Hi seddit. I've read Conquer Your Campus by Mark Redman about 10 times in prep for college, and as a senior in HS, I'd like to share with seddit the notes I've made from the book. I tried to distill them as best as I could, but the book is so jam-packed with awesome information that it was impossible to fit into one post. So here's the first in a series of posts of notes on Conquer Your Campus by Mark Redman.

Please consider buying this book. It's good to give back to the guy who put time and resources into writing it. Here's a link to the website.

For those of you who are broke, here's a free version because I think everyone who can read should read this book.

Anyway, here we go.

Internalize and understand this quote:

“College is a cohesive ‘social scene’ in and of itself, and guys who have the most success with women understand this scene and rise to the top of it.”

I. General College Rules/Life Tips Part 1

You have to add value to an interaction in college.

Anything is possible. You are living in the most carefree time of your adult life.

Some people have reputations. And you hear stories about them. But you judge them based on your direct experiences with them. You just don’t have time for a girl who isn’t strong enough to form her own impressions.

Once you’ve achieved some level of social stature, you’ve got to let the girls come after you, and of course, be prepared to handle the objections. This relates to the tribal mentality (see the section II).

It is very easy to meet people and have a social group in college. The popular kids learn these skills in high school, and then take them to the next level at college. During welcome week, they’re throwing themselves into any activity they can find, having a blast, and getting connected.

You can have pretty bad game and still hook up like crazy if you have certain personality traits that define how you act in any given social situation.

II. The Difference Between College and the Real World & Girls’ Perspectives

College is a cohesive ‘social scene’ in and of itself, and guys who have the most success with women understand this scene and rise to the top of it. (Sound familiar? I hope so). On a campus with tens of thousands of students, there’s an insularity that breeds a hierarchy.

In essence, what you have is something like a tribe.

Side note: “Game” was developed in bars and cities; not college campuses. Game will not effectively work by itself on college campuses, it may even come off as creepy. Wondering why college girls look at you weird when you’re using “real world game” on them? It’s because you’re acting like you’re an outsider, like you’re not pre-selected (more on pre-selection in a bit)and they can pick up on this quickly.

Despite the fact that the social structure is not as obvious and defined as it would be on an exclusive island with a small population, there is still a very strong tribal vibe that pervades just about every college campus I’ve visited. This has serious consequences for how the game is played on campus.

Girls aren’t thinking about finding the guy of their dreams…they are thinking about the guys they know who they might hook up with, the guys they know who can introduce them to guys they might hook up with, the girls they know who can introduce them to guys they might hook up with, and getting drunk. (Obviously this is a rash generalization, but you get the point).

For the first time in their lives, college girls are on their own and trying to understand what the world is all about.

Girls are going to watch you talk to other guys, and flirt with other girls. Your game matters, absolutely, but you can have pretty bad game and still hook up like crazy if you have certain personality traits that define how you act in any given social situation. Girls in college aren’t going out to get hit on. They’re going out to select who they want to hook up with.

This is known as the pre-selection phenomenon.

Pre-selection is something you demonstrate with your actions and your personality traits, not your words.

There is a combination of four or five personality traits that are universally hot to women.

Yes, the social structure described does exist and yes, it is brutal and harsh and all the guys might as well have spears. But it’s also wonderful and amazing and malleable and once you know how to work it, it becomes your best friend.

Girls don’t really remember your last interaction with them. They’re swept up by whatever positive and uplifting vibes you are throwing at them at any given moment.

III. General College Rules/Life Tips Part 2 It is only with perspective that we can truly see our situations, our realities, as the malleable things that they really are.

For most college students, the campus social scene is the most dominant and intense reality they’ve ever experienced. Chances are you’ve never had a more dominating social experience. And it can seem like a wonderful dream; or a terrible nightmare when there’s no perspective on life above and beyond it.

The challenge here is that you’re probably stuck in certain ruts of thinking and acting and socializing that are hard to break.

Commit to being part of the scene, but don’t let it dominate your life. You need to have some perspective, some anchors, that aren’t connected with the tribal society you’re in.

Fully commit yourself to the tribal world of college, but haven identity that is bigger than the world of college.

The bigger your world becomes, the stronger you become, the more you can give to your present reality.

Set priorities for yourself. When You have a purpose, or a center of gravity, it gives you the strength over your world. You no longer become a leaf blowing through the wind, subject to changes in mood, environment, or moon cycle. Rather, you become a force, an agent of independent drive and expression.

Mark Redman wrote his priorities in the book:

• Getting good grades

• Having fun socially

• Staying in shape

• Personal growth

• Professional work

Notice how a lot of these are focused on inner game. I suggest you study inner game a lot. The /r/seduction sidebar is a great resource.

I’m about to drop possibly the most important quote in the book on you. Prepare yourself.

BE THE GUY YOU WANT TO BE AROUND.

As for the Greek scene, the main point in the book is that if you’re not Greek, you can still enjoy the social fruits by getting connected with guys and girls therein. It comes down to being a cool fucking guy who is additive and love-giving.