I'm getting more confident, but I still consider myself very much a student to this.

Saturday night at a gay club (I run with a mixed crowd who are very supportive of my endeavours hehe). First girl approaches me and asks for a light, putting her hands on me and plops down next to me with her gay friend. She's asking questions about me and eventually starts talking about how she wants a man to "take the lead and just grab her", as she pulls my shirt while saying this. Funnily enough, that's actually what I kind of struggle with, and although I found her cute and thought at the time she was probably flirting, I excused myself to get another drink. When I came back out she was gone.

Finished my second drink and started getting a little buzzed, saw a girl I found to be adorable standing with her friend I wasn't attracted to. I went up to her saying "my friends don't feel like dancing right now but I do, you guys wanna join me?" She looked at her friend and said why not. I grabbed her hand and walked her all the way upstairs to the dancefloor (half deliberately losing her friend). Now we're dancing hand in hand and making some small talk. She's smiling and maintaining eye contact and I'm doing some light flirting. She seems receptive and asks things about myself. after a few back and forths within the span of around 5 minutes I eventually go, "what was your name again? I like to make sure I know the name of someone before I kiss them". She goes, "I would but I have a bad ulcer right now in the inside of my mouth and it would be too painful". I didn't really mind that much, I spun her around a bit more and she eventually said she was gonna go find her friend and walked off.

After some bantering with the group I was with, the time went by and we were eventually all upstairs where it was popping off. I'll admit I was quite hammered by this point, so my memory is a bit muffled. At some point (don't remember who initiated) I was dancing with someone I found very cute, and she seemed very touchy and invested in me. I told her in a joking manner that I'm not a great dancer and she would guide my hips to "teach" me etc. her friends rock up and I go up to them one by one and introduce myself. One of her friends was cute so I got distracted with her for a while until she wrapped her arms around me to get my attention back onto her. Now we're dancing again with me implementing the "lesson" she gave me. She's got her arms around me and we are face to face eye fucking. At one point I asked her age and she had a few years on me, and I was honest about my age. She said she had never been with someone younger than her. Eventually I said "I might be a bit younger but maybe you can make an exception tonight". She grabbed my cheek, smiled, and walked off.

One of the last things I can remember from this night was a drop dead 10 coming up to me and saying "you're cute, give me your instagram" where I happily obliged.

I bet you can guess that the next morning, nothing. She followed me so I hit her up and we chatted a bit but that's about it.

I felt like I had so many balls passed to me that night and yet I got no action. I feel like I'm too verbal or I rush things instead of letting them flow naturally? Maybe you guys have a better guess, I'd really like to hear it. If there's any details I left out that would be helpful for you forming your perspective, let me know!!