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[–]IfURdngThsIFkdUrBtch 11 points12 points13 points 8 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Don't build it up in your head. Just treat them like you would a male friend when you approach them, then start flirting and such/ "gaming" after that. They're just people but seduction tend to indirectly pedestalize them by making game seem like a huge skill to develop. It's all chill fam ❤️
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I have trouble showing intent tho
[–]IfURdngThsIFkdUrBtch 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Do you know her? Probably not. So why would a guy approach a random girl who just HAPPENS to be attractive, in the middle of the day? 🤔That's enough intent for me. If not, say "you look cute today, so I thought I'd come over and say hello". If you try too hard to conceal your real intent you become creepy and it's bust. If you're vulnerable and tell her what's what, she can only admire you and turn you away and you'd have already won by then anyways.
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[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, you don't need the cute line. It doesn't show that you've been paying attention.
Just pay attention to the world around you as you socialize with people.
If you're still only focused on girls, you're doing it wrong. You should be talking to PEOPLE. Not just trying to target girls only.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Why? I've done that before without and it didn't work
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Done what? Pay attention? Talk to people in general?
These aren't things that you try a few times and get magic results. They are BASIC social skills.
If you don't pay attention, you're not going to get anywhere. If you can't socialize with people in general, then you're not developing the social skills you need to "seduce" anyone.
I'm talking about low-hanging fruit here. If you try to skip over it and keep trying for all these short cuts, you're going to keep having a bad time.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I do have those skills but my problem is escalating like you said.
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Intent is shown through kino/physical escalation. You don't need to get into too much of that in the beginning.
Just talk to people. You don't need to warn them that you're going to. Just TALK. Observe and talk about what you observe.
Right now, you're in your head, trying to think of what to say. But the information you need to come up with things to say, is outside of your head.
Kino is hard for me to do. How can you physically escalate during the day?
Kino is hard for me to do.
Probably because you have some sort of sleezy image of it. Or you're seeing it ONLY as stuff like the extreme stuff. You're probably envisioning it as just the escalation you would see at the end of the process and of course you're not going to jump over the beginning stages.
How can you physically escalate during the day?
This is the problem you face when you keep trying to take short cuts. Trying to find magic ways to make women want you. Short cuts to make girls open up.
This shit isn't complicated. Escalation starts off slowly, whether at night or day. And I have posted about this before, I'm pretty sure in threads you've been in on. You just didn't pay attention, I guess?
Start off small and slowly. Edging into someone's personal space is a start. They'll either re-adjust to keep the distance apart, or they'll do nothing, or they'll encourage what you're doing.
Stuff that's friendly contact you could do to guys without them thinking you're into them. High-fives, arm jabs, etc. Stuff that's safe and non-sexual but still lets you see how she reacts to contact with you.
Accidental contact. Maybe you're walking next to her, going somewhere with her and your hands or arms brush against each other. How does she react? Flinch away fast? Slow down? Put something into her hand so it can't come into contact with you anymore?
It gets back to PAYING ATTENTION. You say that you've tried it. You're wrong. You haven't tried it because if you truly were, you would be getting somewhere and this wouldn't seem like alchemy and magic to you.
It probably doesn't help that your mind is clouded with horniness. Hard to relate with someone when you have that level of distraction going on.
Thanks I do pay attention to what they say and in girls cases what they act like around me. Your advice is good
[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How can I avoid this in the future?
Practice on other girls, and guys even. Get warmed up. Practice opening and talking to old, young, hot, average, big, small, girls...
Practice until it becomes a habit... then when you see the girl you really want to talk to... approaching her and opening her will be the easy part...
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I can do that.
I can talk to girls if I'm not flirting with them. Flirting makes me very nervous
[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Flirting makes me very nervous
So practice on girls you are only marginally attracted to...
You practice until it becomes a habit.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've done that tho
[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You need to do it more, to the point that its a habit.
[–]TheLimitlessMale 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Realize she is just as nervous as you. The first day of school is always awkward for everyone.
Just walk up and say "Hey that was a crazy class, huh? My name is Zoidberg22. Whats yours?"
From there just small talk for a minute. You both go to the same school there's a lot to talk about. Offer to meet up sometime and study or invite her to a party you're going to. It's an easy way to get the number as well.
Cool. I'll do that
[–]Hector_Castillo 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Force yourself to physically move. Trick yourself into thinking you're "walking towards that wall over there," but since she happens to be next to that wall, you then are standing right next to her and now it would be awkward if you didn't talk to her.
View it like a geometrical space with different objects moving towards each other. Remove the human element.
Then, once you're talking, obviously be human...
What do I say to show intent though without being creepy?
[–]Hector_Castillo 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How big is your school? If it's 20k+, walk up and say, "Hey, so I saw you over here and I had to come tell you that you're really cute. I'm (introduce yourself)."
I went to a school of 7k students and day gamed over a hundred girls. People found out. Didn't matter, cuz I was good and already popular, but i'd be careful if you aren't.
P.S. you always have to risk being a little bit creepy unless you've already gotten an approach invitation.
[–]IfURdngThsIFkdUrBtch 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol we gave pretty much the same advice. OP has to follow through now or he's dry pussy.
It's 50+ k.
Didn't get an IOI though.
Does it work that direct?
[–]Jonjonsonsonson 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stop thinking about it, count down from 5 next time, when you hit 0, force yourself to walk to wards her and talk to her.
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