Build Confidence

itsamatterofattitude · 2020-09-14T16:28:53+00:00

Confidence comes from experience.

Think of it like shooting a free throw; if you've never touched a basketball before and I ask you to shooy a freethrow, you're going to be nervous. And you're probably going to miss.

But if you've stood at that line and practiced a thousand times, and I ask you to take a shot, you're going to be vastly more confident. Sure, there's a chance you might miss, but the difference is in the level of experience you have.

How this translates to talking to women is simply a matter of practicing your shots. The two most important things to remember are 1) Dont make it about talking to women. Instead, focus on learning to talk to people. I can talk to an child, a teen, and adult, or an elderly individual as naturally as breathing. It doesn't matter the gender. A woman is just a person, not a mythical creature. Learn to talk to people and it will become easier to... talk to people.

The second thing to understand is it doesn't matter if you hit the shot or miss. Taking the shot is what matters. Dont worry or obsess over what the outcome may be. Just take the shot. Over and over and over... until it just become part of you.

The confidence will come.

DippinChese · 2020-09-14T23:04:15+00:00

Focus on what you enjoy doing or what you really want to do. There’s no perfect guide on how to build confidence, by going to the gym to pump up some muscles doesn’t instantly make you a confident person.

I’ll say focus on doing things you like and you’ll find yourself in a happier state, that’s where your confidence naturally come about. Don’t blindly follow what others say online, it may work for them because they actually ENJOY doing it and it may not work for you.

You can be a normal build guy but love doing things like reading books, making a perfect cup of espresso, understanding every wine and still have a higher level of confidence and attractiveness than someone who have killer arms.

2020-09-14T18:39:37+00:00

The best way to build confidence in my experience is from success and positive social feedback. It's a feedback loop. The good thing is though that one beautiful girl can negate a thousand rejections. The more beautiful women you get the more your confidence builds up. The more you get rejected unfortunately the harder it is to maintain that confidence. You can also get confidence from guys though. Frat guys get rejected a ton but they support each other emotionally so they have high confidence. They tell each other that rejection is normal.

I think a man who sleeps with 5 beautiful women but has been rejected 1000 times will feel more confident than a man who's been with only 1 women but never been rejected.

No-Specialist1974 · 2020-09-15T01:10:05+00:00

I remember i was in your shoes looking for answers on how to be more confident especially with the women, my whole goal was focused on women. Everywhere i go i expected to get a girl. Nowadays im more confident because i do stuff i want to do. I give no fucks about how anyone feels about me because its my life and i choose it to be that way. Idk how to build up your confidence because thats a you thing, if you wanna do it do it thats all i can say, its really not hard just do what you want dude its your life start living it.

GoldSmith64 · 2020-09-15T01:46:17+00:00

Rule number 1. Keep your back straight and eyes up at all times! No slouching, hands out of pockets.

Rule number 2. I don’t know what else to say. But rule number 1 is helpful

Godisgoodkj142 · 2020-09-15T06:43:29+00:00

do things that challenge you

Title	Build Confidence
Author	ramos-03
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	September 14, 2020 4:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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