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[–]InquisitiveCamel33 28 points29 points30 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Especially when you're first getting to know someone. You should try to keep the digital communication to a minimum regardless of the platform.
Use it mainly to set up in person meetings.
[–]ThrowAccount654 8 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
I hear that a lot but at my college the girls get PISSED and think you lost interest if you don't communicate a lot. The girl I've been hanging out with (hooked up a couple times, now it seems like she wants me to commit or she wants out) constantly, CONSTANTLY sends me texts/snaps.
I agree with keeping it to a minimum before you've done anything with them though.
My OP was mainly concerning using snapchat vs text messages though.
[–]The-Effing-Man 21 points22 points23 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I agree with the original comment. Even if she gets pissed and snaps you a lot, still keep it to a minimum. Just because she snaps you a lot doesn't mean you have to snap her a lot. In most cases that is not the healthiest of relationships
[–]kfudgingdodd 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can personally attest to the accuracy of that statement.
[–]Account_for_pron69 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She wants more attention (validation), you give her what you're comfortable giving her.
[–]The-Effing-Man 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In addition to my previous comment, there is the slightly more advanced seduction topic of frames. If you conform to what she is doing you are breaking your frame. Maybe she snaps you a lot and normally you don't snap a lot, but then you start to just because she does. You are breaking your frame. You should not break you frame, it should be the other way around. In this case, it sounds like her frame is stronger than yours.
[–]Sistamillia 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe it's just cause we dont want to use data?
[–]QuellonGreyjoy 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Snapchat isn't as serious as texting. People have all their friend circles on snapchat, but the fact hardly anyone texts almost makes it more legit that you two are.
Realistically, if a girl wants to text instead of snapchat, just text. That doesn't mean you can't still send her pics and videos when you want (and vice versa). She might want to save her data. Doing it all on Snapchat is convienient but on so many occasions I've forgotten what someone has just messaged me or just lost track of the conversation in general. It's not really built for sustained messaging like other apps.
[–]__ManBeast__ 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The thing you have to consider and use to your advantage is that Snapchat still isn't considered as serious as texting. This means that it will be much easier to get a girl's Snapchat than her number, but it also means that they will be less likely to set up dates/move forward through Snapchat. Treat it like an inbetween, where you ask her for her snap, send her some silly pics/messages, then move on to the number ("This app drains my battery, what's your number?")
[–]BestSC86 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You answered your own question....
YOU have been talking with girl for weeks but haven't fucked her yet....largely based on your own lack of interest and action.
Texting is personal while your snapchat shit is like shouting across the dining hall trying to get someone's attention.
This girl is a plain jane who doesn't really interest you sexually so you don't give a shit about her attention but when you meet a real hotty who you really, really want to fuck, you will quickly learn why you don't want to be stuck shouting in a crowded room trying to get her attention and will be dying to have that number for texting.
But you will have to learn on your own so keep up the snapchatting story streaks while other dudes at your university are dropping panties because they don't view some allegiance to snapchat as more important than getting girls naked and fucked.
[–]ThrowAccount654 8 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
largely based on your own lack of interest and action.
i had some baddd life shit happen and it wasn't possible for the girl to be on my mind at the time
But the rest of your comment... wtf? And yeah she interests me sexually, I don't know where you are getting this shit from.
How is snapchat vs text like shouting across a room vs being personal? If everyone's saying it there has to be a reason, I just don't get the reason. To me it just seems like 1 on 1 messaging, vs 1 on 1 messaging...
[–]BestSC86 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Just wait.....you will find out.
[–]ThrowAccount654 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or ask here and you could kindly clue me in before I waste opportunities?
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Does it matter for attraction? Really?
[–]allAboutMentality 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Snapchat is slow for my phone to boot up compared to messages.
[–]DoctorBees69 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Snapchat shouldn't be taken as a serious way to get to know someone because nothing is more forgettable or fleeting than a conversation that deletes itself after every reply or is accompanied by a random picture.
[–]Givemerachel 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
As a chick in college I have no problem conversing with a guy via text and email, it seems way more intimate and personal than chatting on a platform that deletes your messages instantly. Plus you lose the option of looking back at cute texts and overall just rereading a great conversation. Snapchat isn't a serious means of communication.
[–]ThrowAccount654 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
people actually talk through email these days, are you serious?
[–]Givemerachel 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Rarely but I offer that as an option for men I don't feel comfortable giving my phone number to.
[–]ThrowAccount654 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
what's uncomfortable about giving a number but not email, just wondering. like can't you just instantly block or ignore him either way?
[–]Givemerachel 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The email option is usually for random men who approach me in public (ex: Starbucks). Now that there are various texting apps that offer temporary phone numbers blocking doesn't do anything for a determined stalker or weirdo. They'll just contact you from a different number
[–]ThrowAccount654 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow that is fucked, LOL, I forget how fucked up some people are
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