Handling rejection!

Aggravating-Bar-9301 · 2025-01-31T21:54:42+00:00

Think of it like a market of sorts. If a store doesn't have what you want, do you lose your cool? I imagine not. The most sensible thing is to just go to another store. In that scenario, you're not hurt because another store has what you want. The store isn't hurt because they have what plenty of other people want. You don't need a cheesy line to deliver to the store. Just wish them the best and move on.

Melodic-Poetry1149 · 2025-01-31T21:39:02+00:00

“No problem, not everyone is a match”

And this is the truth. Not everyone is a match. Just remember quality over quantity. Better to find someone who likes you than someone who doesn’t like you.

sqowz · 2025-01-31T21:42:48+00:00

There's no other way around but being rejected tons of time until you get use to it. I mean that's what sales people experienced daily, that's also why they're often the best seducer. They just don't care, eventually they even have fun with it.

Also having the mindset that it's not you they're rejecting helps. Probably your approach is too aggressive, or they're just having a bad day or not the best timing, things like that. In short, don't take it personally.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-31T22:27:39+00:00

The cure to ego is accepting rejection with humility.

1 - You need first to be humble enough to accept that not every girl you are into is meant for you, or also be wise enough to recognize that not every girl you are into is a girl that’s good for you.

You feel bad about rejection because you allow ego to trick you into thinking that every girl you desire should desire you and if she doesn’t, it feels personal, like she has the audacity to say to your face that you aren’t worthy of a girl like her.

This excessive arrogance comes from your ego, as it wants to believe in the fake idea that a guy like you should never be turned down by anyone because being turned down is beneath guys like you. But arrogance is a flaw.

Being humble to accept that you are not the last coke on earth, allows you to treat people as equals with respect and makes it possible to build better connections with them.

2 - The second thing is to rephrase how you word things in your own internal dialogue (your thoughts or the voice in your head). When it comes to hitting on girls who then turn you down, it’s better to say she didn’t connect with me than she didn’t like me, or instead of thinking “she rejected me”, you can think that “she wasn’t feeling (she didn’t feel) my vibe”, or instead of saying “she turned me down, you can say “_she turned my offer down_”. (Detach yourself from it, and make it about the specific offer, rather than your being).

This is important because the way you word these things also has a direct impact on how personal you take an undesirable outcome with women.

And also because in reality, this is not about being good enough for a girl, it’s about whether you connect or not. You could be good enough for a girl and she could still pass on dating you because she simply doesn’t connect with you.

With some people you will connect and with others you won’t, and that’s ok. It’s normal. We are not supposed to connect with everyone. And just because with some people we don’t connect that doesn’t mean we are lesser as a person.

Take in mind that lack of connection is a mutual thing, if she doesn’t connect with you it also means that yo i don’t connect with her. And if you don’t connect with her that doesn’t mean you are rejecting her or telling her that she isn’t good enough, it just means that you really have nothing in common, or don’t feel the spark or the chemistry.

3 - The third thing is to recognize that you don’t need to be cool when a lack of connection (what you call rejection) happens. This desire to look or sound cool when the lack of connection happens comes from your ego, which wants to do a desperate hail mary attempt to prove to others (or to her) that despite being rejected you are not lesser as a person.

And that’s because you still see lack of connection as something unworthy or shameful. Something that attacks your pride, and the image you want to portray. Your ego fears that if people see you getting rejected, they will think of you as inferior, mocking you, treating you like you aren’t a cool enough guy to get their respect.

What you need instead is to be mature about it. So instead of trying to come up with a try-hard response to save face, just thank her for her time: “Well I guess it’s not meant to be, thank you anyway, have a good day”.

And if she somehow tries to be mean in the way she turns your offer down, you can say: “Thank you for the humility lesson, it helps to keep my ego in check, and i appreciate your help”

This is mature way of treating this thing and women will respect you more because you don’t act butt hurt, and also dont act like a try-hard who wants to save face. Because yes women cringe when they see guys being try-hards in a desperate attempt to look cool in situations like this.

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SnooHesitations4922 · 2025-01-31T22:05:25+00:00

" I'm certainly not everybody's cup of bratwurst"

EnvironmentalHome296 · 2025-01-31T23:36:45+00:00

Echoing to the other comments.

I would add don’t try to memorize cheesy lines.

Instead, internalize the fact that getting rejected sometimes is fine. But moreover, you don’t draw your worth based on a girl approving you or making you feel good about yourself. You are there to have fun like you were in a playground, and if you are grounded in your own reality, wouldn’t really matter if someone rejects you for any reason.

And because you wouldn’t care, you wouldn’t even feel the need to learn cheesy lines or to make her feel bad (which some guys do to make their own egos feel good)

Fit_Apple8567 · 2025-02-01T00:40:56+00:00

it's what it's, laugh

EquinosX · 2025-02-01T02:49:48+00:00

I’ll say take it as a compliment or something like that. I’d rather leave them feeling good rather than be negative. You don’t want to start a fire. Yes rejection can suck at times

Raisin-vert · 2025-02-01T11:26:12+00:00

I think it’ s more a problem of self comprehension. If you know what you want from a girl ( other than her body ), then you become picky, and then you are not searching for being picked from girls but you search for match, and this is the correct mindset.

Then when it doesn’t match, you understand why and it’s ok then, rather than asking for the approbation of every girl and then being sad just because you werent picked by them

KoleSekor · 2025-02-01T12:21:24+00:00

Women who don't realize how awesome I am are dumb and therefore unattractive to me. It's her loss.

Jironasaurus · 2025-02-01T14:43:55+00:00

Rather than learn a line, you should learn to see things in perspective. Why did she reject you? Is there room to improve?

Or is it because she was being unrealistic? Or perhaps it's just simply incompatibility?

Different circumstances require you to look at things differently.

Most importantly though, stay humble and always listen to feedback.

Scared-Masterpiece98 · 2025-02-01T15:14:15+00:00

do 100 direct cold approaches embrace being rejected repetition will make u more accustomed to it over time playa 🏝️

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-02-01T17:56:24+00:00

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Title	Handling rejection!
Author	jack_sparow17
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Comments	17
Date	January 31, 2025 9:30 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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