I’m on ~75 approaches so far. It’s a great way to supplement online game (so I’ll get maybe 1-2 new girls from Tinder etc a month, and at my current rate probably around 1-2 girls from daygame every 2-3 months). However given that it took me 57 approaches to get my first lay from daygame I’m conscious that I’ll end up racking up thousands of approaches which will inevitably damage my reputation in my city/career if I’m not careful, especially in today’s age where every girl has a group chat that they gossip about their day in...

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Background: I'm in LA and I work in the financial district

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Some rules that I’m making myself follow to minimize risk of reputational damage:

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  1. Only two approaches in any venue a day max. Eg at a particular mall, better to do an approach a week over the course of a year, than to do 5 approaches in a single day at the same mall.

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  1. Indirect openers only (eg “hey where’s the closest bookstore?...jk thought you were cute”) so I can eject if vibe is off

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  1. No kino unless the girl is touchy/holds onto my hand for a long time during the handshake

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  1. Only text girls that are enthusiastic and were highly receptive to me during the approach, even if they gave me my number. This is a big one. I’m aware that I’ll lose a lot of “maybe” girls but I do NOT want girls to have my phone number if there’s a chance that they’ll think I’m creepy and talk about it to their friends

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  1. No approaching girls within 2 blocks of my work place

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  1. No approaching girls in office clothes unless they’re really hot (I’m in an industry where everyone knows everyone. Word spreads fast)

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  1. Change up openers especially in college campuses so they girls don’t say “hey this guy asked me where the bookstore was yesterday “ “omg he asked you too???”

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  1. Avoid approaching girls that night know each other or might talk to each other, eg I approached a girl in a mall who said she worked at Zara and I was about to hit on a hot girl who was also working in Zara but I decided not to since there’s a chance they know each other

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  1. Only approach if the girl is really hot. Every single cold approach increases the probability of reputation damage, and that increase in probability is only worth it if the potential reward (sex with a really hot girl) is really high

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  1. No approaches where people around you can hear what you’re doing And aren’t in constant motion (eg quiet bookstore)

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  1. Absolutely no plowing - if she’s not receptive/doesn’t want to talk/says she has a bf then just say have a good day and eject eject eject

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Anything else? Grateful for thoughts from guys who do high volume approaches

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Aware that following these rules means that I won’t maximize my lays, but I get enough lays from online game - cold approach is a way for me to target hotter girls and also to feel socially more free by knowing that I can approach any girl anywhere

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I don’t do night game (all bars closed and I have not much experience in night game) so appreciate if ppl think whether these tips are necessary for night game

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Before someone tells me "going up to girls and saying hi won't kill your reputation!" or "there are so many girls in the world, you'll never develop a reputation doing this!"....nah. Trust me, there's been close calls already.

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Thanks in advance.