Bringing up sexual topics

bl1y · 2014-03-15T16:01:42+00:00

This question shows up from time to time, and the logic behind it is completely flawed. It's basically "If I steer a conversation towards sex, then we start talking about sex, that makes her think about sex, which in turn makes her want to have sex with me."

Nope! That's not how girls work.

If the conversation takes a sexual turn before she's interested in you, you're going to creep her out. If you get her interested in you first, then it doesn't really matter where the conversation goes so long as you don't lose interest.

You don't use sexual conversation to make her interested, you use it to ping interest. How does she respond to a dirty joke? If she responds positively, that's an IOI. If it's a neutral or negative response and you've been in set for more than 5 minutes, it's time to bail.

RandianHero · 2014-03-15T05:51:00+00:00

Organically. Most conversations eventually take a turn towards sex anyway, so just segue into it naturally and let it take off from there.

2014-03-15T23:50:49+00:00

Sexual topics don't plant the seed. It's the underlying sexual tension/vibe of the interaction.

If you're talking to a girl as a friend, like "let's bake cupcakes together!!", you're going to have a bad time when you try to drop in "hey by the way I got a cock".

If the vibe of the interaction is "I'm your gay friend let's go shopping!!" because you were too afraid to be direct with your intentions from the beginning, then more often than not, it's not going to go well when you suddenly try to switch to a sexual vibe.

Even a simple "hello" can be full of sexual tension. It's not about the conversational topics that are discussed. It's about your vibe.

Title	Bringing up sexual topics
Author	tha_nice_guy
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	March 15, 2014 4:33 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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