At what stage of dating someone could I send them my random thought at 3am without worrying about whether they'll think it's a red flag that I was up that late or worrying they'll think less of me for oversharing or that it will effect my status as a high value guy or some bullshit?

I'd obviously much rather be alone than be dating someone where I don't feel as though I can just be completely myself with, but I understand that there's a natural vetting process that takes place and certain things will inevitably appear as red flags.

You see crude potheads with cute girlfriends and it's obvious (at least I think) that if they were upfront about everything from the get go they wouldn't be together, so I realize everyone plays the game for a while.

I also try to be myself as much as possible during the early stages because then it won't seem so incongruent later on, and fuck putting on an act, but at what point can you be completely yourself?