I've learned so much from this sub in the past year, and I've started developing my own techniques, so I want to give back to the community, you handsome mofos!

So, everything went smoothly, you got your date one-on-one meetup, you're meeting at a restaurant or your/her place. How do you manifest your intent, without necessarily ruining a potential friendship with the girl? Here's what I do.

A few years ago, a classmate asked if I wanted to go grab a coffee someday to get to know each other. I was almost certain this was a date. After greeting her at the coffee shop, she immediately told me "Let's make this clear, I just wanna be friends, nothing more." Nonetheless, I appreciated the fact that she clarified her intent from the very start. We became and are still very good friends, we hang out a few times a month.

Thanks to her, nowadays on the first time meeting one-on-one with a girl, I clarify my intent from the start. It depends on the type of girl and our past interactions.

For friendly girls, or when I doubt, I usually go with "I wanna clarify myself, I came as a friend, but if we vibe well together, just know I'm totally open for more, alright?" If she only says "Okay" and doesn't clarify herself, I reply "So, what about you, what are you hoping for?" then tease her until she gives at least one clue, e.g. "What do you mean you don't know? I hope you didn't come all the way here/bring me over just to get a free meal..." The free meal line also allows you to gauge if she wants to share the bill.

For flirty girls, I usually just go with "I like those pants/that dress, you've got style." If they're clearly work/beater pants, say it in a teasing tone. Depending on her answer, I reply "I'm sure you'll look even/much better/hotter when I take those off you later tonight." It's my silver bullet, but it's not 100% foolproof. Some girls react well, some less, but all that matters is clarity. You might get any kinda response, from "Doesn't have to be later 😉" to "Not so fast." From that point on, if the response isn't 100% positive, it's all about passing her tests. If she clearly doesn't consent, don't push too far either.

If I'm the one who was asked out, I usually go with "So, I wanna know, what exactly are you trying to achieve by bringing me here today/tonight?" at some point during the date. Throw a little bit of teasing, use the free meal line.

If there's an intent mismatch, don't apologize. "No problem, I respect that. I'm sure we can still have a good time."

It's 'Murica Day my dudes, so gtfo your mom's basement and go enjoy your freedom with some fine ladies 😎

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