need to be seeing other women meanwhile. Dates are the place to make something romantic/sexual happen, not the phone, or the messaging apps. Whatever you do, never ask for clarification of where you stand | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 05:05 PM |
| 1 | This girl is constantly complaining about her bf, how can i tell if she likes me or im just her vent channelEven that, is setting the wrong frame, it communicates you are waiting for a chance and that’s never a good position to be in. It should be her who seeks a chance with you dragging her to your frame that you are the catch or the big opportunity here. I would just go on a date with her, escalate things with her in the date, and start making out and taking her home even if she hasn’t broken up with her boyfriend. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 04:59 PM |
| 3 | This girl is constantly complaining about her bf, how can i tell if she likes me or im just her vent channelGood, because you should never ask her that or any other similar questions like that one. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 04:56 PM |
| 4 | This girl is constantly complaining about her bf, how can i tell if she likes me or im just her vent channelIf you have to ask a girl if she is interested, you've already lost. I have never asked any woman ever if they are interested in me. I simply flirted, escalated, make out and sleep with her. There was never a moment where i force her to make a definite clear answer about whether she is interested in me or not. In order to seduce girls, direct questions like "do you like me? Are you interested in me?" simply kill the mood. Seduction requires you to be smooth and escalate things by reding the situ… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 04:55 PM |
| 68 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.You just discovered the reality that just because you like someone they don’t have to like you back and that’s ok. It’s normal, just like you don’t like every girl in the world. No one can be liked by absolutely everyone. Seduction is not about getting everyone to like you, it’s about increasing your rate of success, by taking opportunities who you would have missed out without the proper skills to not fumble the bag. There is absolutely nothing negative about this take. Seduction was never mean… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 04:06 PM |
| 2 | The problem some of you have is you “over-complicate” the entire ordeal..There needs to be a balance. Over complicating it can be bad, and over simplifying can also be bad. You don’t wanna be in your head all the time over analysing everything, but you also don’t wanna be a clueless socially inept moron. Same thing happens in fitness, you don’t need to count every valoró but you shout at least know some nutrition stuff to know what can benefit you and what can’t. You don’t wanna over como lo ate the type of exercises you do, but you also don’t wanna do exercises with… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 03:06 PM |
| 3 | NYC night outNot sure why some guys think that they should try to have conversation in a place where music is excessively loud on purpose to prevent that from happening. The club is not for talking it’s about playing the game in silence, with body language, non verbal gestures, and physical touch. Imagine you were mute, couldn’t say anything and yet you were challenged for fun to hit on women, how would you hit on a girls in a club if you were mute? Dancing Doing gestures with your hands Trying to be humorou… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Advice on a girl im seeingNever apologize for going to a kiss. That’s a mistake. You wanted to do it, there is absolutely nothing wrong about it, even if she wasn’t into it. So apologising about something that isn’t wrong, only comes across as insecure behavior and approval seeking which are turn offs for women. Don’t make that mistake again. If you wanted to do something it’s because you are spontaneous guy which is legitimate, and if she isn’t spontaneous cool, it just means you are not a match, not that being spontane… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Had conversation with girl at bar. She gave me her business card but I'm getting mixed signals.She says “i can’t do it”. You: : “Mixed signals” she already said she can’t, but you have to make it more complicated by over analysing shit and bulsshiting yourself into thinking that you have to press the right buttons to change her mind. You: “But she gave me her number for a reason!!! She must be secretly wanting me to convince her” A guy who is a catch doesn’t bother with those games. Only desperate simps bother with that | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Where to find women if you’re under 21?Schools, college/university campuses, extra curricular activities, gyms, streets, public squares, public swimming pools, beaches, malls and parks. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | When should you implement the Push-Pull method?If you ask this question it shows you just cherry picked some trick and don’t actually understand the core principles of seduction yet. There is no specific time frame to use a push and pull and it’s not a magic pill that makes her instantly attracted to you. That is why asking “how soon” is like asking “how soon should i try to shoot the ball to score in a football game”. There is no objective formulaic answer to that. That’s something that requires calibration, creativity, spontaneity, and loo… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Got a girls number from Tinder and had a flirty chat last night - need an opinionIsn’t it obvious that she is not interested? When have you ever replied with just a heart reaction when someone offered to do plans with you? If someone asked me to do plans i would ask back “_ok what time and where do we meet?_” I wouldn’t just react with a heart emoji and leave it at that. If her female friends were asking her to do plans she would ask the logistics, she would not just react with a heart emoji. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that I can pretty easily get 10-20 matches per day on hinge and 30-40+ in a big city but 95% lead to absolutely nowhere?Because girls can get 10x 15x more matches per day than you. Also many girls just have daddy issues and want free attention and validation from men without actually committing to see them or spend time with them in order to feel better about themselves. Dating apps therefore are often used by women as a coping tool, instead of as a tool to date strangers. The idea of meeting up a stranger can easily terrify or distress a lot of women. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Gauging interest after first date / best course of actionIf a girl says she doesn’t kiss until the 3rd date, then you say “i only date spontaneous girls”. Nice to meet you though. Adapting to her is not the way to go, girls are the ones who need to adapt to your terms. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Wanna start game but have social anxietyAnxiety is just your body’s mechanism to remind you that since you are not ready to handle new social situations, you need to learn how to handle them. So anxiety is just begging you to learn skills to manage potential bad outcomes, once you anxiety feels you are ready to manage those potential bad outcomes with grace and dignity it will let you take action. So rather than seeing anxiety as a hurdle, you can view it as an opportunity for learning and personal development. It’s an opportunity to … | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 11:56 AM |
| 2 | Showed high interestWhy do you feel to always go for a number as an intermediate step before a date? Go for instant dates. You were in front of her, so you could have just said “hey there is a coffee shop right there, let’s go there, i like talking with you” You said let’s hang out but instead took her number and then texted her two days later… Skip that step, just go on instant dates. “Let’s hang out over there that place is awesome, come”. I don’t care if you are busy, if you are busy then don’t be busy when you … | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Can someone explain the benefit of indirect game to me?Some situations require you to start things indirectly. Just because a woman finds you physically attractive doesn’t mean she will appreciate it in every context for you to be direct if it’s not a good moment. Women can find a guy super attractive and not necessarily be in the mood, because her emotional state, and her level of comfort, and her level of trusts also play a big role in whether they warm up to you or not. So, it’s not necessarily winning her over, it’s more about connecting on a de… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Gauging interest after first date / best course of actionSo first date you did not go for the kiss. All you did is talk and laugh. That’s a disappointment for a girl and the first step towards the friendzone or straight rejection. You had a strong connection, she laughed the whole date, that’s the perfect conditions to go for a kiss, and yet you didn’t even showed her you wanted to make the move. What does that say about the connection you have to her? That she gets friend vibes. A funny friend she can laugh with and that’s it. No lover vibe. There is… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 10:49 AM |
| 10 | Girls that leaves you on read/seen/liked the messageNumbers you get from the night such as club/parties will more often than not lead nowhere, specially if you text two days later they don’t even remember or care who you are. The club/parties is not really a place to go around collecting numbers. It’s a place to get them turned on in the moment, to make out with girls and take them home that same night to have sex. Places to strike when the iron is hot. Going for a number in those places is best case scenario like a woman giving you a handjob of … | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Motivate me.Accept that the thing you are scared could potentially happen and be ready for it to manage it with garage by preparing the script of what to do in case what you fear ends up happening. By knowing you can handle the bad outcomes with grace and dignity, you don’t need to fear anything. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 10:19 AM |
| 3 | Do you think snapchat is worst to game a girl?Texting doesn’t have tone, so when you say “i playfully say her favourite color is back” the playful part is not actually there because she won’t read it in your tone of voice. She will read it dead serious and neutral. This fails to make her smile or laugh or feel anything. When you then say “red will suit you more as it aligns with your name” She is still gonna be like “ok and?” You fail to realise that the playful tone in which you read the text before sending it isn’t conveyed in a text mess… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 10:16 AM |
| 5 | Should you always approach even if you don't want to?No, you are not forced to be interested in anyone that shows you interest, much like women will often refuse without any remorse to talk to someone who shows interest in them. | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Someone explain this to me, why would a woman try to schedule a date with me multiple times in the course of a year but always be too busy to actually go out on said date?Because many women like attention and validation from men, and they like the idea that they are still wanted by any men in case they feel bad, or insecure or need you as a last resource. They tend to be also women with daddy issues. The moment they stop getting attention and validation from men including those they are not truly interested in, that day is their worst nightmare. It will be a symbol that they are not attractive anymore, that they start to become invisible and their low self stem w… | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 07:55 PM |
| 45 | I have lots of experience but rejection still gets to me.The more success you have, the more your ego is fed with validation, which can make you more sensitive than usual when a rejection happens. When a woman likes you, you make the mistake of interpreting that as proof that you are worth and desirable. This is problematic because you are objectifying women as objects or tools for your self-esteem rather than as individuals with their own autonomy, feelings, and preferences. This mindset reduces their complex humanity to a simple validation mechanism… | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Girl who’s “too busy this week” for a dateWhen was the last time you said you were busy to a girl you wanted to go on a date with? How many times did that happen? And now think how many times women tell you they are busy. That’s how you know that women often say that busy as a polite rejection. They may keep talking to you, keep reaching out, but somehow they are always busy for meeting up, yet always happen to have free time to keep texting. Why do they text when they don’t wanna meet? Because getting attention feels good to them. They… | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Im starting to think game can’t be taughtIt’s not that game can’t be taught, it’s that’s a certain percentage of people just be helped. | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 03:47 PM |
| 5 | morning afterGiving women validation for free makes you come across as any other guy. Best way to stand out is to act indifferent to the girl’s hot pictures when she sends them. | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 04:57 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys do it?Once you understand that you are not approaching women to prove your worth, fight for your pride, that you aren't doing anything strange or wrong by trying to get to know them in a polite manner, and accepting with humIlity that not everyone you like has to like you back. You can begin to see game as a tool for buidling resilience and training your skills which detaches you from the outcome. Being intimidated by women happens when deep down you don't feel good enough for them assuming that if yo… | /r/seduction | 26/07/24 04:00 PM |
| 8 | I’m officially physically attractive. Now what? My experience with not focusing on building genuine confidence.I will see an attractive girl, automatically my mind jumps into negative self talk that she is too pretty for me, she wouldn’t go for a guy like me, she wouldn’t be interested, etc. ”She is too pretty for me”. Why does your anxiety kick in? Because anxiety thinks you will get turned down What happens if you get turned down? A hit of humility to your ego who thrives on maintaining unrealistic and often fake sense of superiority, competence and invulnerability. What happens if your ego gets humble… | /r/seduction | 26/07/24 02:53 PM |
| 9 | Why so hard despite being attractive?I mean, if you are directly asking women shit like: “_Hey, would you wanna have sex with me?” or “why don’t we sleep together?” or “Let’s have sex casually” or “hey wanna be my friend with benefits?_” Obviously that’s usually not gonna work. You don’t ask for sex which is what seems to be the problem if i interpret correctly. It seems like you are asking women if they’d like to sleep with you and the response to that will always be a no every single time. And that’s not because they don’t like h… | /r/seduction | 26/07/24 08:52 AM |
| 1 | 5 years ago, it was easier IMOIf you ask people who blame cope with their failures by blaming it on external things beyond their control, they'lll say it's become harder. If you ask people who take responsibility they'll say you lost your mojo. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 11:45 PM |
| 5 | How do you get closer with a female friend and then seduce her? ( Ik theres similar topics but read description)Sure, read mystery method book, the game, and models. It’s not just about saying random lines, but also understanding the core principles behind why and when exactly to use those lines. You can’t just cherry pick some random lines say them and expect women to open their legs. You need to be smooth when you speak to women. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 10:55 PM |
| 7 | How do you get closer with a female friend and then seduce her? ( Ik theres similar topics but read description)Yeah of course you have an entire wiki in this subs menu, as well as tons of pick up books on what to say. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 08:23 PM |
| 22 | How do you get closer with a female friend and then seduce her? ( Ik theres similar topics but read description)Your mistake is thinking that first you have to get close and then seduce her. Getting close is what leads to the friendzone. Seducers just seduce her from the beginning never hiding their intentions, but just telling her sweet flirty stuff that gets her both turned on and emotionally receptive. So that’s the problem, acting like a friend first and then trying to change that dynamic into sexual or romantic dynamic. As for how to seduce them, mate, there is the whole seduction method in plenty of… | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 08:19 PM |
| 0 | Will adopting a dachshund effect my game?If your success depends on a dog, then you don’t have game. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Girl I am just getting to know already trying to make me jealous for her?There is nothing disrespectful at all about a woman or anyone telling you who they fancy, when you never make a move. The problem here is you, hiding your intentions and then whining that the consequence of that dishonesty of yours is her treating you as a friend rather than as a potential lover. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Girl I am just getting to know already trying to make me jealous for her?She is not, she is simply treating you like a platonic best friend. She considers you one of her female besties in practice. And this happens when you spend too much time with her without making a move fast enough. It’s basically what happens when you begin to enter the friendzone due to your lack of action when it comes to making a move. A one night stand happens the same day you meet her or within the same week. If nothing happens after that length of time, and you continue talking to her, the… | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 03:35 PM |
| 131 | In 2024, is "emotionally unavailable" a woman's default state?No, it’s just that real life isn’t the same as college campus. Never has never will be. You underestimated the importance of having such an important thing in common for your previous success. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 03:09 PM |
| 5 | How important what you say when you approach a girl?I see this quota so many times it is not about what you say, it is about how you say but i really did not understand, What that quote means is that the tone, delivery and timing can change the results for the better. Two people could say the same joke, but people will only laugh with the guy who has the perfect tone, delivery and timing when telling the joke. A person who has a bland dull tone will make even the most funny joke, unfunny. So what you say matters, but it can be more important to k… | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 01:50 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a 0 sense of humor girl?That's because you two aren't compatible. The problem is you still dating a woman who doesn't match your vibe. Don't you have options? You need to raise your standards. You sya that she only talks about mundane topics and other boring shit. Why would you want a girl who is boring and gets easily offended? If the roles were reversed any girl would immediately distance herself and tell ou she doesn't see the relationship working out. Why aren't you the same? Seems needy to keep dating a girl who i… | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 11:00 AM |
| 1 | How do I keep her hooked over text?Stimulate her imagination, get her to fantasize, describe your fantasies you have with her with detail. Her imagination will drive her wild and obsessed with fulfilling it. | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 06:18 PM |
| 6 | As a 5'9 guy what are some good flirty replies I can use against girls?Don’t ever try to qualify yourself. Don’t try saying that height doesn’t matter as much as other things (it’s approval seeking behaviour). Don’t try saying that you are big where it counts (that’s qualifying yourself and it won’t impress anyone. Quite the opposite) And don’t try to attack her, as it will make you look butt hurt and reactive as if you can’t take a joke. You need to embrace your height, own that you are short to show absolute confidence. For example: “Kneel down and say that to my… | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 12:10 PM |
| 1 | How do you cold approach in a bad mood?Not a good idea. Women tend to reflect the emotions that you are feeling. So if you are in a bad mood, the woman is likely to mirror that emotion, becoming upset or defensive in the best-case scenario, and creeped out or afraid in the worst-case scenario. Seduction happens when she feels comfortable, relaxed, with her defenses lowered, and in a joyful, positive mood that allows her to feel the butterflies, the excitement, the hype, and the sexual tension. Negative emotions create a barrier to co… | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 09:08 AM |
| 9 | Women I approached either married or have a boyfriendI have slept knowingly with married women and women with boyfriends. So that isn’t necessarily an impenetrable obstacle. Some don’t even actually have a boyfriend, it’s just an excuse to turn you down. Also, there is more to pick up than just the opener and the intent. You also need to build sexual tension, qualify them, make them feel special, and connecting emotionally. You seem to think that approaching, saying intentions and asking for number all within 2 mins or less is all there is to cold… | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 11:51 AM |
| 21 | Seduction is not for everybody“_You will eventually feel happier whenever lust is not present in your life no more_”. copium | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 09:25 AM |
| 2 | M[29], F[32] what can I do to come back from an awkward interaction?Humorous comments but you are not gonna salvage this because unfortunately you are inexperienced, needy, outcome dependent and driven by a scarcity mindset. If you ask me what to do to get an specific girl who is pulling away, all that tells me is that you are acting by like a beta, because a guy with options and thus, good with girls, would just let her go and not do shit. He would just be showing value living his best life and having her feel like she is missing out and being with other women. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 09:54 PM |
| 2 | M[29], F[32] what can I do to come back from an awkward interaction?Salvaging situations don’t usually work unless there is intimate sexual history together which there isn’t here. You cannot do anything, other than pretending everything is good and maybe trying to get her in a favourable mood by making her laugh with your humorous comments. Anything that sounds like an apology, apologetic behaviour, approval seeking behaviour or neediness or outcome dependence will kill it all if it it’s not dead already. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 09:11 PM |
| 5 | M[29], F[32] what can I do to come back from an awkward interaction?I sensed she’s a bit shy and for that reason I asked if I can kiss her, instead of doing it straight. She hesitated and said she thinks it’s a bit early and she wants us to get to know each other a bit better before doing that. If she is shy, then you need to be the total opposite and confident and bold to make a stronger sexual polarisation. Your mistake therefore was trying to dilute the polarity ad behaving in a way that is far more friendly and neutral, when you should have demonstrated bold… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 08:57 PM |
| 32 | Got her number, no dateWhen a girl is interested they make time for you and make things easy for you. When they are not interested enough they are always busy, and when they are not busy, something unexpected always comes up, that forces them to cancel despite having commited to going out with you. All while still being nice and frinedly over texts, but still cancelling and being "busy". This girl therefore is not interested. I know it's hard to understand because girls never say it directly and always keep being frie… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 05:39 PM |
| 15 | How to gain a girl's attention on text/dmsLess is more. If you are not gonna see her until semester starts then just don't text. Approach her in person when you meet and simply tell her you want to get to know her because you like her style. You don't need stuff like "didn't we talk on instagram". Trying to learn how to text while being outcome dependent such as in this case is recipe for disaster. The only good way to learn text game is to not really want the girl you are talking to to avoid being dependent on the outcome and being exc… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Am I coming on too strong?- Girls: Make sure she doesn't know you have romantic intentions. These is what girls would do because that's feminine energyr right there. Girls are conditioned to hide their interest to not "look easy" for the guy so the guy takes them more seriously. So of course they advice you to act feminine because that's what women do. But you are not a woman, you are a man and male behaviour in the courtship dance is not meant to be the same as female behaviour. A guy who fails to disclose his intention… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 03:22 PM |
| 4 | Should I start hiring dating coaches?I'm a Daygame (Cold approach) coach, and the reason you should hire a coach is not because the coach will give you better methods than what you can find online for free. The first problem is that there is too much conflicting and contradictory pick up and dating advice, so while you may be able to find advice for free, how do you filter between the good and the bad advice? You would need to try it all (which is a lot), face multiple rejections and it takes a lot of time. A good coach who knows w… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Help NeededWell to have sex with a girl first you need to meet in person. invite her to do something so you two can hangout, and once in person do the actiity and during the activity flirt with her, get her into the mood, escalate physically, kiss her and take her to your place to have sex. Hang out, have fun, hookup. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 01:41 PM |
| 1 | First night out was a complete disaster. Seeking for advice.Asking women for pick up advice is not recommended. They say they want one thing and then go for the complete opposite. It’s normal they say it’s cringe because you are showing your cards to them. If women know that you are being strategically social for the purpose of getting women, it’s like playing poker and showing everyone what cards you have. The game tactics must never be disclosed to women. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 01:14 PM |
| 2 | How do you elevate things in a pub/bar?“_There are too many guys who approach us in a sexual way and i’m glad you didn’t_” That’s not a compliment. Those guys who act sexual are far more likely to get laid than you. All she is telling you is that she is happy to get an asexual male friend, and basically friendzoning you. Intentions need to be clear from the start, that doesn’t mean you directly say “_hey i don’t you but i would like to sleep with you_”, that’s because saying that would get turned down since girls are not automaticall… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 11:01 AM |
| 17 | Keep getting “I didn’t feel a spark” after the first dateI physically escalated things by putting my arm around them, holding hands, and they would only let go of my hand when I did. However, when I went in for a kiss, I got turned down Good, so you go for a kiss but get turned down. It's likely that you are not creating sexual tension. Even if you touch a woman, creating sexual tension means behaving as if you are sexually attracted and even expressing that desire verbally. The point of creating sexual tension is buidling that polarity that gets wome… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 09:43 AM |
| 2 | It is so hard not to get bitter.Going for the number straight away is like starting the house by the roof. A house requires a solid foundation first and in the social dynamics context, that means creating a connection, finding commun ground, viving, seeing if you two even wanna see each other again. You can't just simply want to see her again only because she is pretty, there has to be something more or else the girl will feel like your interest is superficial only which will be seen as a red flag for the girl. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 01:43 AM |
| 13 | How do you keep your inner game after so many rejections?I sometimes get the worst rejections ever. Like face of disgust. So I just leave them. The problem here is that you see interactions with women as evaluations of your worth and get female approval, when you should be looking at interactions as opportunities to play, evaluate compatibility and learn. You see a face of disgust, the first thing you should do is think how you could improve to avoid getting those reactions, or what is it that may be causing that. That means you detach yourself from t… | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 01:39 AM |
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