Any single fathers here doing seduction to find a nice girl?

heckz · 2011-07-19T05:06:56+00:00

Hey, being able to take care of kids on your own is a huge demonstration of value and leadership. Find women that appreciate that and everything you do. There are millions of women out there, so start screening! Of course, it might be a dealbreaker for some girls out there---in that case, disqualify yourself to her about looking for anything long-term and have some short term fun while you keep looking for your ideal partner!

Asilus · 2011-07-19T07:34:27+00:00

I don't have any advice but I do offer encouragement. There's lots of high quality women out there, and some of them would be great for you and your kids. You have a unique opportunity to use your PUA super powers for a GOOD cause, i.e., creating a family unit, and not just for something as crass as merely accumulating notches under your belt. Good luck, sir!

side2 · 2011-07-19T05:44:03+00:00

Sorry the title made me think of a Craigslist ad.

frogma · 2011-07-19T09:14:41+00:00

You're obviously focused on this wayyy too much. You know I've never been in that situation, and I'll admit I'd probably be just as downtrodden as you are right now. Still though, I've been through heartbreak plenty of times, and I know what you're feeling.

Just from this post, I know for a fact that you put this random girl on a pedestal. You presented her with the facts, hoping she'd be cool with it, and when she wasn't, you allowed her perception to influence your perception. In other words, you had a weak frame. Be proud of what you've done, and don't let anyone allow you to think it's a bad thing, or awkward, or any sort of shit like that. Keep your solid frame and push through the bullshit.

The most important thing that you're doing completely wrong right now (from what it sounds like) is you're going on these "traditional" dates where you have to tell some random chick your life story and hope that she's ok with it. So you talk to this girl for however many hours before you even have a chance to get more intimate (and by "more intimate," I mean standard kino and shit that you could pull off at any bar in the country on any given night).

Your mindset is fucked up right now because you're trying to make girls like you. Flip the fuckin script man. Make it so they're the ones trying to get you to like them. I don't think the kids thing is a dealbreaker at all (especially if the girl's close in age). But your frame isn't good, so you let it get to you.

The best thing I could recommend for you right now is to go out and have some one-night-stands. Go to big bars and clubs. Get drunk. Take home some random girl. Fuck her. Repeat the process. What you'll find is that some (or most) of these random girls will be pretty cool, and many of them will have pretty good personalities. So what happens? After your "one-night-stand," there's a pretty good chance you'll want to see them again. And again. And again. And that's how you get a girlfriend. That's what I do, and it's what almost all of my friends have done, to get into LTRs. Don't be afraid to do that, and don't assume that only "sluts" are willing to do it. Go out to a cool bar, find a cool girl, fuck her, and see where it leads. Do the same thing with some other girls. You'll find one you really like, guaranteed.

[Don't just go to shitty dive bars though. Try to go to packed bars that have good reputations.]

2011-07-19T06:40:34+00:00

I think most women your age would be scared about meeting your kids and having them be attached and the emotional trauma that comes with it. As a 25m, I wouldn't date a woman who had kids for those same reasons. That said, what might work is to disqualify the girl from meeting your kids. "I have kids, but I'm not comfortable with any girl meeting them. For the moment, if anything happens, it'll just be you and me."

side2 · 2011-07-19T15:52:27+00:00

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Title	Any single fathers here doing seduction to find a nice girl?
Author	side2
Upvotes	7
Comments	28
Date	July 19, 2011 4:48 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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