Assuming attraction

hunterpua · 2018-10-10T20:47:26+00:00

This is something that I've been doing since before I ever learned a single thing about dating, seduction, pick-up, psychology or anything like that and I have to tell you, in the beginning you basically have to fake it until you make it.

I've always been the kind of guy that has a sort of "delusional" kind of confidence, i.e. I've always believed I was worthy of things long before I ever got those things. You see it a lot in sports wherein there are competitors who have never been champ before but truly believe in their heart that they are the best and its their destiny to be champ.

I'm sort of backwards engineering here because I developed that kind of attitude long before I was consciously aware of any of this stuff but breaking it down now, the way I see it is, what's the danger if you're wrong?

You might say, "Well you could end up extremely disappointed or heartbroken if you fail" but I would argue that isn't the case. Why? Because if you truly believe in your heart that you deserve a something, a certain standard above the rest that is befitting of you then whenever you fail, you simply think to yourself that its a learning experience that contributes to your overall success plus it will be a part in your overall success story that just will make it sound more epic.

So you see, you're always thinking that you'll be a winner, even when you lose you believe you will ultimately win, even when you're miles away from where you want to be you simply think, "Man, when I'm successful, it will be awesome to see the looks of disbelief on people's faces when I talk about how much I used to suck."

When you look at a girl and just assume you are amazing then you're not really thinking about who you currently are, you're looking to the future and thinking of who you're destined to be so of course you would automatically think that any girl would be insane not to want you. You're amazing, you're the king, bitches love the king.

The cool thing about this is, similar to what you talked about, this kind of mindset in and of itself helps you to actually get everything you've ever wanted. Theres a lot of psychology that goes into it. One is confidence, when you're confident in yourself you usually take more risks, you make more attempts and the most successful people have not only taken the most chances but have also failed the most times. There is a great quote by Michael Jordan that you can google, the TL;DR version of it is basically, "I've failed over and over again in my life and that's why I succeed." So if you can fail at a much faster rate than everyone else then you'll also learn at a faster rate, not to mention some risks will pan out big and since you'll be one of the few among a sea of mediocrity you'll be way ahead of everybody.

The other psychological thing that happens is with your reticular activation system. Basically, you see more of what you're focused on. A quick exercise to illustrate this to yourself is to look around where you currently are and find everything that is blue then close your eyes and try to list everything that is brown. Pretty sure it'd be really hard to do since your focus was towards blue colored things. What happens when you're always focused on you winning is that most of what you see are opportunities for you to win. I can't explain how almost eerie this has been for me, its like whenever I feel like I've peaked or whenever I feel like I need something to push my life forward like an opportunity, a mentor, a new thing to learn, etc, one way or another I pretty much just stumble upon the exact thing I need. I either see a video on youtube that I just feel like clicking on for some reason from someone I don't know and never seen before and the content of that video is the exact thing that I've been looking for or a friend might want me to meet someone and that someone turns out to be the next game changer in my life.

Recently a failure caused me to reach out to someone I pretty much ignored and alienated before really getting to know. I tried to get business help from someone I thought I could rely on who is an expert on the field that my business that needed work on and he turned me down so I tried to reach out to that person that I ignored and alienated as sort of a Hail Mary pass and what do you know, it turns out she thinks exactly like I do and is way more amazing than the first person I went to for help and she has since become a real game changer.

Which brings me to the point when you make it. Once you do make it, everything is just a piece of cake. After being able to get so many girls and having all those successes in your memory, some extremely fresh, when you see a new girl that you like, its basically a forgone conclusion. You've already had tons and tons of wins in the past and theres no reason for you to think this new girl will be any different and of course it turns out exactly the way you wanted, of course. You never expected anything less.

For every stage of your development, from the faking it all the way to the making it, you never need to think about how to verbalize or express yourself. Focus on just believing that you're destined for everything you ever wanted and everything you do and say will align with that automatically.

gg1angela · 2018-10-11T02:49:16+00:00

I guess it depends on ur personality and whether ur ok with being the cocky dick who gets what he wants or being the irresistible one. Even if I only want to sleep with someone, I want them to be genuinely into me ...even if I know I’m not going to continue with it after lol. Assuming u’ve got IT when it comes to charm is super attractive to the other person. Assuming they like me sounds delusional to myself and I wouldn’t do that because, even if I am successful with her, she’s not going to have the best opinion of me. I personally rather have a reputation for being charismatic as fuck than an asshole (even though girls like assholes too, i think it’s a cop out when guys just act like dicks instead of putting work in to really make someone gush over u).

libboost · 2018-10-11T09:29:30+00:00

I think it's a great mindset.

It feels really awesome to be in a town where every woman is attracted to you.

It not only gives you confidence boost and stimulate even more attraction; but also lets you filter out women who misbehave, and move on to the next lady who's all over you, without wasting time.

Title	Assuming attraction
Author	Saltyen
Upvotes	14
Comments	8
Date	October 10, 2018 6:42 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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