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Anybody else when you get oneitis do you feel that you have not accomplished enough?

SSCharles · 2020-09-19T12:09:51+00:00

I get it bad, and I been thinking maybe it has to do with me having being poor growing...

SSCharles

September 19, 2020

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Title	Anybody else when you get oneitis do you feel that you have not accomplished enough?
Author	SSCharles
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	September 19, 2020 12:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ivreqo/anybody_else_when_you_get_oneitis_do_you_feel/
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[–]Nosferatu_V 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

When you contract oneitis, it usually leads to seeing him/her as 'the one'. If it's not like that, it could be like you are destined to be with this person and therefore you should make every effort to be with them. One may even put the other person on a pedestal. That way, they'll be seen as 'superior' or 'out of your league', hence making you feel low as you mentioned.

However, it doesn't work like this. Perhaps it's a misconception created when we're growing up or external influences, but chances are we're not going to end up with our high school sweethearts (and even if indeed some of us do, it doesn't happen due to oneitis).

The point I'm trying to get at is that a relationship is a two way road and that's why it doesn't work when only one of the parts is clearly more involved. The way I see it, that ** ** line is the root to other conclusions as well, for instance 'if he/she is interested, he/she will call/text/interact back' or 'don't be needy' and others.

The key to see the other person as equal is to have confidence, so if you're not quite there yet take some time to work on yourself and build self-esteem. In the end, if you haven't clicked with someone, don't force it, move along, because you shouldn't be in a one sided relationship.

[–]SSCharles 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Nosferatu_V 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link