Creating great comfort with a female is greatly undervalued. It is supposed to come natural right? Many don’t have a game plan for creating comfort and it becomes a shortfall in their game. Comfort is the difference between a date and a flake, or the difference between a #-close and an f-close. The key to great comfort is keeping the attraction high with qualification, while you are building rapport. If a woman doesn’t feel a connection between the two of you, the odds of her going on a date with you are close to nil. Likewise, if the woman doesn’t think she is working to get you, not qualifying herself to you, the odds of keeping attraction high enough to f-close are not good. Therefore, it is important that both of these concepts are integrated into your comfort game.

So how do you structure a rapport building sentiment while having her continuously qualify herself?

1) Use one over-arching branching qualifier so the entire conversation is revolved around a qualification

2) Frame her answers to the branching qualifier into statements that lead her to speak about her motivations, character traits, and emotions, which in turn will create strong rapport building

3) Be prepared to have her ask the same branching qualifier back to you and justify them by using motivations, character traits, and emotions.

A branching qualifier is an inquiring statement that will provoke the target to create a list that easily branches off into separate areas of rapport building discussion. The over-arching qualifier is supposed to be very vague/ open-ended, and allows the target to inform you of something about her in an attempt impress you. Then you are able to ask rapport building questions about this newfound topic until you run out of things to talk about it. Do this using the standard: emotions, character traits, motivations. Throughout the list, you keep asking questions/ making statements to ensure that she never makes it to the next item on her list. Once you run out of interesting things to talk about from the first item on her list, you refer back to the list and make her continue to qualify herself at random times all throughout the comfort stage.

Eg.

PUA - “Tell me the three most interesting things about you.”

Female: “Ok, 1. I played college volleyball.”

Before she can continue the list…

PUA – “Wow, that’s awesome, you must have been quite the ambitious child.” (Motivation/ Characteristic Trait depending how she answers it)

… conversation thread… until it begins dying and then

PUA – “OK, that’s cool, but that’s only 1 thing, tell me the second interesting thing about you.”

Female: – “Oh, um, I’m from Puerto Rico.”

PUA – “Wow you are so far from home! I couldn’t imagine being that far from my family. I bet you miss it don’t you.” (Emotion + Statement)

… Conversation Thread… until it begins dying and then…

PUA – “Ok last one, what’s another interesting thing about you?”

Female: - probably struggling to qualify herself at this point, “I have a tattoo.”

PUA: - Wow, I didn’t expect that, are you general that adventurous, or was getting a tattoo outside of your personality? (character trait)

… you get the point by now.

This conversation for me has lasted as long as two hours depending on the type of follow ups you are able to ask. You should always remember to try and tie them back to yourself at some point to build a connection, but that is the easy part.

THEN, you have to expect she is going to either

a) Make you tell something interesting about yourself in between each time you ask her

b) Ask for three interesting things about you after she is done. It will happen. It happens every single time. Be prepared for this, know what you are going to say, and dominate it. Justify each answer in way to seep into her emotions the same way you would ask a motivation/ character trait/ or emotion follow up question of her.

Here are a few more branching qualifiers you can start with.

1) “Tell me the three most important things you find attractive in a man.”

2) “Tell me the three biggest things that you want to accomplish in life.”

3) “Tell me the three most exciting things you have ever done.”

4) “Tell me three weird things about you.”

As you can see, “Tell me” is in every sentence. Framing the question as a statement helps to signify that it is a qualifier and is stronger than asking a simple question in qualifying.

Feedback is more than welcome. Enjoy!