When you ask a woman out chances are you're 1/10 guys who would LOVE to take her out on that weekend. You gotta demonstrate that it's worth her time. So instead of

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"Hey want to hang this weekend"

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say

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"Would you like to get drinks at bar X which has outdoor seating at 6pm? [link to bar on yelp]"

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You should include the following

  • Be sure to mention what you're doing and how long it will take.
  • Speak to her like a woman you're courting, not like one of the homies (so that means "would you like to?" not "tryna"). She wants someone to lay the smooth sauce on her so you gotta show that's gonna be you.

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It accomplishes the following:

  • Make the plan so she doesn't have to deal with the trouble. It also shows that you CARE. In my experience, after you've secured a date, demonstrated interest is girls #1 selection criteria because they want someone who will keep hanging out with them instead of just losing interest after they have sex.
  • She knows exactly what she's getting into so its easier for her to make a decision. She doesn't know whether or not you're an idiot who's going to take her on a boring date and waste her Saturday. Show that you're not.
  • It shows her that you're a boss ass mofo who handles shit and takes charge. Nothing gets the ladies wet like a man with a plan