I made a very important change in mindset a year or two ago, and have seen tons better results.

Instead of your ultimate goal being "Fuck x girl(s)," or "get this one girl I really like," your new goal should be "I'm going to make x girl(s) want me as bad as one human can desire another."

This has several implications:

  • You limit interactions before they become negative. Stewardship allows girls to come back into your life down the road under better circumstance. You can put girls on the back burner if they're developing slowly, and pick them up again when you run dry of other targets.

  • You basically make a girl to beg you to fuck her before you do it. I like to tease girls and build it up slowly until they can barely contain themselves. Ways to do this: kiss her passionately and stop suddenly on a whim, push her gently to the wall and go in for a kiss and stop on a whim, accidentally brush her sensitive areas.

  • Rather than focus on your pleasure, you focus on hers, so everything else falls in line. This is not to say you supplicate or put her on a pedestal, but the thought that guides your actions is that you're going to have her right where you want her. A supplicative mindset will have the opposite effect.

[EDIT: Previous post: Full Stop.]