Field Report: First Time Going Out this Year

CompleteEducator2966 · 2024-05-06T16:49:24+00:00

There's definitely some good in this but you're just doing what most guys do when they go out to bars and clubs that causes failure for the most part. And that's not talking to enough different women, not spending enough time trying to develop a meaningful connection with women, and failure/inability to escalate enough physically.

People go to bars/clubs and nightlife spots to have fun during that specific night and to meet people for that specific night. And then wake up the next day (in most cases hungover), back to reality, and what happened the night before is largely meaningless. And all of these little 5-10 minute interactions they had while drunk with strangers just don't matter anymore. They don't give a fuck about these people the next day.

So if you are truly attracted to a woman you meet at a bar and could see yourself with her, your goal should ultimately be to take her home that night. But at the very minimum to at least have a nice 25-30 minute interaction with her, dance with her, make out with her, move her around the bar, go to another bar etc (almost like a mini insta date)

But most guys just walk around, have these quick 5 minute conversations with women, aren't able to make them that interested, not sure what to talk about, aren't able to flirt much, ask for a quick phone number or insta, consider it a W and just move onto the next. But girls (and people in general) don't give a fuck about 1 of 15 random strangers they met while hammered drunk and spoke to for 5 minutes the night before. So with the first couple of girls you mentioned...if you're having good vibes and they seem into you and you're into them, then why are these conversations ending after 5 minutes? Why are you just asking for their number and moving on after 5 minutes of light convo?

The reason why the first girl isn't responding to you isn't because she saw you with some other girl. If anything that's going to help you. She's not responding because you talked to her for 5 minutes of light convo and she doesn't even know you or care about you. You're a complete stranger she met for a second while drunk. She meets 20 dudes like you every weekend at the bar. And with the instagram girl, if you're saying you'd date her and she seems into you, why aren't you doing anything right then and there. Why not go on an insta date that night? Why say things like "the next time we talk on insta I'm gonna do this"? You've finally met her in person and she seems into you, who the fuck gives about your online interactions in the future?

The only girl you probably realistically have any chance with in this situation is the last girl because she was the only one that spent a decent amount of time with you. But again you made the classic mistake of being too scared and unwilling to escalate further. Why would you refuse to hold her hand? Why would you spend 20-30 minutes talking to her outside without going for a kiss? That's what the women want. That's how relationships and hookups or whatever you're looking for develop. You need to make moves or women will just move on to other men that have the balls to do so.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-06T20:24:20+00:00

nice to just get out in the field again.

Yea I kinda miss going out just for the shits and giggles . I get you .

Made sure I looked good (although I need a haircut, I still groomed myself well), smelled good, had a nice fit, all the above. At first, I was kind of just scoping the scene and talking to familiar faces, but after getting a couple drinks in me, I was activated.

You have a pre-plan That is good .

I approached this one really cute girl and opened her talking about her outfit. She had on a cowgirl hat so that was a pretty easy conversation starter. We spoke for about 5 minutes, very light, nothing too intense but it was good vibes. Made her laugh a little too. Exchanged numbers, and as I went through my night I even caught her looking at me.

She ain’t answering that . (~10% chance ) and she has an easy open so it would be less .

I then went to go chop it up with this girl I wasn't physically attracted to, but I wanted some of her hookah so I just chatted with her and got in nice with her.

You remind me of me . “But they have free alcohol “ - Is a quote of mine .

She goes "do I look better in person" and I teased her a bit, but ultimately said yes.

You hooped good .

But she definitely was feeling me I think because she would talk a lot.

So there is a dualism in game . You want her talking a lot so she is chasing (PUA term ) . An that point you need to shut her up so you can build tension uninterrupted .

Now you could get Investment here so you don’t wast the time doing nothing that benefits you .

Use the compliance here to get Investment or Turn her on .

She said she'd be down, but I'm taking that at face value.

Don’t . Nightclubs are generally not memory inducing . They are more like a fever dream of emotions .

I hadn't gotten flat out curved yet, so I started going for the more difficult challenges.

And you got free hookah

basically just told her friend that I wanted the girl that I had my eyes on lol.

This is not going to end well . “Friends” are “props” - she will ping of her for thoughts and behaviours - you want the “nice guy vote” from them .

Also This blatant way of doing it IS a woman social” NO NO “ - Not discreet .

I would suggest reading something on “Group theory “

She was flattered and even called me beautiful, but she said she had a kid and wasn't really on that. Got her Instagram anyways because she really is my type of chick, but she didn't follow me back lmao.

Expected . She might like you ,but IF her “friend “ calls you “rude” - she will remember you as rude . And sexy isn’t rude .

“Reverse justification “ - If I remember my terminology right .

You want the “nice guy vote” for that reason . “Jasmine that dude you were with was supper fun” - and you become fun . And fun is sexy .

She has a high follower count so she prob thinks she's a big deal. Cool chick regardless.

You just did a social “No No” - it is on you .

Also you have supper short sets - The girls need you to be there for a bit to think of you as hot .

Pulled up on her by saying "hey" and she just looked at me, said hey and continued walking where she was going (probably leaving).

“Stop walking and talk to me” - Is a lot of compliance . You’d better have a lot of stuff to pull If you ask for that much .

this was probably the best interaction and I believe will turn into something.

Well let’s see .

and then she suggested that I walked her to her car with her friend.

It wasn’t going well .

she wanted me to hold her hand lol. Not doing all that.

This is had a name at some point but fuck if I remember it .

She was basically trying to distract you with “NICE guy talk “ - “Be contend only holding my hand and don’t push this further “

You handled it perfectly - “Not doing all that “

she would always say something suggesting have gotten a lot of girls tonight

Aaaaa this is a reassurance problem (You became too hot )

I can tell you are wasting too much compliance .

But once we got to her car, me and her just talked for like 20 - 30 minutes

Ooooo she fucked you .

which is honestly what a good friend should do.

“Becky this guy is sooooooooo hot , make sure I don’t get fucked , sit in the car and make sure I don’t pull my pants down “

It in all honesty is not what a “friend” should do .

She told me to text her when I got home, and she responded before she went to bed.

This is going no where .

This is a trick and I can’t really explain it without insulting women .

It is basically an “order” , implied “don’t pull me” , and “Nice guy talk” .

So while I was talking to her outside her car, the first girl whose number I got was parked in the exact spot next to her car.

You get free pre-selection good .

So she starts to walk over with two of her friends, and I believe me and the girl whose name I kept botching were real close and like basically hugging lmao she was in my arms I think.

Good .

And I know she saw that shit because it was obvious. I was still somewhat smooth and was able to chat her a bit before she pulled off, but that might have fucked up my chances with her lol.

Not how women work . It would increase them as a matter of fact ( if you mean “cowgirl hat “ form 0 to 1 won’t really help you)

The wrong name girl - You should have actually tried to pull . Because “friends” suck .

Because I did the same thing and texted her when I got home, and she never responded.

She wasn’t in any case .

I def have been missing out on the face to face interactions, because I have relied primarily on Hinge to fulfil my needs.

It is fun right .

Positives & Realizations:

I will take only the last set for this : Good interaction (lots of teasing and cocky shit)

Not falling for “Nice guys” tricks . Was supper hot . Were on top of most things (besides tactics)

Things that need improvement:

Short sets , Group theory( read it ) , not pulling , wasting compliance , small Tactical things (not really a problem they just make sets MORE solid - Something like sending a picture with you and the girl having fun ) .

This should be enough . The biggest thing you should focus on is Pulling . The rest are small things to improve after that .

Overall: 8.5/10

I would call this a 7/10 . The things that take points are for like 0.1 besides “Not Pulling” that takes like 2 points .

You still did miles better than expected .

Let's see if anything substantial comes from these interactions though.

Very small % like ~ 8 % (per statistic ) so If you continue to “play” this game mass approaching is your friend .

I might make this a regular thing I do so I can come back and review my game and gain some feedback from you guys.

Pls do . I miss giving advice to intermediates . It was a fun read .

ClitPlayaBootySlappa · 2024-05-06T19:07:11+00:00

You should read this article, it's not long: https://web.archive.org/web/20090414200133/www.geocities.com/modeone2k1/M1-Backstory.html

how to do the approach (5 min vid) https://youtu.be/L-CZYxUGBko

It teaches true seduction, how to get a woman sexually aroused, with examples. You have to read it over and over again, over time (while taking action) cause there are things you're not gonna understand on the first read. If you've already had experience, you might get a few "a ha!" moments.

You apply this, and rejection is not gonna bother you, the women who only want to waste your time will go away and you're gonna hook up quickly with women that are horny and craving your dick.

Because all that talking you're doing, especially if its about random shit and not about fucking her, is just drying up her pussy. Try talking to yourself about the same things you talked to those women about. That shit isn't getting your dick hard. Guaranteed. So you know it definitely isnt getting her wet.

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-06T16:18:23+00:00

I hadn't gotten flat out curved yet

Because you hadn't made any moves yet. You only provided some entertainment to the girls you spoke to.

she would always say something suggesting that I'm charismatic

Why do you care?

me and her just talked for like 20 - 30 minutes

Why?

She told me to text her when I got home

You think this is a good thing?

but that might have fucked up my chances with her lol.

No, she wasn't interested anyway.

I have better convo skills than I give myself credit for because these girls can TALK.

Talking is not the same as f.....g.

I still got it

What did you get?

You're just going round giving these girls attention, wasting time. Why didn't you make any moves?

Title	Field Report: First Time Going Out this Year
Author	Radiant-Positive-582
Upvotes	22
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Date	May 6, 2024 3:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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