I just had a date with a French girl. And I don’t know what I would’ve done different to have won her over.

We met via day-game on Saturday, which lead to an instadate at Starbucks. During that date, it was boring honestly. Mainly because her English sucked and we relied on google translate. I was getting such mixed signals. She seemed totally aloof and disinterested. As was I, but damnit, she was hot. And I figured she must have had some interest in me or she wouldn’t be here.

Anyway, we text a bit, which is a lot easier since she can at least understand me. We agree to meeting up at a park. Date goes the same way. I try to escalate things by holding her hand, but she pulls away. I didn’t even try to kiss her at the end since I know it wouldn’t have worked.

It was a one sided date and she didn’t ask me anything. Of course, part of the difficulty was the language barrier. But I also think that this issue is something that I face previously in dates.

I know ultimately we want to girl to chase us. But If the girl isn’t interested, how can you get there? Should we just cut our losses and move on?

I have just come to a point where it’s gotten stagnant with my dates. I’m usually able to be successful with sevens. But not with 9-10’s. I do my best to just be confident, cool and collected, but maybe I show too much intent directly. I definitely complemented the French girls eyes way too much.

How have you dealt with boring dates? Where it seems like you can’t escalate and the girl isn’t as sexually interested as you would’ve hoped?