Couldn't escalate

IntrovertedBadass · 2016-12-12T06:41:17+00:00

Hey man. That sucks. I undersatand. I'd like to help you. I've got an article that talks about how to incrementally escalate. You know in baby steps, so you'll have an easier time doing it without feeling unconfortable with it yourself. Would you like me to post it?

abstractpickupartist · 2016-12-12T06:41:49+00:00

If she's sitting on your bed, she's waiting for you to make a move. That's why she's there!

You can still be totally nice, and still get laid. Taking her hand and smiling is a fine start.

It's not bad to show what you want. She wants you to communicate. Show is better than tell!

Go read up on kino escalation. You go gradually, so she has plenty of time to let you know if that's not where she wants to go.

It's totally fine to express what you want to women. Just don't be jerk if she says no.

crawleydown · 2016-12-12T11:02:30+00:00

I was in a similar situation to this once and it still haunts me to this day.

The annoying thing is that even now after learning so much, im' still not sure what i'd have done in order to 'succeed'.

This girl was the hottest girl in my town. Every guy was obsessed with her. My best friend is handsome as hell, and she liked him. One night all 3 of us somehow ended up at my place and my parents were away and we'd had a hot tub and a few drinks.

We went upstairs and we were just sat on the bed. Then my friend dissappeared - I think in order to give me a shot with the girl of most guys dreams! I tried to flirt and use a bit of kino on her, but all she cared about was where my hot friend was. ('where's Jason? When's Jason coming back??! etc etc)

At one point I started massaging her when she was face down and i'm kind of sat on her. (old trick that always seems to work in the movies) but I didn't have the balls to do anything else. I was certain of rejection being that she was so much hotter than me, plus I knew she fancied my handsome friend. As I say, I'm not even sure how i'd do it now! Just stop massaing her and lie next to her and go for he kiss or something?

Anyway, in the end she dissappeared and ending up finding my friend and then he banged her, lol

It was a LONG LONG time ago, but I still wonder if i'd have at least had a shot if i'd have had bigger balls as well as knowing how to kind of transition from massaging her to making out

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2016-12-12T12:01:04+00:00

I was in a similar situation too many years ago. Live and learn from this mistake. Take it from us, she would not have been on your bed, if she wasn't willing to start to get physical. (sometimes they flake out during).

Since I can't assume anything from your brief comment, here are some videos from Tripp that explains how to touch a girl for the first time, how to touch a girl before you kiss her, and how to go from talking to kissing. I advise you watch them a few times, as you clearly need the exposure...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLY2yVPh1fo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoBDe8gr0VQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wa9j9ZcJGRw

TitoSJ · 2016-12-12T08:17:28+00:00

Next time start kino immediately on the first interaction. Just start with something light and gradually increase kino as you feel appropriate. This way when it comes to the point, where you have to do the deed, touching is not this foreign thing.

sailnaked6842 · 2016-12-12T17:27:35+00:00

That hurts but worrying too much about it isn't going to get you anywhere. For next time you get a girl sitting on your bed, IMO, the easiest way to move things forward with a girl is by trying to tickle them right on the sides of the waist. Most girls are ticklish there but if not they may call you out on it and tell you they're not ticklish, but what does it matter? By tickling them you're touching them in a mildly intimate way, which is what you want, and sometimes they'll pull in closer to you which makes it easy, sometimes pull away but you grab them and pull them close.

Title	Couldn't escalate
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Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	December 12, 2016 5:20 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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