I often hear people ask the question: "how many people must I talk to before I start getting results?" Like it’s a video game, and they are asking how many little battles must they go through before their character levels up? You should not look an interaction as simple being a means to an end.

Apathy and lack of genuine engagement will result in most interactions going nowhere. If you are not fully present and authentic in the interactions, you should not expect to form a connection. If you are not enjoying the interactions, most likely neither is the other person.

The reason that this brute force teaching strategy is popular with many social coaches is that it allows them to use the numbers game to their advantage. If they throw you into a 100 interactions, and one ends positively, they can then take credit for it.

This 'brute force' approach of starting as many interactions as possible may help desensitize you from fear of rejection, but it can also cause you to become disengaged and make your interactions less authentic.

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