What does she really want ?

WholeMilkElitist · 2025-01-18T04:58:17+00:00

Way above Reddit's paygrade dawg. You got two options - talk to YOUR wife or suggest couple's therapy.

SauceGodSenpai · 2025-01-18T06:01:43+00:00

That last part “she won’t ruin our marriage over penis size” don’t ever believe that. There have been people bigger than you that have gotten cheated on for something even bigger, but then again I don’t know your wife.

Best I could say is you gotta spice up the bedroom, man. Use toys, lubricants, and whatever else you find at Adam n Eve. Also get a cock extender. Don’t use one myself but a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do. If you got the funds get penile enhancement surgery or try some penis exercises (be absolutely fucking careful with these cuz you can cause irreparable damage to your dick).

FlamingoNo8705 · 2025-01-18T05:20:45+00:00

Plus my Cousin said her fella huge and she can’t take it sometimes and my wife wasn’t amused at all saying how that’s a waste

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2025-01-18T06:31:20+00:00

She may, other women do ruin marriages for less. You need to be the man in the relationship and have your boundaries even if it ends in divorce. The hell you are in now isn’t worth the dishonor of a woman having your balls in her purse and being a bitch. Get confident, start working out. Ignore her, if she makes the mistake and slips up and cheats, leave. If she hasn’t actually gone out to cheat but is emotionally gone, do the same. Stand up and keep walking cause she can find out the hard way what emotionally giving up does to a man.

FlamingoNo8705 · 2025-01-18T06:16:25+00:00

Tight foreskin doesn’t help Either

Charge36 · 2025-01-18T08:58:03+00:00

Please her with toys and other things. You don't need a big dick to please a woman.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-18T12:32:02+00:00

Maybe she wants an open relationship, or being a hotwife.

Or maybe she doesn’t need another partner for sex, maybe it’s that the sex you have with her became repetitive, and dull and she is too scared to tell you, because she might feel like you would get upset and humiliated hearing her complain about that.

Maybe she has certain fantasies that don’t involve other people, but which she might feel might be too wild for you to process it. Many wives i slept with have very dark and degrading kinks that their husbands wouldn’t even come close to figure out.

They think their sweet innocent wife would never in a million years be into slutty depraved stuff like that. Ironically, if those wives felt safe talking with their husbands about her secret fantasies without fear of the husband over reacting, they probably would not have had secret affairs with guys like me.

So, I’d recommend that you talk about how you feel that you have allowed things to become repetitive and dull when you have sex, (taking responsibility, instead of blaming her) and that you want to open the room for talking about any type of fantasy or kink you both may have without judging each other (making that last part “no judgment”, very clear when you tell her this).

Instead of assuming or bringing up something sensitive like the “porn thing you saw,” approach the conversation with curiosity and a desire for open communication. Frame it in a way that encourages mutual sharing and vulnerability without judgment. Here’s a clearer way to phrase it:

“I feel like we both might have fantasies or desires we haven’t talked about yet. I really want to understand and explore those with you because I value that deeper connection with you. Whatever you’re comfortable sharing, I promise I’ll listen without judgment or assumptions.”

This approach emphasizes trust, curiosity, and respect, creating a safe space for her to share honestly.

vergil_never_cry · 2025-01-18T13:45:09+00:00

Stack 10 condoms together and we are talking

amlextex · 2025-01-18T20:10:43+00:00

How many inches?

Seriously though,

you got to build the courage to address it. You know she wants a better sex life--she fantasies about it through porn. So, you got to put in the effort. That starts with being honest.

The best you can hope for is her being honest as well.

FlamingoNo8705 · 2025-01-18T21:07:51+00:00

How do the ladies take that

Onzalimey · 2025-01-18T05:16:01+00:00

98% of porn is big dicks so there’s that. But fantasies are normal for people. People flirt. Watch porn etc. it’s not a big deal you can’t control it. And if you do it’s only gonna make it worse

Title	What does she really want ?
Author	FlamingoNo8705
Upvotes	4
Comments	38
Date	January 18, 2025 4:54 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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