Asking a girl out multiple times

Shakur2c · 2019-10-14T15:25:51+00:00

Don't have conversations on the phone. Bring up a time and place to meet and be decisive about it. If she flaked and doesn t offer to reschedule, then just be cool about it and tell her to contact you when she is free to meet up. Then walk away and never look back. The ball will be in her court, and if she is interested she will contact you. Don't make the mistake of chasing her or being too available. She'll take you for granted if she knows she can have you at anytime. If it helps, don't chase=Don't text first. Don't be available=following your purpose and chase the best version of yourself.

axe122 · 2019-10-14T17:18:12+00:00

Okay so try this you already got turned down 3 times asking her. If she didn’t respond the first 2 times you asked even the 3rd time when she did tell you she was on vaca, this may have been true but it was still an excuse cuz she didn’t respond the first two times she responded this time cuz she had a legit reason to say she couldn’t. The next time she reaches out or wait one full week after your last attempt and send her this text “ hey if you wanna get together hit me up when your free and we’ll hang out and have some fun” This way she knows that if she texts you she’s walking into a date. If she texts and and still won’t agree to a date just let her be cuz if you keep asking your just appearing needy and weak which is probly the main reason yous broke up anyway.(even if your unaware of that) I say you try one last time and end it just how I said so you phrase it like look don’t hit me up again unless you wanna get together but phrase it the way I did the first time so you don’t sound frustrated just assertive and stating what you want. Also someone else mentioned not talking on the phone and texting conversations with her which is good advice you can’t reward her with attention and Time if she keeps flaking and or not setting dates she’s just using you as an ego boost and will continue to lead you on u til she meets someone new,then she’ll stop responding cuz she doesn’t value you and doesn’t want to make things complicated with the new guy. If you were texting her or always the one reaching out everyday in between dates that’s most likely why yous broke up in the first place, even if you dumped her if you dumped her cuz she was acting bitchy,flakey or distant it’s she was doing it on purpose to try and get you to break up with her so she doesn’t have to feel bad.(this could be on a subconscious level) but they act this way when they want out, think about it she was great when you first met her she changed cuz she wanted to end things and was hoping you would dump her, many men still won’t end it and will deal with the bad behavior u til she dumps them and she’ll often wait till she meets a new guy before she breaks up with you or she’ll cheat first then dump you depending on the character of the girl. Notice every reason you break up is based on her reaction to how your presenting yourself. Unless you dumped her cuz her home life was chaotic or she had no drive or job or was bad in bed or something it’s basically your fault lol it sucks but if you accept that their behavior is a direct result of your behavior it’s much easier to fix the problem and you can stop putting yourself through frustrating relationships and heartache. You’d much rather be ending relationships do to incompatibility rather then she starts acting flaky or bitchy due to your weak behavior and neediness.

MLG-BLT · 2019-10-14T15:01:49+00:00

idk if other folks here would disagree, but what I personally would do is either stop talking to her now if I didn’t care that much, or if i did I’d just be extremely direct and say “look i wanna meet up with you but I also dont like to waste my time so whats up” or something along those lines. if that doesnt work then sorry brother she isnt as into it as you think and its time to dip

being direct like this is a good idea because she knows that you dont have time to be playing games, so making excuses is effectively the same as saying “not interested sorry”. because of this, if she really is into you, she’ll say yes. and if she really has something going on and is still into you, then she’ll either make time or reschedule herself. if she isnt into you this won’t happen and you should just forget about it and move on, like i said.

hahah89gh · 2019-10-14T17:42:37+00:00

Why would you ask a girl out multiple times ? Lol if she said no that’s how she meant it, even if she “did” change her mind you’ll be getting a girl who settled for you. Ask once and that’s it.

Title	Asking a girl out multiple times
Author	SweatyCount
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	October 14, 2019 2:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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