I've been studying seduction theory for a little while, and I've noticed that a lot of people say difference things based on what general way you should act. Here's me basically paraphrasing/summarizing what I've heard/read...

  • Being careless is the way to act. The "not-give-a-fuck" is attractive as hell to women and exudes confidence and coolness. Caring too much about things shows insecurity, ruins good vibes, and makes you look beta.

  • Being opinionated and assertive is the way to act. Have lots of opinions that you feel passionately about, and don't be afraid to openly express them, even if they offend a girl you're trying to seduce. Not caring about something or being indifferent to something is beta because there's no assertiveness or substance to have through your indifference.

It might just be me, but these two mentalities seem contradict eachother and leave me confused. How can I not give a fuck while still being opinionated and stern?

What's Seddit's opinion? Which mentality, or mix of the mentalities, has worked best for you?