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[–]leodoestheopposite 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You say that she's attracted to you, and I believe you.
I am also sure that she's not (yet) madly in love with you, otherwise by now she would have shaken off her entourage and stalked you day and night.
Chances are she is also attracted to other guys in her entourage, it's just the way life works.
She might be used (addicted) to the entourage, she might feel like a princess of some sort, or the bachelorette of her own reality show. Who would not like all of that attention?
You have a change; but not playing one of the bachelors in the bachelorette's reality show, it's a game that is rigged against you; change the game; you need a better strategy:
create enough attraction and make her curious: do you have an active social life? Show it off in front of her (dates, having fun with your own co-ed entourage) and on Facebook
once in a while do communicate to her that you are interested, interested in knowing more about her: I wish you didn't always have your entourage to cockblock me..., tell her every now and then, let's say once a week, for long enough to arise her curiosity
sooner or later she'll give you and opening, an indication that she wants you to do more than just teasing her like you've been doing all along. so ask her: when it's the first night that you can shake off your entourage? Whatever she responds... say you're busy that night, and for her to pick another night. So she does, tell her I will pick you up at 7:00, clean up good, we're going to have fun or something to that effect, tell her the time and starting place (you should really pick her up) but do not tell her the details (you actually don't really know since you were got in the moment). Figure out something fun (drinking) outside her usual social circle (you don't want the entourage to re-group)
seal the deal.
Disclaimer: I am not saying that this method will work, I am saying that the only way for it to work is for you not to play her game, but to change the game altogether.
[–]avonv 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
sounds like your parties have too many hot dogs, and not enough buns if you catch my drift. girls thrive on skewed guy:girl ratios to feel super important and the center of attention.
anyway, you need to accept her being popular and just isolate her at one of the parties - ask her to come somewhere with you then make a move. when you are competing against other guys , the only way to win in the short term is by being more aggressive than them.
[–]leodoestheopposite 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
too many hot dogs, and not enough buns I am so LMAO!
Well said.
[–]angry_dave 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This seems simple. Invite her out alone?
[–]Knwldge_is_pwr 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Simple throw her a bunch of attention in an one one one setting and when your out and about like at a party ignore her, let whats makes you stand out shine, get her interested and then cut her off. If what you've got is good enough to pursue she'll come around.
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