You know what really sucks? When you are at a bar or club and want to approach a beautiful girl but over analyze the situation and get cold feet leading to feelings of disappointment and self-loathing. This approach anxiety cripples many individuals and it is so prevalent because the majority of men have not learned the one secret that will significantly reduce approach nervousness when in social settings. Luckily, I will share with you a surefire way to overcome this fear and approach women with ease!

Let me now introduce to you…the 3 second rule.

You may have an idea what the 3 second rule is just by the name but let me elaborate. The reason that many men get cold feet when trying to approach women is that they overthink. Running through their minds may be thoughts like:

“What if I have nothing to say?” “What if she doesn’t like me?” “What if she has a boyfriend?”

leading to analysis paralysis and lack of action. One way to combat this nervousness is through the use of the 3 second rule. The 3 second rule states:

“Within three seconds of spotting a woman that you want to open, you must go talk to her” By acting right away, you limit opportunity for negative thoughts to pass through your mind which will significantly reduce the chance you get cold feet and chicken out.

An added benefit of approaching the woman on a whim is that you will come off more naturally. A woman can usually tell when a man is working up the courage to approach her, which can lower her perception of his value. But if you follow the three second rule, she will have a feeling like you just popped up out of nowhere. Therefore, a very nice energy is added to the interaction when following this rule.

Now, I know what you are thinking, this rule may help me approach but what if I have nothing good to say? There is nothing wrong with starting with a simple “Hi” and go from there. If you act in 3 second seconds, she will notice it, and will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach which will only work in your favor. Again, hesitating will only put you in cause you in a weaker, more self-conscious state which will prompt awkward energy and unnatural conversation as you approach. Therefore, a confident “Hey, how are you?” is much better than a trembling, voicing cracking canned opener.

In conclusion, when employing this tactic, you must remember it is a rule, not a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation. So the next time you lay eyes on a lovely lady, don’t think, just act and will you will thanking yourself later!