So, I've been talking to this girl from work for about a week now. We've been flirting like crazy, talking basically non stop, etc. I've been trying to keep her on her toes, being playful, teasing, DHVing, etc, as much as I can. She likes me, no question about it. Still trying to get her to come hang out. I have a weird work schedule, so it's been tough to arrange, but it's going to happen. (I work til 10:30pm 7 days in a row, then have 7 days off. Just started my week off)

Problem is, she's been seeing some other guy for a little bit. I guess they went on, like, 3 dates and he had to fly off to Missouri for military training for a little over 2 months (he's in the reserves, I'm guard.). They aren't officially an item, but she kinda wants to them to be, whatever (I'm pretty sure she just misses the guy because he's not there). Not worried about him, tbh. She's been responsive to me so I've been pushing the ball forward, but last night I hit her with some real shit. I'm pretty sure I did the right thing, but I'm trying to figure out where to go from here.

For background, she was telling me about her escapades at work. I told her that I've messed around with someone, but I didn't tell her who. It's been eating at her since we started talking.

Her: I'm still waiting to hear who you messed around with... I think it was alyssa.. I can't remember if she thought you were cute or if that was hunter...
Me:lol you'll just have to be patient, Molly. I couldn't possibly tell my secrets to someone I haven't so much as hung out with. But it's a safe bet she probably thought I was the cute one ;)
Her: Lol I'm right
Me: Not confirming or denying anything. Only way you'll know for sure is if your hear it from me directly.
Her: It must be a military thing to be so cocky ;)
Me: Could be. Or it may just be that I'm awesome. Who's to say? :P
Her: Lol Joe was pretty cocky too. But I could see him being insecure.

This is where I took a questionable turn. Figured I'd get her thinking about how insecure he is, instead it got her thinking about why she likes him.

Me: what makes you say that?
Her: Blah blah blah 4 pages of shit I don't need to hear about their dynamic and why he made her feel special.
Me: Interesting. But, honestly, after that you need to let me know pretty much right now if there's any possibility here. Not asking you to make a choice, obviously, I just want to know if I should be focusing my efforts elsewhere, you know? You're cool and all, but I deserve to know if I'm beating my head against a brick wall. Not being harsh, just being real, Molly.

(I'm pretty sure I won't be hearing any more about how much she likes the other guy)

Her: I know what you are saying. I'm going to be honest, I don't know if you are beating your head against a brick. I feel emotionally crazy. I'm all over the place. I'm in emotional turmoil. I don't really know what to do with myself. I don't know if I really like army guy, or if I just miss him because he's gone. I'm very lose... and all over the place.

It was late, so I didn't respond. Figured I'd mull it over and run it by you guys.

Bear in mind: I'm still a recovering AFC so I know I probably fucked things up a number of different ways. I just want to know the best way to respond here.

EDIT: She just responded, 8:30 am over here, with

I hope I didn't make you mad with what I said.

Still not sure how to proceed. Please advise.