This is not me coming from a state of inexperience, this is me coming from a state of wondering what the fuck is happening lol. I am in a mean ass dry spell, and it’s unfortunate because there was a point in time where I rarely got rejected. But ever since I’ve moved back home, dating has been on Advanced Difficulty.

So, I need to figure out what has shifted. Just a month ago, I was on a date with a beautiful woman. Took great care of her (paid for the Uber, paid for dinner, etc), she didn’t have to worry about shit. She is in my car telling me that she wants me bad. I didn’t escalate. Fast forward to today, I am still the same dude. I talk my shit, hold eye contact, etc. But now, I’m getting repeatedly told that they don’t feel a connection.

Yes, you can say that it all stems down to attraction. But I need to get into the root cause. A lot of these girls try me with half assed affection or no affection. I don’t subscribe to that. If you don’t kiss me on the first date, I’m going to assume you don’t like me. Therefore, I would prefer if you don’t contact me. I have had women treat me like a king who I hardly know. Is it a desperation thing? Possibly. The first girl I saw a month ago, I did not try at all but as I mentioned.. she was already attracted to me (initiated touch, excited to see me, brought up sex). Nowadays, I’m initiating. Not in a thirsty way, just being bold. I wasn’t bold with the first girl. Now I am. But I’m continuously being told that i am not romantically compatible with women/given half assed affection. There is a nuanced detail that I am not figuring out right now. The fact I haven’t gotten a second date in a month bothers the fuck out of me. How do I go from women thirsting over me, to getting constantly rejected in the span of 4 weeks? How does that happen?