I started talking to this girl that I found on tinder A month ago. When I was talking to her on tinder I could tell just off of the first two messages that I was going to have sex with her. They weren’t anything sexual or anything too crazy… It was the feeling I got that’s the best way I can explain it. I got her Snapchat that same day and we were snapping back-and-forth. After two days of snapping her I asked her out for the first time covertly and she brushed it off. The next day I did it again and she did the same thing. So I decided not to push the issue anymore it’s just say fuck it. Keep in mind also I am doing no fat and I am 17 days in today. I decided not to give her so much attention, and change my purpose and work out at the gym. I thought that she was just one of those girls that wanted attention from guys on tinder, and I’m not that kind of guy. I don’t have that kind of time. Also whenever we would snap each other, there was always a playful banter. Because I had the mindset of I have nothing to lose and I really didn’t care, I didn’t put her on a pedestal. This gave me the ability to talk to her any kind away without fear of rejection. After two weeks or maybe three of depriving her of attention, talking to her kind of recklessly, and keeping a flirtatious stance she snapped me and asked when am I going to take her out.

When I first got that message I could not tell you how excited I was. I snapped her back whenever I’m not busy. I initially brush that first request off because I was feeling cocky. She asked me again a few days later and this time I obliged.

We went out a couple times on dates all orchestrated by me. Usually when I’m on a date with a girl I have a plan of what we’re gonna do and how we’re gonna do it. This time I had zero plans. I did not know what you were going to do, and I did not know where we were going to go.… and to be honest I really didn’t care. I was very indifferent about the entire situation. If it worked out and we had sex cool. If it didn’t then it didn’t oh well. On the first date I will admit I was being a little bit of a pussy and I was afraid to escalate the situation and ended up getting a handshake on the first date. I talked about this in a previous Reddit post and I thought that I blew the entire situation. But then she asked me out again and when we went out again I did not make the same mistake twice. Things were looking up and good

On the third day we went out I already said in my mind that I was going to kiss this girl. I didn’t know how was going to do it, or when, or where but I knew I was going to. We went out mini golfing(again not planned) and then went out to eat or of Mexican restaurant. I also forgot to mention that everything that we did was based off of what I wanted to do. I asked her twice what she wanted to do, and when I realized she was just along for the ride, I just stopped asking. When we were at the Mexican restaurant, she told me that everything that we did she been wanting to do but I just guessed it right. I played it off by saying something slick, but in the back of my head it kind of baffled me. What are the odds that everything we did she wanted to do… Interesting

We’re relaxing in the car and chilling and I decide to go any kiss her. That went very very well to say the least. I will spare you guys the details but we did not have sex. We hung out again after that because she wanted to go look at a new house that she was considering moving into. Didn’t really talk about the kiss or anything like that, I just left it open to interpretation.

On Saturday I was with my friends, when she texted me that she was in Raleigh. I’m about an hour away from Raleigh and she knows that. We started joking around flirtatiously in the text messages, and I told her I’m only going to joke around with you so much before I start driving to Raleigh. She asked me what I wanted to do when I get to Raleigh, so I called her and…basically told her what I was planning on doing for lack of explanation….she sent the address and i was on the way

Mind you it’s 10pm, I’m high, this is a last minute plan, she’s with her best friend and her best friends weird bf, and i haven’t slept since 6am.

I get there and get what I need to get done, done. ✅

Moral of the story…if you don’t put a girl on a pedestal and don’t give her a lot of attention, shit will prolly go your way.