My experience using Tinder was mentally draining. I feel like females use it for ego boosts—chatting with or hooking up with guys out of their league. As a guy, it was the opposite—girls I expected easy interest and intimacy from ignored me. Girls who were not nearly as attractive as my last couple of girlfriends treat me like I’m their last option, ghosting messages, not showing up for a date. It hit my ego hard. Plus, it wasted tons of time and made me feel worse the more I used it.

I was wondering, how effective would it be to train a chat bot to just do all the messaging up until the point of actually meeting the person on a video call and/or actual date.

For example, on a computer somewhere, connect tinder messages to a custom built Chat bot with my basic information and instructions to do ‘text game’ for me while I go on with my life and do things like work and gym and leisure activities. The female on the other end has no idea she’s talking to a bot, she’s just experiencing ‘text game’ done correctly like I’d train the bot to be kind of funny, keeping the flirty man to woman vibe, non needy, appropriate time to text back and number of words based on her messages, etc. the bot would essentially take the job of being good at ‘text game’ off of my plate, and make it so that I don’t have to spend any mental energy on it, and not spend time messaging girls that might flake, and most importantly keep my mental health and ego safe from being humbled. Perhaps this could be scaled up and the chat bot could be texting with hundreds or thousands of women on my behalf, and just presenting to me the options for which ones are ready to do video chat-date and then actual meeting up.

The process would look like this; I spend an evening swiping and get a bunch of matches the next day, then the bot goes to work on my text game for me while I just let it cook. I basically ignore the process until it has someone ready for me to take from chat messages to meetings, so maybe I’m at the gym or something and the bot messages me and says ‘here’s 5 different females that you are talking with, these ones are all ready for the meetup phase, do you want to choose one or a few and I’ll set up video chats or dates with them? ‘