Help building conversation game

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-26T09:01:05+00:00

Treat hot girls like you treat other people. With disdain. Hahaha just kidding, but yea seriously treat them the same. You’d see how much positive feedback you’d get when you don’t put them on a pedestal.

I mean, imagine treating a specific group of people more kindly just because they won genetics lottery (aka being pretty). They didn’t even put any efforts in it, their parents did. Look at them in the eyes and act like you wanna tell them “this is all you could bring to the table? By being pretty? Most people have learned some skills, you know.”

epimpstyle · 2025-01-26T09:00:11+00:00

The whole philosophy is what you say/do after the opener. Having the courage to approach and saying an opener is maybe 25% but what comes next is about showing your personality and now the attraction can go up or down.

I guess you think that the hot girls will be cold and not invest in the conversation, if this is the case, LEAVE- don't stay there if you are not welcome. If they are not interested in you, you just waste your time. You need 2-3 funny stories and bring them into the conversation, if you know some routines/gambits it is even easier.

In short, the scheme of conversation always goes like this:

opener --> assumption/question --> insert story1 --> comment on her response --> insert story 2 (check for IOI/IOD - if she is not interested --> LEAVE) if you see that she is interested in talking ---> ask some questions/make some assumptions about her ---> comment on her response /reaction / you noticed something about her ---> story 3 ----> and so on....

throwaway193867234 · 2025-01-26T08:59:46+00:00

but when It comes to Hot girls, I have this expectations about being super smooth and infalible that end up blocking and distracting me.

I used to make this mistake with hot women where I'd start talking fast and try really hard to fill even a moment of silence with conversation. It wasn't until I observed another guy doing this with an attractive woman that I realized how bad it looks - it gives off desperate, anxious vibes.

Now I'm working on slowing it down and filling the silence with a smile. Since I started doing this, I noticed that women who are actually interested in me will then suddenly be the ones grasping for something to say to keep the conversation going.

Once they're in that mode I immediately feel relaxed because I realize they want the convo to keep going just as much as me, which takes the pressure off and helps me slow it down and come off as more suave and confident.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-26T16:25:00+00:00

The worst way to have conversation is asking after question after question after question… Like an interrogation. No woman i met enjoys this and they excuse themselves after a while because they are bored to death with so many questions.

Women connect by sharing with others how they feel about things, they want to know the reason you do or like things and the feelings you have when you experience those things that you do or like. They wanna relate to you and you should relate to them by sharing how you feel about things or how you have felt similar things as them.

So if you ask questions, it should only be like 20% of the conversation.

80% should be a mixture of statements, anecdotes, stories, jokes, opinions, comments, teasing remarks, playful flirting, assumptions, goal sharing, and expressions of feelings and sensations about the things you experience in life.

I like to use the structure: What, Why and How it Feels to drive every conversation. No matter what she asks, I tell them the what I do or like, the reason why I do it or why I like it, and the feelings I feel when i do it.

And my questions follow same pattern i only ask how do you feel or why do you do it. I’m looking not for facts, but for subjective statements. I don’t care how long she has been dancing, i care how does she feel about dancing. I don’t care if she likes ice skating, i want to know how she feels when she ice skates.

I want to know with detail how she feels about those things, so that she can open up about her personal experiences, and that gives me room to connect with her as it allows me to understand where she is coming from and what type of person she is and how her experiences have shaped her.

You also need to flirt and tease to build tension, because otherwise you would be connecting in a platonic way, and we are not there to be friends, we want a romance or sexual vibe, so you need to create sexual tension by flirting. Without sexual tension you are just gonna become a good friend for her and nothing more than that.

I’m a seduction coach, so if you need help, you can book a free coaching call here with me where you will get more practical advice.

luxlovely111 · 2025-01-26T15:16:28+00:00

I’m a woman and conversation is VERY important. I’ve met gorgeous men who can hold a conversation, it was boring QUESTIONS are the secret to holding convos. Plan some questions to ask about her in your head before you meet up. Remember she’s part of the convo too, you don’t need to hold the whole convo.

Ask her what she does during the weekends - then run with that. Ask her about worst date experience- run with that. Ask her favourite place to hang out in the city- run w that

Just have some initial conversation starters

Title	Help building conversation game
Author	nstrcaiman
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	January 26, 2025 8:40 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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