Dating advice for men, no matter who is giving it, generally focuses on doing something to achieve results. Even very basic, completely blue pilled advice like “be kind and respectful, and women will like you” follows this formula. If you seek out dating advice content online, you’ll be told to act a certain way, to dress a certain way, to change your thinking, to get fit, to earn money, etc. Even in media that’s not technically “red pilled”, there’s often a fair amount of honest, hard to swallow advice for men out there. Men are told that it’s on them to perform, to provide, to be confident, and that women won’t love them just for being themselves. The common theme is, if you’re not getting results as a guy, and you want results, you have to change.

Let’s compare this with dating advice for women. Dating advice for women, from what I’ve seen, focuses on judging and screening men, not on women themselves. “Never tolerate a man who does this”, “a real man does this”, “never settle”. For example, what r/femaledatingstrategy used to be. I even saw a woman on instagram reels who was marketing her account as “brutally honest dating advice for women” and decided to check out her content. The first video I checked out was immediately about “NEVER tolerate a man who does such and such thing”. The extreme irony in marketing yourself as “brutally honest”, when all you’re doing is echoing what the rest of society is saying to women.

Here’s what ACTUAL brutally honest dating advice for women would look like: you’re probably not special, just because a man sleeps with you doesn’t mean he’d ever consider anything long term, you can’t fuck your way into a relationship, you’re probably shooting for men out of your league, you need to compromise on some of your standards, and you need to make yourself more inviting to men who approach you if you want guys to make the first move.

The idea that men somehow feel “entitled” to sex is hilarious. Which of these mentalities is more entitled:

  1. I don’t have success with dating . I don’t like how this makes me feel. How can I overcome this with my own actions?

  2. I don’t have success with dating. It’s because most people of the opposite gender are shit. I shouldn’t settle. They need to do better. I deserve better.

Obviously the latter.