I'm going to be 100% here, so if someone feels like I'm being offensive or not optimistic, I'd suggest you stop reading here. I want genuine advice to improve so I'm going to share my perspective and I'm open to other ones, or suggestions. Skip to TL;DR if this is too long.

The only method I see of being able to pull and grow as an introvert is through cold/warm approach. But as a non-autistic person, most methods of cold approach that I've seen are strange & not calibrated. That shit where you run in front of a chick raise your hand and stop the chick and directly say "hey I just stopped you because I thought your were cute" is so cringe to me. I can do it, but I know that any calibrated mentally stable chick is going to find that approach weird. It's not natural. They might smile and be flustered at best, but that's about it. You'll get a flake. Unless she's low EQ, a drug addict, autistic, narcissistic, highly insecure, or a sociopath, she won't let it slide. The demographic of these types of chicks is high enough, which explains the success that people might have through it. There could be normal chicks who go with it, but let's be real, it's because the dude's hot enough and she's like fuck it. Kind of like when a guy will still fuck a crazy chick because she's hot. To me, this is just common sense from someone who actually doesn't live in his basement. Yeah I know, "girls aren't like guys, they're attracted to blah blah blah". But let's not act like there's not a base value that both sides are generally into. You're not going to see a 5'4 butt ugly fat introverted indian dude succeed through cold approach. It doesn't matter how their eye contact is like. I mean hey they might get lucky, there's REALLY insecure women out there, plus alcohol, but that's not what you want. Anyone who tells you otherwise is making $$$$ off of you.

This method of cold approach makes sense to me though. Like if you're on the same bench as someone and you smoothly ask about their drink and mention having gone there before, then ease into the teasing through the convo, that could make it seem natural then okay your chances are actually better. There's also times where you're stopped at cross-walk and you might mention how cold it is or anything about the current situation to the chick, laugh about life, then ease into a convo from there. But that seems natural. It's not game anymore. It's more like natural convo, and then your looks/value and ability to tease a bit to establish that it's man-woman is just about enough to pull. Even kino doesn't need to be established that quickly. And it's not inauthentic either. You're indicating what you're there for. You're not just talking about shit and not teasing at all. Another example is at a bus stop. You comment on what the other person is doing in a joking way. The only issue with this method of natural cold approaching is you either have to walk around and specifically look to create these opportunities, or you have to do this in your normal day-to-day life which is much harder because you have no time to prepare. And I've rarely ever seen this type of approach mentioned by most PUAs. 90% of what I've seen is either shot-gun approach, or "forcing IOIs". But even if you force an IOI on the street, if you end up getting a small IOI, doing the direct approach in front of the chick is still going to lead to the same shit. How would you even force an IOI outside of the street? Look at a chick in a bench and give eye contact and smile? You're not even facing them. It can seem forced and calculated. By the way, the warm approach I mentioned is the same as the natural approach I mentioned, except in a club or as a part of an event you're at, which likely makes it easier.

Social Media & Online Dating is mostly about looks and fabricated status. Personally, it's not an option I'm considering anymore after tons of experience with it. If you want to get the number quickly so that you can set up the date before dms fuck things up, your value has to be high enough to establish that. I'm average looking. The amount of time spent to force something like that is not worth the effort put in. I will be wasting time. Swiping to match, then commenting on something and being sexual without commenting directly on their appearance, then not caring about possible really late replies, and then slowly pushing for a number so you're not just having a convo going nowhere etc. I'm not about that. It's caring too much. I'm trying to deal with my issue of not knowing how to pull in person. The actual sex means nothing to me. I just want to deal with my inner demon. I don't want to be a validation giving machine. Maybe other introverts can try this route, especially if they're better looking and want easy sex. But for me, it's taking me away from my purpose. Approaching actually gets you out of your comfort zone and teaches you HOW to pull in person. Talking to chicks through text is the easiest shit. You're just typing to a screen. You might as well play one of those 3D dating sims. I did it back in high school, and I gained NOTHING. I had fabricated abundance. Even if I "pulled" in person, there was zero self-growth. I was still shy and insecure and non-assertive.

Social circles are a whole other beast. I'm introverted and I can't maintain social circles and don't vibe at that level. I can be social and I have tons of experience and practice in social circles. Not for me. They're draining, and I don't enjoy myself in them, so I fade out really quickly. It might be fun to drop by and chill with a group for 30 mins, but after that I'm not about it anymore. It's not my path to success. At best, I can only capitalise at best in the first 10-20 minutes if it's in a club and I'm joining a group without an already established group that I'm with. Personally, I have a few close friends, and at best, I bring them together into our own temporary group for trips or meet-ups. I'm the person people know keeps their word and will reciprocate the respect I'm given, and doesn't waste my energy on bs. The people that end up in my inner circle mostly end up being those authentic empathetic types. Social circle game isn't my route.

So what do you suggest? Natural cold and warm approach? Is there any other route? I've learned so much about myself recently and I'm starting to notice that my path to success is going to be different than someone else's.

TL;DR I'm introverted, average looking, and want to grow as a person and improve my pulling skills IRL. Social media, online dating, and social circles aren't an option for me. A lot of cold approach advice is calibrated and doesn't allow for growth. Is the best method of approaching through cold/warm natural indirect approach? What would you suggest?