Me and this girl knew of each other in college, had similar friends etc. but we never really had a conversation. I remember one time we went out in a friend group and she was giving me fuck me eyes like you wouldn't believe but for whatever reason I wasn't interested then. I would DM her occasionally by replying to her stories and she would respond. Back in January I just straight up asked her out through Instagram got her number and set a date. She ended up flaking for some BS reason and she never rescheduled.

I chalked it to me not establishing any rapport and it probably caught her off guard cause it was so out of the blue.

I recently started responding to her stories and she responded to one of mine too. Then I decided to text her a couple times and she would respond and ask a few questions to keep the conversation going.

How do I lead the conversation to setting up another date?

Second, how do you guys slide into DMs and get definite dates?