Becoming more confident/driven.

legowatch · 2012-04-12T19:05:15+00:00

1) Read the NEW HERE? section on the side bar. That is more than enough information to get you started.

2) Stop reading and go and put yourself out there. Begin with small goals. For example, aim to make eye contact with 5 people today and keep the eye contact until they break away. It's simple, easy, and an important building block to appear more confident.

When aiming for behavioural change, the size of the goal is not important. All your mind cares about is whether you achieved your goal or not. Start easy. Success breeds success.

There are some good reads about what it really means to be a 'nice' guy here, here and here.

Good luck on your mission. Trust me, confidence snowballs very quickly once you start actively applying these principles.

bigweiner · 2012-04-12T20:23:53+00:00

Let me preface by saying I'm new to this subreddit, I don't know how the hivemind will feel, but I'd still like to give my input.

This sounds less like it is about seduction and more about improving the quality of your life. If it is a co-worker it means she thinks you are being pushed around at work. I can think of a few reasons she might think this:

You are doing another person's work.- A simple solution would just be to say hey, that's your job my man. Don't do it anymore. Ever. That's bull shit.
Someone(s) is talking down to you.- If you work in a grown up work place chances are everyone who hears probably thinks they are a douche anyway. A comeback for when an adult is putting you down should be fairly simple.
You're the boss and someone is taking advantage of you (maybe coming in late). Call them into your office and let them know that what they are doing is unacceptable and if they value their job they will stop doing it.

Maybe your problem is outside the work place. I know a couple guys whose lady friends get mad at them for the weirdest things; hanging out with their friends, not texting back within ten minutes, etc. And they apologize. She's the one that needs to apologize, but they want to "avoid a fight." I don't think you need to take baby steps to not be a pushover, you just need to realize you don't deserve to be treated that way. However, if it is necessary, start with expressing yourself. You don't even have to be a hardass about it, just start letting people know when you're upset.

If you post a specific example I'm sure someone who has more practice being an alpha or is more familiar with your work environment can give you much better answer.

2012-04-12T20:30:36+00:00

Shit, I get made fun of at work because I yell at people too much over the phone. I could probably stand to be a bit more of a pushover.

Title	Becoming more confident/driven.
Author	notathrowawayatall77
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	April 12, 2012 6:31 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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