Pulling girls as a dangerous looking sensitive guy

Ori_of_Ath · 2025-02-22T12:15:35+00:00

Speaking as a guy that is relatively tall(6‘1) with a body of a lifter/wrestler, shaved head with beard, very masculine face and „aggressive“ eyes I can tell you it’s your vibe, body language, the way you walk and the way you move around people.

My solution was to be more relaxed, move slower, speak slower and be more open to really chit chat with females.

For start try to say more often thank you, I’m sorry if someone bumps into you, smile by doing this, ask a girl where the next train station is and say thank you with a smile after that.

The „problem“ for us is that we „look“ aggressive and we need to show signs that we are chill. As soon as the girls get the vibe that you are a relaxed normal dude they will dig it because looking tough/aggressive etc. and being a normal human is sexy for them.

Also one last tip, don’t try the nice guy route.

Don’t be nice, be polite and fair.

Ok_Potential359 · 2025-02-22T13:25:40+00:00

You’re really giving off “the strangler” vibes.

It’s really probably how you’re dressing dude and your body language regarding how you’re carrying yourself.

Mystery is like a 6’6 guy who towers over women but dressed using peacock theory. Look him up and watch his videos to gain some idea of Style. I’d argue his approach of wearing something that contradicts what’s considered normally socially would have women approaching ‘you’ more. Doesn’t need to be only structured for bars.

Beyond that, I’d probably look into men’s clothing styles you like and start writing down examples. Look into websites like StitchFix Which gives you an idea of samples of what works and what doesn’t.

You should also probably get your hair professionally done. Go to a barber and pay $$$ to get a barber who knows their shit to optimize your hair to your face. If you’re going bald, shave the whole thing off and own the look. If you have a fat face, grow a beard. If you can’t grow a beard, get a dope hair cut, etc etc.

Of course other things like physical fitness aren’t really optional. Start lifting/running/biking. Get into shape. Grab your nuts, don’t give a fuck about your excuses. Start immediately.

I’d start with the above then I’d physically commit to doing something uncomfortable once a month. I used to have body dysmorphia, so I went to Hawaii and hiked with my shirt off in a crowd of people I never saw and it was tremendous therapy for my self consciousness.

Literally travel to a new place once a month, you can do that anywhere in the world. Definitely try to bring a friend but if you have none, challenge yourself to go out there.

Hope this helps.

JackSquirts · 2025-02-22T11:37:38+00:00

Your body language probably makes you off putting. Smile, move more slowly, and be genuinely inquisitive and polite.

Jironasaurus · 2025-02-22T18:07:37+00:00

What you are describing is in your post title is something my mentor used to describe as "contrast and harmony".

It actually works very well, because it's like the best of both worlds. Your problem isn't how you turn that fear into attraction. You already have it. That last girl kinda told you so when she said she expected your numbers to be higher. I'd assume other women are thinking the same too - "this guy gets women".

So your main issue now is getting over the awkwardness and sensitive feelings you feel at the beginning. Being more comfortable with who you are will allow you to express yourself easier.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-22T20:12:32+00:00

Don’t worry about going out sober to the bar I do it all the time. People like to make it seem weird but it isn’t. It IS only if you are trying to pick up girls that are clearly way too drunk. But most girls you talk to aren’t that drunk or some are even sober. It’s just a place for people to meet people and people use alcohol to make that smoother

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-02-23T01:54:09+00:00

Your sensitivity to rejection will start to go once you have approached a reasonable amount of women, so it's okay to have a little bit of approach anxiety especially if you've been out of the game for awhile.

Dont feel pressured into what society THINKS on how experienced or whatever. Focus on what you want, if ONS is not your thing then it's not your thing. Dont make yourself insecure for something as irrelevant as body count.

I dont drink nor smoke either, and I also like to dance. You need to do pickup with a clear mind anyways. Check out my nightgame guide, I feel like it hits upon and resolves the points you are concerned with.

Thebiggestbigsquid · 2025-02-24T01:48:19+00:00

Yall overthink so much lol just be normal, the bar is actually so low. Most dudes are just weirdos who are delusional about how they are

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-02-26T12:47:42+00:00

Hello mate.

It's quite simple: if you KNOW what to do and when to do it, the fear goes away.

The issue is a lot of the advice you find on these forums is mediocre. I know because I wasted 2 years of my life struggling trying to use that stuff . Only a select few people actually give good advice. I was lucky because I was willing to try anything that made sense and when I met my mentor he had proof of results so I tried his way .

I lost my do daygame. Before last year I couldn't get girls to talk to me . It was frustrating. But After adjusting my fashion, my mindsets and especially the way I approach, I hook almost every girl talk to.

So the solution is simple: get good at talking to strangers.

DaygameCode · 2025-02-22T12:40:45+00:00

Seduction here is aimed mostly at daygame, the art of approaching women in broad daylight in any casual situation to connect with them and seduce them.

It’s not necessary aimed at nightclubs.

What you need to learn is how to approach women wherever you are comfortable being at, beaches, large parks, large malls, public squares, large tran stations, markets,… etc

When you cold approach women you might feel like they are scared, but in reality it’s most likely that they are just confused about what you are doing because it’s unusual for women to be approached like that during the day.

This means that you have to adapt your approach and let them know right away what is it that you want and why. Rather than simply asking her how are you for no reason to an stranger, you should be straightforward with your intentions, something like:

“_Hello, I don’t usually approach someone like this. But in making an exception with you, because I couldn’t help but I noticed that you have a great style, and I was just mesmerized thinking «man if I don’t try to get to know this stylish woman, i’m gonna regret it!» What’s your name?_”

Something like this should be the first thing you say to remove any confusion, so she knows the context which is important for her to make an informed decision about whether she wants to engage further or not with your proposition.

Then there are other things that you need to be mindful in your body language, keeping a smirk, not invading too much of her personal space, not following her around if she doesn’t stop… etc

Obviously there are more things to make an approach like this successful, but that’s just some basic steps.

If you need any more advanced help, just DM me.

Peace.

Title	Pulling girls as a dangerous looking sensitive guy
Author	ForsakenArmadillo520
Upvotes	19
Comments	14
Date	February 22, 2025 10:50 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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