Approach Anxiety !

Tofabyk · 2014-04-05T14:53:28+00:00

Take little steps.

Get used to chatting up strangers and making small talk.

If girls are too difficult to approach you should start with people who have less 'social value'. Old women are always happy to have somebody to talk to. Go to a retirement center and talk to some nearby grandmas to get used to small talk and to develop you conversation skills.

Then increase the 'social value' of the people you apprach step by step.

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-04-05T16:48:00+00:00

I'd give you the logical advice ( you've got nothing to lose, you can't win if you don't play, worst thing that can happen is that she says no, if you approach you're doing better than 9/10 guys, it's all in your head, women want to be approached, man up,... )

but I have a feeling you won't find that very helpful. best thing to do is work on your self-image. you should genuinely believe you are the best thing that could happen to anyone on a given day. this falls under the self-improvement category. start being as sociable and awesome as you can with people you already know. immediately introduce yourself to people who you know you have a mutual friend in common with at any kind of social gathering. this will help push your comfort zone and is a really normal and easy thing to do. you'd have to be satan to be able to make a bad impression on someone who is friends with someone you are already friends with and who knows this.

just keep taking the small steps. it's basic psychology (" exposure therapy") from there. whenever a friend of yours meets new people , be there if you can and meet them for the first time with your buddy. ask people for directions. ask people what they are drinking at bars. smile to a girl. don't even talk to her , just look at her face and smile. then maybe smile and wink. go to the bar to order drinks and bet the person standing next to you you can order before them. there are plenty of social games and AA-destroyers you can google. ask a girl or a group of girls who are standing at the bar if you can buy them a round, or say you want to do a shot but you don't want to do it alone. this will get you nowhere seduction-wise, but that's not what you're aiming for here. if you buy a girl a drink she will 100% of the times ( ** I'm guaranteeing you this. ** ) stand there with you and make pleasant small talk with you if she wants the free drink until the barkeeper brings you your drinks. start saying hi to people or girls you pass by. ask random people if they are that friend of Tom that you met last week. these are all really EASY ways to start talking to strangers, so slap a smile on your face and go do them until you are not bothered by having to do them anymore. please tell me at least something in this avalanche of tips is useful to you

PHAHTROX · 2014-04-05T18:46:31+00:00

There is a video from SimplePickup that explains how to fix this really well. They call it bitch butterflies, and when you want to talk to a girl, and don't the bitch butterflies start to arise.

Now the trick is to jump in before it happens. Go to a remote location that has people around, and just try things. If they don't work, well shit on to the next one. If they DO, however, work with what you got and find a way to capitalize on it. It could be a wink, it could be a lame joke, it could be a high five.

Your goal is to make them feel good, safe, and secure. Just like anyone else you are with.

Hope that helps. :D

Title	Approach Anxiety !
Author	MastrolindoX
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	April 5, 2014 2:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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