What is a polite way to shut down the "ex boyfriend" spiel that comes up organically in the conversation (as I never bring it up myself). Sure, I'm open to hearing about it later, but on a first date I don't wanna know, and frankly I don't care. It puts me in a friend zone type scenario and I've always just listened to her and tried to change the topic, but some girls get fixated on past relation drama and keep coming back to it. The question is, what's a good way to shut that conversation down and, is there something I'm saying that is triggering that topic?