Yo!

A simple description of the basic London daygame model is:

Open - Build Attraction - Build Comfort - Close

I've noticed it's an extremely common mistake for people to mix the second and third step around.

Here's why it happens....

Picture the scenario...

You've gone in all guns blazing with the opener and some opening gambit, and she's giving you nothing.

In fact, she looks uncomfortable.

Perfectly normal in the first few minutes of a cold approach. Yet, your insecure ass is wishing she'd contribute more to the conversation already.

So, you go into interview mode....

"What's your job? Do you like this club? Do you come here often?"

  • It's perfectly natural to try and build comfort when she looks uncomfortable
  • It's perfectly natural to ask questions when you want her to talk more...

That's why this mistake is so common in this scenario .(I made it today).

Why doesn't it work?

Because she doesn't like you enough to be giving out this personal information, or engaging in anything more than a couple of minutes of polite chatter.

Imagine if some random guy from the street started asking you these personal questions. It would be weird and uncomfortable.

Instead, keep building attraction by having fun, sharing jokes, doing DHVs, whatever...

Once she starts investing by asking questions (and the set has hooked) THEN you can go onto these comfort-building questions.

I still got this girl's Instagram, but I'm betting it will be a flake. I'll keep following her account to remind me not to make that mistake again...

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