Chemistry?

pickup_startist · 2010-10-15T04:01:03+00:00

I'm thinking you didn't escalate quickly enough. And I've said before, if a girl voluntarily goes to your place to be alone with you, she wants you to make a move. Sexually. If you don't, she either regrets giving you the opportunity (if she's the type to let ASD kick in) or she doesn't want to bother wasting her time with someone who isn't going to take charge (if she's more sex positive).

philosarapter · 2010-10-15T14:23:58+00:00

Wait, you went on 6 dates and didn't put your dick inside of her?

You definitely aren't doing it right. You were most likely boring, run-of-the-mill with nothing to excite or illicit a reaction out of her.

First off: Give up on this one, you blew it.

Secondly: You need to build attraction, you need to seduce her, that means avoiding idle conversation and getting her fired up about something, teasing her, testing her, showing disinterest, joking, flirting, complimenting, wagering bets, something!

Could you be more specific about what you did on the dates? Was there any playful touching? What did you guys talk about?

It matters little what you think of her, it matters much about what she feels about you.

dcash52 · 2010-10-15T16:59:50+00:00

Dont be a Boron, Move on and see if she comes crawling back (I doubt it).

Box-Monkey · 2010-10-15T07:27:55+00:00

You're in the beginning throws of oneitis and you need to shatter that before you end up wasting more time on this girl. Learn the escalation ladder, then practice it. She probably gave you further dates to see if you'd man up in the end, and because common practice would say so. She seemed to be going off of the BS tv/movie advice of keeping things together til date # ____. You could've easily busted through her defenses, as they simply could've just been ASD. Seems you're new to this, so I'd suggest you move on, hit the dating scene, and make sure you talk to as many women as possible. Avoid getting hung up on any particular one for a while.

2010-10-15T17:38:05+00:00

Build attraction. Kiss in the middle of the first date, not the end. Enjoy breaking the ice and being on kissing terms for the rest of the date :)

Don't be discouraged if she turns you down the first time.. just be flirty, think sexual thoughts and you'll get that playful glimmer in your eye. Tease her, make her laugh.. you're homefree.

If you've been doing your job, flirting and kinoing it up, you should be able to tell she's interested.. and because of your anxiety, she's probably more interested than you think. All it takes is a gaze into her eyes and lean in.. she'll know what's up.. Assuming the chemistry's right. Sometimes it just isn't.. and if I'm not feeling it, then the best thing is to cut my losses and find someone else I really get along with.

Title	Chemistry?
Author	NJINJI
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	October 15, 2010 3:54 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/drh09/chemistry/
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