I met this girl at my work place in the cafeteria a few days ago, I just sat down when I saw her and started talking to her. We had an instant connection, the vibe was great; set up plans for a D2 on the beach right there on the spot before leaving. This girl became my oneitis, usually when I get oneitis, i'll find other girls to preoccupy my in the mean time and it works good, but I had a different idea this time. I figure, if I could elicit strong feelings of love with this girl, then perhaps due to law of state transfer, she would feel love as well and she would fall in love with me.

I just got back from the D2. I had D2's where I know what I did wrong, but honestly it seemed like I did everything awesome. She was deffenetly attracted to me, as far as connection:

Vulnerability was 10/10- we shared secrets and personal stories with each other and were serious at times.

Conspiracy- 10/10- we were on a beautiful beach all alone, then went for sushi after

Commonalities- 10/10, we both had SO much in common.

The whole time the vibe was awesome, but whenever I tried to escalate, she was kind of wierd. The first time, I went and grabed her hand to hold it, she turned to me and was like 'wow, your pretty bold arn't you?' - I told her I was just following my heart, and if I didn't do what I felt then I would not be being true to myself. (I talked to her about inner game shit like this- she seemed to really dig it. She told me its funny I talked about this because she is going through a period of her life where she is doing soul searching and trying to figure out who she is)

Sometimes after that she said something like, "Don't try to kiss me" out of the blue. To counter this, I later said "You are SO not hooking up with me tonight"

I sat her down on the beach and taught her to meditate (she said later she really enjoyed it and would of done it longer), then I transitioned from that to soul gazing (Which to my surprise, she didn't like, she later told me), then from there I did a SS routine and tried to kiss her- she stepped back.

We held hands and walked along the beach. Then she told me she was really hungry and I told her we should go to a sushi restaurant. On the way there she told me I was silly, which I didn't interpret as a congruence tests until it was too late. I didn't really say anything, just kind of smirked then she was like, "It's a good thing"

I sat down next to her and the whole time I either had my arm around her or we held hands. On the way home we sung Amber by 311 together while handing hands- it was pretty sweet. I don't think she really liked the kino at all though, I sensed she just did it because I wanted her too. I asked her if she thought I was fasts at dinner and she said, "Yeah, but I know your just doing what you feel", it seemed strange to me- I asked her if she recently broke up with someone and she said she had a bad break up in January. I asked her why she said earlier that she didn't want to kiss me( I know generally asking questions like this ON the D2 is beta as fuck, but I felt the vibe was there, and I wasen't wording it exactly like I am right now) and she said that kissing was just really emotional. I was like "I completely agree, i'm not some manwhore or anything" she laughed.

Should I of stopped kinoing even though she was allowing it if she really wasn't into it? I felt like it may of come off as needy towards the end, like I was displaying too much interests.

Anyway, I could tell on the way to the restaurant her energy levels were dying down, and I asked her if she was tired; she told me she barely slept last night. I was going to bring her to my room to give her a book of mine (The Power of Now) but I told her to forget about it- I honestly didn't care about sex with this girl, I just generally liked being with her.

I tried K closing but to no avail; I couldn't believe it, seriously. When I left I felt kind of sad, sad about the K-close (or lack thereof) but honestly moreso from not being with her anymore.

TLDR: Oneitis is always full of fail, even if the girls likes you, the moment you leave you just feel like shit