Guys.... Any input regarding conversational structure would be amazing.

I can talk to girls, I can make jokes and small talk but goddamn my timing and in the moment vibe is off by something. I have not figured it out. Hopefully I am on track. Any constructive input is desired.

In bars I can do some parts well but there are intermediate steps I am so fucking lost.

Chat gpt says conversations have 3 parts. 1. Contact, 2. Comfort, 3. Direction. I am comfortable very quickly with others but I dont know how to make others feel comfortable. I can contact without performing. I can direct but not sure how to subtly lead.

Some input is to word things in 1. Curiosity 2. Sharedness, 3.Appreciation

In contact phase use curiosity in micro questions while dont need sharedness while my non verbal presence is

In comfort phase I use curiosity and sharedness as primary tools. Appreciation is light

In direction I am selective on curiosity, light on sharedness and stronger on appreciation / attraction.