Pre amble:

I am currently using Gambler's method.

After reading his books, the method seems much simpler than systems like Mystery Method.

Rather than relying on routines, DHV stories or lots of scripted material, the focus is on taking action. The basic structure is: cold approach, open simply (even just "Hey"), reach the "Hook Point" by getting Indicators of Interest, build rapport through normal conversation, create attraction using techniques such as "Push Pull," "Challenges," "Breaking Rapport," "Cold Reading", and then escalate physically ("Kino-Escalation")

There are unfortunately very few (almost none) actual scripts/examples in the books or examples of the pushpulls, breaking rapport adn cold reads etc, so I've been using Todd Valentines examples instead

The only verbatim examples of other stuff that ARE in his books are things like "Hey," "Hey, sorry I'm late," "Why didn't you call me?", "You look familiar, did we have sex?", and eventually "Can I have your number?"

At one point I thought I was actually somehow missing/forgetting stuff as the books (I have all 3 of his) felt so hollow, so I actually ran all 3 of his books through AI and it confirmed that i'd missed nothing.

Interaction 1

I approached a woman standing with a drink and opened with, "Hey." She looked up, smiled and said, "Hi." I stayed in the interaction and concentrated on reaching the Hook Point rather than worrying about finding clever things to say.

We chatted for several minutes. I focused on keeping my energy up and avoiding an interview-style conversation. I also consciously tried to use some of Richard's ideas like "Challenges" and "Breaking Rapport" rather than agreeing with everything she said. She wasn't really asking me anything and kept her answer very short though.

After a while I suggested we move to a quieter part of the bar. She declined. Felt obvious i wasn't her type in that there was no attraction there and I decided to cut my losses and wished her a good night

Interaction 2

I approached a two-set and opened with, "Hey, sorry I'm late."

One of them laughed briefly but the other immediately turned back to her conversation. I stayed for a few seconds, hoping to reach the Hook Point, but neither of them invested in the interaction.

After about thirty seconds of short answers I wished them a good evening and left.

Interaction 3

I opened a woman with, "Why didn't you call me?"

She looked confused and simply replied, "Sorry?" I smiled and continued talking rather than immediately explaining the opener.

She answered politely but kept looking around the room and over my shoulder. I tried to continue the conversation and maintain good energy, but I never felt she became engaged. Eventually she said, "I'm just waiting for my friends," and turned away.

Interaction 4

I approached a woman standing near the dance floor with, "Hey."

She immediately said, "No thanks," before I had a chance to say anything else lol.

I smiled, said, "No problem,"

Interaction 5

I approached a woman sitting on her own and simply said, "Hey."

She looked at me briefly, gave a polite smile and then returned to looking at her phone. I waited a moment to see if she would re-engage, but she didn't ask any questions or continue the conversation.

After another short attempt I realised I hadn't reached the Hook Point and ended the interaction, wishing her a good evening before walking away.

Interaction 6

I approached a woman standing near the bar and simply opened with, "Hey." She immediately smiled, turned fully towards me and said, "Hi." We started talking and I reached what Richard describes as the Hook Point almost immediately because she was engaged from the start and was asking me questions as much as I was asking her. Maybe more!

I tried to follow the same approach as in the previous interactions. I kept my energy up, avoided rushing the conversation and 'breaking rapport'. We talked for around ten minutes and she laughed a lot, although looking back I don't think anything I said was particularly clever or different from my previous approaches.

She had plans, but Before she was leaving I asked, "Can I have your number?" She smiled, gave it to me without hesitation and even suggested we should meet up the following weekend.

Walking away, I couldn't help thinking that this interaction hadn't felt dramatically different to several of the unsuccessful ones. The main difference was that she seemed to have very high initial interest I guess

Done quite a few approaches with this method now but think I might move onto the mysterymethod next. A book that actually tells you what to do and say as opposed to being so vague like these books. Or maybe Mark Manson