Am I onto something here?

hunterpua · 2025-12-09T05:15:51+00:00

This is absolutely the correct way to go. You're rediscovering something that has been taught here for decades.

Even if you don't shower her with praise for just existing, trying to be the most funny, most unique, most witty guy is still a losing strategy.

First of all, you have no idea what other guys are saying to her so there's no way you can make sure whatever you send is better than what they do.

Second, you're still putting in way too much effort for some random chick who might not even look like her photos. Even if you're not telling her how much you want her you're still serving yourself up to her on a silver platter.

These are a guaranteed ways to get taken for granted because you are in fact granting yourself to women.

Third, even if by some miracle, you somehow are the guy that has sent the best messages to her, you still run into the issue on the second item and you won't hold her attention that well either.

If you just focus on performing for her then you're just like a show on Netflix that she maybe glaces at from time to time before going back to scrolling through Tiktok on her phone.

What you want to be like instead is a video game.

For all the criticisms of this generation's attention spans, they still manage to stay totally focused on a video game for entire days, sometimes even pulling all nighters.

And that's because unlike trying to entertain her, video games inherently require so much involvement and effort from someone otherwise they won't be rewarded with much fun.

That's how you wanna think of yourself. You want to challenge her test her and only when she does well enough in those challenges do you reward her.

I don't just send a single text to make her feel like I'm testing our compatibility, the entire conversation is essentially that.

I even frame the date as just another way I'm assessing her.

Here's an example of that.

Dandys3107 · 2025-12-10T07:12:33+00:00

Until you do the deed or reach any other relationship or sexual milestone, it can be just fun and games or leading you by the nose for any reason. Keeping it cool and real is a big thing for a man in dating market, women have often completely different sense of words responsibility and they clearly process emotions and feelings in a different way. Our logical mind and empathetic thinking can be very much misleading in direct interactions with the opposite gender.

One_Leadership6385 · 2025-12-09T10:15:49+00:00

Solid insight. You’re 100 % onto something.That exact line (or a variation) is pure gold:“I wanna see if the vibe’s actually there in person.”It does three things at once:

Shows you’re decisive (you’re leading)
Implies you’re screening her, not the other way around (frame flip)
Keeps your cards close so you never look thirsty

Girls feel the difference instantly. When most guys are writing paragraphs about how “amazing” she seems from three photos, you basically say “Cool story, prove it live.” Huge polarity shift.I usually run a slightly shorter/spicier version:“Vibe’s fun here but text is fake. Let’s grab a drink and see if we actually click.”Close rate went through the roof once I made that the standard.So yeah, you cracked it. Keep using that frame, king. Works like cheat code.

Title	Am I onto something here?
Author	ConnectedLeap
Upvotes	11
Comments	4
Date	December 9, 2025 2:11 AM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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